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We’re all on the journey to discover the light inside. For better or worse, every aspect of our lives is shaped by the patterns we keep.

We reveal how our hidden subconscious and unconscious patterns shape the fabric of our society as we explore a deeper dive into the mysterious inner world of our enigmatic lives.

Learn how to embrace lives that are more fulfilling, joyful, and enriching as we unravel the intricate process of change.
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Tune in to The Light Inside to explore the impact of artificial intelligence on mental health with Karen Stevens, co-founder of the AI chatbot app EarKick. Discover how EarKick is revolutionizing mental health support by offering compassionate guidance and wisdom in a user-friendly way. Join us as we delve into the future of well-being and the potential of technology to transform the way we approach mental health challenges. Timestamps: 00:00:02 - Introduction to Mental Health Stigma00:01:06 - Introducing EarKick AI Chatbot00:01:32 - Mint Mobile Sponsorship00:03:08 - Addressing Mental Health with AI00:04:14 - Understanding AI in Mental Health00:04:35 - EarKick's Approach to Mental Health00:05:08 - Guest Introduction: Karen Stevens00:05:32 - Karen Stevens' Background and Inspiration00:06:36 - The Genesis of EarKick00:07:53 - The Concept of a Mental Health Sidekick00:08:17 - EarKick as an AI-Driven Chatbot Hybrid00:09:09 - Tracking Personal Data for Mental Health00:11:21 - Building Trust and Inclusion in EarKick00:13:23 - EarKick's Board of Advisors00:15:27 - EarKick's Data-Driven Feedback System00:17:36 - Cultural Availability and Accessibility00:21:00 - Addressing Subconscious Patterns with AI00:24:47 - Detecting Serious Mental Health Issues00:27:53 - Adapting Traditional Mental Health Approaches00:31:27 - Addressing Cultural Disparities in Mental Health Care00:37:18 - Future Growth and Reshaping Mental Health Care00:40:04 - How to Access EarKick Resources JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guest: Karin Stephan Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
Explore the intriguing relationship between emotions, perceptions, and memories on The Light Inside.  Our guest, Kim Cordy, author of "Yucky, Yummy, Savory, Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions," joined us to discuss her innovative approach to emotional awareness through the lens of food and cooking. Kim shared insights on how we're not born with preset emotional responses, but rather have the ability to shape our emotions.  She introduced the concept of emotional recipes, which allows us to fine-tune our emotional predictions based on our perceptions. We discussed the importance of emotional granularity and how it can enhance our ability to understand and manage our emotions more effectively. Discover how our emotions are not pre-determined but can be shaped like a painter creating a masterpiece.  Learn how to create a new connection with your emotions using the familiar analogy of cooking recipes.  Delve into the idea that we have the power to choose our emotions based on our perceptions and context.  Gain insights on fine-tuning emotional predictions and expanding our emotional palette.  Join us on The Light Inside for a refreshing perspective on emotions and personal growth. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Constructing Our Worlds 00:00:21 - The Role of Memories in Perception 00:00:43 - Emotions: Natural or Shaped? 00:01:16 - Born to Feel: Choosing Our Emotions 00:01:49 - Emotional Recipes for Perception 00:02:10 - Becoming a Michelin Chef of Experiences 00:03:14 - Exploring Perception and Emotional Context 00:03:48 - Perception Through the Senses 00:04:17 - Neural Imprinting and Emotional Responses 00:05:00 - Interoception and Bodily Sensations 00:06:10 - Emotional Granularity and Consciousness 00:07:09 - Constructing Our Internal World 00:08:38 - Emotional Ingredients and Perceptual Skills 00:09:56 - Energy, Consciousness, and Soul Imprinting 00:11:03 - Perception Management and Focus 00:12:19 - Interoception vs. Neuroception 00:13:29 - Mind-Body Connection and Emotional Processing 00:14:57 - Emotional Recipes and Neuronal Activity 00:16:22 - Missing Ingredients in Emotional Responses 00:17:03 - Interoceptive Development and Alexithymia 00:18:13 - Neural Imprinting and Critical Period Development 00:19:10 - Subconscious Patterns and Emotional Formulation 00:20:48 - Emotional Granularity and Interoceptive Awareness 00:21:42 - Consciousness Beyond Material Self 00:22:29 - Interoception, Neuroception, and Emotional Processing 00:23:45 - Contextual Frameworks and Emotional Outcomes 00:24:57 - Willful Blindness and Emotional Granularity 00:26:51 - Emotional Predictions and Cultural Programming 00:28:31 - Perception Drivers and Emotional Data Processing 00:29:27 - Introspection Illusion and Emotional Assessments 00:30:31 - Self-Constructs and Emotional Context 00:31:25 - Window of Tolerance in Emotional Processing 00:32:13 - Vulnerability and Emotional Cycles 00:33:44 - Willful Blindness and Emotional Granularity 00:34:07 - Contextualization in Emotional Processing 00:35:39 - Conditionality and Emotional Experiences 00:36:05 - Biological and Cultural Factors in Emotions 00:37:29 - Overcoming Conditioning and Emotional Recipes 00:38:53 - Expectations and Emotional Experiences Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guest: Kim Korte Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
Explore the hidden layers of existence in this episode of The Light Inside with host Jeffrey Besecker. We unravel the impact of past lives and parallel experiences on our present reality, challenging the notion of life as linear.  Join guest Alara Sage, a shaman, as she uncovers the subconscious belief structures inherited from our past lives and family dynamics. Discover the multi-dimensionality of life and how these insights shape our growth and transformation. Embracing the Simultaneity of All Perspectives In the podcast episode, the conversation delves into the concept of embracing the simultaneity of all perspectives and experiences. The host and guest explore the idea of allowing for the coexistence of seemingly opposing beliefs and emotions, highlighting the importance of being present in the moment and open to diverse viewpoints. Key Points from the Episode: Unity Consciousness: The episode emphasizes the idea that all perspectives and experiences can coexist within the framework of unity consciousness. By recognizing the interconnectedness of all things, individuals can embrace the diversity of beliefs and emotions without judgment. Simultaneous Truths: The conversation touches on the notion that multiple truths can exist simultaneously. It's not about choosing one perspective over another but rather acknowledging the validity of different viewpoints and allowing them to exist harmoniously. Tension and Relaxation: The episode discusses how tension in the body can hinder one's ability to accept opposing beliefs and emotions. By relaxing into the present moment and releasing tension, individuals can create space for a more expansive and inclusive understanding of reality. Feminine, Masculine, and Child Energies: The trinity of feminine, masculine, and child energies is explored as a representation of the different aspects of consciousness. Each energy brings a unique perspective and contributes to the overall tapestry of human experience. Complexity and Simplicity: The episode reflects on the balance between complexity and simplicity in life. While the universe may present itself as radically complex, there is also a vast simplicity that underlies all existence. Embracing both aspects allows for a deeper understanding of the interconnected nature of reality. [00:01:36] Parallel lives and subconscious beliefs. [00:07:36] Ego processes in past lives. [00:10:05] Unity of opposites. [00:13:24] Love and Unity Consciousness [00:19:23] The growth of the universe. [00:22:22] Embracing positive and negative energies. [00:29:09] The power of feeling everything. [00:32:55] Perception and behaviors in interactions. [00:37:42] Perception and empathy in interactions. [00:41:31] Ego dynamicism and consciousness. [00:43:35] The ego and divine light. [00:48:23] The complexity of consciousness. [00:53:48] Embracing AI in Communication. [00:59:36] Parallel lives and gifts. [01:04:47] Deep desire to engage fully. [01:06:14] Levels of density exploration. [01:10:21] A beautiful, loving conversation. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guest: Alara Sage Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode of The Light Inside, we extol the profound significance of the word 'kahu' within Hawaiian culture and its relevance to our modern lives. Kahu, a term that transcends its literal meaning, represents the roles of guardian, caretaker, and honored attendant, embodying a sacred duty to honor and nurture all that exists. As your host, Jeffrey Besecker, I invite you to consider the concept of being a Kahu in your own life. Imagine being entrusted with the care of something cherished, guiding and supporting others through life's challenges, and recognizing our interconnectedness within the fabric of humanity. We are each kahu, walking the other home. Time Stamp: 00:00:00 - Listening Beyond Words00:00:29 - The Essence of Kahu00:01:43 - The Sacred Duty of Kahu00:02:14 - Stewardship and Legacy00:02:57 - Keeper of Bones Metaphor00:03:52 - Kahu in the Modern World00:04:35 - Closing Thoughts and Gratitude Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Opening Quote: Danny Bruce Levin - "Visionary who listens, listener who sees" Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound "Forever Sacred" by Gerald Franklin "Cloudy Skies of Hope" by Rand Aldo Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
Unprocessed Trauma. In the aftermath of the unspeakable, our stories unfold—marked by the haunting echoes of anguish and distress.  In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the profound impact of unprocessed trauma, specifically focusing on the pain and torment of sexual abuse.  He speaks with author and inspirational speaker Cindy Benezra, who shares her journey of resilience and redemption in navigating the healing process.  Through the lens of cognitive reappraisal and reframing, they discuss how to reclaim ownership of one's narrative and find solace amidst the wreckage of the past. This episode offers a compassionate hand and a guiding light for those on their own healing journey. Timestamps: [00:03:41] Cognitive reappraisal and healing. [00:04:43] Emotional abuse and healing. [00:11:38] Taking steps back for growth. [00:15:05] Dissociation and self-loathing. [00:17:41] Trauma and dissociation. [00:24:52] Suppression of emotions. [00:27:41] Empowerment through introspection and refection. [00:31:43] Meditation and reconnection. [00:35:38] Cellularly changing the body. [00:41:09] Parenting and sharing traumatic experiences. [00:45:32] Focused on completing a project. [00:48:55] Trusting in self and redemption.  Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Cindy Benezra Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode of The Light Inside, we explore the complex nature of color perception and what it teaches us about our understanding of the world. Joining us is Master Atelier Artist, Mandy Theis, as we discuss how our perceptual filters shape our understanding of the world around us, highlighting the role of selective attention, cognitive biases, cultural influences, and memory limitations. Mandy also introduces the Atelier art training techniques and cognitive perspectives as tools for gaining insight into our perspective forming dynamics.  Tune in to gain valuable insights into shaping and questioning our perspectives and challenging how we choose to see the world. Timestamps: [00:02:06] Our perspectives shape our worldview. [00:05:15] Atelier training resurgence. [00:08:06] Seeing beyond black and white. [00:13:07] Having a diverse range of tools. [00:17:00] What Atelier training teaches us about limitations.  [00:19:18] Accessible art education online. [00:24:03] Painting personalities and seeing our uniqueness. [00:26:39] Learning happens in plateaus and jumps. [00:29:36] Creating likeness through cartoon art. [00:34:17] Emphasizing shadows in art. [00:42:02] Pursuing our truth. [00:44:11] The power of training under an Atelier artist. [00:48:55] Shifting Perspectives and Art. [00:53:18] Seeing yourself from different perspectives. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside The 4D Klein Bottle Featured Guests:  Mandy Theis Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this thought-provoking episode of The Light Inside, we explore the complexities of neophobia—an unhealthy fear of the unknown—and how it can paralyze us from embracing new experiences and opportunities for growth.  Change-leading catalyst Jamie Meyer joins the conversation to unravel the psychological mechanisms that underpin this irrational fear and how it can hinder our ability to form new routines and perspectives. Throughout our conversation, we examined the processes necessary to embrace new possibilities and open our minds to the richness of our diverse experiences.  Jamie, and I discussed the subconscious bias of the comfort zone, as coined by business theorist Alasdair White, and how it can limit personal growth by keeping us rooted in familiarity. The episode touched on mental heuristics like the status quo bias, which drives our preference for consistency and an adverse fear of risk, and how these subconscious patterns can become liabilities to our well-being. Jamie Meyer shared her insights on the importance of recognizing and engaging with healthy fear and risk to move beyond reluctance towards new experiences. She emphasized the need to navigate the distress often felt during uncertainty and how her work helps clients through this process. Tune in to gain insights on transforming unhealthy fear and embracing more diverse pathways to change. Timestamps: [00:01:35] Comfort zone, healthy psychological safety, and personal growth. [00:06:22] Cultural dynamics and heritage. [00:08:46] Dualities of purpose and self-sabotage. [00:13:22] Healthy fear and risk-taking. [00:18:07] Neophobia and limiting perspectives on comfort zones. [00:23:15] How a subconscious pattern known as the mere exposure effect limits our frameworks.  [00:26:13] Subconscious thoughts and more empowered decision-making. [00:30:12] Self-constructs and adverse social conditioning. [00:36:42] Somatic symptoms to watch for. [00:40:59] Understanding our emotionality. [00:45:09] Stress and emotional inference. [00:48:20] The Illusory Truth Effect and navigating the complexities of neophobia [00:53:49] The principle of not poking the bear. [01:00:10] Questioning our comfort zones and developing healthy windows of tolerance. [01:03:09] Hearing others challenge bias. [01:06:08] Neophobia and cognitive distortions. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Jamie Meyer Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this enlightening episode of The Light Inside, we unravel the concept of emotional uncoupling and the importance of establishing a healthy psychological distance to better understand and process our emotions. Our guest, Veronica Rottman, founder of Waking Womb, shared her expertise on somatic-based healing and the role of the nervous system in emotional regulation. We began by discussing the challenges we face when our emotions become entangled with our experiences, leading to a web of complex reactions. Veronica explained the textbook definition of dissociation and its role in emotional regulation, emphasizing the body's inherent capacity for healing and balance. Throughout the conversation, we explored the idea of neuroception, the body's perception of safety, and how our past experiences can influence our present emotional responses. We highlighted the importance of compassion towards our own dissociative responses, recognizing them as protective mechanisms rather than signs of brokenness. We also touched on the concept of overcoupling, where our nervous system associates certain stimuli with past threats, and how somatic practices can help us untangle these associations.  [00:02:40] Emotional Regulation and Dissociation. [00:06:11] Neuroception and Dissociation. [00:08:52] Dissociation and its protective function. [00:13:20] Perception of safety [00:16:12] Somatic investigation and dissociation. [00:20:30] Interoceptive and exteroceptive awareness. [00:24:56] Overcoming self-awareness and shame. [00:29:34] Sensory experience and grounding. [00:35:38] Co-regulation and energetic vibrations. [00:39:04] Trauma and reproductive health. [00:43:44] Conditioning and frameworks. [00:45:44] Our primal instincts and suffering. [00:49:00] Movement and embodiment. [00:56:33] Healing through gentle processes. [00:56:50] Relationship is key to healing. [01:01:11] Somatic experience and mindfulness.
In this podcast episode, host Jeffrey Besecker reflects on the year 2023 and the deep exploration of the human experience that has taken place. The episode acknowledges that while the holiday season can be joyful for many, it can also be a time of challenge and loneliness. The top downloaded episode of the year is revisited, delving into the topic of anhedonia, a condition that robs individuals of joy and leaves them feeling empty. The episode concludes with warm wishes for the holiday season and a reminder to reach out to those who may be in need of support. In moments of our deepest despair, its often hard to feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and for those who experience anhedonia - its often difficult to feel emotions at all.  Today we learn  Anhedonia is not a permanent state; it's a chapter in the complex story of being human. Join us as we embark on this emotional journey, with author, Tanith Carey, as we exploring anhedonia from all angles, sharing Tanith’s story of resilience.  Carey describes the experience of waking up to a world devoid of colors and melodies, where happiness and the ability to feel anything have been replaced by an overwhelming sense of emptiness. Jeffrey and Tanith delve into the ache and constant dull pain that accompanies anhedonia, as well as the numbing of the senses.  Despite this desolate landscape, there remains a flicker of hope and a longing for the return of emotions. Join Jeffrey as he explores the journey from despair to finding the light at the end of the tunnel. As a psychological phenomenon, Anhedonia, the silent thief of joy, wraps its cold fingers around every inch of your being. Not only is it the lack of happiness, but it’s also losing the ability to feel anything, leaving behind an overwhelming sense of emptiness. We shed light on the path to rediscovering the beauty of emotions and guide you through the labyrinth of feelings that shape our lives. Time stamps: [00:01:10] The ache of anhedonia. [00:06:07] Loss of joy: anhedonia. [00:07:18] Disconnecting in Anhedonia. [00:10:06] Lack of joy in Anhedonia. [00:14:19] Shame and seeking professional help. [00:16:59] Brains’s metalympic reward pathway. [00:20:09] Fear of happiness. [00:24:10] The role of happiness addiction. [00:27:20] Breaking free of anhedonia. [00:31:38] Feeling the soul's vibrational frequency. [00:34:23] Reparenting and finding joy. [00:36:04] Burnout and cortisol levels. [00:40:33] Neurotransmitter imbalances and anhedonia. [00:45:39] Thyroid imbalance and low mood. [00:46:27] Antibiotic overuse and gut microbiota. [00:50:00] Porn and anhedonia. [00:53:24] Treatment for anhedonia. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Tanith Carey Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In the podcast episode titled "The Light Inside," host Jeffrey Besecker explores the concept of subconscious scripts and their profound impact on our perspectives and narratives. He invites guest Gareth Gwynne, who specializes in self-realization techniques and societal reconciliation, to delve into the intricacies of these scripts and how they shape our stories. Certain truths are not always self-evident, with our stories and narratives impacting us in profound ways beyond our common understanding.  Diving into the narratives embedded in our subconscious scripts reveals a profound impact on our ability to embrace our humanity and cultivate meaningful social connections.  These internal stories, often shaped by past experiences and societal influences, can unwittingly hinder our authenticity and limit the depth of our relationships.  Unearthing and challenging these narratives is a transformative journey toward genuine connection—freeing us from the constraints that obscure our true essence.  Join us this for our season-ending episode of The Light Inside as we  embark on this exploration together, rewriting the scripts that no longer serve us and fostering a richer, more authentic tapestry of human connection.  00:04:37 Uncovering subconscious scripts for transformation. 00:08:38 Emotional reactions shape our perspectives. 00:11:58 Rewriting narratives for emotional growth. 00:18:53 The role of social conditioning in neural imprinting. The timestamp for when the podcast starts to say "Recognize reactivity and shift into feeling" is 00:22:30. Recognize reactivity and shift into feeling. 00:27:00 Inner peace is essential for world peace. 00:34:24 Embrace emotions for personal growth. 00:41:14 Embrace the darkness for growth. The timestamp in the podcast where it starts to discuss how ego shapes our subjective perspectives is 00:44:05. Ego shapes our subjective perspectives. 00:53:29 Transformation through self-realization and empathy. 00:59:00 Embrace self-awareness for personal growth. 01:00:34 Embrace conflict for deeper trust. JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Gareth Gwyn Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
The podcast explores the concept of anxious insecurity and its various effects. The host, Jeffrey Besecker discusses how anxious insecurity leads to a constant battle between one's self-concept and true identity, resulting in a mask that hides one's true brilliance. The guest, J. Stamatelos provides insights into the search for love and belonging in the context of anxious insecurity. The conversation highlights the importance of becoming one's own best ally and offers strategies for developing a more empowered self-concept. The episode delves into the idea that seeing things with new eyes requires courage and uncertainty. However, in a world that constantly forces us to compete with others to feel a sense of achievement, it becomes challenging to maintain a true sense of self. The battle between self-concept and true identity can result in the creation of a mask that hides our true brilliance behind insecurity and envy.  Timestamps: 00:04:40. Anxious insecurity leads to self-criticism. 00:08:10 Anxious insecurity stems from societal pressures. 00:16:08 Self-belonging is essential for external belonging. 00:21:36 Self-awareness is key for connection. 00:26:17 Self-security reduces external uncertainty. 00:27:09 Understanding the inner critic's role. 00:32:07 Emotions are essential for self-actualization. 00:37:57 Situational awareness and unexpressed shame. 00:47:16 Embrace self-compassion for security. The timestamp in the podcast where it starts to say "Embrace all parts with compassion" is 00:50:43. Embrace all parts with compassion. 00:58:48 Reframe ego as self-protection. 01:02:10 Struggle for security affects relationships. 01:05:41 Embrace your inner power. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  James J. Stamatelos Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Executive Programming Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode, the host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the topic of pain and suffering and how they contribute to personal growth. It challenges the belief that growth can only occur through pain and discomfort, suggesting that growth can also happen in states free of suffering. The guest, John Eli Garay, shares insights on how to navigate the complexities of the autonomic nervous system and achieve emotional self-regulation.  John offers guidance on understanding and navigating the autonomic ladder, emphasizing the importance of self-regulation and embracing security. He explains how our bodies store information from past experiences and how the autonomic nervous system helps us identify sources of safety or danger.  The episode explores the role of emotional self-regulation and finding a balance of homeostasis where our inner light can shine. Tune in to learn more about embracing growth and evolution without being overwhelmed by emotional triggers.  Timestamp: [00:03:28] Trauma and the body. [00:07:43] The role of neuroception. [00:09:00] Flavors of our stories. [00:14:19] Autonomic Nervous System Responses. [00:18:30] Immobilization in dorsal vagal state. [00:23:50] Overachievers in sympathetic state. [00:27:17] Action biases as a heuristic. [00:31:24] Conflict and social media. [00:35:25] Emotional intelligence and self-awareness. [00:41:43] The ventral vagal response. [00:45:07] Intuitive awareness of triggers. [00:50:35] Emotional regulation and cleaning. [00:52:30] Triggering past memories. [00:57:11] Cognitive behavioral theory vs polyvagal theory. [01:01:10] Somatic experiences and conscious awareness. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  John Eli Garay Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode, the podcast explores the role of subconscious scripts and self-sabotaging behaviors in intimate relationships. It discusses how deep-seated fears of vulnerability can influence our behavior and push us to protect ourselves from potential emotional pain.  The episode features a conversation with psychotherapist Kent Weishaus, who provides valuable insights on navigating these dynamics in intimate relationships and throughout our social interactions.  The podcast highlights the concept of internal family systems and how different sub-personalities within us try to protect us from deeper hurt. It emphasizes the importance of addressing these fears constructively and moving towards healthier patterns of interconnection.  Timestamps: 00:01:09 Cognitive storytelling shapes our relationships. 00:08:00 Unlearn negative self-beliefs, validate others with empathy. 00:12:43 Question your distorted thoughts. 00:19:27 Importance of slowing down thinking. 00:28:41 Relationship beliefs shape our reality. 00:33:37 Overcoming defensive mechanisms improves relationships. 00:39:49 Fear of abandonment hinders intimacy. 00:44:37 Importance of acceptance, open vulnerability, and healthy boundaries. 00:51:26 Pay attention to your somatically embodied cues. 00:56:56 The value of being present. JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Kent Weishaus Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Executive Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this podcast, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the nature of subconscious scripts and how they shape our beliefs and behaviors. He explores the idea that our stories and experiences define us, often leading us to blindly follow their lead. He questions the existence of the self and examines the role of conscious and subconscious influences in our lives. The podcast discusses the impact of subconscious scripts on our decision-making and actions. It highlights how these scripts, formed during childhood and influenced by past experiences, can shape our instincts and gut feelings. However, it also warns that relying solely on these subconscious influences can lead to biased thinking and limited perspectives. The podcast features an interview with Intuitive Life Coach, Dee Miceli, who provides insights into subconscious scripts and their influence on ego development. She explains that a significant portion of our beliefs are formed in early childhood and can hinder personal growth and self-acceptance. The concept of the negativity bias is explored, along with its contribution to behaviors like people-pleasing and imposter syndrome. Timestamps: 00:01:45 Subconscious scripts shape our lives. 00:07:16 Understanding subconscious mind's influence. The timestamp in the podcast where it starts to say "Develop self-awareness for empowerment" is at 00:16:46. Develop self-awareness for empowerment. 00:17:13 Developing self-awareness leads to emotional maturity. 00:23:36 Gender roles impact personal empowerment. The timestamp in the podcast where it starts to say "Gender norms shape self-expression" is 00:29:33. Gender norms shape self-expression. 00:35:28 Self-questioning for empowered perspective. 00:43:34 Diffuse cognitive fusion for growth. 00:45:30 Diffusing intensity for personal growth. The timestamp in the podcast where it starts to say "Challenge your subconscious scripts" is 00:52:19. Challenge your subconscious scripts. 00:56:52 Self-judgment and projection limit growth. 01:04:05 Challenge negative self-talk, nurture independence. 01:08:27 Self-worth affects our subconscious scripts. 01:14:33 Question why for self-value. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Dee Miceli Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
Narcissism. Maybe it's one of the most misunderstood psychological disorders of modern society. It is with an increased frequency, we hear such refrains - “He was a total narcissist”—but was he? What does that really mean? And are these assumptions often correct? We’ve all experienced difficult relationships - from our significant others to our boss at work. In the relationship FOG of narcissistic, abusive, or other toxic behaviors - feelings of paralysis, anxiety, depression, confusion, disorientation - may at times surface. Leaving one not knowing who you are anymore, or how you got to this dark place in your life. Often feeling as terrifying and mystifying as ocean fog. Dealing with a difficult boss or coworker can test your patience and be a drag on your productivity. But working with a clinical narcissist, on the other hand, can be downright unhealthy. And Furthermore; sharing your day-to-day life with a narcissist - is particularly traumatizing and horrific. A survivor of narcissistic relationships, Shannon Petrovich, guides listeners on a journey of rediscovering their self-worth, learning to recognize and set boundaries, and ultimately separating from the toxic bonds of love-bombing. "Love is a verb in our gooey-gooey culture. We tend to think if we felt something, then we are being loved. But in reality, a person with narcissism or narcissistic traits is not loving you. They're controlling you, manipulating you." Shannon Petrovich is a relationship expert and author, specializing in helping survivors of narcissistic abuse. She is passionate about helping people untangle unhealthy attachments and find their bearings after experiencing trauma. Shannon Petrovich learned the hard way that Narcissistic relationships are not based on love. She experienced the cycle of love bombing, devaluing, and gaslighting that left her emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. Her insight into the three P's - people pleasing, placating, and peacekeeping - trapped her in the trauma bond of a toxic relationship. Finally, she overcame the cycle by understanding her own character qualities and values, setting boundaries, and asserting her own needs. This allowed her to break the trauma bond and reclaim herself as a survivor. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What is the difference between love and love bombing? 2. How can survivors break the trauma bond of a toxic relationship? 3. What are the three P's of people pleasing, placating, and peacekeeping, and how can they be used to identify a toxic relationship? Other episodes you'll enjoy: By The Power Invested in Me: Vice, Virtue and The Ways We Attempt to Signal Superiority https://www.thelightinside.us/by-the-power-invested-in-me-vice-virtue-and-the-ways-we-attempt-to-signaling-superiority/ Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guest: Shannon Petrovich https://www.nofoggydays.com/ Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director: Anna Getz Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://www.thelightinside.us/reviews/new/
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the concept of moving on from narcissistic abuse. He discusses the tendency to obsessively ruminate on the experience and seek revenge, rather than focusing on letting go and finding healing.  Joining Jeffrey is clinical therapist Shannon Petrovich, author of "Out of the Fog and Into the Clear," who shares insights on emotional surgency and its role in breaking free from toxic relationships. Tune in to discover how to transcend the urge to hold on, and instead, moving on to empower healing and a brighter future.  Chapter Highlights: [00:00:26] Letting go and moving on. [00:04:56] Narcissistic abuse and self-identity. [00:10:33] Emotional monitoring and relationships. [00:13:57] Trusting your gut instincts. [00:17:06] Lack of trust in reality. [00:21:08] Dynamics of transference and counter-transference. [00:26:11] Healing from toxic relationships. [00:30:17] Ego development and narcissism. [00:34:18] Hindering healthy self-concept and relationships. [00:37:17] Traits in relational dynamics. [00:41:37] Grief and emotional attachment. [00:46:16] Emotional regulation post-abuse. [00:49:29] Seeds of transformation are sown. Addtional Resources: Lovingly or Manipulating? Navigating Narcissistic Abuse with Shannon Petrovich Narcissistic Verbal Abuse: Navigating Blunt & Non-Blunt Emotional Cruelty w/ Angela Myer JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Shannon Petrovich Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode, Jeffrey Besecker and Kathy Hadizadeh delve into the concept of action bias, heuristics, and their effect on decision-making.  They discuss the importance of ego development, moving away from binary thinking, and the value of "pause to rise."  They also explore the role of unitive ego development in personal growth, how values and psychological constructs influence decisions, and share personal experiences with bias.  The episode concludes with a focus on the importance of self-reflection, mindfulness, and strategies to become aware of subconscious constructs. 0:00 Introduction and life updates from Jeffrey and Kathy 5:34 Discussion on action bias, heuristics, and their effects on decision-making 12:37 Role of ego development and moving away from binary thinking 16:25 Exploring our relationship with action and the concept of "pause to rise" 22:49 Unitive ego development and its impact on personal growth 26:45 Values, psychological constructs, and their influence on decision-making 33:06 Personal experiences with bias and its impact on actions 39:09 Importance of self-reflection, mindfulness, and self-compassion 44:11 Strategies to become aware of subconscious constructs and goal setting 48:57 Closing remarks and expressions of gratitude JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Kathy Hadizadeh Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the complexities of circular thinking and rumination with Executive Coach Erin Mac.  They discuss how these thought patterns can lead to heightened stress and anxiety levels, hinder decision-making, and disrupt mental and physical well-being.  The episode highlights the limitations of the label "overthinking" and delves into the nuanced factors that contribute to circular thinking and rumination. Tune in for a fascinating discussion on our mental landscapes and the role of emotions in our thought processes.  What we learn today: [00:00:34] Circular thinking and rumination. [00:06:24] Circular thinking and overthinking. [00:07:47] Circular thinking and anxiety. [00:11:28] Belief structures and decision-making. [00:16:22] Stopping generational thought patterns. [00:19:41] Emotional reactions and self-growth. [00:23:20] Present moment and awareness. [00:28:21] Ego development and conscious creation. [00:32:18] Robotic exchanges and human connection. [00:35:12] Release subconscious teachings and shame. [00:39:14] Separateness and inner peace. [00:43:30] Conservation of energy. [00:48:50] Discovering the light inside. JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Erin Mac Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the power of humor.  He discusses how humor can serve as a life raft in difficult times, lighten the load during troubled times, and even procrastinate from doing actual work. Jeffrey emphasizes that humor is like seasoning for the soul, adding that even a bad joke can make us smile.  However, he also acknowledges that there is a darker shade to humor, one that creates derision and contempt.  To further explore this topic, Jeffrey interviews stand-up comedian and comedy coach Alfie Noakes.  Together, they delve into the role comedy plays in social bonding and emotional coping. Tune in to this insightful episode to gain a deeper understanding of the impact and nuances of humor in our lives. Key Topics: Humor in Social Bonding and Emotional Coping Comedy in Bonding and Communication Role of Comedy in Society The Power of Humor in Social Cohesion and Entertainment Punching Up, Punching Down, and Punching Across in Comedy Humor and Responsibility in Comedy The Responsibility of Comedians Empowering Comedy and Humor Time stamps: [00:00:11] The power of humor. [00:05:27] Humor as social cohesion. [00:09:28] Humor as emotional coping mechanism. [00:11:49] Reading the room and connecting. [00:14:39] Bombing on stage, or Struggling in Life [00:18:06] Comedian's ego and audience feedback. [00:22:43] Neutral topics in comedy. [00:25:05] The role of the comedian. [00:29:01] The power of humor. [00:31:25] Comedy as a psychological gear. [00:34:12] The language of laughter. [00:39:09] Punching up, punching down, punching across. [00:41:10] Using humor for social acceptance. [00:45:21] Comedians pushing boundaries. [00:48:29] Empowering through open mic. [00:52:03] Finding your comedic perspective. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Alfie Noakes Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the importance of healthy connections in our lives. He delves into the spiritual journey of forming these connections and the mental obstacles that can hinder them.  By examining the influence of early childhood associations and conditioning, Jeffrey and his guests shed light on how they shape our perceptions of love, trust, and emotional security.  Additionally, he highlights the wisdom of a monk and a retired neurosurgeon in teaching us about the fundamental role that connections play in our relationships.  “Tune in to discover how holding on to what we love often requires letting go. “ This episode is brought to you by Podmatch.com, an AI-driven podcasting matching system that helps create meaningful podcast interactions. Visit the affiliate link at www.thelightinside.us for more information. Main Topics: "Exploring the Spiritual Journey to Healthy Connections" "The Role of Attachment Styles in Forming Healthy Relationships" “How our Neurological Processes Influence Our Attachment Styles” "Uncovering Unconscious Patterns for Deeper Emotional Connections" "Fostering Unity and Compassion in Relationships" Timestamps: [00:02:21] Letting go shapes relationships. [00:04:11] The importance of relationships. [00:07:34] Attachment styles explained. [00:12:55] Wholeness within community. [00:15:57] Emotional regulation and dysregulation. [00:21:21] The importance of healthy relationships. [00:23:55] Neuroplasticity and brain connections. [00:27:37] Epigenetics and chronic stress. [00:32:19] The reward system in the brain. [00:37:26] Subconscious scripts and energy. [00:40:41] Practices for a secure attachment. [00:43:16] Attachment tendencies and emotional responses. [00:48:29] The power of language. [00:51:21] Understanding our personal philosophy. [00:55:29] Social influence and unconscious patterns. [00:57:39] Attachment and Transience. [01:02:00] Healthy non-attachment and emotional avoidance. [01:03:47] Purpose and Service [01:07:39] Ancient literature and self-discovery. [01:10:57] Attachment styles and relationships. Credits: JOIN US ON INSTAGRAM: @thelightinsidepodcast SUBSCRIBE: pod.link/thelightinside Featured Guests:  Madhu Dasa Gary Simonds Music Score by Epidemic Sound Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker Mixing, Engineering, Production, and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio Senior Program Director:  Anna Getz
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