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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services, with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.

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Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 17: “Restoring Human Decency: Choosing Kindness in a Divided World”In the aftermath of heartbreaking tragedy and the loss of Charlie Kirk, our nation is once again faced with a sobering reality: we are not just battling political division, but something much deeper—an erosion of human decency. In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Joy step away from political rhetoric to reflect on what it truly means to be human, to choose kindness, and to build bridges rather than walls.Together, they explore how acts of violence and hatred are not simply social or cultural issues, but signs of spiritual warfare. Scripture reminds us that “we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers” (Ephesians 6:12). These moments of darkness reveal the demonic forces at work in our world—seeking to divide, destroy, and corrupt. Yet even in this brokenness, we are called to be light-bearers, choosing love, compassion, and healthy discourse over bitterness and blame.Dr. Sarah and Raina also speak to the growing epidemic of mental illness and intrusive, demonic thoughts that plague so many in today’s society. They remind listeners that behind every belief, every action, and every worldview is a story. When we approach others with curiosity and empathy rather than condemnation, we open the door to true understanding and healing.This episode is a heartfelt call to return to human decency—to remember that kindness matters, that every person carries wounds we cannot see, and that disagreement does not have to mean division. By grounding ourselves in faith, leaning into compassion, and recognizing the spiritual battle we are all in, we can begin to heal not only our relationships but also the heart of our nation.If you’ve been searching for a message of hope, love, and unity in a time of confusion and grief, this conversation will encourage you to anchor yourself in what matters most: faith, empathy, and the unwavering power of human decency.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s self-paced coaching program: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 16 - “Breaking Free from Fear: How to Stop Letting It Run Your Life and Ruin Your Relationships”Fear is one of the most powerful forces shaping our choices, our relationships, and the way we show up in the world. In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Joy dive deep into the psychology of fear, how it hides beneath the surface of our nervous system, how it gets wired in early experiences, and how it quietly dictates our patterns in love, conflict, and connection. Fear often masquerades as self-protection. It convinces us to shut down instead of lean in, to control instead of trust, to react instead of respond. Left unchecked, fear doesn’t just cause anxiety, it erodes intimacy, sabotages our communication, and keeps us locked in cycles that feel impossible to break. Drawing on nearly two decades of attachment science and relational psychology, Dr. Sarah explains how fear is tied to our nervous system’s survival responses and why “pushing through it” rarely works for long. But this conversation goes beyond science. Raina and Dr. Sarah also explore the deeper spiritual dimensions of fear, bringing their strong Christian faith into the dialogue. They reference scriptures like “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7), highlighting how God’s design for us is rooted not in bondage to fear but in freedom, love, and courage. Together, they weave psychology and spirituality into a holistic understanding of why fear shows up, and how we can begin to release it. Most importantly, this episode doesn’t just name the problem, it offers a path forward. Dr. Sarah and Raina share practical steps for loosening fear’s grip on your life, from nervous system capacity-building strategies, to reorienting your mindset, to leaning into the promises of God. You’ll learn how to recognize when fear is running your decisions, how to cultivate safety within yourself, and how to start showing up in relationships with greater faith, confidence, and emotional resilience. If fear has been dictating your choices, your relationships, or your sense of self-worth, this episode is an invitation to step into a different story, one of courage, clarity, and connection.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s self-paced coaching program: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 15 – The Power of Play in Healing, with Lauran September What if one of the most powerful tools for healing, intimacy, and joy has been with us since childhood? In this inspiring episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley and Raina sit down with actress, creative consultant, and self-published author Lauran September to explore the transformative role of play in our relationships, our creativity, and our spiritual healing. Drawing from her book, "Playful Healing," and her rich background in acting and improv, Lauran invites us to rediscover play as a sacred doorway back to joy, self-expression, and connection.Research has long shown that play is not just a pastime for children, it is essential to human flourishing at every age. Play therapy, for instance, has been used for decades as a way to process trauma, unlock hidden emotions, and reconnect people with their inner child. In this episode,the hosts and Lauran illuminate how those same principles can be applied to our adult lives and romantic partnerships. When we allow ourselves to be playful with our partners, we move beyond performance and routine, opening the door to intimacy, laughter, and deep emotional safety.The conversation doesn’t stop at relationships; it goes deeper into the spiritual essence of play. As Lauran shares, play is at the heart of who we are as creators, as lovers, and as human beings. It softens the nervous system, nourishes the soul, and reminds us that life is not just about survival, it’s about delight, spontaneity, audacity and authentic expression. Through personal stories, professional insights, and spiritual reflections, Dr. Hensley, Raina and Lauran explore how engaging in playful acts can help us heal old wounds, reawaken joy, and reconnect with the divine spark of creativity that lives within us all.If you’ve ever felt weighed down by the seriousness of life or the heaviness of unresolved pain, this episode is an invitation to return to wonder. To laugh. To explore. To play. Because when we let ourselves play, we’re not just entertaining ourselves, we’re healing, connecting, and remembering who we truly are.You can find Lauran September on Tik-Tok @artisfaewellness and Instagram @ancientheart333Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s self-paced coaching program: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this uplifting episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina welcome Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services and a seasoned expert in divorce mediation. As a powerful continuation of our Family Court Series, this episode offers listeners a beacon of hope—clear, compassionate alternatives to conventional court separation and custody disputes.Joe brings both personal insight and profound expertise to this conversation. Inspired by his own experience as a child of divorce who witnessed the emotionally devastating effects of lawyer-driven litigation, Joe’s mission is rooted in preventing similar trauma from impacting other families. With over 17 years of private mediation practice under his belt—and an MBA in finance, plus training from prestigious institutions such as Harvard, MIT, and Northwestern—he combines emotional intelligence and financial savviness to guide couples toward fair, collaborative outcomes.One of the most compelling parts of the discussion centers on the "interest-based negotiation" model Joe champions—an approach that shifts focus from entrenched positions to underlying needs and shared goals. Joe explains how mediation fosters "win-win" agreements and dramatically reduces costs and emotional damage compared to traditional litigation, which he notes can reach as high as $200,000—the equivalent of a four-year college education.This episode also shines a spotlight on Joe’s pioneering role in virtual mediation—a service he launched in 2011, well before many embraced remote alternatives during the pandemic. His practices empower families across numerous states (California, New York, New Jersey, Illinois, Pennsylvania, Washington State) to engage in thoughtful, structured mediation from any location.Throughout the episode, Joe extends tangible resources: from free courses, helpful blogs, and consultation options available through Equitable Mediation, to advice on designing “roommate agreements” when post-divorce couples find it necessary to continue co-habitating for financial or logistical reasons. This episode explores why mediators aren’t just facilitators—they’re peace architects, helping couples untangle complex emotional and financial decisions in ways that protect children, relationships, and dignity.Why This Episode Matters for Our ListenersOffers a Practical Alternative to LitigationThrough Joe’s personal journey and his data-backed approach, listeners can discover a kinder, more constructive path out of marriage or parent-child tension that preserves both stability and civility.Reduces Financial and Emotional TollAs Joe highlights, mediation not only lowers the fiscal burden of divorce but also shields families—especially children—from the trauma of court conflict.Accessible Anywhere, AnytimeJoe’s virtual-first model makes mediation accessible regardless of geography, fitting seamlessly into modern, busy lives.Provides Real-World Tools and EmpowermentFrom negotiation frameworks to free educational content and flexible agreements, this episode equips listeners with knowledge, hope, and actionable steps.Episode 14 isn’t just another episode—it’s a lifeline for families navigating the storm of separation. Joe Dillon will show you that healing, fairness, and hope are possible—even when the path seems steep. Mediation isn't just a process; it’s a bridge to a new chapter defined by cooperation and compassion.You can find Joe and all his services at https://www.equitablemediation.com/Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s self-paced coaching program: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley dives into one of the most timely and overlooked threats to modern love: the use of artificial intelligence in romantic relationships. While AI has incredible benefits in education, work, and even self-development, when it crosses into the territory of our most intimate connections, the risks are profound. Dr. Hensley unpacks the psychological cost of outsourcing our communication, validation, and even emotional expression to machines, revealing how this can quietly erode both our sense of self and the trust between partners.Through the lens of attachment science, Dr. Hensley explores how AI dependency interacts with each attachment style in unique but equally damaging ways. For the anxious-preoccupied, AI can become a dangerous validation trap, another addictive tool to soothe insecurity temporarily, but one that deepens dependency rather than fostering true relational safety. For the fearful-avoidant, AI may fuel cycles of hyperfixation and overthinking, intensifying inner conflict and emotional spiraling when they lean into their anxious side. And for the dismissive-avoidant, AI can become a shield that distances them further, providing ready-made responses that bypass vulnerability, intimacy, and the emotional presence their partners need.Dr. Hensley also sheds light on the broader psychological consequences of allowing machines to mediate human love. When we turn to AI for reassurance, scripted intimacy, or conflict resolution, we bypass the messy, imperfect, yet profoundly human work of building trust and resilience with another person. Over time, this reliance can stunt emotional growth, dilute authenticity, and undermine the very skills necessary for a healthy, secure partnership.Ultimately, Dr. Hensley reminds listeners that human connection is our deepest need and most vital resource. AI can be a useful tool in many aspects of life, but when it comes to love, discernment and moderation are essential. True intimacy requires presence, honesty, and vulnerability, things no algorithm can replicate. This episode is both a cautionary tale and a call to return to the raw, real, irreplaceable art of human connection.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 12: Mastering the Conscious Mind – The Key to Directing Your Life and RelationshipsIn this eye-opening episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley takes listeners deep into the fascinating world of the conscious mind—what it is, how it works, and why learning to harness its power is one of the most important skills you can develop for both personal growth and relationship health. Building on the foundation she laid in Season 1, Episode 2 on the subconscious mind, Dr. Hensley explores how the conscious and subconscious interact, and how we can use the part of the mind we can control to influence the part we often think we can’t.From a scientific perspective, the conscious mind is the realm of active thought—the internal narrator, the “little voice in your head,” the part of you that reasons, decides, and chooses. Dr. Hensley explains how this mental space is rooted in specific regions of the brain, such as the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making, self-control, and planning. Unlike the subconscious, which runs much of our behavior on autopilot, the conscious mind allows us to pause, evaluate, and redirect our thoughts and actions. This distinction is critical in relationships, where automatic patterns—often rooted in attachment wounds—can derail connection if left unchecked.Dr. Hensley draws on both neuroscience and attachment theory to show how training the conscious mind can dramatically shift the way we respond to relational triggers. She highlights studies demonstrating that when we intentionally engage the conscious mind—through mindfulness, deliberate self-reflection, and reframing—we can rewire neural pathways, reduce emotional reactivity, and replace destructive cycles with healthier patterns. This process, known as neuroplasticity, is not just theoretical; it’s the scientific foundation for real, lasting change in how we love, communicate, and resolve conflict.Listeners will learn practical strategies for strengthening the conscious mind’s influence over the subconscious, from daily awareness practices to cognitive-behavioral techniques that Dr. Hensley uses in her coaching work. She explains how developing this skill allows us to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively, creating more safety, trust, and intimacy in our relationships. By taking charge of the thoughts we feed our subconscious, we can literally train our brains to default toward healthier beliefs, more secure attachment behaviors, and a deeper sense of connection.If you’ve ever felt like you were stuck on emotional autopilot or powerless against old patterns, this episode will give you the tools and understanding to reclaim control. And for a full picture of how the mind works, don’t forget to revisit Season 1, Episode 2, where Dr. Hensley unpacks the subconscious mind and its powerful role in shaping our lives. Together, these episodes offer a roadmap for aligning your thoughts, beliefs, and actions—helping you create the life and relationships you truly want.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 11 – “Betrayal by the Dollar: The Hidden Wounds of Financial Infidelity”In this raw and eye-opening episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Joy Butcher dive deep into one of the most overlooked yet devastating forms of betrayal in romantic relationships: financial infidelity. Continuing their powerful financial series, Episode 11 unpacks the hidden dynamics behind the misuse of money in intimate partnerships — not just as a resource, but as a tool of control, secrecy, and even revenge. With real-life stories, personal reflections, and clinical insight, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and guidance for those silently suffering in relationships where money is used as a weapon instead of a shared value.The episode begins by examining financial control and coercion — two insidious forms of financial infidelity that leave many partners emotionally paralyzed and psychologically trapped. Whether it's one partner dictating all financial decisions, withholding access to accounts, or using money to manipulate behaviors and choices, the hosts expose how financial power plays erode trust, dignity, and a sense of partnership. Many victims of this type of control feel emotionally blackmailed into staying, even when they desperately want to leave. Dr. Hensley and Raina highlight how the shame, fear, and isolation surrounding financial coercion often go unnoticed — yet the consequences are long-lasting and deeply damaging to a person’s mental health and autonomy.The conversation then moves into secret spending, a subtler but equally destructive form of financial infidelity. From hidden credit cards to secret online purchases, the hosts unpack how these actions become betrayals of both financial trust and emotional intimacy. Often rooted in guilt, resentment, or unmet needs, secret spending fractures the foundation of honesty that secure relationships are built on. Listeners will hear why this behavior often creates a growing emotional gap — one that’s harder to repair than many realize. Dr. Hensley offers a compassionate take on the underlying insecurities and attachment wounds that often drive this type of behavior, providing listeners with language to recognize and address it in their own relationships.The episode culminates in a candid and courageous discussion on revenge spending, the reactive, emotionally-charged use of money in the aftermath of a major relationship rupture.  Whether it's a response to a heated argument or triggered by a partner’s request for separation or divorce, revenge spending becomes a way to assert power or express hurt. Dr. Hensley and Raina both open up about their childhood experiences with financial conflict — Sarah recalling the volatility of her father’s financial behaviors, and Raina reflecting on how her mother’s money choices strained her parents’ marriage both during and excspecially post divorce. These powerful personal stories shed light on how early money dynamics shape our adult relationships and sense of self-worth. They also reflect on their own romantic relationships, sharing moments where money became a source of pain, confusion, and reflection.To close the episode, Dr. Hensley offers practical and preventative guidance for couples looking to protect their relationship from financial betrayal. She shares thoughtful, research-based strategies to establish financial transparency, healthy boundaries, and ongoing dialogue about money as a shared value rather than a hidden battlefield. With warmth and wisdom, this episode affirms that while financial infidelity can feel like an invisible rupture, healing is possible with honesty, accountability, and mutual respect. If you've ever felt like money was used against you instead of with you in a relationship — or if you're simply ready to build healthier financial habits with your partner — this episode is a must-listen.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Cozy Earth promo code: LOVEDOC for 40% off at Luxury Bedding and Loungewear | Cozy EarthBedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocArmra promo code: LOVEDOC for 15% off at https://armra.com/LOVEDOCPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 10, Season 2 – Money, Marriage & Faith: What If It’s Not About the Money? With Special Guest Clint Jasperson"What if your fights about money… aren’t actually about money? In this honest and eye-opening episode, Dr. Sarah Hensley sits down with special guest Clint Jasperson, Certified Financial Planner™, RICP®, and father of two, to explore the hidden layers beneath financial stress in romantic relationships. Clint brings a unique blend of expertise in psychology, education, and financial planning, helping clients and couples build clarity, confidence, and purpose into their financial lives.Together, they discuss how your relationship with money—shaped by childhood, values, trauma, and attachment wounds—often determines how secure or strained your romantic partnerships feel. From feeling unseen or unsupported to power struggles around spending, saving, or planning for the future, financial tension is one of the leading causes of disconnection and divorce.Clint shares his team’s approach at Thrivent and PDW, where financial security is rooted in meaning—not just numbers. They help clients navigate everything from day-to-day planning to estate transitions and legacy goals, through a values-based model grounded in provision, contentment, and joy. This episode goes beyond traditional financial advice and into the deeper psychological and emotional realities of how couples can heal, unite, and build lives that feel aligned, safe, and full of purpose. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why your money story starts in childhood—and how to change itThe emotional toll of financial imbalance in relationshipsHow to create a shared financial vision rooted in your valuesWhy “financial compatibility” is more about safety than statusHow faith and generosity can reshape your relationship with moneyThis conversation is especially powerful if you’ve ever felt like one partner carries the financial load, or if you and your spouse just can’t seem to get on the same page. It’s a blend of financial strategy, emotional insight, and healing truth.You can find more information about Clint and his services via his LinkedIN page at:https://www.linkedin.com/in/clintjasperson or follow him on Instagram @barnabas.374Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTENERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. BedJet promo link for our listeners: bedjet.com/lovedocPatreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Additional disclosures: Thrivent and its financial advisors and professionals do not provide legal, accounting or tax advice. Consult your attorney or tax professional.Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Center for Financial Planning, Inc. owns and licenses the certification marks CFP®, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER®, and CFP® (with plaque design) in the United States to Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards, Inc., which authorizes individuals who successfully complete the organization's initial and ongoing certification requirements to use the certification marks.Thrivent provides advice and guidance through its Financial Planning Framework that generally includes a review and analysis of a client’s financial situation. A client may choose to further their planning engagement with Thrivent through its Dedicated Planning Services (an investment advisory service) that results in written recommendations for a fee.Thrivent is the marketing name for Thrivent Financial for Lutherans. Insurance products issued by Thrivent. Not available in all states. Securities and investment advisory services offered through Thrivent Investment Management Inc., a registered investment adviser, member FINRA and SIPC and a subsidiary of Thrivent. Thrivent.com/disclosures.The Love Doc Podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Thrivent.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 9, Season 2: "Your Burning Questions Answered – Straight from Our Private Community"In this special Q&A episode, Dr. Sarah Hensley opens the floor to you—our loyal listeners and members of the Love Doc Clients & Community Facebook Group. After reading through dozens of thoughtful, heartfelt questions submitted by group members, Dr. Hensley sits down to answer as many as she can in one episode. These are real questions from real people—many of whom are navigating the painful complexities of insecure attachment, emotional neglect, and modern relational dynamics.Unsurprisingly, many of the questions center around the dismissive avoidant—an attachment style that continues to confuse and captivate so many of you. Why do they pull away when you get closer? Can they change? What does healing even look like with someone who seems so shut down? Dr. Hensley dives into all of this and more, shedding light on the misunderstood emotional blueprint of the dismissive avoidant partner while also addressing broader topics like boundary setting, nervous system regulation, and self-abandonment in relationships.If you’ve ever felt alone in your experience or wished for more clarity about your patterns and pain points, this episode is for you. And if you’re not already part of the free, private Love Doc Clients & Community Group, this is your invitation to join a supportive, trauma-informed space where you can connect, ask questions anonymously, and receive guidance rooted in attachment science. ➡️ Join the group here. We're excited to make this monthly Q&A a regular part of the podcast, so stay tuned—and keep your questions coming. Your healing matters here.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this raw and revealing episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina dive deep into the rarely understood—but widely experienced—phenomenon of retraumatization. What actually happens to the brain and body when we’re retraumatized? Why does it sometimes feel even more painful than the original event? Dr. Hensley walks us through the neurobiological process of retrauma, explaining how trauma is stored in the brain differently than typical memories—lodged in the amygdala and body rather than neatly filed in the hippocampus. So, when a familiar cue triggers that trauma, we often relive it with the same intensity as the original moment—except now it’s stacked on years of previous pain.From a clinical and evolutionary perspective, Dr. Hensley explains how the human nervous system is wired to remember pain for survival. “When you’ve been traumatized over and over, especially in relationships or systems of power, your body becomes hypersensitive—it’s not just hypervigilance; it’s your body trying to keep you alive,” she shares. The repeated trauma essentially short-circuits our ability to regulate emotions or assess danger accurately. The nervous system begins to perceive safety as foreign, and threat as familiar—especially when our trauma stems from people we loved or trusted.The conversation takes a personal turn as both Dr. Hensley and Raina open up about recent experiences of being retraumatized—Raina through an emotionally manipulative exchange with a co-parent, and Dr. Hensley through a recent betrayal that echoed a childhood wound. They both reflect on how these moments didn’t just “remind” them of earlier traumas—they reactivated them, sparking physical symptoms like shaking, shutdown, and dissociation. These aren’t overreactions—they’re biological responses to perceived survival threats, and they’re devastatingly real.The episode also links retrauma to insecure attachment patterns, especially those who find themselves in repeated dynamics with narcissistic or dismissive avoidant (DA) partners. “People with insecure attachment often unconsciously seek out what’s familiar, not what’s safe,” Dr. Hensley explains. “That’s how the retrauma cycle continues—we don’t just remember pain, we recreate it.” The cycle becomes especially dangerous when one’s nervous system is so accustomed to chaos that anything resembling peace feels threatening. They discuss how the body learns to expect harm in love and how, without awareness and healing, retrauma becomes a repeating loop.Lastly, the episode ties into The Love Doc’s ongoing Family Court Series, highlighting the retraumatizing impact of legal systems. From both personal experience and client stories, Raina and Dr. Hensley reveal how courtrooms can become breeding grounds for PTSD—especially when survivors are forced to continually interact with their abusers, relive past harm, or defend their truth in a system that doesn’t always protect them. Even the mere mention of court in a co-parenting text or email can trigger days of dysregulation and panic.This is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever wondered why they “overreact” to certain people, places, or patterns—or why healing sometimes feels so hard. Dr. Hensley and Raina blend science with soul in an episode that’s as validating as it is empowering.Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 6, Season II | Family Court Series -  "Due Process Denied: Inside the Broken Family Court System with Attorney Christine Miller"In this gripping and eye-opening episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley sits down with Christine Miller, a seasoned attorney turned fierce advocate for family court reform—and the visionary founder behind Judge-Y, a groundbreaking platform and upcoming app designed to bring transparency and accountability to the courtroom.Christine opens the episode by sharing her reaction to Meg Miller’s heartbreaking case from last week’s episode, shedding legal insight into how red flags were missed, due process was denied, and ultimately how false allegations and judicial oversight led to the unjust removal of Meg’s children. Her analysis is not just professional—it’s deeply personal, fueled by a passion for justice and firsthand knowledge of a broken system.Having practiced family law for years, Christine reveals what drew her into the courtroom—and what eventually pushed her out. She shares unfiltered truths about how the system is failing the very people it claims to protect, particularly children, who often become collateral damage in custody battles riddled with bias, lack of oversight, and limited accountability. What You'll Hear in This Episode:Why due process is almost non-existent in family court—and how judges often take the bench without reading motions or evidenceHow false allegations can lead to devastating outcomes with little recourse or protectionWhy perjury is rarely prosecuted, unlike in criminal court, leaving parents vulnerable to manipulationThe financial exploitation of families through prolonged litigation, draining them emotionally and financiallyThe urgent need for judicial accountability, and why Christine believes judges should be held to higher standardsDr. Hensley’s powerful proposal: Should family court rulings be decided by a jury of 12 peers, just like in criminal court?Christine also introduces her trailblazing platform, Judge-Y—a public review system and upcoming app that provides families with access to verified information and firsthand experiences with local judges and attorneys. Judge-Y is built to empower families with knowledge and help prevent the kind of injustice that is currently far too common.As the episode concludes, Christine reminds us that a significant portion of the population will encounter the family court system, often walking away with little more than trauma, financial devastation, and fractured families. She lays out bold ideas for reform—because without systemic change, we are perpetuating a cycle of harm that echoes for generations.To connect with Christine Miller:📱 TikTok: @kentuckychristine📸 Instagram: @itsmillertimelouisville▶️ YouTube: Its Miller Time Louisville🌐 Learn more or share your own story at Judge-YTune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 5, Season II | "Stripped: A Family Court Crisis" With special guest Meg Miller from @standwithmegIn the gripping and heart-wrenching first installment of The Love Doc Podcast Family Court Series, Dr. Sarah Hensley is joined by advocate and mother Meg Miller, founder of the movement and platform Stand with Meg, for a raw and unfiltered conversation about the hidden horrors of the U.S. family court system. This isn’t just a discussion — it’s an exposé on the deeply rooted corruption that continues to devastate protective parents, especially survivors of abuse who turn to the system for help and are instead retraumatized, discredited, and often punished for speaking the truth.Meg shares her personal and still-unfolding journey, one that has left her emotionally, financially, and physically depleted. Despite doing what most would consider the “right” thing — seeking legal protection for her children from her abuser — she found herself on the receiving end of a system that silences and punishes victims. After years of legal warfare, Meg’s five children were forcibly taken from her and placed in the custody of the very man she tried to protect them from. The pain is palpable. Her story is far from unique — it mirrors the experiences of countless women (and some men) who enter courtrooms hoping for justice and emerge broken, confused, and further victimized. Together, Dr. Hensley and Meg pull back the curtain on the disturbing pattern of custodial reversal, judicial bias, financial gatekeeping, and the dangerous misuse of parental alienation claims — all tools often weaponized against the protective parent. They also explore the ways in which family court proceedings are insulated from public accountability, allowing unethical practices to continue behind closed doors with little to no oversight or due process. This episode is not just about Meg’s story. It is about the thousands of parents who have DM'd her, commented on her posts, and stood in solidarity under the hashtag #standwithmeg — parents who are navigating the same heartbreaking system, terrified for their children's safety and feeling voiceless and unseen. It’s about the culture of silence that surrounds the family court system, where even speaking out can put a parent at risk of losing everything.This conversation is as emotional as it is enraging — and it is a must-listen for anyone who has ever questioned why so many abuse victims hesitate to leave a marriage and go to court. Tune in to bear witness, to learn, and to stand with Meg — and for all those fighting silently for their children in a system that too often protects power over people, we see you, we hear you, and we speak for you! To support and follow Meg Miller find her on all social media platforms @standwithmeg and standwithmeg.com. Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 4, Season II | "What Can I Say?" In this deeply personal and unfiltered buffer episode, Dr. Hensley steps outside of the usual series format to speak her truth — not as a therapist or a coach, but as a woman, a wife, and a mother who has carried the weight of a private storm for far too long.After over a year of silent suffering, Dr. Hensley finally opens up about a painful and highly sensitive situation involving someone from her husband's past — someone who, in Dr. Hensley's words, “tried to break up my family.” While protecting the identities of everyone involved, she lays bare the emotional toll of false allegations and the emotional warfare and pain that it causes. This episode isn’t about gossip — it’s about truth, healing, and power. For anyone who has ever been falsely accused…For anyone who’s watched someone come for their family…For anyone who’s had to choose peace over retaliation…This episode is for you. Dr. Hensley shares not only what happened, but what she learned — about herself, about forgiveness, about faith, and about the unshakable strength of her marriage. She’s no longer staying silent. She’s setting the record straight, not just for her own peace, but for every listener who’s ever been hurt by false allegations and someone else's unresolved pain.Though she considered taking legal action, Dr. Hensley chose instead to protect her peace — and that of her family — knowing that true power is often in what you don’t do. But she makes it clear: this was her grace-filled response the first time. If it happens again, her words are raw and unflinching — “I will go scorched earth.”This emotional episode is more than a tell-all — it’s a spiritual reset, a message of hope, and a call to rise above bitterness and let your pain become your platform. It’s also a teaser for what’s coming next — a new series that dives even deeper into the corruption that lies in certain legal systems.  At its core, “What Can I Say” is a love letter to anyone who has ever been deeply wounded by someone who never took accountability — and a reminder that you can find peace, stand firm in your truth, and come out even stronger on the other side when someone deeply hurts you and your family.The overall message in this epsisode is:🔸 The truth always reveals itself.🔸 Forgiveness is not weakness — it’s wisdom and freedom.🔸 And.........Love always wins!Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 3, Season II | "Spiritual Intimacy: The Missing Link in Modern Romance"In this deeply honest and soul-stirring episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina peel back the layers of what it truly means to be intimate—not just physically, but spiritually. In a world that often hyper-focuses on sexual chemistry and physical connection, they invite listeners into a conversation that challenges the status quo: that spiritual intimacy may be the true foundation of lasting love. With their signature blend of clinical insight, lived experience, and heartfelt faith, the hosts unpack why couples today are more disconnected than ever—despite being more sexually “liberated”—and how spiritual intimacy may be the missing link we’re all searching for.Drawing from Dr. Hensley’s personal walk with God and the spiritual bond that laid the groundwork for her own marriage, she shares how emotional and sexual intimacy became truly fulfilling only after she and her husband connected spiritually. Raina adds perspective on how her own partnership was radically transformed when she and her husband began prioritizing a higher purpose and shared values above all else. They candidly discuss how true spiritual intimacy starts with your individual relationship with the divine—however that may look for you—and expands outward into how you love, serve, and connect with your partner.They don’t shy away from the controversy, either. Why is it that so many modern couples resist bringing God or spirituality into their relationships? Is it fear of judgment, past religious trauma, or a misunderstanding of what "spiritual" even means in the context of love and sex? Dr. Hensley and Raina explore the resistance to spirit-centered connection and offer a reframed understanding of spirituality—not as a rigid doctrine, but as a living, breathing connection to purpose, vulnerability, and sacred partnership. They boldly affirm that for them, and countless others, God is the center of their love stories. As the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:12, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”This episode offers practical and inclusive ways couples can cultivate spiritual intimacy—regardless of religious background. Yes, that might mean praying or reading scripture together, but it could also look like meditating side by side, having purpose-driven conversations, serving others together, co-creating goals aligned with shared values, or holding space in silence during moments of pain and doubt. It's about nurturing the soul of your relationship. Because sex, when detached from a sense of deeper meaning or higher connection, can feel empty or misaligned. But when intimacy is built on a spiritual foundation—rooted in mutual reverence, intention, and transcendence—it becomes something sacred. Tune in for an episode that may just change how you view intimacy forever. Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this conversation is a call back to the deeper connection you were created for, a spiritual one! Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 2, Season II | “Pleasure, Not Shame - STD Truths, Healing, and Sexual Empowerment with The Yoni Nutritionist”In this powerful and much-needed episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley is joined by a trailblazer in the world of sexual wellness—Adrienne, better known as The Yoni Nutritionist. As a vaginal health nutritionist and sexual health advocate, Adrienne specializes in helping women get to the root of chronic yeast infections and supports both women and men in understanding and managing herpes (HSV) and human papillomavirus (HPV) diagnoses with compassion, knowledge, and zero shame.Together, Dr. Hensley and Adrienne bust some of the biggest myths surrounding STIs and STDs—like the false belief that your sex life is over after a diagnosis or that these infections only happen to people who are “irresponsible.” Spoiler: they don’t, and it isn’t. With over two-thirds of the population carrying HSV-1 and a staggering number of individuals living with HPV unknowingly, it’s time we normalize the conversation around sexual health and stop tying our self-worth to a lab result.Adrienne walks us through what informed, empowered intimacy looks like after an STI/STD diagnosis. From navigating conversations with partners to understanding the role of nutrition and stress in flare-ups, this episode offers both emotional reassurance and practical steps. Whether you’re currently dealing with symptoms, supporting a partner, or simply want to learn more about your own body, this is the kind of sexual health education we all should have received.Listeners will also gain insight into the often-overlooked connection between the gut microbiome and vaginal health, and how dietary and lifestyle changes can play a significant role in both prevention and symptom management. Adrienne offers a refreshing, body-positive perspective that invites us to release shame, reclaim our sexual agency, and embrace the truth: having an STI or STD does not make you “damaged goods.” You are still fully worthy of love, desire, and pleasure.You won’t want to miss this incredibly affirming and informative conversation. To connect with Adrienne and learn more about her work, visit her at www.yoninutritionist.com or follow her on Instagram or TikTok at @yoninutritionist.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 1, Season II | “Attachment in the Sheets: How Each Style Navigates Sex & Intimacy”Welcome to Season II of The Love Doc Podcast with Dr. Sarah Hensley, kicking off with a powerful new series: Sex and Intimacy. In this opening episode, “Attachment in the Sheets,” Dr. Hensley dives headfirst into how our attachment styles show up behind closed doors — and why understanding these patterns can completely shift the way we experience sexual connection.Dr. Hensley begins by unpacking the anxious-preoccupied (AP) attachment style in the realm of sex. APs are often the chameleons of intimacy, hyper-attuned to their partner’s needs and desires but rarely in touch with their own. Their deepest fear of abandonment can lead them to override personal boundaries, agree to things that don’t feel good, or mold their sexual expression entirely around what they think their partner wants. This form of self-abandonment might feel like love or closeness in the moment, but it slowly erodes the AP’s internal sense of safety and sexual autonomy.Next, the fearful-avoidant (FA) style takes center stage — a deeply complex and often contradictory experience in the bedroom. FAs may begin with high emotional awareness and sensitivity to their own needs and desires, but that clarity can quickly get hijacked by old patterns of fear of betrayal or fear of vulnerability. For some, especially after trust has been broken, physical intimacy becomes a place of shutdown. Others may still engage sexually, while emotionally checking out, using physical closeness to mask the deeper disconnection they feel inside.Lastly, Dr. Hensley explores the dismissive-avoidant (DA) style — often the most misunderstood when it comes to sex. For many DAs, sex becomes the one “acceptable” avenue for intimacy, even though emotional vulnerability remains off-limits. This creates a paradox: they may initiate or enjoy sex, but still struggle to feel safe, connected, or fully present. Alternatively, DAs may avoid sex entirely, perceiving it as another emotional demand or pressure they’re unwilling — or feel unable — to meet.Throughout the episode, Dr. Hensley weaves in the science of what’s happening in the body — including key hormonal responses that men and women experience during and after sex, such as the bonding power of oxytocin and the physiological patterns of stress and arousal. She emphasizes that without emotional safety and secure attachment, our sexual experiences can easily become performative, disconnected, or fraught with unmet needs.This episode is an invitation to reframe how we view sex — not just as an act, but as an emotional experience shaped by our history, attachment wiring, and our ability to feel seen, safe, and truly wanted. If you’ve ever wondered why intimacy can feel so difficult at times  — this episode is a must-listen.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 52 – The Little Ways We Show Up for Our PartnersThis episode explores one of the most powerful yet often overlooked truths in romantic relationships: it’s the small, consistent acts of connection that build true intimacy. Dr. Sarah Hensley breaks down how everyday micro-moments—like offering a kind word, turning toward your partner when they speak, or expressing gratitude for ordinary tasks—become the building blocks of lasting emotional closeness.Rooted in psychological science and attachment theory, Dr. Hensley explains how emotional bonds are formed and strengthened through quiet, consistent presence rather than grand, infrequent gestures. These subtle interactions—what we choose to notice, how we respond, and the tone we use—send powerful signals of care, attunement, and respect. When these small moments are neglected, emotional distance grows, often without either partner realizing it.Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how love is shaped in the moment-to-moment choices we make in daily life. The success of a relationship doesn’t hinge on extravagant efforts, but on the willingness to show up in the “now”—especially when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable.Ultimately, The Little Ways We Show Up for Our Partners is a powerful reminder that love is reciprocal. It’s the accumulation of everyday choices—done with intention—that fosters lasting connection, emotional safety, and relational success.Ultimately, The Little Ways We Show Up for Our Partners is a powerful reminder that love is reciprocal. It’s not built in the highlight reels—it’s built in the in-between. In the everyday. And when both partners learn to consistently show up for each other in these little ways, the relationship doesn’t just survive—it thrives.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 51 – The High Cost of Low StandardsIn this deeply personal and powerful episode, Dr. Sarah Hensley explores a truth most of us don’t want to admit but absolutely need to hear: settling for less than we deserve in our romantic lives doesn’t just hurt emotionally—it impacts us psychologically, physically, and even spiritually. “The High Cost of Low Standards” isn’t just about dating someone who doesn’t check every box. It’s about the real toll relational self-abandonment takes on our nervous system, our self-worth, and our ability to thrive.Dr. Hensley dives into the science of relational trauma, sharing how repeatedly tolerating disrespect, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability can lead to chronic stress responses in the body. Elevated cortisol, sleep disturbances, and even autoimmune flare-ups are common for clients who’ve lived for years in relationships that keep them in a perpetual state of anxiety. You’ll hear relatable examples from both host who developed digestive issues, hormonal imbalances, and chronic fatigue—all stemming from the emotional labor of loving someone who wasn’t loving them back. Both of them still struggling after almost ten years of deep dived healing work. Research from the fields of psychoneuroimmunology and attachment science backs this up: unhealthy relationships literally make us sick.Dr. Hensley breaks down how unresolved attachment wounds, particularly from childhood, can subconsciously condition us to lower the bar and internalize the belief that bare minimum is all we’re worthy of. She speaks candidly about how early templates of love—whether from an emotionally immature parent or a chaotic home environment—can train our nervous systems to find familiarity in dysfunction. And when we don’t heal those internal blueprints, we keep recreating them in adult partnerships, confusing chaos for chemistry and silence for safety.As always, Dr. Hensley ends with both compassion and a call to action. You are never stuck. Your nervous system may be wired for survival, but it can be rewired for secure love. You can raise your standards without fear of losing connection—because what’s truly meant for you won’t be threatened by your growth. Whether you’ve been chronically undervalued or simply unsure how to ask for more, this episode will remind you: it’s not too late to choose better. Healing is available, and so is the kind of love that doesn’t cost you your peace.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 50: Healing from the Emotionally Immature ParentIn this milestone 50th episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley opens with a candid observation she’s seen time and time again in her coaching practice: setting boundaries with emotionally immature parents—or in-laws—can feel even more excruciating than setting them with a romantic partner. Why? Because the first place we ever learned about love, safety, and connection was at home. And when the very people who were supposed to nurture our emotional needs couldn’t meet us where we were, it doesn’t just wound our childhoods—it quietly bleeds into how we love, trust, and show up in our adult relationships.Dr. Hensley breaks down the deep psychological impact that growing up with an emotionally stunted parent can have. It can create chronic self-doubt, hypervigilance, an unstable sense of self-worth, and a blueprint of attachment where emotional neglect feels “normal.” Many of us unconsciously seek romantic partners who mirror the emotional patterns we grew up with—partners who are distant, unavailable, or inconsistent—because it’s the only intimacy our nervous system recognizes. Without realizing it, we are often trying to “finish the story” with someone else that was left incomplete by our earliest caregivers.In a deeply personal segment, Sarah and her cohost Raina share their own raw stories: Sarah’s painful experience navigating a relationship with an emotionally immature father, and Raina’s difficult upbringing with a mother who was emotionally unstable due to her own unhealed trauma. They open up about how these early wounds shaped the choices they made in their first romantic relationships—often chasing emotional closeness where it was chronically withheld. They also reflect on how these experiences made them fiercely intentional about how they parent today, choosing to break the cycles of emotional disconnection by offering the attunement and presence they didn’t always receive themselves.But healing from these wounds isn’t just about recognizing the past; it’s about actively choosing to reparent yourself. Dr. Hensley explains that “reparenting” means becoming the steady, loving caregiver to your own inner child—the one who was ignored, invalidated, or left to navigate big emotions alone. Through conscious practices of self-compassion, emotional validation, boundary setting, and nurturing rituals, you can literally rewire your attachment system. Inner child work, Dr. Hensley explains, is about meeting yourself in those abandoned spaces—learning to sit with your unmet needs rather than running from them, and offering yourself the empathy, care, and consistency you deserved all along.If this episode resonates deeply with you—if you recognize yourself in these patterns and you’re ready to stop letting old wounds dictate your present relationships—Dr. Hensley invites you to explore The Love Doc‘s coaching programs and resources. Healing is possible, and it begins with the brave decision to show up for yourself in a way no one else ever could. Rebuilding your emotional foundation through reparenting and inner child work isn’t just transformational—it’s the first step toward the secure, fulfilling love you were always worthy of.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 49: Work/Relationship Balance with Special Guest: Josee Tremblay, Author of Us and Yet and YetIn this powerful episode, Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher sit down with special guest Josee Tremblay, a mechanical engineer and author of Us and Yet and Yet, to discuss one of the most common but rarely addressed struggles in modern relationships—how to strike a healthy balance between work and intimacy. Josee shares her journey as a woman navigating a male-dominated industry and how her career led her to a deeper understanding of feminine and masculine energies within romantic partnerships. Her personal experiences inspired her to write a book that speaks directly to high-achieving women who feel the strain of “doing it all” and crave a better connection with their partners at home.The conversation dives into how career-driven women—especially those in high-stress, high-performance roles—often find themselves stuck in masculine energy even after they clock out. Josee, Dr. Hensley, and Raina all reflect on how they’ve had to intentionally shift into their feminine energy in their personal lives to create space for their partners to naturally step into their masculine roles. Dr. Hensley explains how this energetic polarity is essential to maintaining desire, harmony, and emotional connection in long-term relationships. The episode highlights the subtle but significant ways that career ambition, daily responsibilities, and over-functioning behaviors can affect the relational dynamic.Josee also brings depth to the conversation by exploring the archetypes she covers in her book, shedding light on how different energy patterns and identities show up in relationships. Whether it’s the Overachiever, the Perfectionist, or the Self-Sacrificing Giver, each archetype holds insight into how we unconsciously operate when under stress or pressure. Dr. Hensley connects this framework to attachment theory, highlighting how dismissive avoidants in particular—whether male or female—struggle the most with balancing work and relational life. She explains that DAs often turn to work, tasks, or hobbies as a way to feel effective, valued, and in control—especially when emotional intimacy feels vulnerable or unsafe. This can manifest in surprising ways, such as a stay-at-home mom who over-schedules the kids to avoid deeper connection with her partner.Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own patterns and consider how attachment styles, emotional wounds, and internalized beliefs about productivity impact their relationships. Dr. Hensley emphasizes that healing begins with self-awareness—and that shifting from “doing” to “being” is a powerful act of love, both for ourselves and our partners. Whether you’re a high-powered professional, an entrepreneur, or someone simply juggling the demands of life and love, this conversation will leave you with tangible insights on how to show up more present, connected, and whole in your relationship.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Dr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyYou can find Josee Tremblay's book at the link below or on amazon. US and yet and yetDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
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Elaine Hays

Thank you so much for speaking on this subject. The more we talk and educate, the less the stigma will be and the healthier we can become. ❤️🙌🏻

Jun 9th
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