The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

If you've ever caught yourself wondering, "Am I good enough? Lovable enough? Worthy enough?"... this episode is for you. Today, I'm diving into the powerful difference between external and internal validation, and how learning to validate yourself is the key to breaking free from codependency, people-pleasing, and enmeshment. When we rely on others to tell us who we are, we lose touch with our true selves. But when we start building that validation from within, everything changes: our confidence, our sense of worth, and the way we move through the world. In this episode, I share: How codependency develops when we seek our worth outside of ourselves Simple ways to practice self-validation every day Why internal validation becomes even more essential as we age How celebrating your small wins rewires your brain and boosts self-worth This episode is all about bringing it home. Finding your value from within and learning to celebrate the beautifully unique human you already are. ✨ Ready to deepen your connection with yourself? Join my free 30-Day Journaling Challenge at michellechalfant.com/journal and explore the power of daily reflection to build confidence, clarity, and self-trust.   Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! 🎉 It's my birthday month! Celebrate with me by leaving a review for the podcast or The Adult Chair book. It's the best gift you could give!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I sit down with my dear friend and astrologer Monica Lorraine to explore the deeper wisdom within your astrology chart. You're so much more than your sun sign. Your birth chart is a map of your soul that reveals who you are and why you're here. Monica shares how understanding your chart can help you grow emotionally and spiritually, navigate relationship patterns, and uncover your true purpose. She explains what a birth chart is, how planetary movements influence your life, and how to use astrology as a practical tool for self-awareness. In this episode, you'll hear: What your birth chart actually is and why it matters How to move beyond your sun sign and explore your full astrological blueprint Understanding emotional patterns, triggers, and personal timing How astrology can strengthen your relationships and communication Using your chart to identify and embody your purpose Resources from this Episode: Want to go deeper? Monica is offering a complimentary 20-minute Soul Map Clarity Session for my listeners. Sign up here! ✨ Join Michelle's free Annual 30-day Journaling Challenge ✨   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

I'm joined today by the mystical and deeply inspiring Alana Fairchild, an internationally known spiritual teacher, author, and creator of more than 70 beloved Oracle decks. Together, we explore how to navigate seasons of transformation, embody the divine feminine, and trust the mysterious timing of our own blooming. Alana shares profound wisdom on eclipse energy as a spiritual reset, helping us understand why moments of uncertainty, exhaustion, or grief often arrive before major breakthroughs. We also dive into what it means to awaken the divine feminine within, how to listen to your intuition, and why learning to trust life's rhythm is the key to inner peace. In this episode, you'll hear: How to work with eclipse energy as a spiritual "reboot" The healing power of grief and surrender What divine feminine energy really means (and how to embody it) The role of Oracle cards as a bridge to your intuition and inner guidance This is a conversation about trusting your unfolding, honoring your rhythm, and remembering who you truly are. Resources from this Episode: Explore Alana's Oracle decks, meditations, and courses, including her upcoming series on the goddesses Isis, Kali, and Mother Mary, at alanafairchild.com. Connect with Alana @alana_fairchild and on Facebook. ✨ Join Michelle's free Annual 30-day Journaling Challenge ✨   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm diving into one of my favorite topics: journaling. As we head into the 30-Day Journaling Challenge, I'm sharing how this simple daily practice can help you release emotions, gain clarity, and connect more deeply with yourself. I'll walk you through why journaling is such a powerful healing tool, how it helps calm your nervous system, and even how to use it for manifesting, inner child work, and self-discovery. You'll see that journaling isn't about perfection. It's about presence, honesty, and giving your inner world a voice. In this episode, I share: How journaling helps you process emotions and regulate your nervous system Simple ways to access your inner wisdom through writing Creative journaling ideas for healing, growth, and manifestation How to make journaling a sacred and nurturing self-care practice Join the Free 30-Day Journaling Challenge: Join thousands of people around the world starting November 1 for a free month of guided journaling. You'll receive one prompt each day to help you uncover insights and move energy in powerful new ways. ✨ Sign up at theadultchair.com/journal Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm diving into the powerful practice of cord cutting - a simple but transformative way to release old ties and reclaim your own energy. We create energetic cords with everyone we interact with, from loved ones to strangers. These connections can weigh us down with resentment, heartbreak, and even other people's emotions. Cord cutting isn't about ending relationships. It's about keeping your energy field clean, clear, and truly your own. In this episode, I share: What energetic cords are and how they affect us Why cutting cords doesn't mean cutting people out of your life Simple, practical ways to cut cords through visualization and intention How cord cutting frees us from resentment, trauma, and unhealthy dynamics This isn't just about feeling lighter. It's about stepping into your own power, creating space for peace, and opening the door to healthier, more fulfilling connections.   Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! A Meditation: Cleansing Relationships & Cutting Cords   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Yes, you read that right. In this episode, I share a very real and very unexpected story about what happened when I accidentally swallowed a dental tool, and how I used the Adult Chair model to navigate nine days of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty. What could have been a terrifying and overwhelming experience became a powerful opportunity for me to practice exactly what I teach: grounding, regulating my nervous system, and staying connected to myself no matter what was happening around me. In this episode, I open up about: How I calmed myself using fact and truth, grounding, and slow breathing The importance of asking "Why is this happening for me?" instead of "Why is this happening to me?" The parts work and inner healing that surfaced through this experience How feelings of anger, fear, and even betrayal led me to uncover old root beliefs This story isn't just about an unusual accident. It's about how we can move from fear to empowerment, from victim to adult, and from disconnection back to our true selves. Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Small Group Coaching is Back! Join us beginning October 7th: michellechalfant.com/octoberlive    MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I sit down with Suzanne Chilton to dive deep into the world of reflexology. Suzanne shares her personal journey from a career in the arts to discovering the healing benefits of reflexology while caring for her husband through invasive cancer treatments.  We discuss how reflexology can support self-care, wellness, and health by naturally reducing stress, anxiety, and inflammation. Suzanne explains the interconnectedness of the body's systems and demonstrates practical techniques to relieve tension and promote balance.  Whether you're looking for natural ways to enhance your well-being or curious about alternative therapies, this conversation is filled with valuable insights and practical tips to start your reflexology journey. In this episode, you'll hear: How the feet mirror the entire body and support physical, emotional, and energetic healing The connection between reflexology, acupuncture, chakras, and the body's energy lines Simple self-reflexology techniques to ease stress, anxiety, and even neck pain Ways reflexology can support sleep, digestion, immunity, and overall balance How parents can use reflexology with babies and children for natural relief and bonding Resources from this Episode: Connect with Suzanne Chilton on Instagram & Facebook @footgurureflexology Suzanne's Website: www.footgurureflexology.com/links (access tutorials, foot maps, online courses, and pro trainings) Special Offer: Foot Map Miracle Mini-Course    MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever asked yourself, "What am I really here to do?" If you feel stuck, unfulfilled, or unsure about your purpose, you are not alone. I hear this question all the time, and I've been there myself. In this episode, I'm sharing a fresh way to think about purpose. It's not something you have to go out and chase, it already lives inside of you. The real work is learning how to align with it. In this episode, I'll walk you through: How to recognize the clues in your own life story that point toward your purpose Why following the "breadcrumbs" of curiosity can open new doors Simple ways to reconnect with your inner child and rediscover joy and creativity How to notice the energy shifts that signal you're on the right path The powerful questions I ask when I feel unclear or stuck   Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Inner Child Meditation   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Not every relationship is meant to last forever. Friendships, partnerships, even family or work connections can shift. Sometimes the healthiest choice is to let them go. But how do you do that with compassion, clarity, and grace? In this episode, I'm sharing how to recognize when a relationship has run its course, what it means from a soul-growth perspective, and how to navigate endings without blame, shame, or judgment. You'll also learn how to move forward with self-compassion and confidence, even when grief arises. In this episode, I cover: How to tell when a relationship is no longer aligned The difference between ego reactions and soul growth Steps for ending relationships with compassion and truth Why grief is natural, and how to allow it to move through you   Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me LIVE in Boone, NC, at The Art of Living Retreat Center. Click here to learn more!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

When our kids leave the nest, we're left with a house that feels quieter, emptier, and sometimes unbearably still. This transition can stir up grief, loss, and confusion about who we are without the daily role of being "mom" or "dad" at the center of our lives. In this episode, I'm talking about the very real experience of empty nest syndrome and how to navigate it with compassion and consciousness. No one prepares us for this season of life, but it can also be an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, process our emotions, and step into a new chapter with purpose. In this episode, I cover: Why grief is a natural and necessary part of the empty nest transition How to process and metabolize your emotions instead of avoiding them The importance of letting go of control and trusting your kids' journeys Ways to validate yourself as a parent and give yourself grace How to begin exploring your "Act Two" and discover new purpose in this season of life   Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me LIVE in Boone, NC, at The Art of Living Retreat Center. Click here to learn more! Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: MCSHOW   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Gaslighting can make you question your thoughts, your memories, even your sanity. If you've ever found yourself feeling confused, doubting your reality, or thinking maybe it's just me, this episode is for you. In today's show, we're taking a clear, grounded look at what gaslighting really is, how to spot it, and how to reclaim your truth and power when it happens. Whether it's happening in a romantic relationship, at work, or with family, you'll walk away with tools to identify gaslighting and protect your sense of self. In this episode, you'll hear: What gaslighting sounds and feels like in real life Why confusion is the biggest red flag How to trust yourself again and set healthy boundaries Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me LIVE in Boone, NC, at The Art of Living Retreat Center. Click here to learn more!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Why do we do the very things that keep us stuck? Whether it's falling off a new routine, pulling away from a great relationship, or creating drama when things are finally going well, self-sabotage can show up in so many ways, and it's incredibly frustrating. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self-sabotage really is, why it happens, and how to shift out of it using the Adult Chair model. You'll learn how to identify the unconscious parts driving the behavior and how to reparent those parts with compassion, so you can finally get out of your own way and start living the life you truly want. In this episode, you'll hear: What self-sabotage really looks like (and how to spot it) Common reasons we sabotage things we care about A simple way to uncover and heal the part behind the pattern Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me LIVE in Boone, NC, at The Art of Living Retreat Center. Click here to learn more!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Vulnerability can feel scary, but it's one of the most powerful tools we have for creating connection, building confidence, and living from our most authentic self. In today's episode, I'm sharing what vulnerability really is, why it matters, and how to practice it in ways that feel safe and grounded. Whether you're trying to deepen your relationships, speak your truth, or get more in touch with your emotions, this conversation will help you take the first steps. In this episode, you'll hear: Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness How to build stronger, more authentic relationships Ways to practice vulnerability with boundaries and safety Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me LIVE in Boone, NC, at The Art of Living Retreat Center. Click here to learn more!

Struggling with low self-esteem or feeling stuck in unhealthy relationships? This episode is all about building your self-worth from the inside out. I share four practical tools to help you shift your self-talk, rewrite your stories, and become your own biggest cheerleader, no matter your age or background. In this episode, you'll hear: How to recognize and change negative self-talk The power of rewriting your personal story Why becoming your own cheerleader matters Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Join me in Boone, NC at The Art of Living Retreat Center September 12-14! Click here for more details.    MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm talking about one of my absolute favorite topics…codependency. I've lived this, I've healed from it, and today I'm sharing my personal story of what that journey looked like for me.  This conversation was inspired by a thoughtful question from one of our listeners who asked how to handle the hurt and pain that can come from our own codependent behaviors in relationships.  Together, we explore what codependency really is, how it often shows up unconsciously, and why it can be so manipulative without us even realizing it. I'll walk you through five practical steps to begin healing from codependency, including self-awareness, taking ownership, finding your truth, practicing self-care, and setting healthy boundaries. In this episode, you'll hear: My personal journey with codependency and how I moved through it Why codependency is often unconscious and can feel manipulative Five practical steps to heal from codependency and create healthy change How self-care and boundaries are essential for true healing Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm exploring how we can break free from procrastination, perfectionism, and pleasing people. These patterns keep us stuck, and I'm here to help you move beyond them so you can start living a purpose-driven, soul-aligned life.  I'm sharing one of my favorite tools - The Adult Chair® model - which helps us work with different parts of ourselves, like our inner child and adolescent parts, to create real, lasting change from the inside out. I'll walk you through practical steps to connect with these parts, understand their roles, and begin transforming them. I'm also sharing client stories and guided exercises to help you apply this work in your own life.  In this episode, you'll hear: How to move past procrastination, perfectionism, and people pleasing Practical steps to connect with, understand, and transform your parts Client stories and real-life examples that bring this process to life Guided imagery and simple tools you can start using today Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm diving into a really important topic - how to recognize toxic relationships. These relationships can sneak into our lives and slowly chip away at our self-worth if we don't know what to look for.  I'm sharing why we sometimes attract these patterns, often because of unresolved childhood wounds, and I'll walk you through six key signs that can help you spot toxicity early on. We'll talk about feelings of dread, gaslighting, blame, and other subtle behaviors that can leave us feeling confused and small. I'm also sharing some personal stories and real-life examples to help bring this to life.  In this episode, you'll hear: How to recognize toxic relationships and their warning signs Why I believe unresolved childhood wounds draw us into these patterns The six key signs of toxicity, including gaslighting and blame Personal stories and real-life examples from my own journey How to start rebuilding self-esteem and setting healthy boundaries Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I am diving deep into the concept of control and how to release its grip on our lives and others. I introduce six control-busting truths designed to help mitigate the fear-driven need to control everything.  Drawing from personal experiences as a recovering control freak, I discuss the impact of control on mental health and daily life, the connection to codependency, and the extreme exhaustion that comes from trying to maintain control. We explore the importance of accepting things as they are, trusting the process, and challenging our controlling nature to create a more peaceful existence.  Tune in to learn practical steps to transform your inner perfectionist and live in a more relaxed and authentic state. In this episode, I cover: Understanding the roots and impact of control Exploring the link between control and codependency Key truths to help break the need for control Shifting inward, challenging thoughts, and practicing acceptance Trusting the process and taking small steps toward freedom Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE! Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: MCSHOW   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I am delving into the concept of triggers and how they reflect our unconscious beliefs. I share my personal experience with a recent trigger and explain step-by-step how I processed and resolved it using the Adult Chair model.  I demonstrate how identifying and integrating our unconscious parts can lead to emotional healing and self-awareness. In this episode, I cover: Understanding what emotional triggers are and how they show up A personal story about navigating a triggering moment An emotional breakthrough and steps toward healing Resources from this Episode: The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

I had the absolute joy of sitting down with hypnotherapist Sarah Breskman Cosme for a truly eye-opening conversation. Sarah's journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a master hypnotist is nothing short of inspiring. In this episode, we explore how hypnotherapy changed her life, her incredible training with Dr. Brian Weiss and Dolores Cannon, and how she now helps others heal through past life regressions and by tapping into higher consciousness. Sarah shares powerful lessons from her clients, the magic of self-hypnosis, and her perspective on the global awakening that's unfolding right now. This conversation is packed with wisdom about self-healing, spiritual growth, and what it really means to live in alignment with your true self. In this episode, you'll hear: Sarah's journey from childhood struggles to becoming a master hypnotherapist How hypnotherapy and past life regression can support deep healing Lessons from training with Dr. Brian Weiss and Dolores Cannon The power of self-hypnosis and tuning into higher consciousness Insights on the global awakening and aligning with your true self Resources from this Episode: Sarah's Website: www.theholistichypnotist.com Find all of Sarah's books on Amazon!  Brian Weiss' Many Lives, Many Masters book The Adult Chair book is NOW AVAILABLE!   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Academy of Awakening https://www.theacademyofawakening.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant