The Modern Dating Show

Join Ben and Trevor as they navigate the pitfalls and perils of online dating. We answer your listener questions, share our most intimate and absurd dating stories, and find answers to the question, "How the hell do I do this?" A few years ago, Ben came out of an 11-year relationship. Using his performance marketing background, he dissected every aspect of online dating, and A/B tested his way to the love of his life. Trevor recently ended his 8-year relationship and is dating for the first time. Join us as we follow along in real-time on his dating journey.

16: Passion vs compatibility, keeping the spark alive, and Ben's naked day

On this episode we cover: + What's more important for a long term relationship: passion or compatibility? + How to keep the spark alive after you've been with someone for awhile + How to tell your partner you're concerned about their weight We also discuss: + Trevor's development with his 8-month relationship + Ben's experience at a nude spa in the woods + Trevor's new girl that could be the one If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com.

03-20
01:07:12

15: Threesome etiquette, meeting quality guys, and Trevor's condom problem

On this episode we cover: + Where to meet quality guys as a woman + How to handle long distance relationships + How to handle having a threesome with your partner We also discuss: + Trevor's Hugh Grant date + Ben's Bikram discovery + Trevor's questionable finish If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com.

01-29
45:53

14: Dealing with creepy guys, naughty Aussies, and augmented photos

On this episode we cover: + How to tell if a guy is creepy before going on a date + How to date if you’re going to be moving + How many group photos should you have We also discuss: + Trevor’s trip to New Zealand + Trevor’s 3-way date idea + Trevor extends the deadline with the foreign girl If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your questions to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com.

01-21
31:00

Special: Our FIRST guest, initiating the first kiss, and avoiding jealousy

On this episode we cover: + How to initiate the first kiss + How to stay out of the friend zone + How do you deal with jealousy We also discuss: + Howard (our first guest) getting seduced on Instagram + Trevor’s purple-haired wine date + Ben’s missed kiss If you want Trevor to make his Dating Guide or have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send your vote or questions to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com.

01-10
01:04:19

12: Return of speed questions, winery girls, and Trevor gets duped

On this episode we cover: + Another speed round of questions + How to drink less while dating + How do you ask someone if they have an STD We also discuss: + Trevor getting duped by an intelligent woman + Ben's aversion to girls posing at wineries + Trevor's desire for kids If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

12-20
56:06

11: Unhealthy detachment, double texting, and Trevor gets an ultimatum

On this episode we cover:  + Setting your desired height on dating apps  + How often should you text someone? + How to deal with the unhealthy detachment of online dating  We also discuss: + Ben's girlfriend has a height mishap  + Trevor is confronted with an ultimatum + Ben puts up some shelves If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

12-07
50:02

10: 1940's Chile, first date outfits, and billion dollar dates

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + Are slow jams still a thing? + What should you wear on a first date? + And how should women approach men? We also discuss: + Trevor's new favorite music streaming app + Ben's use of American stereotypes + Ben's billion dollar fantasy date If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

11-30
48:14

09: 17 Essential questions, dating coworkers, and chivalry's consequences

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + 17 "Essential" questions according to the internet + Traveling with your significant other + Should you be honest about hooking up We also discuss: + Trevor's new profile picture + Ben's thoughts on chivalry + Trevor's tripping technique If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

11-19
41:17

08: James Bond in the bedroom, impressive women, and boyish men

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + What makes a woman impressive + Do men need to act more like men + Dating on the road We also discuss: + Trevor's dating comeback with the bedroom girl + Ben's love affair with his Buddy + Trevor's distaste for pessimists If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

11-09
45:18

07: Does negging work, are guys too nice, and dating older women

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + A speed round of questions including heights, smells, and sneezes + Does negging (negative manipulation) still work + When should you bring up having kids We also discuss: + Trevor's college course on the rhetoric of seduction + Ben's advice to nice guys + Trevor's strong views on dating someone who has kids If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

11-01
43:38

06: The first touch, when to go steady, and skating on thick ice

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + How soon should you have the first physical touch + When should you talk about going steady + How do you figure out each other's ambitions We also discuss: + Ben's baby blue ricer + Trevor's reconciliation with the snarky girl + Ben's back touch technique If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

10-28
36:21

05: Bad kisser or bad sex, commitment phobias, and the 5 month cliff

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + What's worse, dating a bad kisser or bad sex + Why are guys afraid of commitment + Should you give someone the benefit of the doubt We also discuss: + Trevor's bedroom conundrum + Ben's 30-year old dismissal + Trevor's foreign girl If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

10-19
46:32

04: Scanty women, men in speedos, and the laser quest bathroom

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + How revealing should you make your online dating profile + The difference between what men and women can put on their profiles + Is dating an art or can it be a science We also discuss: + Trevor ending his first short-term relationship and why + Trevor's mouth numbing date with Kava + Ben's dating failure that lasted less than 20 minutes If you have any questions you'd like to have answered on the show please send to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll try to answer them on the next episode.

10-11
48:10

03: Best place to meet NOT online, intimate whispering, and rope play

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + The best places to meet people without dating apps + How long should you wait before you text back + And how many dates should you go on per week We also discuss: + Trevor's back burner burnout + Ben moving in with his girlfriend + Going over to a girl's place for the first time If you have any questions for next week's episode, please email them to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we will try to answer them on the next episode.

10-02
47:03

02: Dating profile reviews, nasal experimentation, and best dating apps

On this episode of the Modern Dating Show we cover: + How to choose the best online dating photos + What to put in your headline description + What are the best online dating apps We also discuss: + Ben's artsy photo choices + Trevor's nasal experimentation + Trevor's date with a self-identified "freak" If you'd like to have your online dating questions answered, you can email them to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we will try to answer them in the next episode. Also, if you have a guess for Trevor's safari animal, email them too!

09-29
52:07

01: The naked pizza dance, the gynecologist, and should men pay

On our very first episode* we talk about: Should men pay for the first date Our most successful date activities And why dinner dates are a terrible idea Plus we share stories about: Trevor's first 3 dates after he ended his 8-year relationship Ben's experience getting "meal planned" by an attractive college girl And how Ben's friend rescues women from terrible dates at his wine bar Submit your dating questions to TheModernDatingShow@gmail.com and we'll answer them on the next episode. *Keep in mind this is our first ever episode, so give us a few minutes to warm up.

09-27
43:46

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