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Our child's behaviors can often feel like a mystery and it’s hard to know how to respond when they do confusing things like break toys, get aggressive, not cooperate, or run around in circles all of a sudden. I'm I’m here to help with that! In this week's episode, I'll help demystify confusing yet common child behaviors so that you can feel more effective and confident in your parenting approach! PS: Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

In this episode, I'll break down the most common mistakes parents make when setting boundaries/disciplining their young children (and what to try instead) so that you increase cooperation without sacrificing your mental health! PS: Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

So one of my all time favorite values I try to instill in my children is the value of perseverance and hard work. It's a topic we regularly circle back to so you can imagine my shock when my 6-year old once blurted out "I'm stupid" while trying to learn a new skill. In this week's episode I share a quick story time of how I handled her statement so that she walked away feeling: Understood and connected with me, more equipped to understand how her mind works, and more self-confident and willing to try hard things. // Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Here's your easy to follow 3-step plan for when your kids get aggressive! // Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook When our kids get aggressive, it's sooo tempting to respond reactively and:- Yelling & getting aggressive back. - Asking questions ("Why are you doing this??") - Trying to reason with them when they're in an emotional state (e.g., "Well you know we don't have dessert before dinner.")- Lecturing them or telling them to "Stop!" - Ignoring them and pretending it's not happening. But I'm here to be your voice of reason and help you with this!

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook I don’t know about y’all but as a mom of 3, I have a no tolerance policy for demanding behavior. If we don't lovingly intervene *in the moment,* children learn quick that making demands is how they get their needs. In this week's episode, I share my easy 3-step process to curbing demanding and impatient behaviors so our children can learn how to respectfully ask for what they need.

Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook // It's super common for kids to see problematic behaviors at school and want to try them out at home. Whether they're aware of it or not, they're trying to process what they observed and learn more about the behavior by testing out how we will respond to it. When done correctly, these conversations have the ability to:Increase our child's social awarenessFoster connection and trust between parent-child Help them re-think their self-concept and position themselves as "leaders" rather than "followers In this week's episode, I share how I address negative behaviors picked up from school using my clear 4-step process.

"Rude" is a subjective term, but any time you interpret your child's language as "unfriendly", "rude", or "unkind," here's what to say to help them learn better communication. I don't know about y'all, but I'm a positive parent with a no tolerance attitude around disrespectful language & behavior.  It's my cue to step in and teach because I know the more I allow this behavior, the more it spreads.  Yes, let's get your needs met, but let's do this respectfully.  In this episode, I share my 5-step process to curbing "rude" behavior so that we can intentionally raise self-aware kids who know how to communicate their wants and needs to others in respectful ways. Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Teaching kids how to manage their anger comes down to helping them shift their mindset so they can change their choices.  Rather than anger being viewed as a “bad” feeling, let’s come to see it as a messenger here to help us. Then we can channel the anger towards effective communication, expression, and self-care.  In this episode, I share 3 crucial skills you must teach your kids when it comes to anger & tips to help you get started. Don’t forget to check out my free anger eBook - "Your 3-Step Plan When Your Child Gets Angry or Aggressive” www.themompsychologist.com/ebook

Yes, spending intentional 1:1 time with our kids every day *is* sooo important, namely for preventing behavioral issues and enhancing connection. But as our children age, connection is about sooo much more.  In this episode, I'm going to break down 5+ ways to connect with your child in muchhhhhh deeper ways. When done consistently, these things lead to secure attachment because they build trust and intimacy in the parent-child relationship.  If you need more help with positive discipline, I have a FREE workshop, How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling, where we work through discipline and setting consequences with intention and respect. I provide you with the tools you need to create a happy home where cooperation happens without the struggle.

I know it's easy to feel overwhelmed, embarrassed and upset at your child when their teacher approaches you about their misbehavior.  There’s so many potential reasons why your child is misbehaving so it's important to first focus on gathering more information from their teacher before discussing solutions. Remember: behavior is just a symptom to a larger problem. Think of it as the smoke to a blazing fire. Yes, it's what gets our attention and what we tend to notice first but there's so much else we need to be paying attention to if we want to help our child thrive in school. In this week's episode, I breakdown the top 6 questions to ask daycare staff or school teachers if they approach you about your child's misbehavior in the classroom. These questions will not only help you understand the behavior on a deeper level but also inform how you both can intervene to help your child get back on track. PS: Tune into the 3-part podcast miniseries hosted by ME with The Skimm X Whirlpool called Breaking the Cycle - https://bit.ly/skimm-this-podcast - all on the hidden educational crisis of chronic absenteeism.

So lately, I’ve noticed that my 5-year old has been doing a lot of “testy” behaviors like: Not respecting her sister’s body boundaries.  Competing with her sister (e.g., “Mommy let me get this first.”)  Moving really slowwww (or not at all) when I give directions.  Getting “stuck” in whining/sulking when upset. Lowww frustration tolerance.  There are sooo many different ways to approach this behavior so in this week's episode I want to share some "behind the scenes" of how I've been approaching her behaviors lately. Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop

When tension runs high, it's tempting to match our children's emotions and meet their anger with anger but it rarely works. All we're left with is disconnection and lots of guilt.  Instead, we are best served by focusing on de-escalation. In this episode, I give you a roadmap to refer back to again and again when navigating your child's intense emotions.

Instead of avoiding screens, teach your kids how to have a healthy relationship with them! Focus on building a foundation of open communication, digital safety & healthy screen habits.  And the earlier we start teaching these things, the better!  To help you get started, here are 4 practical ways to teach your kids about healthy digital habits!

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” Navigating our children's intense emotions can sometimes feel like we're walking on eggshells. We try to connect and validate but it rarely feeling like it's "working." And then sometimes we say certain buzzwords or ask simple questions and it REALLY sets our child off. In this week's episode, I explore the top 4 things your child doesn't want to hear when they're frustrated and angry and WHY. I also share alternatives to try out next time to connect and re-direct behavior.

Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop It's morning time and you just need to get your child to put on their shoes and jacket but they're dawdling... Ahh!!! You find yourself yell, "Hurry up!!!" Or maybe it's the evening and you're trying to wrap things up for the day. You're exhausted so you blurt out, "C'mon, c'mon. Let's go!!!" Only to realize it doesn't work. I know it's tempting to fall back on shouting at our kids to hurry when we're in a rush. But it often just leads to more dawdling because now they feel pressured and can sense our impatience. In this week's episode, I share 4 things to try saying instead of "Hurry up!!" to help your child get things done quickly. And remember, it's not that we NEVER say these things. It's just that the more tools we have, the better! Let me know down in the comments which one you're going to try!

I know a lot of focus is on helping kids make better choices so that we raise respectful humans and I love this. But I also think that we must balance these conversations with holding ourselves accountable & shining a light on the ways in which we influence situations. Here's the thing - We are all "guilty" of triggering our children. This is not about shaming ourselves ("I'm such a bad parent. Every time I read parenting content I'm reminded of how much I'm failing."). This is about taking accountability for the ways in which we may be triggering our child's anger without even realizing it. At the end of the day, parenting is about our relationship with our child. So as long as we are *only* focusing on our child and the ways in which they aren't measuring up, we will miss opportunities to take accountability (and thus see growth). In this week's episode, I share the 5 most common ways we trigger our child to either lash out in anger or shut down - and most importantly, simple tweaks you can make to your parenting approach to add more clarity and connection to your relationship with your child.

Now that it's officially gift giving season, I wanted to be sure to address the issue of teaching kids manners.   I know it's so tempting to demand our kids tell the gift giver THANK YOU. And I know during these moments we want to make sure our child shows their gratitude for the things they receive. But rather than force gratitude, I'm a huge fan of teaching kids  *why* showing our appreciation for others' kindness is important and modeling the skills we want to teach them.   Now hear me out - I'm not against prompting our kids to say 'Thank you' and I'm definitely a fan of teaching our kids' manners.  Let's just be sure to mix in some teaching and modeling. And remember, kids can show their appreciation with their actions (hugs, high fives) not just their words. So in this episode, I'll share tips on how to teach kids gratitude and things to say during those awkward moments when your child receives a gift and says...nothing... 😑 // Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

We talk all year long about positive parenting but I wanted to be sure to provide holiday-specific tips because this time of year tends to bring JOY and CHALLENGES.   It's exciting but can also feel stressful, busy and overwhelming for both parents and kids.  What I want to first point out is that if your child seems more difficult this time of the year than normal, this is a commonly due to underlying stress. Children aren't really good communicators and can't sit us down and say, "Mom, dad, I'm feeling stressed right now. I feel like I have no down time and seeing all these people feels both exciting and overwhelming. I need some help coping..." Ha! Wouldn't that be nice! Instead, they will show their stress with their behavior, like crankiness, sassiness, defiance, clinginess, and of course, tantrums. 😰 So the key is look out for these signs and when we see them, try our best to lower their stress. Of course, we can't prevent ALL stress – we just want to be more mindful of this especially during the holiday season. So in this week's episode, I'll share my top 3 positive parenting tips for preventing stress during this holiday season!   // Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //

My two preschoolers started school back in August and we are still getting in the swing of things. We were late the first day of school, due to all the traffic, & it was literally my worst nightmare. 😅😂 Now that we've been practicing our school morning routine for several months, I thought it would be fun to share some behind the scenes of what our mornings tend to look like. I'm always curious how other parents manage the hectic morning routine so I figured many of you might be curious how we navigate hectic school day mornings with two preschoolers.  Now huge disclaimer - No mornings are ever perfect or exactly the same. This is the general flow we usually follow that's been working for us, but by no means, is our routine the be all, end all. //Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop //