Long time practitioner Mukti tells her NVC story, as well as explains how Emotionally Focused Therapy has added another dimension to her couples counseling work. She offers courses at EveryDayLove.com.au that integrate insights from both modes.
Maria Santelli, Executive Director of the Center on Conscience and War, and giver of the TedTalk "Witnessing the Power of Conscience," speaks of her work with conscientious objectors.
Mariska and I explore the linked values of being seen and mattering in a romantic relationship. How does"What do I want?" weigh against, "What can I accept?"
Michael and I discuss the temptation to seek ego in relationship.
Stephen Michael Tumolo is Executive Director of Heart to Heart: Comienzos East. His organization teaches sensation-awareness, mindfulness, and NVC in jails, prisons, and half-way houses. An article portraying the work he and his volunteer staff do can be found here.
Erin and I chew over the Max Rivers interview on NLP (Episode 35), and ponder what is involved in progressing in NVC.
Josh Stein runs The School of Circling Wizardry. This is our round-about conversation about what circling is, and how he got involved. This is not a conversation about NVC--except in so far as all relational practices are one.
Brian Tohana introduces me to Authentic Relating Games.
The distinction between a request and a demand, and the energy attendant on each, is nowhere more consequential than in our sex lives. Jefe and I have a preliminary conversation about how this is at stake in BDSM play.
The Marriage Mediator, Max Rivers, explains how NLP training informs his needs-based approach to marriage mediation.
In this short episode I reflect on where I wanted NVCpractice.com to go, and where it seems to me to be going. You might call this episode self-involved, but I'd request to have it heard as an exercise in self-connection.
Adam Vogal is the President of the Oregon Peace Institute. What is to be done when one is out in public, and suddenly on the cusp of a violent situation? Adam conducts training on how to make sound choices.
Chelsea's NVC challenge is that her partner doesn't share her ideas about how to show up when their young sons are in conflict. It's a fascinating conflict about conflict, I think, and we use role play to begin to find a way to conversation.
Erin and I converse about how to stay in relation to emotions that don't readily admit themselves to names. I share that this is something that comes up for me in doing eldercare.
What is circling? And how might it be related to the practice of NVC? This is the first in a series of episodes in which I plan to explore that question. The conversation between Andy and Decker Cunov that I mention as having been so taken by can be found here.
I request some help from listeners in re-doing my response to a Mom who's all in on the power-with model, and we role play to explore her disinclination to let others meet her needs.
John Lash of The Georgia Conflict Center learned NVC in prison, and brings a deeply informed and felt perspective to its place alongside self inquiry and the principles and practices of restorative justice. To hear John in conversation with another interlocutor, find Alum Perry's interview with him here.
Max Rivers suggests that a primary potential of an intimate relationship is revealing and meeting the specific needs one gave up on getting met in one's family of origin. Filmmaker Hanna Utkin (The NVC Family Camp Documentary) conducts the interview.
Hanna Utkin (whose Family Camp Documentary is here) interviews Max Rivers (whose marriage mediation portal is here). Part One is Max's back story, as well as the framing of the notion of "Needs."
Sasha helps me re-see and re-imagine a conversation in which I wasn't all that I could be.
Kristine Rombaut
Enjoyed this conversation. Pity about the background noises...