The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Welcome to the NK Podcast Shared! In episode 285, Lori sits down with Becky, a stepmom navigating the intricacies of her second blended family. Lori and Becky delve into the challenges and emotional landscape of co-parenting with a partner's ex-spouse, particularly when negative influences and controlling behaviors emerge. They explore meaningful strategies for establishing healthy boundaries, maintaining positive interactions with stepchildren, and prioritizing the well-being of the family unit amidst turmoil. Listen in as Becky candidly shares her journey through past relationships marked by infidelity and deceit, the adjustments faced blending families, and her commitment to staying supportive yet respectfully detached. Discover how Becky navigates her roles while ensuring that her contributions bolster the child's environment positively. This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone dealing with complex family dynamics, emphasizing the significance of boundaries, communication, and prioritizing relationship health. Stay tuned to hear more about Becky’s path to rediscovering her sense of self, overcoming obstacles, and maintaining stability in a blended family setting. Plus, don’t miss the details on our upcoming meet and greet in Scottsdale, Arizona, on December 7th. Join us for an enlightening conversation you won’t want to miss! In this episode we discuss:  Reluctance to marry Past relationships and trust issues Communication and Boundaries When bio mom bashes stepmom to the kids Nacho Kids Testimonial: “A Must for Every Stepparent” "I didn’t know how to set boundaries with my stepkids or how to communicate effectively with my partner about it. Nacho Kids Academy taught me how to do both in ways that have improved our household dynamics. I recommend this to every stepparent who is struggling to find their place without overstepping!" — Melanie G., Academy member for 6 months  

Welcome to NK Podcast Shared, Episode 284! In today's episode, host Lori sits down with guest Brian Peterson to dive deep into the financial intricacies of blended families. Brian, with over 16 years of experience in financial planning and a personal background in blended family dynamics, offers invaluable insights into managing finances. They discuss the advantages of placing land in trusts, the importance of financial transparency, and strategies to handle the complex finances of blended families. Lori shares personal anecdotes about maintaining financial independence and the emotional challenges that accompany it, while Brian shares his journey from military service to financial planning, and the unique financial solutions his firm offers to blended families. Don't miss out on their candid conversation about maintaining family bonds, balancing financial responsibilities, and navigating the emotional landscapes of loss and new beginnings. Plus, Lori has a special invitation for listeners in Scottsdale, Arizona—you won't want to miss it. So, tune in and learn how to make "Life good when you nacho"!   In this episode, we discuss: Blended Families and Finances Financial Arrangements in Relationships Financial Independence Financial Communication Financial and Family Planning Tools   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “My sister-in-law told me about Nacho at a family reunion. She saw me trying to help the stepkids and the attitudes they gave me, and then the resulting stress it caused me. She simply said, “I heard about this Nacho thing for stepparents. Check it out. It might help you.” I am so thankful I did! And I decided to join the Academy because what better way to learn about it. I am still in shock of how this changed our family! Everyone is much more at peace and I’m finally happy after seven years of stepfamily misery!” A.Q.  

Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, host Lori delves into a vital discussion on the increasing role of mediation and technology in reducing the stress of parental disputes during divorce and separation. Joined by our expert guest, they explore the importance of keeping children's best interests at heart while navigating the complexities of family law. We'll highlight the growing trend of parents opting for out-of-court conflict resolution, the challenges faced by those representing themselves due to financial constraints, and the critical need for judges to acknowledge personal aspects of each case beyond mere attorney interactions. Much of our conversation focuses on "Our Family Wizard," an app designed to streamline co-parenting communication. We'll examine its plethora of features, from unalterable messaging to expense management and audio/video calls, all aimed at reducing misunderstandings and fostering cooperative co-parenting. Lori reflects on her personal experience, sharing anecdotes about how improvements in communication tools could have eased her past co-parenting struggles. Additionally, we touch on legal complexities, the importance of clear court orders, and practical communication techniques like the BIFF method to handle high-conflict situations effectively. Whether you're a parent going through a separation or interested in family law, this episode provides valuable insights and practical tips to navigate these challenging waters. Tune in to discover how innovation and empathy can transform co-parenting and reduce litigation stress. In this episode, we discuss: "Our Family Wizard" App Communication in Co-Parenting Legal Documentation and Order Writing Technology in Legal Agreements Nacho Success Story: “The Support I Didn’t Know I Needed” "I wasn’t sure if Nacho Kids Academy was for me, but it ended up being exactly what I needed. The guided content gave me practical steps to take, and the group calls offered a place to share and get advice. It’s made me a better husband and father, and I feel more confident in my role as a stepdad." — Jason H  

Welcome to Episode 282 of NK Podcast! In this insightful episode, hosts David and Lori are joined by returning guest Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a focus on blended family dynamics.  Mikel was previously on episode 273 where he discussed his blended family experience. Today, we delve deep into the intricacies of estate planning, financial transparency, and the unique challenges faced by blended families. Mikel shares his expert advice on finding qualified estate attorneys and financial planners who truly understand the complexities involved.  We'll explore topics such as the importance of having clear estate documents, preventing unintentional disinheritance, the emotional sensitivities in blended families, and practical tips for managing joint and separate finances. Mikel also touches on his ongoing research into financial infidelity and wealth transfer within blended families, offering listeners credible resources for further guidance. Lastly, join Lori and David as they announce their upcoming visit to Scottsdale, Arizona, and invite listeners to connect with them. With humor and valuable insights, this episode aims to equip you with the knowledge to navigate the financial and emotional terrain of blended families. Don't miss out!   In this episode, we discuss: Importance of using a financial planner with blended family experience Discussions to have with your partner sooner rather than later What’s fair/equal Communication is key Updating estate documents  Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “Helped Me Understand My Role as a Stepfather” "Being a stepfather is tough, especially when you're trying to figure out where you fit in. Nacho Kids Academy helped me understand my role and gave me the tools to communicate better with my wife and her kids. It’s been a huge help in reducing the stress in our family and strengthening my relationship with my wife." — David K., Stepfather of 2  

Welcome to episode 281 of the NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, hosts David and Lori take us on an introspective journey as they reflect on their complex and often tumultuous path of blending their family. From personal stories about negotiating relationships with stepchildren, coping with emotional and physical health crises, and the innovative concept of "Nachoing," they reveal the raw, real side of navigating blended family dynamics. They recount their own experiences, from the optimism at the start of their marriage to the breaking points that almost led them to divorce, and how they found hope and healing through intentional disengagement and personal growth. In this episode we discuss: How Nacho Kids came about Stepfamily struggles Finding hope in darkness Self-development Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I am so thankful I found this before we got married. It helped us so much with addressing issues that we never would have thought of. It helped us identify our expectations of each other and expectations of our roles in the blend. We are eternally grateful for Nacho Parenting and the Nacho Kids Academy! " ~ S.D.

Welcome back to the NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, Lori is joined by returning guest Keri to dive deep into the complexities of modern family dynamics, focusing on blended families. Lori starts by sharing her feelings about having a different last name from her son, Jackson, and the emotional weight it carries. Keri opens up about her joy in changing her name after marriage for family unity, and they explore the evolving perspectives on last names and identity. The conversation also tackles the challenging dynamics that come with being a step-parent, highlighting Keri's experiences and insights. Together, they discuss the emotional rollercoasters, the importance of communication, and the delicate balance of fairness between biological children and stepchildren. Keri reflects on her own childhood with separated parents, revealing how her upbringing shaped her current parenting style. In this episode, we discuss: Being an ours kid When parents reconcile Challenges of a split family Nacho Parenting Success Story: "My sister told me about Nacho Kids when I told her how I hated my stepfamily life. She actually paid for me to join the Academy for a year. I am so thankful she did this. I am finally happy in my blend and know how to navigate the challenges we face, thanks to Nacho!!" ~ E.W.

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, host Lori chats with Michaela Bucchianari, "The Anxious Stepmom." Learn more about Michaela's journey of navigating anxiety, from her professional expertise as a clinical psychologist to her real-life experiences as a stepmom. Listen as Michaela shares how her skills-focused approach transformed her perspective on stepmotherhood, making it an enjoyable part of her life. You'll hear about Lori and Michaela's relatable stories of panic attacks, blending families, and the unexpected challenges that come with stepfamily dynamics. Together, they explore practical tips for managing anxiety, the importance of a supportive network, and the power of shifting your mindset from solving problems to developing skills. Plus, don't miss the unique tools and techniques Michaela uses to stay grounded and resilient, even in the face of public anxiety episodes. In this episode, we discuss: Anxiety Management Blended Family Progression Managing External Pressures Personal Growth in Stepfamily Dynamics Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “As a child of divorce, I thought I knew how stepfamilies run and What I was getting into. Boy was I wrong. I was so frustrated and hated my stepmom life until I found this Nacho parenting. In just a short time, I felt less stressed and there were noticeable changes for the good in our home. I’m only a few weeks in as a member of the academy, I’m so excited to see what the future holds!” ~ J.N.  

Welcome to NK Podcast 278. In this episode, titled "Between Two Homes ~ Bradley Craig Part II," we're thrilled to continue our enlightening conversation with Bradley S. Craig, author of "Between 2 Homes." Bradley, a mediator and family dynamics expert, dives deep into the intricacies of co-parenting, our terminology, and the evolving structures of blended families. Lori and Bradley discuss why he prefers the term "period of responsibility" over "period of possession." We unpack the concept of "nesting," explore the roles of step-parents, and examine how nuanced language impacts family relationships. Bradley shares his advocacy for transformative mediation and practical approaches to conflict resolution, emphasizing the importance of consistent parental involvement and respectful communication. Whether you're a parent navigating co-parenting challenges, a mediator seeking new strategies, or interested in family dynamics, this episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice to support healthy, cooperative family environments. So, tune in as we explore the complexities and sensitivities of modern parenting with Bradley S. Craig.   In this episode, we discuss: Having a Victim Mentality Terminology Impact Emotional Burden on Children Parentification and Child Development Strategies for High-Conflict Co-Parenting   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “My sister-in-law told me about Nacho at a family reunion. She saw me trying to help the stepkids and the attitudes they gave me, and then the resulting stress it caused me. She simply said, “I heard about this Nacho thing for stepparents. Check it out. It might help you.” I am so thankful I did! And I decided to join the Academy because what better way to learn about it. I am still in shock of how this changed our family! Everyone is much more at peace and I’m finally happy after seven years of stepfamily misery!” A.Q.  

Welcome to NK Podcast 277, where we dive deep into the complexities of blended families, co-parenting, and everything in between. In today's episode,  Lori has the pleasure of speaking with esteemed guest Bradley S Craig, a Licensed Master Social Worker and Certified Family Life Educator, known for his insightful book Between 2 Homes. Today’s conversation ranges from the nuanced roles of stepparents to the intricacies of custody modifications, all the way through effective co-parenting techniques and the societal impact of blended family dynamics. This interview was so full of information we had to split it up into two parts!  We explore the often misunderstood influence of stepmoms, the implications of custody change requests post-remarriage, and the significance of terminology with terms like "bonus mom" and "nesting." Bradley shares his wisdom on maintaining consistent family dynamics, avoiding common pitfalls in high-conflict co-parenting situations, and adopting a professional mindset for better child welfare. We'll also discuss practical tools like the "Our Family Wizard" app, the pressures societal norms place on stepfamilies, and Bradley’s recommendations for effective co-parent communication. This is not just a theoretical discussion; Bradley also brings in his personal experiences and professional insights, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of blended families. Stay tuned for a thought-provoking conversation that offers valuable strategies, empathy, and a fresh perspective on stepfamily complexities.  Let's dive in!   In this episode, we discuss: Stepmom Influence Trust and Boundaries Court System and Legal Procedures Parenting Facilitators Business Mindset in Co-parenting Terms and Perceptions   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I have never seen anyone care so much about helping others. Lori goes above and beyond for her clients. You can tell she and David both do this to truly help others. They are a blessing to the world of stepparents!” ~ K.H.

Welcome to Episode 276 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this episode, hosts David and Lori discuss some of the complexities of stepfamily dynamics with special guests Will and his stepmom Jo. Jo, who has no biological children and has been in a relationship with Will’s father for four years. They explore Will’s transition from living with his mother to moving full-time with his father and Jo, discussing how responsibilities and structure have positively impacted his life. Will opens up about the emotional challenges he faced, including dealing with depression and adjusting to new household routines. We’ll also delve into Jo’s role in Will’s life, how cool of a stepmum she is, and the importance of building trust and friendship between stepparents and stepchildren. Jo and Will share a story of being blessed to have each other in their lives.    This episode is filled with heartfelt stories, practical advice, and relatable experiences that provide valuable insights into stepfamily relationships. Whether you're part of a stepfamily or just interested in family dynamics, you’ll find something meaningful in today’s conversation. So sit back, relax, and join us for a candid discussion on navigating life in a blended family!   In this episode, we discuss: Adjusting to New Living Arrangements Building Trust and Friendship Influence of a Stepparent: Stepfamily Challenges and Integration Celebrating Milestones   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “As a family court attorney, I have had several of my client’s partners, who are stepparents, of course, mention Nacho Parenting over the past several months. Being curious about this method, I decided to look into it. I read the blogs but wanted to know more about these people and what they were teaching people. After reviewing the content, I’m convinced the family court system should mandate a class on the Nacho method!” ~ W.O.  

Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! This is Episode 275, and we have a jam-packed show for you today. I'm your host, David, and as always, I'm joined by the wonderful Lori. We have some thrilling updates and announcements and an insightful conversation about expectations in blended families. We'll kick things off with our upcoming events—starting with a meet and greet in Denver, Colorado. If you're in the area, don't miss this chance to connect with us! Plus, we have a podcast review contest running until the end of September, where you can win a $100 Amazon gift card. And don't forget about the 5th annual Step Family Summit from September 11th to 13th, hosted by Claudette Chenover, and our very first guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking Challenge." In this episode, Lori and I will be diving deep into the complexities of expectations within blended families—from unspoken assumptions to the importance of clear communication. We'll share our personal experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons we've learned along the way. And of course, we'll also touch on some lighter moments, like David's ongoing battle with the Amazon delivery driver. So sit back, relax, and join us as we explore the highs and lows of blending families and managing expectations. Let's get into it!   In this episode, we discuss: Scope and Importance of Expectations Personal Experiences and Misconceptions Household and Parental Roles Expectations of Family Dynamics Disciplinary Expectations   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “My husband and I used to make fun of the Nacho method. We thought it was stupid. The name, the principals behind it, everything. One day we were fighting about his kids and he told me I needed to Nacho. I looked at him like he was crazy. He told me we could join the Academy together and try it for thirty days to see if it helps with the stress in the blend. I agreed to try and I can not explain to you the difference it made in our lives! We are staying in the Academy a while longer to digest more of the content and get more tools to help us. This stepfamily stuff is hard and Lori and David make it a lot less traumatizing.” ~ M.M.  

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this enlightening episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into the complexities of blended family dynamics just in time for the holiday season. Tune in as they share insights on upcoming events like the 5th Annual Step Family Summit with Claudette Chenevert and the release of exciting challenges such as the Nacho Guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking" Challenge, and a special opportunity for our podcast listeners.  Lori and David discuss navigating family gatherings, the intricacies of gift-giving, and managing expectations within stepfamilies. They share practical tips on handling holiday schedules and ensuring no one feels left out, even in financially tight situations. Plus, they address the emotional challenges children in blended families face and emphasize the importance of equipping them with resilience tools. Don't forget to check out the Nacho Kids Academy for resources to improve your blended family relationships. Join us for an episode packed with valuable advice and heartwarming stories, and remember—life is good when you Nacho!   In this episode, we discuss: General Challenges of Holidays in Blended Families Rotating Schedules Gift Giving in Blended Families Grandparents and Fixed Incomes Balancing Fairness and Realistic Expectations   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I wish I would have signed up for one-on-one coaching with Lori sooner. I’ve been going to therapy for years because of the blended challenges. My most recent therapist relocated and only has in-person meetings, so I decided I’d see what the Nacho people had to offer while trying to find a new therapist. In just one hour with Lori, just one, and I learned more than I had learned in two years from my therapist! I’m still in shock! Thank you, Lori, you are the best!” ~ B.A.  

Welcome to Episode 273 of the NK Podcast, "Nacho Parenting Really Works!" Today, Lori dives into the fascinating dynamics of blended families with her special guest, Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a unique personal story. Mikel opens up about embarking on a whirlwind romance that led to marriage just three months later. We explore their challenges with differing parenting styles, their impact on their children, and the innovative Nacho Parenting technique that transformed their family life. Join us as Michael shares the ups and downs of blending families, including feeling as if he had to choose between his wife and kid and the eventual reconciliation between his wife and daughter. We discuss the importance of modeling healthy relationships for children and the inherent favoritism towards biological kids. In this episode, we discuss: Stepdaughter stepmom relationships Relationships within the blend  Biological child goeing to live with the “other” biological parent Choosing between your partner and your kid Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting method for the win. Again!   Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I joined the Nacho Academy after reading about it in the Atlantic magazine. My partner and I were about to split up because of the kids. I watched one of the video courses in the Academy and told my partner she had to watch it! I was so excited!! After she watched it, we agreed that we would give this crazy Nacho Parenting a shot. Life is so much better in only two months! We still have much to learn, but we are both hopeful about our relationship and future. We will forever love the creators of Nacho Parenting!” P.E.

Welcome to NK Podcast! In today's episode, we dive deep into the intricate world of blended families with our special guest, Matthew Steiner. As a Christian stepdad who has navigated the complexities of step-parenting and the "Nacho" method, Matthew shares his journey of balancing faith, family dynamics, and the emotional challenges that come with being a stepparent. Matthew opens up about his personal experiences, including the frustrations of not being able to control decisions and timelines related to his stepchildren, and the eventual harmony achieved through improved co-parenting and understanding roles. Join us for an honest and heartfelt conversation that promises to offer valuable insights for any parent or stepparent navigating similar waters.   In this episode, we discuss: Realizing the limitations of a stepparent's role. Tensions due to discipline and shared finances. Frustration with lack of control over decisions and timelines related to stepchildren. Household rules and chores expectations. Effective co-parenting Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I am so appreciative of all Lori and David do to help stepfamilies. They treat you like family and honestly care about you and your blend! They changed our lives! Rock on David and Lori and fellow Nachoers!” ~ O.T.  

Welcome to another episode of the NK Podcast! Today we’re diving into a compelling and deeply personal conversation with an anonymous stepmom, who shares her experience navigating the complex dynamics of blended family life. In this episode, anonymous stepmom discusses her struggle with being overprotective, and the challenges posed by her partner’s high-conflict ex. We’ll explore how she juggles being a step-parent, dealing with traumatic events, and maintaining her mental health through counseling. Join host Lori as she unpacks the nuances of setting boundaries, dealing with disrespect, and finding balance in a stepfamily after this stepmom’s decision to step back from certain responsibilities. This episode promises to shed light on the trials and triumphs of blended families and offers valuable insights into creating harmony amidst chaos. In this episode, we discuss: When to Nacho Adding an Ours kid High-conflict bio-mom Overwhelmed stepmom Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "This method is absolutely amazing! I had worked with other stepfamily coaches about disengaging and it never worked, so I decided to give this a try. Thank goodness I did! This is so much more than disengaging, that's why it didn't work before! Thank you Lori and David for teaching us how to better our blended lives. I will be forever grateful!" ~ G.V.

In this episode, Lori talks with Keri, a stepmom of four years who has one bio kid and two stepkids, well technically one stepkid. The other stepkid is not her partner’s biological child and stopped coming for visitation about two years ago. This is her second blended family. Her first blend lasted eight years, and Keri was very involved in her stepdaughter’s life. After swearing to never date anyone else with kids, she met her now husband and yep, ended up in another blend. And guess what? This blend isn’t the same as her first one!   In this episode, we discuss the following: Moving to be with your partner and their kids Being a high school teacher and stepmom Asking your partner to change their visitation schedule Stepparent communicating with partner’s ex Super stepmom crashes Finding Nacho! Adding an ours baby to the blend Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “Coming from a blended family, I thought I wouldn’t struggle like most stepmoms do. After all, I have had three stepmoms and two stepdads. I had lots of “experience”. Little did I know that my world would be turned upside down two years after our marriage. I found the Nacho Academy through a friend who is a therapist and suggested it after telling her I was ready to give up and that I couldn’t do this anymore. I was hesitant at first because of some of the negative stuff I heard, but after listening to one of the courses and crying my eyes out, I knew this was my tribe! I knew the negative I had heard about the method was not accurate and this is what I needed. I needed to Nacho and my husband and his kids needed me to Nacho too! It has made a tremendous difference in our blend and I’m excited to continue learning in the Academy from Lori & David.” ~ L.G.  

In this episode, Lori and David talk to family law attorney Billie Tarascio of Modern Law. Billie supports the Nacho method and discusses some family court issues.  In this episode, we discuss the following: Nacho Kids Family court challenges Self-representation Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “My son and his new wife are a blended family. I joined the Academy in hopes of learning things to help them navigate their blend. It was absolutely amazing the amount of content in the Academy! I decided to gift my son and his new wife a year-long membership. They are putting Nacho into place in their home and are so much happier and feel they have hope they didn’t have before! Thanks, Lori and David, for all you do!” ~ I.W.  

In this episode, Lori and David talk to two of David’s kids about them moving back home after the military, Yoo Hoo gate, and how they viewed things as stepkids. In this episode, we discuss the following: Rebounding stepkids Yoo Hoo gate Perception Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I have never been so happy in our blend! This Nacho stuff is awesome! If you are debating on joining the Academy, don’t debate any longer, do it today. You will not regret it! It’s life-changing!” ~ A.N.  

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast, Episode 267. Today, Lori, David, and our iconic Nacho Intro Lady dive into the challenges of stepfamilies, starting with the important question: "When will my partner love my kid like their own?" Tune in as we explore the common struggles faced by blended families, share real feedback from our latest Nacho Kids Boot Camp Challenge, and address listener questions about step-parenting dynamics, from the usefulness of "nachoing" from day one to managing deep-seated resentments towards stepchildren. Whether you are new to stepfamily life or looking to improve your current situation, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Stick around for some heartfelt tips on navigating your blended family journey with patience, understanding, and a sprinkle of humor. Remember, life is good when you Nacho! In this episode, we discuss the following: Relationship between stepparent and stepkid What if the bio parent doesn’t step up What if you hate your stepkid and have zero desire to fix it Should you Nacho from the beginning or wait until things cause stress Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I hated my life. I had no desire to continue my blended relationship. Then, my partner found Nacho Kids while listening to podcast and decided we should join the Academy together. Three months later, our lives are so much better! It was the best decision we ever made. We are creating a happy healthy blended family now thanks to Nacho!” ~ E.R.  

In this episode, Lori and David answer questions submitted by followers. These questions are based solely on the question without having any details of the person’s dynamics.  In this episode, we discuss the following: How do you get a Disneyland parent to stop guilt parenting? How to get your grown up stepkid to allow you to see the grandchildren more? How do you nacho stuff that directly affects you?! Does it get better after they all turn 18? Is blending always this hard? Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “I just finished the Nacho Kids Guided Bootcamp. I am shocked at how much I learned in just a few minutes a day! This was a treasure of information that has already started to improve our blend! God Bless you, Lori and David, for everything you do to help stepfamilies. You are your method are amazing!” ~ P.C. - stepdad from Florida