The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

In this heartfelt and candid episode, Lori and David sit down with Ron and Nan Deal to discuss their new book, "The Mindful Marriage." The conversation dives deep into the real-life struggles and breakthroughs the Deals have faced in their marriage, including coping styles, emotional reactivity, and the journey toward self-growth. Ron and Nan share vulnerable stories from their own relationship, highlighting how self-reflection, humility, and self-control have transformed not only their marriage but their approach to life’s stressors - from parenting to grief after the loss of their son. Listeners will relate to the honest talk about blame, shame, control, and escape in relationships and the importance of taking responsibility for one’s actions. The Deals also touch on the resources available through their work, the critical role of grace, and finding peace after facing life’s hardest moments. Whether you’re in a blended family or not, this episode offers valuable tools for anyone seeking healthier connections and a more mindful, compassionate approach to relationships. Key topics: The impact of reactivity in relationships Emotional regulation and mindfulness The power of humility and self-reflection How past experiences shape present interactions Navigating grief and addiction as a couple Building (and rebuilding) trust Supporting others through vulnerability and authenticity Nacho Testimonial We don’t argue about the kids anymore. That’s all Lori. ~ Z.M., Lexington, KY, USA

Feeling tired, hangry, or just out of sorts? This week on the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into how emotions like hunger, anger, loneliness, and exhaustion can derail crucial conversations in blended families - and what to do about it. In this candid and witty episode, Lori and David unpack the HALT method (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), sharing personal stories and practical tips for recognizing when you're not in the right headspace for tough talks with your partner or stepkids. You'll learn why it's so important to hit pause on those "serious" discussions when emotions are running high, how quick wit and sarcasm can be double-edged swords, and why self-awareness and communication are crucial for stepfamily harmony. Plus, Lori gets real about her bandwidth, menopause mood swings, and the importance of being kind - even when family members aren’t! Listeners will walk away with: A deeper understanding of how emotions affect stepfamily dynamics Concrete tips for using the HALT method before crucial conversations Relatable humor, self-reflection, and the importance of knowing your limits Don’t forget to visit nachokids.com for more resources, and follow Nacho Kids on Facebook and Instagram.  

Struggling with the challenges of blending families? Discover practical ways to set healthy boundaries and rediscover yourself in stepfamily life! In Episode NKP327 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes Heather, a stepmom navigating her first year in the blending trenches. Heather opens up about her journey from confident “super stepmom” to being overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations - especially around food, household chores, and parenting differences. She shares how discovering the Nacho Kids approach helped her step back, reduce resentment, repair relationships, and reclaim her joy. Listeners will learn: Why even experienced parents can feel blindsided by blending families How the pressure to be a perfect stepmom creates unnecessary stress The transformative power of “nachoing”—letting go, stepping back, and focusing on your role as a supportive partner rather than a replacement parent Strategies for addressing common stepfamily struggles, like different household routines and conflicting parenting styles The importance of self-care, healthy communication, and seeing situations from the stepchild’s perspective Heather’s story is relatable, candid, and full of “aha!” moments for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a new stepparent or a veteran, this conversation will inspire you to find more peace in your home. Listen now and remember: Life is good when you Nacho! Nacho Kids Testimonial: My stepdaughter still ignores me, and I’m fine. That’s the Nacho shift. ~ H.P., New York, NY, USA

Struggling to understand why your partner “guilty parents”, or noticing it in yourself? This episode dives deep into what “Guilty Parent Syndrome” (GPS) is, why it’s so common in blended families, and how partners can navigate it with empathy and confidence. In Episode #326 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about guilty parent syndrome: when guilt affects how parents discipline or interact with their kids, often leading to inconsistent boundaries, indulgence, or fear of “losing” time or connection. Lori and David share their personal experiences of “parenting through guilt,” offer practical scenarios from stepfamily life (like inconsistent discipline or “guilty gift-giving”), and explain why this isn’t just a stepfamily phenomenon. They break down why GPS can hit bio-parents so hard and why stepparents, especially those without children, may have trouble truly “getting it.” You’ll learn why empathy, communication, and realistic expectations are essential for healthier co-parenting and happier homes. Want to go deeper? Check out Nacho Kids resources, join the Nacho Kids Academy, or connect on social media.

Discover what happens when a blended family actually flourishes. Yes, it’s possible! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with a remarkable teenage stepkid who shares his rare, positive perspective on navigating life with divorced parents, stepfamilies, and even step-siblings. Listeners will get an inside look at what healthy co-parenting looks like through the eyes of an easygoing stepkid who has strong, drama-free relationships with his stepmom and stepdad. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of adapting to living in two homes, forming real bonds with step-siblings, and what happens when boundaries and respect are mutual between parents and step-parents. He opens up about the hardest parts of his parents’ divorce, how therapy helped, and why he recognizes his stepparents on Mother’s and Father’s Day (yes, really!). This episode reveals not only practical tips for parents and stepparents, like the importance of strong communication, setting boundaries, and letting kids emotionally process big changes, but also offers hope that peaceful blended families do exist. Plus, you’ll hear touching anecdotes about handling holidays, family traditions, and even what to do if your parents get along so well their new partners become friends! What you’ll learn: What helps stepkids develop strong bonds with stepparents How living arrangements impact stepkid/stepparent dynamics The importance of boundaries, communication, and therapy after divorce Handling holidays and traditions in blended families Real stories of stepkid/stepfamily relationships that actually work Links: Check out our website and blogs: nachokids.com Follow Nacho Kids on Facebook: Nacho Kids Facebook Join the Nacho Kids Academy: Nacho Kids Academy Listen to NKP325 for an inspiring dose of hope, and a reminder that peace and love are possible in stepfamilies. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to support more real-life blended family stories! Nacho Kids Testimony: Coaching with Lori pulled us back from the edge of divorce. ~ J.F., Chicago, IL USA  

Laugh your way through the ups and downs of blended family life in Episode 324 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Hosts David and Lori bring their signature humor and honesty to a fresh discussion about the realities of stepfamily dynamics—proving it’s always a hot mess, but never without a laugh. In this episode, you’ll: Get a behind-the-scenes glimpse into David and Lori’s relationship as they share candid moments and jokes about married life in a blended family. Hear how they transform challenging topics—like issues around stepkids and “family sucking otherwise”—into opportunities for connection and laughter. Feel validated if you’ve ever struggled with tough family topics, as the hosts keep things real while still making space for joy and fun. Although there’s no featured guest in this episode, David and Lori’s chemistry and honest banter will make you feel like you’re sitting at the kitchen table with old friends. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating the stepparent journey or looking for a little comic relief in the midst of family chaos. Don’t forget to subscribe, share your favorite moment, and leave us a review so we can keep spreading the laughter! Find more episodes and resources: Website: nachokids.com Facebook: Nacho Kids Instagram: @nachokids Join the Nacho Kids community and turn your “hot mess” into your happy place!

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes back Michaela Bucchianeri to explore emotional regulation, a crucial skill for every stepmom and stepfamily member. Michaela breaks down the myth that emotions are the enemy and shares actionable tips for managing stress responses like fight, flight, and fawn. Discover practical tools for building emotional vocabulary, reframing negative thoughts, and intentionally choosing which situations to engage in. Learn why emotional awareness is vital in step-parenting, how to avoid people-pleasing traps, and ways to protect your mental and physical health from chronic stress. Perfect for stepmoms seeking healthier relationships, self-regulation, and a happier blended family life. Key elements: Emotions aren’t the enemy - learn to work with them, not suppress them. Stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and their impact on stepfamily life. Ways to expand emotional vocabulary for better self-awareness and communication. Tips for reframing situations to reduce conflict and emotional overwhelm. The importance of intentionally choosing situations to protect your emotional energy. How people-pleasing and over-functioning can cause long-term burnout. Actionable self-regulation techniques to support your health and stepfamily dynamics. Perfect for stepmoms and blended families seeking actionable advice on emotional wellness, setting boundaries, and strengthening relationships. #stepmomlife #emotionregulation #blendedfamilytips Resources Mentioned NachoKids.com NachoKidsAcademy.com Nacho Parenting Testimonial: I stopped crying in the bathroom after coaching with Lori. I finally feel like “ME” again. Forever Grateful! S.B., Nashville, TN, USA  

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the everyday challenges stepparents face, using real-life examples from their blended family. From disputes over GPS navigation and vacuum cleaner filters to the ongoing “dishes dilemma,” the couple offers a candid, humorous look into the emotional triggers that can arise in blended households. Lori emphasizes how the Nacho Method not only reduces stress within the stepfamily dynamic but also helps handle life’s daily annoyances more calmly. Whether it’s tackling chores, navigating relationships with stepkids, or learning to nacho stressful moments, this episode delivers actionable tips for maintaining peace and sanity in your blended family. Key Topics: Handling household chores and responsibilities Communication and conflict in relationships Role imbalance in blended families Emotional responses and stress management Finding practical solutions for daily frustrations Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial: This Academy didn't only help my blend, it helped ME! ~ S.D., Melbourne, Australia #NachoKids #StepfamilyAdvice #BlendedFamilyStress

In this insightful episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori sits down with a unique duo - a biomom and stepmom who have successfully navigated the challenges of a blended family to become good friends. With over 11 years in their blend, the stepmom and the biomom discuss how they overcame early co-parenting hurdles, managed shifting visitation schedules, and built a friendship rooted in mutual respect and the well-being of the children. Listeners get a candid look at real-life co-parenting dynamics, from open communication and handling tough emotions to supporting each other through life’s challenges, like divorce and a child’s medical needs. Tune in to hear their firsthand advice on keeping the kids’ best interests at the center while fostering harmony between households. Perfect for anyone seeking real-world tips on blending families, building trust with co-parents, and maintaining respectful boundaries in a stepfamily dynamic. In this episode we discuss: Building Positive Stepmom and Biomom Relationships Co-parenting and Communication Challenges Navigating Divorce and Blended Family Dynamics Prioritizing Children's Well-being and Stability Support Systems During Family and Health Crisis #BlendedFamily #CoParentingSuccess #NachoKidsPodcast Nacho Success Story: “We stopped arguing about parenting once I stopped parenting kids that weren’t mine.” ~ R.P., San Diego, CA, USA  

Navigating back-to-school season in a blended family? 🎒 In this Nacho Kids podcast episode, hosts Lori and David dive deep into the real-life challenges and lessons learned when sharing school supply costs, managing homework stress, and setting healthy boundaries between bio and step-parents. They share why splitting school expenses can be tricky, discuss the importance of clear agreements, and offer practical tips on handling school-related responsibilities without unnecessary conflict. Whether you're a bio parent, step-parent, or co-parent, this insightful conversation is packed with relatable experiences and advice to help you start the school year peacefully and set your family up for success. #BlendedFamily #BackToSchool #ParentingTips #NachoKidsPodcast #CoParenting Listen in to transform your school year stress into teamwork and understanding!  

In this must-listen episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David Sims chat with guest Billie Tarascio, a family law attorney and now full-time stepmom. Billie gets real about the challenges and surprises that come with blending families, such as unexpectedly gaining full-time stepkids and managing life with seven kids in the house. Listeners will gain practical step-parenting tips on setting boundaries, embracing different parenting styles, coping with custody uncertainties, and using the Nacho Kids method. They also discuss stepmom roles, loyalty binds, handling exes, and the importance of self-care in blended families. Great for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life! Connect: nachokids.com | ModernLaw.com#BlendedFamily #StepParenting #NachoKids

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive into the topic of therapists and their understanding of/lack of understanding of Nacho Parenting. After a member of their Facebook group shares a story about being "fired" by a therapist for following the Nacho Kids method, Lori and David break down the misconceptions therapists may have about stepfamilies and the Nacho approach. They share real-life comments, discuss the importance of finding a therapist who truly understands blended family dynamics, and clarify that nachoing isn’t just about disengagement or ignoring issues—it’s about mental health, self-care, and improving relationships for everyone in the family. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood by a professional or want to know how to vet the right support for your stepfamily, this episode is for you! In this episode, we discuss: Misunderstandings of Nacho Parenting Nacho Parenting and Mental Health Triggers, Emotions, and Family Dynamics The Role of Therapists and Vetting Therapists When Therapists Get It Wrong Nacho Kids Success Story: "I thought Nachoing meant not caring. Now I see it’s the most loving thing I could’ve done—for all of us." - T.R. Alberta, Canada Timestamps 00:00 Therapists: Strengths, Weaknesses, Experience 04:01 Therapists' Dilemma with "Nacho" Method 06:31 "Misguided Research Practices" 11:48 Negative Self-Talk Unhealthy Comparison 15:24 Understanding Effective Family Roles 17:22 "Realizing My Impact on Others" 22:07 Vetting Your Therapist 23:47 Therapist Dispute Over Parenting Concerns 26:35 "Find Your Family Support Method" Resources Join Nacho Kids Academy Coaching info Nachokids.com YouTube Channel  

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori is joined by the renowned “Smart Stepmom,” Laura Petherbridge, to discuss her latest book, Step Families of the Bible. Laura shares powerful insights into how stepfamilies of the Bible mirror the struggles of today’s stepfamilies. Drawing on biblical stories, she reveals how universal emotions like jealousy, loyalty, and anger shaped stepfamily dynamics both then and now. Listeners will gain invaluable wisdom on handling stepmom challenges, parent/child bonds, step-sibling rivalries, and the importance of empathy, grace, and boundaries in blended families. If you’re looking for real talk, practical advice, and spiritual encouragement in your blended family journey, this episode is a must-listen! #NachoKids #BlendedFamilies #StepFamilyWisdom Resources Mentioned NachoKids.com NachoKidsAcademy.com Nacho Parenting Testimonial: "Joining Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity. I finally understand my role and don’t feel guilty stepping back." K.M., Ohio  

Are you struggling with codependent behaviors between your partner and their ex, especially when it affects your blended family? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David tackle a listener’s question about how to handle situations where her partner's ex relies on him for trivial tasks related to the kids. Discover practical tips on communicating concerns with your partner using the proven “FBI statement” method, which focuses on sharing feelings, naming behaviors, and clarifying the impact on your relationship. Lori and David also explore the difference between insecurity and legitimate boundaries, offering actionable solutions for common co-parenting frustrations. Don’t miss their insights on navigating jealousy, setting healthy boundaries, and how resources like the Nacho Kids Academy and one-on-one coaching can transform your blended family experience. #BlendedFamily #CoParenting #NachoKids

Welcome to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Today, Lori and David are joined by returning guests Crystal and Mike, who open up about blending their family over the past nine years. With two teens of totally opposite temperaments, Crystal and Mike share their experiences juggling an ambitious daughter and an unmotivated son, while trying to balance structure, independence, and support. They discuss the evolution of “nachoing” as stepparents, how they manage the messier parts of teenage life, and the ongoing challenges of co-parenting across two very different households. Crystal and Mike’s story is funny, real, and packed with lessons for any blended family. If you’re navigating the ups and downs of raising stepkids, especially during the teen years, this episode delivers wisdom, laughs, and reassurance that you’re not alone. Let’s jump in! In this episode, we discuss: Parenting Challenges with Teenagers Nacho Parenting Experience Household Rules and Responsibilities Step-Parent and Stepchild Relationships Takeaway: Blending a family isn’t a one-time challenge; it’s an ongoing journey that requires flexibility, patience, and a good sense of humor as kids grow and life changes. Resources Mentioned: NachoKids.com NachoKidsAcademy.com Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I used to walk on eggshells. Now I walk in peace. Thanks Nacho Kids!!” ~ A.N., Charlotte, NC, USA   Listen now and be reminded that life is good when you Nacho!      

Explore the complexities of blending families, including navigating different parenting styles, sibling rivalry vs. bullying, and the challenge of being fair with both biological and stepchildren.  Lori & David share practical advice on empowering kids to handle conflicts, the realities of “fairness” in stepfamily life, and why adult behavior matters just as much as the kids’.  Tune in for relatable stories, honest reflections, and tools to help your own blend thrive! In this episode, we discuss: Biases and Parental Perception "Tit for Tat" Dynamics and Parental Stalemates Exploring Resentment & Underlying Issues The Reality of Fairness in Blended Families   Takeaway: Being 100% "fair" between biological and stepchildren is extremely difficult, if not impossible, given the natural biases and different relationships. Resources Mentioned NachoKids.com NachoKidsAcademy.com Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I now understand what Lori means when she says she Nachos Walmart! I’m Nachoing so much!! Life is Great!l.”  ~ R.K., MI    

On this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori welcomes Daryl Potter, a Canadian banker and published author, for a conversation that takes us far beyond the typical stepfamily story. Daryl isn’t a member of a blended family himself, but his experience raising a child with two extremely rare medical conditions has given him a unique perspective on navigating “irregular” family dynamics and finding beauty in unexpected places. Daryl opens up about his 28-year marriage, the cultural mosaic of his household, and the challenges and profound blessings of caring for his daughter, who is the only person in the world with her combination of diagnoses. He shares how his family has had to rewrite the script on everything from holidays to family vacations, and how his son has learned life skills and empathy far beyond his years. Throughout the episode, Daryl and Lori delve into themes of grief, acceptance, reframing success, and the importance of not comparing pain, reminding us that everyone’s journey holds its own weight, no matter how “broken” it may appear from the outside. Daryl’s story is a powerful reminder that, whether you’re in a stepfamily or not, every family must find its own version of normal and discover joy, purpose, and connection along the way. In this episode, we discuss: Coping with and Managing a Severely Disabled Child Grief and Adapting to a "broken" or Non-traditional Family Impact on Siblings: The "Leftover" Dynamic Finding Meaning and Perspective in Suffering and Difference Key Advice for Parents Facing Disability or Blended Family Challenges Nacho Parenting Success Stories: “The biggest surprise? The kids are actually happier now. I stepped back, let go of the pressure, and our entire home changed for the better.” ~  S.C., California, USA  

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s episode, Lori and David dive deep into the realities of sacrifice within stepfamilies. Lori shares a heartfelt personal story about giving up a long-awaited lunch with a friend to help her stepson, Ethan, navigate buying a car, a perfect example of the countless everyday choices stepfamilies make for each other. Together, Lori and David discuss how sacrifice isn’t just about doing things for your own kids, but often includes stepkids and even partners.  They challenge the misconception that “nachoing” means not caring or refusing to help, and explain how setting boundaries can actually strengthen relationships and protect your mental health. The hosts also touch on stepfamily celebrations, like Stepmother’s Day, the importance of not keeping score, and why caring for your own well-being is essential. Join Lori and David as they get real about being kind, both to others and to yourself, and find out why sometimes, the healthiest choice is to Nacho. In this episode, we discuss: Reflections on Sacrifice In Stepfamilies Nacho Parenting and Relationship Nuances The Importance (and Limits)of Sacrifice Emotional Realtities and Acceptance Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Having my stepkids full-time was overwhelming. I felt like I had to step up and fill shoes that weren’t mine, and it nearly broke me. Nachoing showed me that I can support their mom without trying to be their dad. Now there’s less stress, more peace, and the start of real trust growing between us." ~ Todd, WI  

On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Chad Bignac, transformationist, consultant, author, and coauthor of the new book “Blend, Don’t Break.” Drawing from over 22 years of blended family experience, Chad opens up about the challenges he and his wife faced merging their families after personal tragedies, including the loss of his first wife and his current wife’s ex-husband. Chad shares candidly about the painful missteps and valuable lessons learned along their journey, from clashing parenting styles and personal assumptions to the importance of unity, compassion, and self-growth. He details the turning point in his family’s story, catalyzed by his wife’s severe health crisis, and how choosing to respond rather than react helped heal deep family rifts. Through heartfelt stories and practical wisdom, Chad emphasizes the power of compassion, influence over authority, and the need to unpack old emotional baggage before starting anew. Whether you’re in a blended family or looking for guidance on overcoming personal and family struggles, this episode offers honest insights and hope for healing and connection. In this episode, we discuss: - Early Challenges in Blending - Authority vs. Influence in Parenting - Becoming a “Student of Your Children” - Creating Environments for Healing in Blended Families - Advice for Prospective Stepfamilies  Nacho Kids Success Story: I thought stepping up meant stepping all the way in, but it was destroying me. As a stepdad, I believed it was my job to take the lead and fix everything. I disciplined, managed homework, scheduled appointments… and got nothing but pushback. My wife and I were constantly arguing, and I felt like an outsider in my own home. Then we found Nacho Kids. Learning to Nacho helped me stop parenting by proxy and start supporting my wife as her partner, not as a replacement dad. The stress lifted, and surprisingly, my stepkids started warming up to me once I stepped out of the power struggle. Nacho Kids didn’t just change our home, it gave me my peace back. ~Mark T., Stepdad of 2            

Welcome back to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s show, Lori and David dive into a challenge faced by many blended families: What happens when one partner feels that their stepchild is being disrespectful, and the biological parent doesn’t step in? Kicking things off with a listener's heartfelt question, Lori and David unpack the complexities of stepkids shouting or insulting their stepparent and stepsibling, as well as the tension that arises when boundaries and respect are on the line. Throughout the episode, they discuss practical strategies for handling disrespect without overstepping boundaries, the importance of focusing on your own responses, and how to talk to your partner about these challenging issues without stirring up more conflict. The hosts also highlight why sibling (and step-sibling) rivalry can sometimes be just as much about building bonds as it is about butting heads, and why letting kids work out their differences can lead to healthier relationships in the long run. Whether you're a parent, stepparent, or somewhere in between, today's episode offers real-life insights and actionable advice on navigating respect and boundaries in a blended family. Grab your headphones and get ready to "nacho" your way to a happier home! In this episode, we discuss: Nacho Parenting Philosophy in Conflict Scenarios Responding to Disrespect from Stepchildren Perceptions of Respect and Boundaries Stepparent vs. Biological Parent Discipline Dynamics Navigating Sibling and Stepsibling Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity and my marriage. It took a little while because my husband wasn’t happy with me Nachoing. He didn’t understand it. But once he saw the positive changes from my Nachoing, he couldn’t deny that Nachoing was changing things for the better.” ~ Ellison - Happy stepmom in TX