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The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Author: Lori Sims & David Sims

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Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Peggy. Peggy is in her second blend. Yep, she decided to do it again! She has two stepkids in her current blend and two bio kids. Peggy has experienced some unique challenges in her blend related to parental alienation with the stepkids and also the death of her bio kids’ father last year. Through her challenges, Peggy has learned so much and learned what does and doesn’t work for her blend.   In this episode, we discuss: Differences in blends Stepkids interacting with bio kids Guilty Parent Syndrome Meeting the “King of Nerds” and dealing with his “Joker” ex-wife Leaving discipline to the bio parent
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Karalee Katsambanis - author of “Stepparenting With Purpose: Everything you wanted to know but were too afraid to ask”. Karalee has been blending 15 years, has two stepkids, and three “ours” kids. She is Australian so you know Lori had a fit over Karalee’s accent!   In this episode, we discuss: Never meeting the bio mum  Being the first “stepmum” amongst your friends Not all counselors understand stepparenting Mother’s Day Focusing more on the stepkids instead of your own kids
*** DISCLAIMER *** Trigger Warning - Inappropriate Sexual Behavior  In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview an anonymous stepmom from Florida. This stepmom has been blending for five years, has one stepson and two bio sons. About six weeks after they were married, something unthinkable happened. Her stepson was sexually inappropriate with her bio son. Of course, this is something no one is ever prepared to have to deal with, nor do they expect to have to deal with, but she agreed to share her story with us in hopes of helping someone that may be going through something similar.    In this episode, we discuss: Inappropriate behavior between step-siblings The shame and embarrassment  The importance of open communication  Seeing things from a different perspective The long-lasting effects 
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews childless stepmom, Dani. Dani has been blending for six years and has three stepkids, ages 20,18, and 15. She has no children of her own. In the beginning, the stepkids were with them every other weekend, then that changed to every other week. Like most blended families, things changed when Dani and her husband got married. Also like most blended families, she didn’t research blended families prior to blending because she didn’t see the need. Needless to say, the need arose. She came across the Nacho Kids podcast and something resonated with her. She started Nachoing, and it did her good!    In this episode, we discuss: When the visitation with the stepkids increase Why getting married changes things Stepmom needing control Feeling defeated Letting blended issues consume your life
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a Nacho Stepmom from Washington State who shares with us her biggest stepmom regret! This stepmom has been blending about four years, she has an 11-year-old stepson, a 9-year-old stepdaughter, a 4-year-old bio daughter, 7-year-old bio son, and a 7-year-old bio daughter. Yep, twins! Like many stepmoms, she was struggling in the “blend”. We’ll just say a high-conflict bio mom didn’t make things any easier for her. She started looking for help and found the Nacho Kids method. Once she started implementing what she learned, things got better instantly!  In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Struggling to adjust to the blend Nachoing helped Dinner time issues What she’s learned
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Helen, an evil stepmom from the UK. Of course, she really isn’t evil but the bio mom told the stepkids she was! She has been blending for about two and a half years and has two stepdaughters. Helen has learned a lot in her short time in the blend. Like many other stepmoms, she came into the blend and took on the role of the main disciplinarian. One reason she took on this role was that her partner had Guilty Parent Syndrome. Eventually, the stress of being the main disciplinarian and feeling as if she didn’t have her partner’s support when she disciplined the stepkids, led her to Nacho. Since Nachoing, things have gotten better.    In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Struggling to adjust to the blend Being the main disciplinarian Feeling last on a list of anybody’s priorities Time to Nacho
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview stepmom Michelle. Michelle and her husband have been blending for five years. Michelle has three biological daughters and her husband has three biological sons and one biological daughter. Her bio kids and her stepkids attend the same school, which adds some unique challenges. Michelle and her husband were on the verge of divorce and met with a counselor. The counselor’s lack of blended family knowledge resulted in them not getting the help they needed. They went through several counselors before Michelle joined the Nacho Kids Academy. Through her work in the Academy, she has made great progress!   In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high conflict bio dad Finding the right help for your blend Brady Bunch dreams Comparing your home to the other home Vacations with the stepkids and bio kids The Nacho Kids Academy
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Kristen Skiles with Stepmomming. Kristen has been blending for three years, has a 10-year old stepdaughter, and was a stepchild herself. Although she was a stepchild herself, Kristen still faced many blended family challenges. Kristen and the bio mom had a unique relationship in the beginning and were considered best friends! After some struggles and boundaries being set, Kristen and the bio mom’s relationship changed, but they still remain friends.     In this episode, we discuss: Being friends with the bio mom Unrealistic expectations Resentment Understanding Nachoing Being a childless stepmom
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Joni. Joni has been blending 5 years, has two stepkids, and two “ours” kids. At the beginning of the blend, Joni’s husband only had visitation with his kids every other weekend. About two years ago, that changed and her husband got full custody. Joni has learned a lot since their blended dynamics have changed. Joni “gets” the Nacho Kids method and utilizes it in her blend!    In this episode, we discuss: How being a teacher can make it harder on stepmoms Changes in custody with the bio parents Different levels of nachoing between stepkids Expectations of the blend Taking things personally
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Ali Wilks from Stepcoupling! Ali has been blending for 13 years and has three stepkids, ages 18, 16, and 11, and two “ours” kids, ages 11 and 9. Her stepkids’ mom passed away seven years ago adding some unique challenges to the blend. Ali, like many stepmoms, has experienced struggles in her blend. Her biggest struggle was with her stepdaughter. Thankfully, she and her stepdaughter went to therapy together and things have improved.    In this episode, we discuss: Bringing an “ours” kid into the blend Letting go of the “One big happy family” dreams Nachoing isn’t easy Not claiming the stepkids as your own Focusing on your marriage
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Anna de Acosta ~ The Mindful Stepmom. Anna has been blending for eight years, has two stepkids, and has three “ours” kids. Anna and her husband have had his kids full time for the past few years. She and her husband parallel parent with the stepkids’ bio mom, and Anna does not Nacho.   In this episode, we discuss: Letting go of the outcome Triggers Having the stepkids full time Having control issues Healthy boundaries
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepmom from Idaho, who she loving refer to as “The Goody Two Shoes Stepmom”. This stepmom has been through a lot! She had an evil stepmom growing up and her dad chose the evil stepmom over her. Prior to this blended relationship, she was a widow. She has been blending for three years and has two stepchildren and one “ours” child with her husband. As a stepmom, she is very involved and does not Nacho her stepkids; however, she does Nacho the high conflict bio mom!     In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high conflict bio mom When your significant other doesn’t want to ”rock the boat” with the bio mom Having an evil stepmom Being a widow  Boundaries
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepmom who tried to make the world “fair”. This stepmom has been blending for 10-½ years and has two stepsons and three bio kids. She refers to her blended family as “The Brady Bunch On Steroids!” Three years ago she started Nachoing after one of the stepkids accused her of abuse.   In this episode, we discuss: Trying to make things “fair” Disney Dad syndrome Bio mom trying to turn the kids against the bio dad and stepmom Loyalty binds to bio mom The stepkids lying about the stepmom
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, co-founders of Nacho Kids, interview stepmom Paige. Paige has been blending for two and a half years and has four bio kids and five stepkids! Not only does she have a bunch of kids in the blend, but there are also three bio moms! Like many stepmoms, Paige went overboard with parenting her younger stepkids. Thankfully she found Nachoing to help her!    In this episode, we discuss: Taking things personally Stepmom expectations Her husband’s thoughts on her Nachoing Flipping out on the stepkids Feeling like roommates with your significant other
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a from Wisconsin. This stepmom has one stepkid and two “ours” kids, one of which is autistic. Her stepdaughter did not know about the stepmom until a week after she had the first “ours” baby. The stepdaughter comes for visitation every other weekend but the stepmom doesn’t spend time with the stepdaughter alone. Her significant other wants her to love his daughter like her own and told her when they got engaged that she needed to spend time with his daughter.   In this episode, we discuss: Stepmom not spending time alone with the stepkid The significant other wanting you to love their kid like your own   Summer visitation Poor eating habits of the stepkid Nachoing
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Jennifer. Jennifer has been with her significant other for six years and married for three and a half years. She has two stepkids and one “ours” kid. Jennifer wasn’t around the stepkids a lot prior to the marriage and believes if she would have spent a lot more time with the stepkids prior to marriage, she may not have gotten married. With each life event in Jennifer and her husband’s life, the high conflict bio mom was triggered to start something. This seems to be a very common occurrence in blended families.     In this episode, we discuss: Kids from high conflict divorces Being a positive and happy place for the stepkids Telling the stepkids “I’m not your mom” The family court system Psychological strain from court battles Dealing with a very high conflict bio mom
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Shannon from New York. Shannon has been blending for seven years. She has two stepkids, a stepdaughter who is 10 and a stepson who is twelve. Shannon also has an “ours” daughter who is six. She and her husband have been through a lot with the stepkids. When the stepson started touching the stepdaughter inappropriately at the bio mom’s house and bio mom didn’t think it was a big deal, bio-dad went to court for emergency custody, which he was granted until the hearing. At the hearing, bio-dad lost and the kids were returned to the bio mom. Since then, the stepdaughter does not want to come back to dad’s house because she thinks what her brother did wasn’t “that bad” and she’s upset that her dad reacted the way he did. Shannon’s husband has not seen his kids outside of therapy appointments since this happened. The therapy appointments with the son go well, but the daughter still refuses to even talk to him. Stepmom is doing her best to be supportive of her husband during all this.    In this episode, we discuss: Going into the blend with nuclear family expectations Stepmoms being scapegoats Family court issues Having an “ours” kid in the blend The significant other parenting their kids and their “ours” kids differently
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Crista. Crista has been blending for 3-½ years and has two stepdaughters. Crista and her husband have one step-daughter, age 9,  50% of the time, and the other stepdaughter, age 11, full time. The youngest step-daughter and Crista get along great! The relationship between the oldest stepdaughter and Crista, is a bit more challenging.     In this episode, we discuss: Nachoing one stepkid and not the other Not setting yourself up for rejection You can’t care more than the bio parents Stepmom burnout Nachoing lowering your stress
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Sarah Harris. Sarah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Play Therapist, and a Board Certified Telemental health provider. Sarah has been in the mental health field for 14 years.  In this episode, we discuss: Overly engaged stepparents Viewing yourself as a Nanny/Babysitter Regulating emotions Nachoing - the art of non-attachment Understanding our triggers
049: Stepkid Turned Stepmom

049: Stepkid Turned Stepmom

2020-05-0801:46:59

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Megan. Megan is a stepkid herself. As a stepkid, Megan didn’t like her stepdad telling her mom how to parent her, so Megan went to live with her grandparents when she was 13 and never moved back in with her mom and stepdad. Megan has two bio children of her own and has been in two blended relationships. She has been in her current blended relationship for three years and her stepdaughter lives with them full time. Megan and her significant other have had some trying times with bio mom and the family court system. It took Megan two years to figure out her role in the blend, and now Nachos.    In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid with a stepparent that tells the bio parent how to parent Dealing with a bio mom that has drug issues When the other bio parent lives in a different state Your significant other expecting you to be “Mom” When the stepparent pushes the bio parent to get custody 
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Comments (3)

April Payne

I don't appreciate the blame on the school system for kids not having common sense to be prepared to be on their own. that's a parenting problem!

Sep 13th
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Brittany D

I’m loving your podcasts & really trying to decide if I need to join the academy. However, I know for a fact I have more of a husband problem than kid problem. Our marriage has a lot of issues, outside of the kids.

Sep 11th
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