The Other Woman And The Wife

<p>A show about infidelity, why it exists and what we can learn from it.</p>

#56 What Makes People Leave Their Marriage For An Affair? - Carolina Vilalva

This week Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva. Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.After commenting on an Instagram post asking, “What makes somebody leave their marriage for the affair?” Carolina was overwhelmed by the response, inspiring her to continue to connect with other people who had found themselves in similar situations involving infidelity.Topics:Infidelity Blending familiesParenting through divorceLife TransitionsSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

11-24
55:33

#55 Ignorance is Bliss - Luke Shillings

In this week's episode Chelsea, Luke, & Ann Marie explore a story submitted to them by a follower. The writer reveals the confusing and emotional complexities of infidelity. Once a harsh critic of affairs, she found herself involved in one after 23 years of a stable but unfulfilling marriage. A connection with a coworker, her direct report, sparked an intense, secret relationship that has lasted for over a year, even though her husband now knows about it and wants to repair their marriage. Now, with a greater empathy for those in similar situations, she faces the painful choice between duty and fulfillment. Topics:Crumbling ConvictionsInfidelity in the workplaceSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/GUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

11-17
54:00

#54 Mark's Affair Story Pt. 1 - Luke Shillings

Join Chelsea, Luke Shillings, and Ann Marie as they dive into a gripping story of infidelity by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias Mark. Tim recounts his affair, the struggle to choose between his marriage and his affair partner. Tune in for a raw discussion on the complexities of love, choice, and consequence—and look out for Part 2, where we learn how Mark’s journey unfolds in the years that follow. For Tim’s full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.htmlSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS Website: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeIG: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/LUKE SHILLING'S LINKS:Website: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

11-10
01:04:58

#53 Divorce Attorney's Thoughts on Infidelity & Relationships -James Sexton

This week on The Other Woman and the Wife, Chelsea is joined by renowned divorce attorney and author James Sexton, who brings over two decades of experience handling high-conflict divorces. Together, they dive into the complexities of modern relationships, examining the intricate roles of infidelity, love, and commitment. James shares surprising truths from the courtroom and beyond, revealing what often goes unsaid about why marriages end and what we can learn from those who face it head-on. Don't miss this candid conversation about the legal and emotional landscapes of divorce.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS GUEST LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSJames's Twitter: https://twitter.com/nycdivorcelawJames's Instagram: https://instagram.com/nycdivorcelawyerJames's Website: https://nycdivorces.com/our-attorneysHow to Stay in Love (book): https://amzn.to/3t61ujiIf You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late (audiobook): https://amzn.to/3PkVECg

11-03
53:53

#52 Dangerous Liaisons

This week, Chelsea interviews Mama Coll, who opens up about her experience as “the other woman” and the extreme harassment she faced from her affair partner’s spouse. From online stalking to restraining orders, Mama Coll shares her story and how she found her voice as an advocate. With a large TikTok following, she first connected with The Other Woman & The Wife as a passionate supporter in the comments. Join us for an eye-opening conversation about infidelity and resilience.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS Website: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUESTS LINKSTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@collsclosetofcomfort52?_t=8qn7ZebMqxq&_r=1Youtube: https://youtube.com/@mama-colls-closet52?si=lefLuUQJ6QWIpcff

10-27
56:25

#51 From Infidelity to Empowerment: Forging New Communities for Men and Women

In this week's episode, Chelsea passes the hosting baton to Luke Shillings, who turns the spotlight on her journey in building a thriving women's community and coaching program. Together, they dive deep into the recent launch of a men's community in August, sharing the inspiration behind it and their vision for its future. Join them as they explore the evolution of these supportive spaces and the exciting expansion of their mission.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS Website: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

10-20
57:22

#50 A Therapist's Journey Through Infidelity

In this compelling episode, Chelsea sits down with Licensed Clinical Therapist Lauren LaRusso, who brings both her professional expertise and personal experience to the table. Specializing in affairs and infidelity, Lauren opens up about her own journey as a betrayed spouse after her husband's affair. This conversation is truly unique in its dynamic between Lauren, a betrayed spouse, and Chelsea, "the other woman." Offering a rare and dynamic perspective on healing, forgiveness, and self-discovery.Topics:DualityBetrayal TraumaInfidelitySUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS Website: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSLauren LaRusso Coaching : https://www.laurenlarusso.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenlarusso/

10-13
37:24

#49 Finding Home Outside My Marriage

In this episode, Chelsea interviews Lindsey, who shares her deeply personal experience with infidelity. She discusses how her life changed when she realized she had found safety and a sense of “home” with someone who wasn’t her husband. Lindsey opens up about the emotional struggles of divorce and what it took to rebuild her life with her affair partner. A story of vulnerability and transformation, Lindsey’s journey sheds light on finding oneself amid heartache.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKS Website: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGuest Links - Lindsey's WorkExplore Lindsey's Website:  The Resource Follow Lindsey on Instagram: Lindsey.Kasten on IG Lindsey's Blog:  PinzyDoesBrave

10-06
54:25

#48 Welcoming Luke Shillings

We’re back from summer break, and we have some exciting news! Joining our team here this season at The Other Woman and The Wife is a special guest Luke Shillings. Luke is stepping in to help us expand our reach to not just include women but men as well as we grow and develop The Other Man and The Mister community. In this episode, we explore complex topics surrounding a men’s community, relationships, and the delicate issue of infidelity. Together, we dive deep into the emotional landscapes that often go undiscussed. Whether you’re navigating these challenges yourself or simply curious, this conversation is sure to resonate. Tune in for fresh insights, a powerful new perspectives, and a preview of what’s to come this season!SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

09-29
59:39

#47 The Temptation To Cheat Again

How does a woman who is self described as "the most unlikely candidate to cheat" find herself in an affair? An affair that leaves her reeling and conflicted with a temptation to cheat again no less. Join Chelsea and Ann Marie as they candidly share their reactions, thoughts, and insights about this very situation.If you would like to entrust us with your own story and have it shared on the podcast please leave it in the comments or better yet visit the link below and submit it on our website.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

06-23
59:23

#46 To Tell Or Not To Tell: Affair Disclosure v. Discovery

In this week’s episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into the topic of disclosing your affair verses waiting for it to be discovered. The discussion weighs the merits of voluntary disclosure against the potential trauma of a partner finding out about the affair independently.  Topics:Weighing Discovery Against DisclosureSteps to Prepare for Revealing an AffairEvaluating the Necessity of Revealing an AffairASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

06-16
01:00:36

#45 Does Limerence Cause Affairs?

In this week's episode, Ann Marie and Chelsea dive into the concept of limerence and its role in infidelity. They discuss how the limerence narrative can limit self-growth by offering overly simplistic explanations, and examine its impact on addressing the root causes of affairs. Finally, they challenge the labels associated with limerence, suggesting it be viewed as a facet of human emotion rather than an addiction.Topics:LimerenceInfidelityRelationship DynamicsASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

06-09
49:09

#44 Gangster Gate and Passion Driven Work

In this weeks episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into "Gangster Gate," where a group of women doxed members of Chelsea's online community. They explore the dramatic events and their fallout. Chelsea shares her experience and the valuable lessons learned from this challenging situation. They also discuss the struggles and triumphs of building a controversial business from scratch, driven by passion and purpose, despite facing skepticism and opposition. ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

06-02
01:11:07

#43 Is Your Affair a Painkiller or a Refuge?

In this week's episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the complex motivations behind infidelity by defining and distinguishing between "painkiller" and "refuge" affairs. By facing past traumas and recognizing unhealthy patterns, they discuss how addressing the root causes of infidelity can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Join us for an insightful discussion on the nuanced reasons behind why people seek affairs and how to move forward in a constructive way.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

05-26
01:01:14

#42 The Affair That Resulted In a Decade-Long Marriage.

In this weeks very special episode we are joined on the podcast by non other than Chelsea's husband, Stan. Join them as they discuss the intricate terrain of love, resilience, and personal growth after partaking in an affair. From Stan's immigrant roots to the complexities of their relationship dynamics, they offer raw honesty and shared wisdom, illuminating the transformative power of commitment amidst adversity. Through candid reflections on overcoming challenges, rebuilding trust, and the importance of therapy, they inspire listeners with their tale of redemption and renewal. ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

05-19
01:17:11

#41 Whose Happiness Comes First – Mothers or Children?

In this thought-provoking episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve deep into the often overlooked aspect of motherhood: the mother's own happiness and well-being. Join us as we explore the tendency for mothers to prioritize their children's experiences over their own, the societal expectations placed upon mothers, and the impact of relationships, like marriage, on a woman's happiness. Join us as we celebrate the multifaceted journey of motherhood, encouraging mothers everywhere to nurture their own happiness as they nurture their children. Tune in for an empowering and enlightening conversation.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

05-12
01:19:24

#40 How The 20 Year Affair with My Brother in Law Worked Out

Episode Description:This week Chelsea is joined in the studio with a special guest, Grace. They delve into the intricate layers of Grace's life, where she candidly shares her journey through a decades-spanning marriage. Discover the profound impact of infidelity on Grace's life, as she opens up about her 20-year affair with her brother-in-law, unraveling the tangled web of emotions, guilt, and longing. In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truths of marital discord, the allure of forbidden love, and the difficult journey toward reclaiming one's sense of self. We will navigate the depths of Grace's experiences, offering a counterweight to conventional narratives surrounding infidelity and providing a beacon of hope for those grappling with similar struggles.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

05-05
01:00:38

#39 Why Do People Stay and Cheat Instead of Leave

This week Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the concept of opportunity cost in relationships, emphasizing the human tendency to prioritize external factors like financial stability and social standing over personal well-being and growth. They discuss how pro's and con's lists can lead to analysis paralysis, hindering individual growth within relationships.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

04-28
01:10:29

#38 Does The World Change or Does How You View The World Change?

In this week's episode, Chelsea & Ann Marie embark on an exploration of how marriage, infidelity, motherhood and many other factors transformed the way they viewed the world. Dispelling common misconceptions along the way, they bravely share their experiences of embracing new mindsets. As they reflect on the transformative power of flexibility over rigidity, listeners are invited to join them on a candid and thought-provoking journey. ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

04-21
45:45

#37 Am I Giving Him an Ultimatum or Setting a Boundary?

In this weeks episode join us for a thought-provoking exploration of boundaries, self-care, and the profound impact they have on the fabric of our relationships. Get ready to embark on a journey of empowerment and connection as we navigate the intricate terrain of setting healthy boundaries.Topics:Distinguishing boundaries from ultimatums.Understanding self-abandonment.Empowerment through boundaries.Comprehensive ways to model boundaries and why it's impactful.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women CommunityApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: theotherwomanandthewife.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

04-14
37:33

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