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The Overwhelmed Brain

Author: Paul Colaianni

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Anxiety, depression, fears, obsession, panic, or any relationship, marriage or family issues, this show will help you achieve less stress and more happiness. Become empowered and honor yourself so that you can make decisions that are right for you. Mindfulness, compassion and being in the present moment are only components of a bigger picture. Live authentically and strengthen your emotional intelligence to avoid emotional abuse. Get to the root of emotional issues with solid relationship advice and personal help. If affirmations don't work and you're tired of being told to "think positively!", start listening to this show for a better life.
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If you make bad decisions or keep getting results you don't want, it's time to tackle that problem once and for all. If you aren't making decisions based on what's most important to you at the deepest level, you may drive off the cliff one too many times.
Some people are just difficult to be around. They display toxic or hurtful behaviors and they never seem to want to change even when they know you're bothered. You have a choice in how you respond to others. And the choice you make will have an effect on what behavior you get in the future. That's an important choice! And it's also a great topic to talk about today.
Negative events from the past get encoded into our brain so that when we recall them, we can usually remember about when they happened. Because of that, we can actually use time to our advantage to help feel better about those memories, and maybe even get rid of the residual emotional triggers altogether.
There are mental tools you should have in your toolbelt when dealing with snarky or hurtful people. Their goal might be to make you feel bad or guilty, so you may need to find a way to disarm them so that when they try to hurt you with their words, they become confused when you don't react the way you used to. This episode will provide some tools to make communication with toxic people a bit easier while also keeping your power.
Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone's ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face. Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can't get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.
There are a lot of unknowns in life. Some unknowns have answers, some don't. Some do, but the person who knows the answers won't share them with you. This episode is about those people and how to deal with the limbo state you might get in when you want the answers but can't get them, and may never get them. You can't walk around in frustration, confusion, and limbo all the time. There has to be a doorway out of those states and it's time to find that door and walk through it. For more episodes, visit
Carrying around emotional baggage weighs you down. It's no way to live. Yet millions of people do live this way. Carrying this kind of weight around with you all your life can keep you from happiness, at least to the extent that it could be experienced if you were able to process and release that old baggage. In this episode, I talk about some of the concepts of self-care and personal growth to help you start the journey of letting go of what no longer serves you.
Some loved ones really want to help you through your challenges. There are those that listen and support you and meet you where you are. Then there are those that have good intentions but fail miserably. It's not that their incompetent, but it could be that they simply have no clue what they're talking about. For more episodes, visit
The level of happiness and fulfillment you feel on a day to day basis can change based on many factors. One of those factors has to do with the ability to make hard decisions that may involve big changes that you're not ready to face. The fear and pain associated with change can often prevent us from doing what we need to do to increase our quality of life. However, sometimes the lesson is that in order to reach a higher level of satisfaction in life, it might involve scary steps you don't want to take. For more episodes, visit
You don't want to take the blame but it sure seems like you take it more often than you should. Perhaps there's something a bit more covert going on that you need to know about. In this episode, learn how some people have mastered the art of painting you into a corner. And learn how to counter it too. Visit for more episodes.
Have you ever really learned who you are at a deeper level? Sometimes we walk around doing the things we're supposed to do, but rarely stop to figure out who is doing those things. In this episode, I read an email from a woman who never got a chance to learn who she is because of narcissistic parents telling her who she is all her life. Now that she's a wife and mom, she feels lost. If you're lost, it's time to find yourself. Visit for more episodes.
Are you more judgmental toward those you love? Today I talk about how your judgments can dissolve the love in your relationship and what to do to heal from being judgmental. The road to healing from judging others can be challenging, but the rewards are too rich to pass up. For more episodes, visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/
Some people have a strange way of balancing their lives. Some folks will pick up a hobby or hang out with friends. But others may take a darker route. They'll betray their partner or become addicted to drugs or alcohol. You may not see that as balance, but for some people, that's how they get it. There are of course healthier ways to balance your life & your relationships, but in this episode, we're going to talk about the less popular ones. For more episodes, visit
Sometimes honoring yourself around others feels confrontational. The reason is because you may not have honored yourself in front of certain people, so they may not have ever seen you show such self-respect and self-compassion before. If that's the case, you might have to ease others into this new you so that they have an opportunity to adapt. Sometimes this works, other times, you get to find out exactly what they really want from you. Visit for more episodes.
If you're on a road that you believe is never going to end and never going to get better, what do you do? Should you just accept that's your lot in life and you should just accept it? Or do you take a leap of faith in a direction that leads to the unknown in hopes that life will get better? There is always hope, but sometimes it has to be pursued. Visit for more episodes
When someone we love passes, it leaves a hole in our heart and sometimes a lack of closure. It's that lack of closure that keeps us in feelings of guilt, regret and other emotions that we just can't shake. If you'd like to heal and move past those feelings and start living life again, this episode may help you achieve that. Visit for more episodes
Honoring your boundaries isn't always easy. Some people will think you're being a jerk or stubborn. Some will even say that you're changing in a bad way even though it's good for you. Get clear on what you will and won't accept from others and your life will change for the better. visit https://theoverwhelmedbrain.com/ for more episodes.
Emotional triggers are what develop when you go through a traumatic event in your past, then the memory of that trauma stays with you and comes up at different times causing you to feel upset, hurt, or angry, which can affect your relationships and your life. Experiencing an emotional trigger is like PTSD and it needs to be healed if you want a higher quality of life. Visit for more episodes
Cheating and infidelity can be a sensitive topic. You could be a victim to it, you could be the cheater, or you could be the one seeing someone who is cheating on their partner to be with you. No matter what, there is almost always heartache on the other side. It doesn't mean there isn't healing, but there is almost always pain. In this episode, I receive a message from a woman who is seeing someone cheating on his wife to be with her, and I read another message from someone who was once the cheater. Several angles to discuss on the topic of infidelity in this episode. Visit for episodes on emotionally abusive relationships.
Sometimes you have to make a decision you know will have an impact on everyone else, even when your decision doesn't really affect them. They just make it their issue when it's really yours alone to deal with. In the first segment, I read a message from a transgender man who had to make a lot of hard decisions in life. In segment two, I talk about the hard decisions you might need to make in your life when you face resistance from those closest to you. Β  Visit for more episodes.
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Somayeh Ganji

Wow! I did it in a master's class and OMG! I'm still shaking me excitement of the results. Only an ex-people pleaser such as me can fully grasp the huge difference this episode has made. Thank you so very much πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Nov 16th
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Stu Cook

Some very practical advice today. πŸ‘ For me, social media like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, TikTok et al are just a colossal waste of time. I have better things to do and my time is too valuable to me to throw away. Life is too short.

Nov 11th
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Stu Cook

This is probably the first episode where I haven't agreed with everything Paul has discussed. But that's why I like the show. He's not telling what to do, more like giving advice on how to deal with the difficult emotional baggage that's just part of life amongst people.

Oct 21st
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Stu Cook

Another very thought-provoking episode today, Paul. πŸ‘ Growth cannot happen without change so if we want different results we HAVE to change what we are DOING.

Oct 14th
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Vijay Makvana

Thanks for making me do something rather than hurting myself all the times for others

Oct 8th
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Vijay Makvana

these are such a wonderful podcast I have ever listened. thank you very much for pouring positivity in myself

Oct 8th
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Stu Cook

A very helpful episode for anyone who struggles to politely shut people out when you just need time to yourself.

Oct 7th
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Stu Cook

Another insightful episode today, Paul. In order to grow, pain is nothing more than an indicator that we are pushing against resistance. Whether it's a physical or mental, resistance is simply an indicator of the limits we, or others, have placed on ourselves. Take off those limits and you will see your potential manifest!

Sep 30th
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Stu Cook

Thank you for your advice today, Paul. This has been really helpful for me especially the exercise of circles to work out who adds value to your life and who takes it away. I'm on a journey of discovery and your podcast continues to help me. πŸ‘

Sep 16th
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Somayeh Ganji

Sharing facts with honesty is what encouraged me to follow this podcast. And guess what, I've set a date to face my "mother".

Sep 14th
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Stu Cook

Great episode today, Paul. Plenty to think about. ✌️

Sep 12th
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Somayeh Ganji

Finally managed to listen to this episode and please, please don't decrease the time of the show. You don't know how one short sentence can brighten the whole day. p.s. I tried not to say 'never'. πŸ˜‰

Sep 11th
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Stu Cook

Thank you, Paul, for your down-to-earth approach to this subject. πŸ‘ I have got a lot better at being approachable rather than confrontational when it comes to problem solving and it's thanks to podcasts like this.

Sep 9th
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sherry asg

It is not that easy. I have suffered so much, experienced pain, feeling loneliness and so many things. How can I overcome this with just talking! My stomach won’t get better just by talking. In fact i talk a lot to lots of people and open up my closed doors but it never get healed. It gets worse every time!

Aug 27th
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Stu Cook

Another great episode today, Paul. πŸ‘ If you want to see change in your life, change what you do. You can't get different results by doing the same things repeatedly.

Aug 26th
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Stu Cook

Thank you, Paul for your insightful episode today. πŸ‘πŸ» Resistance is something we often fight without realising that it is actually presenting us with circumstances we can actually GROW through. Don't fight the resistance, embrace it!

Aug 22nd
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Stu Cook

Another great episode today, Paul. Thank you for taking the time to unpack these issues that so many people struggle with and present your knowledge in such a way that's easy to understand.

Aug 15th
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Rodolfo Zanin

awesome talk, thank you very much for sharing your knowledge with us

Aug 9th
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Stu Cook

Thanks, Paul, your vulnerability in this show helps me see that it's okay to be vulnerable, despite the wounds I have in this life because they make my story what it is today; a tale of someone who won't give up improving myself until my last breath.

Aug 8th
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sherry asg

Hello! I accidentally found your podcast and started listening to it, now I cannot go to sleep without your words! I used to hate this kind if personal growth talks and stuff and I still am but your show is sth else. I hope you get better and stronger everyday and thank you for this amazing show, I really appreciate your work. I suffer from severe depression and I feel less depressed since I’ve started enjoying your show.

Aug 3rd
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