You’re going to want to take a lot of notes because Dr Mary Claire Haver is back and she’s answering all YOUR questions about perimenopause and menopause. She’ll tell you where you need to start, how to find the right doctor, and what tests to ask for so that you can be armed and ready to get the help you need. Plus, she shares the TWO questions you must ask your doctor. This is part of our month-long series on perimenopause and menopause. It’s time to feel like ourselves again! Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : 02:04 - 03:42 Navigating Perimenopause and Menopause FAQs 09:40 - 11:23 Understanding Menopausal Weight Gain 22:18 - 23:06 Vitamin Supplements for Menopause Symptom Relief 27:43 - 28:34 Genetics and Menopause Symptom Disparities 34:30 - 35:56 Navigating Menopause and Health Testing SUMMARY In this episode, we are digging into perimenopause and menopause symptoms, types of hormone replacement therapy and how to know if hormone replacement therapy is right for you, options if you cannot take (or don’t want to take) estrogen, making informed decisions about perimenopause and menopause care, the impact of nutrition as women go into menopause, and advice for younger women as they think ahead about perimenopause. Find a menopause-trained doctor The Pause Life-Dr Haver's website Shop my TV clothes on The Saved Collection Follow Dr Mary Claire Haver on Instagram ALLOY Menopause Telehealth (use my code: PAULA42103 for $25 off) Win a copy of Dr Haver's book PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
There’s a reason why your symptoms are getting dismissed, why you’re told: “Don’t blame it on your hormones.” Maybe you’ve been called “lazy” or been told that “it’s all in your head.” Today’s guest, Dr. Mary Claire Haver, is THE leading voice on menopause and wrote the #1 New York Times bestselling book, The New Menopause. Dr. Haver will join us for two episodes, including next week’s, in which she answers all the questions that you sent me. But, this week, she’s going to explain what’s happening in our bodies, the truth about that landmark study from 20 years ago that scared us away from estrogen therapy, and the shocking reasons why the medical community has long dismissed our symptoms. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (03:51 - 04:39) Perimenopause Symptoms and Experiences (13:00 - 13:48) Diagnosing Perimenopause Through Blood Work (15:38 - 16:50) The Neglect of Menopause in Medicine (19:12 - 20:18) Lack of Menopause Training in Healthcare (26:47 - 28:04) Hormone Therapy for Perimenopausal Symptoms (28:29 - 30:22) Rethinking Menopause and Women's Health In this episode, we are diving into how menopause is defined medically, what the process of perimenopause looks like in our brains and bodies, when and how women experience perimenopause symptoms, the truth about hormone replacement therapy, and why so many physicians are dismissive of the concerns of women as we age. LINKS: Dr Mary Claire Haver’s Book Dr Haver on Instagram PAULA'S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I haven’t felt like myself in almost 15 years. In my 30’s, I started noticing significant changes to and in my body, yet I’ve been told by just about every doctor that my blood work is normal and I’m “fine”. Here’s the thing: I don’t feel fine. And I bet you don’t, either. This is my most requested series to date: a conversation about menopause, perimenopause, and not feeling like ourselves anymore. I’ve invited experts, friends, and my husband to the conversation, and we’re answering all the questions you submitted, so that you can feel hopeful, maybe for the first time in a long time. In this episode, my friends Kim and Patrice share their real experiences about what’s been happening to their bodies, why they don’t feel like themselves, and how the medical community has dismissed them. If you’ve been dismissed or felt helpless, you’re not alone. But know this: help is on the way through this month-long series. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About it. SUMMARY: In this episode, we are digging into the crazy symptoms of perimenopause and menopause, our experiences of bringing our concerns to our doctors and being dismissed as “fine”, how we can advocate for ourselves as women, and why the menopause conversation is so important, not only for us but for our daughters. LINKS: PAULA'S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It wouldn’t be a series on college if I didn’t invite my high schooler to the conversation, along with a former Ivy League Admissions Director. Caroline and I are joined by Becky Sabky, who spent years as Dartmouth’s Director of Admissions and explains why she’s a fan of the gap year. Becky shares her insider insights into the admissions process (and how it’s gone mad), plus answers your questions and Caroline’s. She’ll also outline helpful tips to help us on our journey of determining if college is right for our kids and how to find the right schools. And wait until you hear about the most powerful letter of recommendation she ever received and the surprising person who wrote it. (It brought us to tears!) This is a must listen for every parent … Life Happens. Let’s Talk About it. Listen in to learn more: (00:00) Navigating the College Admissions Process (05:37) Prioritizing High School Over College (09:02) Preparing for College (20:57) Navigating Choices as a Family (28:48) Navigating Options and Admissions Rejections (36:46) Exploring Gap Years (43:11) Navigating Financial Aid Decisions (53:50) Maximizing College Opportunities for Success (58:54) Fostering Identity in College-Bound Students In this episode, we are delving into the family aspects of making college decisions, understanding the college admissions process, the two biggest mistakes Becky sees students and families make, the surprising place you should look to get an inside view of campus life, and how to find the right school. Resources: Learn More About Becky Sabky https://beckysabky.com/ Read Becky’s book FISKE Guide to College PAULA'S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Every year around this time, we see or hear about parents dropping their kids off at college. Not sure about you, but it DOES ME IN. In this month-long series about college, I’m covering it from many angles, including whether or not it’s worth it, where to start and if it’s right for your kid, plus answering all the questions you sent me. This week, we’re getting a little levity with comedian Chip Leighton of The Leighton Show. If you haven’t seen his hilarious content about “funny texts from your teens and college freshman”, you’ve got to give him a follow. Chip, a dad of two, joins John and I to talk about the process of applying to college and the emotions he did NOT expect when he dropped his son off at college. He also tells us about his upcoming book, “WHAT TIME IS NOON: HILARIOUS TEXTS, RIDICULOUS FEEDBACK, AND NOT-SO-SUBTLE ADVICE FROM TEENAGERS”, which we’ll be giving away later this month. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It! LISTEN IN TO LEARN MORE: (00:00) College Parenting Humor and Heartache (02:58) Navigating TikTok Success and Parenting (14:35) The Key to Letting Go (22:37) Parenting College-Bound Teens (34:04) College Admissions Insights In this episode, we explore Chip’s experience navigating the wide range of emotions that come with dropping your kid off at college, his best advice for parents when kids are applying to colleges, and the three main areas where high school and college students seem to struggle the most. CHIP LEIGHTON ON INSTAGRAM CHIP’S BOOK PAULA'S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Season 3 of the podcast is here and I’m honestly more excited about this season than any other. Because every single episode is a topic/conversation that YOU requested. We’re kicking it off with a month-long series on COLLEGE, where we’re talking to experts and parents about what one college specialist has called “The most emotionally fraught decision many families will ever make.” How do you know college is even right for your kid? WHEN should you start saving? Is it even worth it or necessary, anymore? According to the US Census, 62% of US workers do NOT have a college degree and only 47% of Americans say it’s worth it, but only if you don’t have to take out any loans. Ron Lieber, the New York Times’ Money columnist, has been writing about this topic for decades. He’s also a dad, dropping off his eldest daughter at college this fall. Ron helps us to untangle this complex puzzle of college and he says it all begins with our WHY. Life Happens, friends! Let’s Talk About It! Listen in to learn more : (00:00) Is College Worth It? Pros and Cons (04:57) Navigating the College Decision Process (17:50) College Decision Framework and Gap Year (30:53) Considering Alternatives to College Costs (39:12) College Financial Planning (43:46) Navigating Community College and College Costs In this episode, we are diving into the four main reasons for choosing college, the truth about statistics surrounding college degrees in the workforce, key conversations to have as a family before making college decisions, and tools for estimating what it will actually cost to send your kid to college. RESOURCES/LINKS: Ron’s Merit Aid Course Ron’s Book -The Price You Pay For College The Net Price Calculator Common Data Set PAULA'S PERSONAL NEWSLETTER PAULA ON INSTAGRAM THE CARRY ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You’ve probably heard or watched your fair share of podcasts… Let me tell you why this one is different: because I’m only talking about the things you want to talk about. This season—Season 3…every single episode and conversation, something YOU requested… If you’re talking about it in your home, at your dinner table, with your friends…at work, or maybe even at the gym, we’re talking about it on the show. And I will always keep it real and authentic. If you’re new, here's an introduction: I'm Paula Faris…. I spent 25 years in TV News, including anchoring GMA and co-hosting The View…before founding CARRYMedia a few years back as an advocate for working moms and families. And I’m a MOM of three…so I’m going through this with you. This podcast, this show is all about the things you, as parents, are talking about: Work life balance, relationships, parenting… If you’re talking about it, I’m talking about it. Join me every Tuesday…along with my occasional guest co-host and husband, John…who always has a unique take on things. Don't forget to subscribe! Join the conversation, and tell us what you want to discuss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
John and I are back to answer your questions, which ranged from how we got through our tough times to why we moved from NYC to small-town South Carolina and how we disagree in a healthy way. As always, we’re talking about the things YOU want to talk about. Listen in to learn more: (00:00) Navigating Family Disagreements and Life Transitions (11:05) Handling Marriage Challenges and Building Unity (19:37) Our Love Story SUMMARY: In this episode, we are digging into how we made the move from NYC to South Carolina, how we have gotten through the tough times in our marriage, what to do when you disagree with your partner about how to run your family, and some fun things like dream vacations and favorite date nights. LINKS: SAVOR SUMMER FREE GUIDE -https://carrymedia.com/savor-summer/ ARMRA– 30% off with CODE: PAULAFARIS -https://glnk.io/8lv0j/paulafaris Paula’s shirt - https://amzn.to/3KDeNgR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
John is always surprised by how many questions we get when we do these ask us anything episodes. And not just that, they’re almost always our most popular episodes! So much so, that we are doing a two-parter! Today, we’re answering your questions about toxic work environments, whether we’re done having kids, our best life advice for our kids and what is SAVING US THIS SUMMER as our children are out of school and we’re working from home. As always, we’re talking about the things YOU want to talk about. Life Happens, friends! Let’s Talk About It! RESOURCES: Listen in to learn more: (00:00) Summer Survival Guide for Parents (11:17) Navigating Relationships and Parenting Advice (18:59) Toxic Work Environments and Family Judgement (26:43) Navigating Family Relationships In this episode, we are diving into a resource that is saving our summer as work from home parents (it’s free and can save yours, too!), what we want to tell our kids as they leave the nest in just a few short years, when to leave a toxic work environment, what to do when you disagree with family about how you’re raising your kids, and how we really feel about NYC. LINKS: SAVOR SUMMER FREE GUIDE -https://carrymedia.com/savor-summer/ ARMRA– 30% off with CODE: PAULAFARIS -https://glnk.io/8lv0j/paulafaris Paula’s shirt - https://amzn.to/3KDeNgR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This was such a fun conversation catching up with Olympic Gymnast Shawn Johnson and her husband, Andrew East, as we talked about The Olympics, life with littles, and youth sports. Because the Olympics start NEXT MONTH, we had to park there for a bit and Shawn shared something about the Olympics and the athletes that truly shocked not just me, but Andrew, as well. It’s so much fun for me to talk to parents with littles, and wow, are they in the thick of it, with THREE kids under the age of 4? I can’t wait for you to hear what’s saving them in this season, how they’re supporting Olympic athletes who are parents, and their really unique take on youth sports. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About it! RESOURCES: Listen in to learn more: (00:00) - Life With Littles and Olympics (13:19) - Parenting Perspectives on Gender Differences (17:53) - Importance of Kids Sports Participation (23:13) - Parenting, Youth Sports, and Relationship Dynamics (37:12) - Challenges in Supporting Families (42:45) - Olympics Excitement and Parenting Advice SUMMARY In this episode, we are digging into the ins and outs of parenting little kids of both genders, preventing burnout and encouraging our kids in sports, how proactive counseling has been beneficial as individuals and as a couple, and the heart behind Shawn and Andrew’s launch of the Moment Makers childcare initiative. LINKS: LAST MINUTE FATHER’s Day gift ideas: CHARCOAL steak rub ARMRA– 30% off with CODE: PAULAFARIS Shawn ON IG Andrew on IG SIGNUP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s the most vulnerable John and I have ever been about our 25+ year relationship, as we talk about the tensions we’ve navigated in our marriage and how we’ve fumbled our way to being equal partners, at home and at work. The journey to true partnership hasn’t been easy and, at times, has been clumsier than clean. In this conversation, you’ll hear about the scary and supportive decision John made for me early on and how we’ve figured out a way to share the load at home, which has been our BIGGEST source of tension. (That reminds me, who is cooking dinner tonight??) If you didn’t love John already, you’re going to love hearing his heart and journey of how he’s been a true partner in every aspect. Plus, we discuss some of those antiquated phrases like “stay at home” and “breadwinner”, that just need to go… Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It! RESOURCES: Listen in to learn more: (00:00) Equal Partnership in Work and Life (04:09) Gender Roles and Partner Support (14:52) Navigating Career Changes and Sacrifices (26:18) Household Partnership and Communication (32:59) Living With Three Kids and Olympics SUMMARY In this episode, we are delving into the importance of having a partner who is your biggest cheerleader, the disservice we do to both men and women when we box each other into specific roles, why the 1950s dynamic many of us have romanticized may not be as ideal as we thought, and a method for sharing the tasks of the home that has been a lifesaver for John and I. LINKS: The shirt I’m wearing is SOLD OUT but here is a similar option - https://amzn.to/4aOHD8K WIN THE FAIRPLAY BUNDLE AND SIGN UP FOR PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Therapist David Thomas is back, answering all your questions about TWEEN and TEEN boys! Your questions ranged from gaming, discipline, ragey hormones, and phone use to porn, substance use, and body image. Phew! We covered so much. David, the host of the Raising Boys and Girls podcast and the Executive Director of Daystar Counseling, will help you navigate these years and give you SO MUCH HOPE. Share with anyone who could use some insight into tween and teen boys. They’re precious but so misunderstood. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (10:42 - 11:32) Consequences of Phone Misuse (18:25 - 19:50) Supporting Boys Through Peer Pressure (29:51 - 30:51) Addressing Pornography and Male-Female Relationships In this episode, we are diving into healthy boundaries on gaming and technology, why helping our kids regulate is the first step of discipline, consequences that make sense (besides just taking away screens!), body image conversations with our boys, and helping our sons navigate through instead of numbing out when things get tough. Resources: CONNECT WITH DAVID: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/ FOLLOW DAVID/DAYSTAR ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/ DAVID’S BOOK RAISING EMOTIONALLY STRONG BOYS: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Strong-Boys-Tools/dp/0764239988 DAVID'S PODCAST - https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/podcast Here’s a great phone contract to sign with your kids from WAIT UNTIL 8th. https://static1.squarespace.com/static/58938b9fbebafb25099e8c5b/t/654cfadfc2beb7065a3dbb16/1699543775246/Wait+Until+8th+Family+Phone+Plan.pdf LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
To be honest, I’ve had a difficult time connecting with my boys. At times, I’ve wondered, and you may have, too, “Is anything connecting?” On top of that, my teen son recently told me that I don’t understand him. I know so many of you are right there, too. That’s why we’re talking about it. David Thomas, the Executive Director of Daystar Counseling is joining the conversation to help us make sense of tween and teen boys. (I have cried tears of joy and relief since talking with him!) This is the first of two episodes in which we’ll discuss what’s happening in the boy brain, their different stages of development, how we can best support them, and why we need to extend their runway to age 25. David also hilariously explains what happens to their collective IQ when a group of adolescent boys gets together and why they only seem to open up at night. (It’s a thing!) This conversation is setting up next week’s episode, in which we will answer all your questions about tween and teen boys in an insightful Q&A with David. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (00:00 - 00:26) Developmental Differences in Adolescence (01:32 - 03:15) Understanding Tween and Teen Boys (09:23 - 10:59) Parenting Through Adolescent Development (14:20 - 15:25) Understanding Adolescents Through the Enneagram (19:15 - 20:20) Boys, Pornography, and Parental Supervision (21:29 - 22:28) Stages of Adolescent Development (28:51 - 30:16) Navigating Motherhood With Steadiness and Support SUMMARY: In this episode, we discuss how to communicate with tween and teen boys in a nonthreatening way, the developmental differences between boys and girls, how we can best support and nurture our boys' unique wiring, why ages 13-15 are so tough for teen boys and their parents and hope for the future of our relationships with our sons. LINKS: CONNECT WITH DAVID: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/ FOLLOW DAVID/DAYSTAR ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/ DAVID’S BOOK WILD THINGS: https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Things-Art-Nurturing-Boys/dp/1414322275 LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One of the scariest, yet best things our family did was moving from NYC to a small town in South Carolina in 2020. Has there been a lot of GAIN in our life because of it? Absolutely. But, there’s also been a lot of things we’ve GIVEN UP because of it. We’ve created a life we love and my guest today, Stephanie May Wilson, is going to take us through three steps to help you create a life you love, as well. She’s even written a new best-selling book about it! Stephanie is doing just that in her own life, moving her young family to Spain (wait until you hear why!) to create a life they love. It’s a decision that’s both scary and exhilarating. How often do we get ourselves twisted up making a decision we think will please someone else, or living another life that’s not authentic to us? Stephanie has four words for all of us: YOU GET TO DECIDE. Friends, we get to decide. Yes, there will be gain, as well as giving up. But, we get to decide. Listen in to learn more: (6:04 -9:37) Childcare Costs and Women in the Workforce (9:38 - 12:46) Defining Life Moments Before Age 35 (13:21 - 14:34) Pressure of Turning 30 (or 40, 0r 50) (16:56 - 17:49) You Get to Decide (17:50 - 19:23) Three Things To Quiet the Noise and Find Out What You Want Out of Life (21:23 - 22:51) When Our Choices are Limited by Circumstances SUMMARY: In this episode, we are delving into the pressures of building a career and a family at the same time, the power of making decisions (even when our choices are limited by our circumstances), 3 things you can do to quiet the noise and figure out what you want out of life, and the hard reality that even the best choices will come with sacrifice. LINKS: LINK TO STEPHANIE’S WEBSITE: https://stephaniemaywilson.com/ LINK TO STEPHANIE’S BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Create-Life-You-Love-Outside-ebook/dp/B0CCV1RMLV LINK TO STEPHANIE’S PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girls-night-with-stephanie-may-wilson/id1278993781 LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We’re answering your questions about teen drinking and substance abuse because it’s a topic that you’re asking us to talk about and a topic that is causing a lot of tension in your homes. I remember taking my first drink when I was five. My dad gave me a sip of his beer, and I loved it but never abused it growing up. Conversely, John distanced himself from alcohol until he was in his 20s because of an alcoholic grandfather. So, out of the gate, we’re approaching this subject from different perspectives. Because we wanted to stick to the facts and the hard questions on this topic, we’ve invited Jessica Lahey, an author and expert on it, to the conversation. She’s a recovering alcoholic and has been researching and writing about it for over a decade. We’re going to tackle all your questions: Should you give your teens a safe space to drink? What is it doing to their brains? What are the real numbers? And we’re going to bust some myths about it in the process. Life happens, friends. Let’s talk about it. Listen in to learn more : (00:40 - 01:39) Mother's Day Gift Planning With Paula (05:33 - 07:21) Parenting and Substance Abuse Prevention (08:37 - 09:53) Substance Use Risk and Adolescence (15:08 - 16:09) Trends in Adolescent Substance Use (25:40 - 26:54) Concerns About Adolescent Vaping and Addiction (29:25 - 31:05) Parenting and Conflicting Views on Alcohol (32:52 - 34:08) Parental Approach to Underage Drinking (36:18 - 37:49) Teen Substance Abuse Risks and Facts In this episode, we are digging into why age matters when it comes to substance use and its effects on the brain, how substances have changed from when we were growing up, the statistics on substance use in teens and young adults, and why providing a “safe place” for teens to drink may have different results than you might think. LINKS LINK TO JESSICA’S WEBSITE https://www.jessicalahey.com/ LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Mother’s Day Giveaway with ABLE Mamas, our team at CARRY™️ is giving away a bundle of our favorite things that go in The CARRY ALL bag (the ultimate working mom bag, our collaboration with ABLE ) Not only can you get 30% off the bag and ABLE’s entire site using the code CARRYMOM30 (through May 8)… 10 OF YOU ARE WINNING THIS BUNDLE -Owala water bottle (because there’s an interior water bottle holder in the bag!) -GOODR Sunglasses gift card -SIMPLIFIED Planner from their new spring line -ABLE Leather conditioner to keep your bag beautiful -Signed copies of Paula’s books– “WHO Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up” and “You Don’t Have To CARRY It All” TOTAL = $175 VALUE HOW DO YOU ENTER? Anyone who has ordered the bag from March through May 8 is automatically entered to win. We’ll do the rest! We have your contact information and will contact the winners by May 10. Purchase your bag today! https://bit.ly/4dqGTsR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’ve been pretty open about caring for my aging mother while juggling a family of five. There’s actually a term for this stage of life-- when you’re caring for your kids and your parents. It’s called ‘The Sandwich Generation’ when you’re sandwiched between caring for your kids and your parents. When I heard your similar stories and learned that so many of you are in the thick of this season, I knew we had to talk about it. And I knew there was only one person we needed to talk to. Jessica Kim is a mom of three and a fellow mompreneur who cared for her parents in her home until they passed away. In 2018, she founded IANA Care because she experienced firsthand how isolating, overwhelming, and unsupported this time of life can be. (IANA=I Am Not Alone) Caring for our parents is an honor, but it can also be a big stressor. I hope this conversation helps you navigate what to do when caring for your kids and parents. And, more importantly, I hope you know you’re not alone in it. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (09:13 - 11:25) Selling the Family Home Emotional Journey (15:49 - 16:34) Acknowledging the Role of Caregiver (28:46 - 30:00) Support for Caregivers In this episode, we discuss the importance of naming and defining our role as caregivers, why caregiving does not have to be all or nothing, two questions to ask as you decide what to delegate, why caregivers burn out, and what we can do about it, and some practical tools to help ease the load on your caregiving journey. LINKS Find out more information about IANA - https://ianacare.com/ Link to Paula's newsletter https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter Follow Paula on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en Link to Carry's Newsletter https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m not sure we’ve had more interest in any other topic than the one we’re going for today. We’re talking YOUTH SPORTS: the #1 reason your kids should play, how to NOT be one of those crazy sports parents, and whether youth sports have gone too far. It’s a big topic to tackle (no pun intended), for sure. But one that we’re all very passionate about. There’s a reason 70% of kids quit sports by the age of 13: the pressure, intense parents, and unrealistic expectations. In fact, there’s a bit of tension in our own home about how far is too far. We’ll talk about how we’ve navigated it, answer some of your biggest questions, and explain why we believe every kid should play youth sports. You’ll also enjoy hearing John’s take on all this, as he's coached college, high school, and AAU basketball and was a college basketball All-American (which is super hot). Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (00:00 - 00:40) Parents' Expectations in Youth Sports (03:29 - 03:48) Sports-Loving Duo Met in College (07:58 - 08:24) Coaching Youth Basketball Lessons (10:46 - 11:53) Qualities of an Exceptional Athlete (18:36 - 20:08) High School Athletes and Sports Chances (26:02 - 27:01) Perspective on Letting Kids Compete (28:56 - 29:51) Year-Round Travel Sports Specialization (35:14 - 36:16) Individualized Support for Children (38:31 - 39:17) Connecting With Teen Boys Summary: In this episode, we explore the benefits of youth sports that shape our kids long after the ball stops bouncing, what it means to keep our expectations realistic as parents, how to encourage and support our kids without pushing them too hard or too far, and how to navigate the pressure of intense sports schedules as a family. LINKS: LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mario Lopez joins me to talk about parenting, marriage, and how turning 50 really messed with him. The “Saved By The Bell” alum and Access Hollywood host says his favorite role is family man. I was honestly a little surprised, in a good way, to hear he’s a strict and hands-on parent. I loved getting to know Mario and hearing how much he adores his wife of 10+ years, as well as how they navigate their relationship while raising three children. Mario and I also share a love for The Boys & Girls Clubs of America. Mario spent a lot of time at his local club growing up, and I’ve been a longtime supporter and Trustee of the BGCA. You’re going to love seeing a new side of AC Slater, um, Mario. And hear his hot take on all the things we’re talking about as parents. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It! Listen in to learn more: (03:16 - 04:01) - Mario Lopez - Marriage and turning 50 (07:24 - 08:34) Parenting in the Digital Age (18:22 - 19:24) Life-Giving Activities and Passions (21:28 - 22:12) Upcoming Episode – The Youth Sports Debate + Paula vs. John In this episode, we are diving into the importance of being present for our kids, why being a strict parent is not a bad thing, the thoughts and feelings that come up with midlife and turning 50, and how to prioritize your partner in the midst of raising a busy, active family. PAULA’S KIDS BOOK, which 100% benefits the Boys and Girls Club of America MARIO LOPEZ ON INSTAGRAM LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
He’s one of my favorite humans, and I refuse to censor him; that’s why this conversation is spicier than usual. Dan Harris was my "work husband" for a long time at Good Morning America, where we co-anchored the weekend edition of GMA. A few years ago, Dan made a bold and scary decision. One that caused him much anxiety. He walked away from ABC News to spend more time with his family. So, what do you do when your career and family don’t align? When it conflicts with who you want to be? Dan talks about how he wrestled with the decision, why he ultimately walked away, and the extreme pressure most men feel to provide. Today, you’ll find Dan working from home on his 10% Happier podcast and meditation app and enjoying his existence as an “ex-anchorman.” Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It! Listen in to learn more : (00:37 - 01:24) “Spicy” Work-Life Balance With Dan Harris (06:27 - 07:38) Challenges in Starting a Business (09:41 - 10:36) ABC News Support for Book (16:26 - 17:46) A Father's Relationship With Nine-Year-Old Son (19:56 - 20:58) Paula’s First Day School Absence and Being Set Free From Guilt (28:05 - 29:55) Managing Stress and Self-Compassion (35:46 - 37:03) Finding 10% Happier Remember to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts to hear what we discuss weekly. RESOURCES: Connect with Dan Harris https://www.danharris.com/ LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This may have been one of the biggest AHA moments I’ve had as a parent. So much of the guilt I’ve carried as a parent has been regarding work and missing important moments. My dear friend Jon Acuff, an author/speaker and one of the quippiest humans you’ll meet, will tell us how we can DITCH THE GUILT of being a working parent. Even if our job stinks. Had it not been for Jon, I’d have absolutely melted when I recently missed my kids’ first day of school because of work. I would have called myself a “bad mom” and lamented to my family about how awful I felt. But because of Jon, not only did I not carry any guilt, but my kids were actually cheering me on! It boils down to how we talk about it (kids have these things called “mirror neurons”) and whether we invite our family into our work. I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation and find the freedom I’ve found. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (01:06 - 02:39) Ditching Working Parent Guilt (06:28 - 07:35) Impact of Parental Attitudes on Work (12:25 - 13:08) Impact of Mirror Neurons on Parenting (18:04 - 18:33) Demonstrating Persistence in Imperfect Job (24:19 - 25:39) Changing Mindset Through Positive Reflection (29:53 - 31:15) Loneliness Epidemic and Isolation Supernova (34:23 - 35:07) Work-Life Integration and Career Decisions Remember to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts to hear what we’re talking about each week. RESOURCES: ALL ABOUT JON https://jonacuff.com/ LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices