The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

Christmas has a way of showing us what we have been carrying all year. For many women, this season brings more responsibility, more emotional labor, and more pressure to hold everything together while feeling unseen in their relationships and disconnected from themselves. I spent years overfunctioning in relationships, believing that giving more and trying harder would create safety and connection. My identity was built around being capable, impressive, and indispensable. A coach once asked me a question that changed everything. Who are you if it all goes away tomorrow? When super traits are unhealed, brilliance becomes a survival strategy. Empathy turns into emotional labor. Loyalty turns into self-abandonment. Tolerance turns into endurance. And when pleasure and desire disappear, we blame ourselves instead of the systems that taught us to survive this way. A client recently said something that named it perfectly. I learned to be valuable so I could be safe. Being impressive became my armor. I want a relationship where my presence is enough. My Christmas wish for you is that you know you are worthy of a relationship where you do not earn closeness through effort, and your nervous system can finally exhale. If you are ready to stop managing intimacy and overfunctioning in your relationships, you can apply for the Pleasure Centered Society. Applications begin with a short call. Holiday bonuses include the Pleasure Centered Relationship Masterclass and a Super Trait Audit. I will leave you with two questions. -What underlying need of yours is it serving to keep overfunctioning? -What truth do you need to accept about this situation or relationship for you to stop overfunctioning? Merry Christmas.   Take the free Super Trait Quiz to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a Super Trait Audit for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the Pleasure Centered Society if you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met.   00:00:35 Unhealed Super Traits 00:02:32 Shedding Old Identities 00:04:30 Building Healthier Relationships 00:04:50 Overcoming Overgiving 00:06:57 Journal Prompts 00:12:32 Pleasure Centered Relationship 00:16:28 Christmas Wishes  

The holiday season is a major trigger for women with super traits. There is more emotional labor, more pressure to keep the peace, more overgiving, and more shutdown. When you overfunction during the holidays, it leads to burnout, resentment, loneliness, and a sense of feeling unseen, even when you are surrounded by people. I break down practical holiday survival tips to help you stop overgiving and set boundaries without guilt. This includes a holiday emotional load audit to identify invisible responsibilities, a simple rule to reduce burnout, a clear boundary tool for handling pressure in the moment, and a short pleasure-centered reset to regulate your nervous system when stress activates old survival patterns. These tools are designed for high-achieving women who know their patterns but still collapse into overfunctioning when family dynamics, expectations, and emotional labor increase. I share relationship and single check-ins to help you see where you feel supported, emotionally safe, and more like yourself, and where overfunctioning is still running the show. This creates clarity around what needs to change so the holidays no longer cost you your energy, desire, or sense of self. Take the free Super Trait Quiz to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a Super Trait Audit for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the Pleasure Centered Society if you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met.   00:00:27 Understanding Super Traits 00:00:45 Challenges During the Holiday Season 00:02:48 Personal Experiences and Insights 00:03:36 Welcome to the Pleasure Principles Podcast 00:05:31 Holiday Survival Tips 00:06:29 Emotional Load Audit 00:08:20 15% Rule for Reducing Holiday Burnout 00:09:38 Three Second Boundary Tool 00:16:14 Pleasure Center Reset 00:18:14 Relationship and Single Superwoman Check-In

Financial infidelity is one of the most common yet least recognized forms of betrayal. It often begins subtly through missing information (like names not being on the title), restricted access to accounts, unexplained withdrawals, hidden accounts, or financial decisions made without consent. Many women overlook these signs because they appear inside relationships built on trust, love, and shared history. GRAB YOUR The Super Trait Audit™ HERE Forensic investigative accountant Dave Oswald brings to light the realities most people never see. His work uncovers partners who erase digital trails, hide income, move money into shell companies, falsify signatures, or quietly open loans in someone else's name. These patterns are deliberate. They are structured to stay hidden until the fallout is unavoidable. High-achieving, intelligent women often internalize the blame when financial deception surfaces. They replay conversations. They question their intuition. They wonder how they missed it. But financial manipulation is engineered to exploit trust and emotional connection. It thrives because the other person is not just managing money. They are managing a narrative. Recognizing the signs is essential. Sudden secrecy around accounts. A financial picture that never quite makes sense. Being kept off titles or investments. Explanations that change. A partner who becomes irritated when asked reasonable questions. Income that does not match documented records. Access that slowly disappears. These are early indicators of financial control and financial abuse. The impact extends far beyond money. When someone manipulates finances, they also erode emotional safety, intimacy, and a sense of groundedness in your own life. Financial infidelity affects your nervous system, your relationships, and your ability to trust yourself. Understanding how financial control operates allows you to see the truth without shame. It offers the clarity to protect yourself, and the validation that being deceived does not mean you were foolish. It means someone else was intentional. This is the knowledge every woman deserves before the damage begins, instead of after it has already been done. CONNECT WITH DAVE dave@forensicrestitution.com forensicrestitution.com  (416) 525-1510 - Oakville, Ontario, Canada     Decode the emotional and erotic patterns keeping you in over-functioning, shutdown, and inconsistent connection. The Super Trait Audit™ CLICK HERE    If you do not know your Super Traits, take the free Super Trait Quiz HERE.   If you want your world and relationships to respond to the woman you have already become, apply for The Super Trait Society HERE.   Connect with Dr. Jordin on INSTAGRAM HERE @drjordinwiggins  

You have done the healing. You know your patterns and your attachment style. You set boundaries and stopped abandoning yourself. Yet when life gets hard, or someone is disappointed in you, you still end up doing the emotional labor. You collapse or you over-function. Your relationships have not shifted as much as you have. Your sex life feels flatter than it should. Your aliveness and turn-on feel inconsistent. You have grown on the inside, but the world has not adjusted to meet you. Pleasure requires presence, sensation, receiving, and truth. Super Traits demand scanning, fixing, anticipating, managing, and performing. Therapy, nervous system work, EMDR, trying to want sex, and communication tools were a good foundation, but not enough because Super Traits pull you out of the conditions required for pleasure and connection. Super Traits pull you into your head, where hyper vigilance replaces feeling. They turn you into the emotional container who regulates everyone else. They reward performance rather than presence, and they create loneliness even when you want connection. They train you to choose harmony over truth, and suppressed truth kills desire. They make receiving uncomfortable, so pleasure cannot land because it never reaches you. This creates a pleasure-suppressed life. Flatness. Numbness. Only feeling pleasure when everything is perfect. Freezing or fawning when things are hard. Over-functioning under stress. Craving more but not knowing what you want. Carrying the emotional load and trying to fix the connection instead of influencing it. Pleasure is intelligence. Pleasure tells you what is true, what you want, when you are abandoning yourself, and when someone is not meeting you. Super Traits drown out that internal guidance system. Insight does not create influence. Presence and pleasure do. If you want your world and relationships to respond to the woman you have already become, apply for The Super Trait Society HERE. If you do not know your Super Traits, take the free Super Trait Quiz HERE.

You are not frigid. You are fried. When you have super traits, empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and hard work, you end up building your entire relationship around him. You carry the emotional load, the logistical load, and even the erotic load. You hold his stress, his moods, his comfort above your own, and then blame yourself when your desire shuts down. You are not an impossible-to-please crusty wife. You are playing a game you were never taught the rules to. You were handed invisible contracts you never agreed to, and you have been trying to fix problems that were never yours to fix. Your body has known the truth long before you had the language for it. Women with super traits have been trained not to see the real dynamics happening in their relationships. We play checkers while our partners play chess. We sense disconnection and ask what is wrong with me instead of asking, "Am I safe?", "Am I being met?", "Am I being touched the way I like?" Four hidden behaviors quietly erode intimacy for women with super traits. Emotional unavailability, where he offers logic instead of empathy, and your body learns it is not safe to feel. Weaponized incompetence where he forgets the groceries, the kids, and the plans, and you end up doing everything. A male-centered relationship where everything revolves around his stress and comfort, while you shrink your needs smaller and smaller. Emotional withholding and punishment where any request for connection is met with defensiveness, silence, or blame. Your desire did not disappear. Your body shut down because it had to protect you. You do not need to work harder at love. You need a new relational blueprint rooted in pleasure power and nervous system safety so you can stop blaming yourself and finally understand the rules you were never taught. If you are a woman with super traits and you feel unseen, unheard, and untouched, your body is telling the truth. It is time to stop blaming yourself and start understanding the game you were pushed into without the rules. Start by taking the Super Trait Quiz so you can see the patterns that have shaped every relationship you have ever been in. If you know you are ready to shift these dynamics rather than survive them, explore the Super Trait Society, where we train your body to lead with safety, clarity, and real power rather than exhaustion and self-blame.

I am recording this sitting on an ice pack with stitches in my vagina. After the delivery of my daughter, there was a tear. They tried to fix it. It didn't really fix. The doctor said to wait until the next baby, and we can repair it then. I thought that made sense. My daughter just turned five. I have been tolerating a tear in my labia that I didn't want to be there. I decided I was done waiting. I was done tolerating. Hard work is the trait that builds success and destroys intimacy. We were taught that hard work will fix everything. The relationship. The libido. The career. But when hard work becomes your identity, intimacy starts to feel like effort. Relationships feel like effort, not ease. Women with super traits carry a relentless sense of responsibility and a high tolerance for discomfort. We push through pain, confusion, and rejection. We take pride in holding everything together. We repair for two. We perform for safety. We perform in the bedroom and call that love. Effort does not equal arousal. Desire needs safety, reciprocity, novelty, and space. Desire cannot live in a nervous system that never rests. Hard work becomes survival. It keeps us in one-sided relationships. It keeps us trying to fix what is not ours to fix. Healthy relationships require effort but not suffering. The work should feel mutual. Both people should be active participants in growth. When you stop working for love and start working from love, everything changes.   -Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]   Take the FREE Super Trait Quiz HERE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire.   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]  

High-empathy women are praised for their compassion, yet beneath that care often lies exhaustion and loneliness. When empathy becomes survival, it stops being connection and starts being control. Many women who feel deeply spend their lives reading the room, anticipating every tone, and managing everyone else's emotions in the name of love. It looks selfless but becomes self-abandonment. The nervous system learns that predicting moods brings safety, and harmony comes from disappearing, leaving you burnt out and confused about why love feels like labor. Empathy born from hypervigilance attracts emotionally unavailable partners and unequal relationships. High-empathy women often mistake caretaking for connection and people pleasing for intimacy. They give endlessly, believing that calm and control will earn love. Yet empathy without boundaries drains energy and ties worth to giving. Healing begins when you stop performing empathy and start embodying power. Boundaries invite intimacy. Detachment allows you to hold your emotions without absorbing others. When high-empathy women reconnect with their bodies, they stop rescuing and start relating. They move from caretaking to commanding, restoring vitality, connection, and reciprocity. The world needs women who feel deeply without losing themselves. When empathy is grounded in boundaries, it becomes magnetic again, an energy that attracts safety, honesty, and real intimacy. -Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]   Take the FREE Super Trait Quiz HERE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire.   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

High-achieving women with super traits know how to make everything work. We plan, manage, fix, and anticipate. We keep the peace and carry the weight for everyone around us. From the outside, it looks like strength and success. Inside, it's emotional exhaustion and the quiet panic of never feeling safe enough to rest. Control becomes our safety. -Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE] It hides behind kindness, competence, and responsibility, but underneath it all is fear. The fear that if we stop managing, if we stop fixing, if we stop holding everyone else together, everything will fall apart. Control promises safety but keeps us stuck in survival. Women with super traits learn young that love must be earned through performance. We learn that calm means safe, that managing other people's emotions keeps the peace, and that being responsible keeps us chosen. Those same traits that brought us success are now the ones keeping us disconnected from our bodies, our pleasure, and the intimacy we crave. When control becomes love, we lose ourselves. We confuse vigilance for care and performance for connection. We build beautiful lives that feel empty because control cannot give us safety; it only gives us distance. It's time to rebuild safety from within. To rest, to feel, and to let go without losing power. Inside the Super Trait Society, we learn how to regulate the nervous system, balance power in relationships, and create the kind of connection that doesn't demand performance. Control was never safety. It was survival. And you deserve more than survival.   Take the FREE Super Trait Quiz HERE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire.   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]   Women come into my office every week saying they can't think clearly, they lose words mid-sentence, and they feel like their brains are failing them. They're sure it must be hormones, thyroid, or perimenopause. Some are afraid it's early dementia. But what if that brain fog isn't just a sign that something is wrong on the cellular level? What if your body is protecting you? High-achieving women with super traits: empathy, responsibility, tolerance, and hard work, often live in a constant loop of over-explaining, clarifying, and managing everyone else's emotions. That pattern, especially in relationships built on emotional abuse or coercive control, breaks down our nervous system. The confusion and brain fog you feel aren't signs that you're broken. There's evidence that your body has been trying to keep you safe. I've seen it again and again. Women think they're dealing with hormone imbalance, perimenopause, or chronic stress, but what's really happening is trauma adaptation. When you've been conditioned to maintain peace, stay quiet, or carry the invisible load, your body learns that clarity equals conflict. The fog is protection. The confusion is your nervous system saying enough. When we stop participating in coercive control dynamics, clarity returns. The fog lifts. Desire, focus, and energy come back online. This isn't a flaw in your body; it's your body's intelligence trying to save you. If you've been feeling lost, numb, or disconnected from your power, start by naming what's happening. Brain fog isn't failure. It's evidence of endurance.   Take the FREE Super Trait Quiz HERE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire.   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]    

You were praised for being the responsible one. The girl who kept the peace, remembered everyone's birthday, got straight A's, and picked up everyone else's slack. That praise felt like love, but it wasn't love for who you are; it was love for what you did. Now you're the woman holding everything together. You make the meals while your partner plays with the kids. You manage the emotions in the household, plan the therapy sessions, hold the structure, and wonder why you feel exhausted, disconnected, and resentful. Responsibility as a super trait makes you indispensable but not irresistible. It keeps you safe but blocks intimacy, polarity, and pleasure. You can't control or plan your way into desire. What once protected you is now preventing you from being met. Let's unpack how responsibility becomes emotional labor, how it starts in childhood, and how it shows up in adult relationships as overgiving, people-pleasing, and exhaustion. You'll learn why your nervous system doesn't feel safe resting, why responsibility feels automatic, and how to stop confusing usefulness with love. If you've been the woman who holds it all together but feels unseen, unloved, or unfulfilled, this is your reminder that what kept you safe is not what will make you happy. Take the FREE Super Trait Quiz HERE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire.   PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]     Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]    

Most women try to fix their relationships or fix themselves. My work isn't about fixing or forcing intimacy. It's about rewiring what led you to believe that depletion was love in the first place. High-achieving women with super traits have been called codependent, people pleasers, and overfunctioners, when the truth is, we were never met. We are not meant to see extractive love, and the smartest, most successful women I know are often in the most imbalanced dynamics because we superwoman so hard. Therapy hasn't helped because the issue isn't communication or attachment style. It's the extraction economy of love. Marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. Your exhaustion, burnout, resentment, and loss of desire are not personal flaws. They are symptoms of systems that reward your strengths and exploit them at the same time. Discover how to identify your super traits, recognize the invisible dynamics that have been draining you, and begin rewiring your nervous system so that love, intimacy, and desire become nourishing again. Take the Super Trait Quiz to discover which of your amplified strengths, such as empathy, loyalty, responsibility, tolerance, or hard work, has been running the show and how to reclaim your power from it.   Take the Super Trait Quiz HERE    You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]      

Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while your life expectancy is shortened, and you slowly find yourself erased in the roles of mother and wife. This is called the marriage benefit imbalance. Our super traits of empathy, loyalty, and responsibility make us successful, but in love, they keep us stuck. They keep us loyal when we should have left, forgiving when nothing changes, and working harder when we should be doing less. Over time, this imbalance leaves us exhausted, disconnected, and blaming ourselves. It is not your hormones, it is not that you are asking too much, it is not that you just cannot be happy. We have been surviving in a system that was never designed to fuel us. Our brilliance is undeniable, but without a new framework, our relationships will continue to drain us rather than nourish us. This is why I created the pleasure-centered method. It is a reeducation in sex, love, feeling, and living. It rewires us from survival and overgiving into intimacy and erotic connection. If you are ready to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your ability to be fully met. Join me for the eight-week live group coaching intensive and learn to put pleasure back into all areas of your life. Take the Super Trait Quiz HERE    You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]  

I have been hearing from so many women lately. They are separating, considering separation, rebuilding after infidelity, or trying to date again as superwomen with super traits. No matter where they are, they cannot keep going the same way they have been. There is an element of doneness. Super traits like empathy, loyalty, hard work, and forgiveness are the qualities that make us successful. They are also survival skills. Without this lens, we can spend years and thousands of dollars repeating the same loops. With it, the truth becomes clear. Loyalty is one of the most common super traits. It makes you dependable and trustworthy, the woman who stays through thick and thin. But when loyalty is not reciprocated, it becomes a leash. It keeps you tied to relationships that are already costing you your peace, your health, and your intimacy. Loyalty without reciprocity is not love. It is self-abandonment. You do not need another hormone panel or more therapy sessions. You need a relational map that shows what is really happening.   Take the Super Trait Quiz HERE  and join me live for the Super Trait Masterclass on October 2 at 1 pm Eastern or grab the REPLAY.   You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   LISTEN TO EPISODE #194 SUPERTRAITS HERE   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]  

Women with super traits are praised for their loyalty, empathy, and hard work. These traits make you successful in your career, but they leave you exhausted, resentful, and sexless in your relationships. You give more, you bend over backwards, and you still do not feel met. I am sharing the habits of the most well-loved and well fucked women I know. These women feel their emotions instead of pushing them down. They are their own best lovers. They understand how their super traits show up in intimacy. They choose pleasure over extraction. And they surround themselves with community, so they never carry everything alone. When you embody these habits, you stop performing sex and start receiving pleasure. You stop tolerating crumbs and start feeling connected, magnetic, and desired. Take the free Super Trait Quiz to see which trait is keeping you stuck. Register for the FREE LIVE Super Trait Masterclass on October 2nd at 1 PM Eastern to understand why successful women struggle in sex and love and how to become well-loved and well fucked. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]   JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass,  October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE    

JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass,  October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers, families, and communities are the ones that quietly drain their desire, connection, and pleasure. For nearly two decades, I have worked with women in every stage of rebuilding after infidelity, illness, divorce, or the collapse of a business. No matter the circumstance, the pattern is the same. Women with super traits give more than they get. They overfunction, carry the invisible workload, excuse harmful behavior, and think 20 steps ahead for everyone else. Over time, this imbalance destroys intimacy, leaves them unfulfilled, and convinces them that they are the problem when the real issue is their conditioning. Super traits are not flaws. They are amplified strengths that become over-functioning survival strategies. Without understanding them, women waste years blaming hormones, childhood, or communication styles while repeating the same painful patterns. Take the free Super Trait Quiz through the link in the show notes to discover the number one high-achieving quality that helped you succeed but now blocks your ability to receive rest and love. Join me live on October 2 for the Super Traits Masterclass, JOIN HERE, where you will learn why effort and patience have not brought the intimacy you crave and the first step to creating a relationship that feels mutual, alive, and sustainable. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]  

Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. JOIN FOR FREE HERE   I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be able to handle the full force of your desire, your orgasm, and your passion. Tone policing is not about communication; it is about control. When your needs and frustrations get dismissed because of how you said them instead of what you actually said. Your nervous system learns it is not safe to be fully expressed. That same shutdown shows up in the bedroom and is the reason so many women with super traits feel exhausted, resentful, and sexless in their marriages. Tone policing keeps women performing instead of receiving, and it robs intimacy and desire. Therapy and communication tips often fail for women with super traits because they miss the real issue. Power dynamics, not hormones, not stress, and not communication formulas are the barrier to real intimacy. If you are wondering why you can orgasm alone but not with your partner, why you feel shut down, or why your marriage feels sexless, this will give you the language and clarity you need. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You've Been Craving. Join us in by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]  

Most high-achieving women don't even realize they are living in an extractive relationship. You give and give in your relationship, in your career, and at home, and wonder why you feel exhausted, unseen, untouched, and unfulfilled. You blame your hormones, your libido, your partner's attachment style, or your parents. You go to therapy, plan date nights, and try lingerie, but none of it works because the real issue isn't communication; it is extraction and power dynamics. The invisible dynamics are silently draining your health, your desire, and your power. Super traits like loyalty, empathy, forgiveness, and brilliance make you a high performer in your career, but destroy intimacy when they go unchecked. Sex becomes transactional; you carry all the emotional labor, and your body starts shutting down to conserve energy. An extractive relationship feels like survival, resentment, and going through the motions. A pleasure-centered relationship feels mutual, alive, and sustaining. The pleasure path is the reset that helps rebuild your nervous system, unlearn survival strategies, and reclaim your right to be fully met. You don't need to leave to start healing, but you do need a new map. Claim your spot inside Relationship 2.0 and start building the pleasure-centered relationship you deserve. Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]

Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird's-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn't fake. That's you. But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either. Vacation sex is a lot like affair sex. All of the dopamine, none of the responsibility. If your relationship feels like a job and you only feel sparks or connection when you are away from your real life and responsibilities, this conversation is for you. You might be wondering why you only feel desire on vacation, why you crave sex when you are stress-free, but shut down as soon as you are home. Desire is not gone. It is buried under responsibility, gender roles, patriarchy, and nervous system overload. Vacation sex is not proof that your relationship is fine. It is proof that your desire remains. We are looking at the patterns that keep you blaming hormones or libido when what is really happening is your body protecting you. We are talking about bread crumbing, over-functioning, and super traits like empathy and achievement that erode intimacy without you even realizing it. Your erotic power and your desire do not need an escape. They need a new map. This is the first step on the pleasure path and the reason therapy, communication tips, or sex hacks have not worked. Once you can name the invisible dynamics at play, the path back to erotic aliveness and pleasure-centered relationships becomes clear. Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE] EP198 Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]   Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025

Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025   I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships. This was me. This is many of my clients. The truth is, we have super traits. The same traits that make us incredible in our careers, the ability to handle anything, to anticipate needs, and to stay calm under pressure, can also keep us from seeing just how harmful the relationship really is. Last week alone, I had a client discover her partner's affair. I had another navigating her partner's drinking. And another who found out her husband had opened another business and invested a large amount of their shared money without her consent. These are not small things. They are moments that rip the blinders off and make you see the truth you have been avoiding. In this episode, we talk about how super traits work against us in love, why we tolerate what should never be tolerated, and what it takes to finally stop normalizing the unacceptable. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]

Most women don't need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you've been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep. You've been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The one who over-functions while feeling like your needs are too much. That's not connection. That's performance. That's survival. And it's killing your desire. This is where we name what's really going on. The invisible emotional labor. The power imbalances are hiding in plain sight. The way women with super traits are conditioned to have their power extracted and their pleasure pathologized. So what does a pleasure-centered relationship actually looks like? A relationship where mutual joy, emotional safety, and erotic connection are prioritized. Not logistics. Not roles. Not appearances. A relationship where your nervous system can soften, your needs are valid, and your body is safe to receive. If you're ready to stop performing pleasure and start feeling it, take the Pleasure Path Assessment [TAKE IT BY CLICKING HERE] and find out where you are. And if this resonates with you, I've opened two private coaching spots [APPLY HERE] this fall for women who are ready to transform everything about the way they love. You don't need to leave your relationship. But you do need to leave the version of yourself that disappears inside it. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don't have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE]