The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1048 If it feels like you and your wife have drifted apart, like you’re just going through the motions or living as roommates, this episode is for you. Doug and Chris unpack one of the most common issues men bring up: how to bring back the spark and get the intimacy flowing again in your marriage. Most guys think the problem is sex. But the real issue usually starts way before the bedroom. Emotional safety is what creates the space for connection, attraction, and fun to come back. Without it, you're stuck in a loop of frustration and distance. In this conversation, you’ll get a clear look at what’s actually going on and what to do about it. Doug shares practical tools that help you shift the dynamic fast, like the Hidden Motives Technique and how to make intimacy something your wife actually wants to initiate. He also walks through how to create an environment where both of you can open up, have more fun, and rebuild that spark without needing long, uncomfortable conversations. This isn't about games or being someone you’re not. It’s about stepping into the role of a grounded, confident man who leads with clarity and strength. That’s when everything changes. Want to go deeper? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It’s packed with simple tools you can start using right away to reconnect and lead your marriage forward.

Episode #1047 Ever catch yourself wishing your wife would just change? That maybe if she did things differently, everything in your marriage would fall into place? In this episode, Doug breaks that myth wide open and flips the script because real change starts with you. Doug walks you through a practical, no-BS approach to becoming the kind of man, husband, and leader you’d be proud of. He shares simple habits that lead to big shifts, including how to identify the real gaps in your life using a five-area self-assessment, how to build trust through action not words, and how your personal growth quietly calls your partner forward too. You’ll also hear how consistency in the small things leads to big results. Whether it’s checking in at the gym or committing to honest conversations, it’s these repeatable, everyday decisions that build momentum. Doug shares stories from the field and walks you through what it looks like to become the ideal man in your own eyes first, instead of waiting for others to change. This episode is for the man who's ready to lead from the front, stop spinning his wheels, and start making real progress. No drama, no begging, just clarity and action. Get free access to our training on how to save your marriage without long, painful talks. It’s practical, clear, and built to get results. Go here to get started: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1046 If you've ever been told to “open up more” but didn’t know what that actually means or tried and felt it backfire, this episode is for you. Doug and Erin revisit one of the most important and misunderstood parts of any relationship: vulnerability. They break down why most men think they’re being vulnerable when they’re actually just offloading, and how that difference can either build trust or break it. You’ll hear how real leadership at home isn’t about hiding emotion, but about learning how to share it from a place of strength. Erin offers the woman’s perspective on what emotional connection really looks like, how safety is built, and why it’s not just about doing more. It’s about how you show up. If your wife says she feels disconnected or distant, this conversation gets to the root of it. It also gives you clear, grounded ways to start repairing that gap without losing your edge or falling into people-pleasing. This is a revisit episode for a reason. It’s one of those conversations that hits differently when you’re actually ready to hear it. If you're ready to stop guessing and start leading in a way that actually rebuilds trust and connection, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1045 You can be the man everyone respects at work and still feel powerless at home. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who feel like they're crushing it in business but falling apart in their marriage. If your wife shoots down your ideas, questions your decisions, or says she's no longer attracted to you, this conversation will hit home. They break down what’s really going on when your wife is always in her masculine, how to stop reacting when she tests you, and what it actually means to “be the lighthouse” without shutting down or checking out. You’ll also hear how attraction works emotionally for women and what to do if the spark is gone. Spoiler: you have more control over it than you think. This isn’t about trying harder or being nicer. It’s about showing up with consistency, grounded confidence, and real leadership at home the same way you do at work. And when you do that, everything changes. The truth is, your wife wants to feel safe with you again—but she won’t say it that way. She wants to feel your presence, your direction, your edge. If you’ve lost that connection, this episode is a reminder that you can get it back, but it starts with how you lead yourself. If you want a simple roadmap to rebuild trust and attraction without more long talks or therapy, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1044 Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently. You’ll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You’ll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or tells you she’s not in love with this version of you, this episode shows you how to respond without chasing, fixing, or folding. This is about shifting out of panic mode and into calm leadership. It’s about taking full ownership without losing your edge. When your wife feels safe, everything changes. And when you stop letting fear run the show, you finally show up as the man you were built to be. If this hits home and you want to take the next step, check out the free training that breaks down how to fix your marriage without more talking or therapy at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1043 This episode is for the men who crossed the line and now don’t know how to fix what’s broken. If you’ve cheated, or you’re carrying the weight of a past affair your wife doesn’t know about, this conversation lays out exactly what happens next and what to do about it. Doug walks through what women actually feel after infidelity the confusion, the emotional fallout, and the way trust doesn’t just crack but completely collapses. He also breaks down what typically happens to men in this situation. The shame. The guilt. The regret. And how that can either be the beginning of real change or the start of a deeper downward spiral. You’ll learn why saying “I’m sorry” isn’t even close to enough, why most guys make it worse by trying to buy their way back or shift the blame, and what it actually looks like to take full ownership. If your marriage is on the line, this isn’t about defending yourself. It’s about stepping up, rebuilding trust one small promise at a time, and showing your wife that the man she married still exists. Whether you’re trying to save your relationship or just starting to face the impact of what happened, this episode is a grounded place to start. If you're ready to stop living with regret and want a proven path to rebuild trust, connection, and leadership in your marriage, go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and get the free training. It will show you how to take action and lead your relationship forward.

Episode #1042 In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men dealing with the silent drift in their relationships. One guy’s wife hides her phone and avoids conversation. Another gets shot down every time he tries to initiate intimacy. Sound familiar? They talk about why therapy often leaves couples stuck in the past and how most men unknowingly fall into the “nice guy” trap trying to fix things by being extra helpful, only to lose polarity and respect in the process. You’ll hear coaching insights around what to do when your wife feels more connected to her phone than to you, and how to take action without coming off as needy or overbearing. This isn’t about chasing or begging. It’s about showing up in a grounded, confident way that actually shifts the dynamic. If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why does she feel so distant?” or “How do I make a move without risking rejection again?” this conversation is for you. If you're ready to get a clear plan for how to reconnect with your wife and turn things around without more painful talks or guessing what to do next, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's direct, simple to follow, and built for men who want to lead with confidence again.

Episode #1041 In this episode, we’re answering a straight-up question from a listener. “I feel like my wife and I are just roommates. There’s no spark. How do I get the passion back without begging for sex?” Doug Holt and Chris Hansen dive into what’s really going on when men feel stuck in this kind of dynamic. They talk about the shift from being a strong partner to slipping into the “nice guy” role. It sounds helpful on the surface but often kills the attraction behind the scenes. If you're feeling unappreciated, walking on eggshells, or stuck trying to fix things by doing more chores or being extra nice, this will be eye-opening. You'll learn why that approach usually backfires and what to do instead. They also walk through key tools like the Triadic Connection and how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and attraction in your marriage without begging or forcing anything. It’s all about leading from a grounded, confident place. This is real talk for men who want to turn things around and lead at home the same way they lead at work. If your marriage feels off and you’re ready to fix it without more talking or guessing, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you the tools to reconnect and lead again. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1040 We’re revisiting one of the most eye-opening conversations we’ve had on the show. Most men were never taught how women’s cycles really work. Most women weren’t either. Yet when you start to understand what’s happening week by week, everything changes in your relationship. In this revisit, Doug is joined by his wife Erin, who breaks down the four phases of a woman’s cycle and shows men how to support their partners in practical, everyday ways. You’ll hear why she feels like a different woman at different times, how to time conversations and intimacy better, and why this knowledge is just as valuable for dads and even business leaders. This isn’t about fixing her. It’s about understanding her. When you do, you create more connection, safety, and intimacy at home. If your marriage feels off track and you’re ready for a clear way forward, watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to take the lead and start making changes today.

Episode #1039 A lot of guys think they can only grow by surrounding themselves with men on their same level or above them. The truth is real growth happens when you reach back and help another man who is a few steps behind. In this episode, Doug and Coach Mike talk about what it really means to lead, why lifting other men up deepens your own mastery, and how staying humble keeps you moving forward. They share stories about fatherhood, coaching, and the lessons that come when you stop trying to prove yourself and start serving. If you are waiting to feel ready before you step up for others, you are missing the point. The moment you help another man figure something out, the lesson sinks deeper for you too. If your marriage feels stuck and you want a clear way forward, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to start making changes today and your wife will feel the difference.  

Episode #1038 Most men say they’re being real, but deep down, they know something’s off. In this episode, Doug sits down with Eric “The Viking” at the TPM Ranch to talk about what actually changes when you stop hiding, drop the mask, and start showing up as your true self. Eric opens up about the shift that happened when he finally got honest with himself and others. It didn’t come from a big breakthrough or a single moment. It came from consistent, small actions. Real change showed up in how he led his team, how he connected with his wife, and how he carried himself as a man. They also dig into why so many guys stay stuck being the “nice guy,” how fear of judgment keeps you silent, and what it looks like to build a life that actually reflects your values. If you’re feeling like something’s missing but can’t put your finger on it, this one’s worth a listen. It’s honest, grounded, and packed with stuff you can actually use. Want to fix your marriage without guessing or hoping she’ll come around? Get the free training that shows you exactly how to lead again as a man and turn things around starting today. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1037 We’re revisiting an important conversation that continues to hit home for so many men. What happens when the marriage is technically over, but you sense there’s still a chance to reconnect? In this episode, Doug answers a listener’s question about when and how to approach reconciliation after separation or divorce. He breaks down why chasing your ex or falling back into old habits pushes her further away, and what it looks like to show up with real confidence instead of neediness. You’ll hear practical strategies for getting grounded, filling your own cup, avoiding the “deer” response, and practicing engaged indifference so you can create attraction again rather than giving your ex all the power. This isn’t about replaying the past it’s about becoming the man you know you can be and approaching the relationship in a healthier way. If you’ve ever wondered whether dating your ex is possible, this revisit will give you perspective and tools you can use right now. If your marriage feels stuck or distant, don’t wait until it’s too late. Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It shows you exactly what’s going wrong and how to start rebuilding the connection today.

Episode #1036 Are you truly living, or just getting through the day? In this episode, Doug and Coach Steve have an honest conversation about purpose, aging, marriage, and the kind of legacy most men never stop to think about. Not legacy in the financial sense, but how you show up as a man, how you lead at home, and what you're quietly passing on to your kids. They share stories of mentors, tough transitions, and the moments that force you to ask, "Is this really the life I want to be living?" From broken trust to burnout, to feeling stuck in the same daily routine, this is a conversation about what it really looks like to turn things around. You’ll hear what happens when men stop waiting and start making bold, uncomfortable moves toward growth. And why living with intention today might be the most important gift you leave behind. If you've been playing it safe or telling yourself it’s not that bad, this episode might be the wake-up call you need. If your relationship feels stuck and you’re not sure how to fix it, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly what’s going wrong and gives you a clear, proven path to rebuild connection and trust without dragging your wife into another hard conversation.

Episode #1035 What really changes when a man stops pretending he’s fine and finally asks for support? In this honest conversation, Doug sits down with a couple from the UK to talk about what it actually looks like to grow as a man, a husband and a father. They cover the shift from feeling isolated and emotionally shut down to building real friendships, taking the lead at home and showing up more fully in marriage and parenting. You’ll hear what it’s like to go from carrying everything alone to feeling part of a community. You’ll also hear the wife's perspective on how the change impacted her, their relationship and their kids. This episode is for any man who feels stuck, disconnected or just tired of trying to figure it all out on his own. If you want to understand what’s really broken in your marriage and get a clear path to fix it, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what’s going wrong and how to turn things around without guesswork.

Episode #1034 In this throwback episode, we’re revisiting a core conversation that’s just as relevant now as when it first aired. If you’ve ever felt like you're doing all the right things but your wife still pulls away, this one’s for you. Doug breaks down what really happens when men fall into the trap of chasing their wife. Whether it’s constant texts, over-checking in, or trying too hard to fix the relationship, that energy often creates more distance instead of connection. You’ll hear why chasing is a form of needy energy, how it kills polarity, and what to do instead. Doug walks through simple shifts that help men lead from a grounded place instead of needing approval. He also explains the triad of connection and why your wife’s reaction is not the measure of your success. This revisit is a reminder that your power comes from within. When you stop chasing and start leading, everything changes.

Episode #1033 Most men want to be better at communicating with their wife but don’t always know how. Especially when it comes to listening without turning it into a checklist or interrogation. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it looks like to build real connection through everyday conversations — even when things feel distant or tense. They talk about the “collecting berries” concept and how it helps men understand the way women process emotions and daily life. You’ll learn why your curiosity matters more than your words, how to ask better questions, and what to do when your wife doesn’t open up right away. This isn’t about scripts or techniques. It’s about showing up with genuine presence, creating safety, and knowing when to lean in and when to back off. Doug also shares how simple questions, small moments, and being consistent can rebuild trust and intimacy over time. They also dive into why so many men feel isolated, how to build real friendships as a husband and father, and the role community plays in helping you stay on track as a leader at home. If your marriage feels off and you’re not sure what to do next, go watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly what’s missing and shows you how to fix it. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1032 What do you do when you’re fighting with your wife and it feels like you didn’t do anything wrong? How do you handle conflict without making things worse? In this episode, Doug and Chris talk through the real challenges men face when arguments come up out of nowhere. They break down what’s actually going on under the surface, how to lead with calm confidence, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of more distance. They also share personal stories about how they’ve worked through conflict in their own marriages. You’ll learn how to create safety, shift your energy, and set clear boundaries without backing down or giving in. This episode also covers how to turn everyday moments like cooking or cleaning into chances to build intimacy and connection. It’s not about doing more. It’s about showing up with intention, even in the middle of a busy life. You’ll walk away with tools you can use right now to reset the tone in your home and start leading your relationship forward. If your marriage feels off and you’re not sure where to start, go watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It shows you exactly what’s broken and how to fix it. No guesswork, just a clear plan that works.

Episode #1031 Feeling stuck trying to figure out your purpose or what's next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into the real-life tension that comes when your work no longer feels aligned, but walking away from it all doesn’t feel right either. Doug sits down with Austin and Alan at the TPM Ranch to talk about the difference between obsessive and harmonious passion, why so many men chase identity through career, and what it really looks like to find purpose that fits the life you want. You’ll hear how both men wrestled with their own questions around passion, family, and fulfillment and how small mindset shifts helped them see what they were missing. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to blow everything up to build a life that feels meaningful. Sometimes, it’s about reconnecting to what actually matters to you and getting honest about what’s in the way. They also share stories, practical tools, and real conversations on how to reconnect with what brings you joy. Whether you need a full career shift or just a spark in your current role, this conversation will help you stop spinning your wheels and start getting clear. If your marriage feels off and you don’t know where to start, watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You’ll get a clear breakdown of what’s missing and how to fix it. No guesswork. Just a step-by-step process that works.

Episode #1030 In this episode, Doug sits down with two longtime TPM members at the end of an unforgettable event at the TPM Ranch. They unpack something a lot of high-performing men wrestle with what self-love really means, how we unknowingly block it, and why most guys don’t realize they’re missing real male connection until they finally experience it. They talk about the weight of leadership, why so many men feel alone at the top, and how being part of a strong, honest brotherhood changes everything. You’ll hear firsthand how these men broke through years of internal resistance through laughter, hard conversations, and yes, even tears and finally gave themselves permission to slow down, reconnect, and show up better for everyone around them. If you're constantly pouring into everyone else and leaving yourself last, this one's for you. Want to take the next step toward showing up better in your marriage and life? Get free access to a training that’s helped thousands of men get back their power, clarity, and connection without dragging their wife into another hard conversation. Grab the training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1028 Most couples spend months planning the perfect wedding but how much time have you spent planning your actual marriage? In this episode, Doug challenges you to think beyond the big day and start treating your relationship with the same intention and energy you bring to your business. He walks through why your marriage needs a clear vision, shared values, and regular check-ins just like any successful company. Whether you've been married a year or a decade, this episode is a call to stop coasting and start building the kind of partnership you both really want. Doug breaks it down in a way that’s real, practical, and doable so you can lead with clarity and purpose in your relationship, not just your work. If you're ready to stop drifting and start leading in your marriage, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's designed for busy men like you who want more out of their relationship and are ready to do something about it.