S14 EP9 | Eddie and Aurelio discuss their journey of adopting in the UK and becoming parents to twin toddlers during the pandemic. They emphasize the need for a support network and resources during the adoption process, and how the COVID-19 pandemic added both challenges and opportunities for bonding with their children. They now provide representation and support for other same-sex couples and adoptive parents through their popular social media platforms. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Eddie and Aurelio, also known as @fortunatedads, are adoptive parents who share their journey of adopting twin boys on their social media platforms. They provide representation and support for other same-sex couples and adoptive parents. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Adoption involves extensive paperwork, interviews, and assessments, making it a complex and emotional process. The adoption system has a high number of children in need of loving families. Having a support network and resources in place is crucial during the adoption process. The COVID-19 pandemic presented additional challenges, but also provided an opportunity for bonding and quality time with the children. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "We wanted to be a family and adoption felt like the right path for us." -             Eddie and Aurelio "There is no feeling like it. You just feel whole." - Eddie "Representation matters. It's important for our children to see other same-sex couples and know that it's normal." - Aurelio 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here. 🏳️‍🌈For an article based on this episode and more info about the host visit our website

S14 EP8 | Emme Reynolds, a transgender parent to two children in a newly blended family, shares their journey of self-discovery and transition. She discusses the importance of listening to each other's stories and understanding the challenges and complexities of transitioning. Emme emphasizes that transition is not a one-time event but an ongoing process, and highlights the difficulties faced by the LGBTQIA+ community in the current political climate. She also touches on the support she has received from her family and the importance of visibility and representation. Overall, Emme encourages open and honest conversations about gender identity and the experiences of trans individuals. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Emme Reynolds is a transgender parent to two children in a blended family. They are also the host of the podcast "A Second Puberty." 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Transitioning is a complex and ongoing process, and it is important to understand that it is not always easy or straightforward. It is crucial to listen to and understand each other's stories within the LGBTQ+ community. The support and acceptance of family and friends can make a significant difference in the well-being and happiness of a trans individual. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "Transition can be hard and difficult, but it is also beautiful and valid." Emme "No one is trying to turn your straight kid trans. We're trying to keep trans kids alive." Emme "It is important to have access to gender-affirming healthcare and medications." Emme 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: Article about centering disability visibility in reproductive healthcare:  🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here. 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website

S14 EP7 | Liz Glazer, an award-winning stand-up comedian and queer mom, shares her journey to parenthood and the stillbirth of her first daughter, Leo Pearl. She discusses the struggles and grief associated with pregnancy loss, emphasizing that all forms of loss are equally difficult. Liz also talks about her wife's decision to freeze her eggs and their experience using a sperm bank. Despite the tragedy, Liz and her wife decided to try again and successfully welcomed their daughter, Eloise. Liz highlights the importance of being there for someone experiencing grief and offers insights into the unique nature of grieving for a child who never lived. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Liz Glazer is an award-winning stand-up comedian and queer mom. She is known for her debut stand-up comedy and storytelling album, "A Very Particular Experience," which explores the stillbirth of her first daughter, Leo Pearl. Liz is also a former tenured law professor and has been doing stand-up for 10 years. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 Liz and her wife, Karen, decided to have children, and Karen had frozen her eggs before they started trying. Liz and Karen used a sperm bank for the embryo transfer, and the first transfer was successful. Liz emphasizes that there is no hierarchy of grief and that all forms of pregnancy loss are difficult. Liz and Karen joined a bereavement group called Pockets of Light, which provided support during their grieving process. Liz shares the strangeness of grieving for someone who never lived and the abstract nature of the grief. ​ 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈​ "I think that being willing to be the person who is there, who's emailing, who's calling, who's reaching out, that's really helpful." - Liz Glazer "Grief is such a personal journey and nightmare in so many ways." - Liz Glazer "There's no grief Olympics, all of it sucks because all of it is." - Liz Glazer 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode: Pockets of Light 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here. 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website

 | S14 EP6 | Dr. Mark Leondires and Lisa Schuman discuss the importance of disclosure and open communication when parenting donor-conceived children. They emphasize the need to drop seeds of information from an early age, allowing children to gradually understand their unique family story. The guests also highlight the significance of language and terminology when discussing donors. The conversation touches on the challenges of managing expectations and the potential impact of meeting donor siblings or the donor themselves. The guests introduce their new book, "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception," which provides guidance and support for individuals and couples navigating the donor conception process. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 The guests on this episode are Lisa Schuman, a therapist,  and Dr. Mark Leondires, a medical director at Illume Fertility.​ 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈​ In this episode of The Queer Family Podcast, Jamie interviews Lisa and Dr. Mark Leondires about donor conception and parenting donor-conceived children. They discuss the importance of open donor programs and the need for disclosure and communication with children about their donor conception. The guests emphasize the importance of dropping seeds and having ongoing conversations with children about their donor conception from a young age. They also address the concerns and challenges faced by donor-conceived individuals and the need for support and understanding from parents. The guests talk about their new book, "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception," which provides guidance and support for individuals and couples on their donor conception journey. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 "Children are most unhappy under two circumstances, one accidental disclosure and second, late disclosure." - Dr. Mark Leondires "If you tell them when your kids are 10, 11, or 12, they're going to see you sweat. If you've been telling them all along, they're like, 'Oh, shut up, dad.'" - Dr. Mark Leondires "Our kids have to get through this identity formation on their own and try to figure out who they are in relationship to their parents and then to another set of genetics that they don't really know that well." - Lisa Schuman 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode “Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception” Donor Conception Conversations Podcast The Center for Family Building Illume Fertility Gay Parents To Be 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here. 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website

S14 EP4 | In the first part of this 2-part episode, we're diving deep into that Search for The Superhuman, y'all! Lisa Schuman and Dr. Mark Leondires, co-authors of "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception," share insights on choosing the right donor and explore the unique perspectives and experiences LGBTQIA+ individuals bring to this exciting and complex family-building journey. Stay tuned for part 2, which will be released next Monday. OR catch it right now on our Patreon channel, where we'll delve into how the heck you navigate parenting and life as a donor-conceived family. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 Lisa Schuman is a therapist with almost 30 years of experience in reproductive medicine. She is the host of the Donor Conception Conversations Podcast and runs the Center for Family Building, a one-stop shop for resources and support for family-building journeys. Lisa is also the co-author of the book "Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception."​ Dr. Mark Leondires is the medical director at Illume Fertility and the founder of Gay Parents to Be. He has personal experience with donor conception, having built his own family through egg donation and surrogacy. Dr. Mark is passionate about helping LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples navigate the family-building process and is dedicated to providing quality care and support. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 1. Donor conception involves choosing a donor whose genetics and health history align with your values and priorities. 2. It's important to prioritize health and genetics when selecting a donor, rather than focusing solely on personal preferences or characteristics. 3. Psychological screening and testing can help ensure that donors are honest and mentally healthy. 4. Open and honest communication with children about their donor conception story is crucial for their emotional well-being and understanding of their identity. 5. Queer parents often have a unique perspective on donor conception, as they have already navigated the process of accepting their own identities and building their families. 🏳️‍🌈Quotes:🏳️‍🌈 - "Remember, you're not getting that person. You're getting their past three to five generations." - Dr. Mark Leondires - "Choosing your donor should be a head decision, but it really starts in your heart." - Lisa Schuman 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. 🏳️‍🌈Resources mentioned in the episode “Building Your Family: The Complete Guide to Donor Conception” Donor Conception Conversations Podcast The Center for Family Building Illume Fertility Gay Parents To Be 🏳️‍🌈If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! 🏳️‍🌈We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here. 🏳️‍🌈For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website

| S14 EP4 | Gavin and David, hosts of the podcast "Gaytriarchs," discuss their experiences with surrogacy and parenting as gay men. They share their journeys of finding egg donors and surrogate carriers, and the decisions they made along the way. The hosts also touch on the unique aspects of gay parenting and the need for constant conversations and decision-making, as well as the importance of authenticity and laughter in navigating the challenges and joys of queer parenting. 🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 - Gavin Lodge and David F.M. Vaughn are the co-hosts of the podcast "Gaytriarchs" and are both gay fathers. Gavin has two children and David has two children, all through surrogacy. They have a background in musical theater and share a passion for creating a podcast that brings humor and realness to the gay parenting world. 🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 The podcast "Gaytriarchs" aims to provide a space for gay dads to laugh, share stories, and find support. Balancing parenthood and personal interests can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize self-care and maintain a sense of individuality. The hosts emphasize the need for authenticity and realness in the gay parenting community, rather than just portraying an idealized version of family life. 🏳️‍🌈Thanks to our sponsors🏳️‍🌈 California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM)  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) 🏳️‍🌈Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here🏳️‍🌈 Call us and leave a voicemail or text: 646-470-1840 Email: thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com  🏳️‍🌈Order the #ITOCT book Amazon, IndieBound, Audible🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍🌈Buy our merch here🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍🌈Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato🏳️‍🌈 Timestamp Summary 0:00:00 Introduction to the Queer Family Podcast and sponsor mention 0:00:30 Discussion on the unique challenges of gay families 0:02:07 Announcement of the Queer Family Podcast winning two Signal Awards 0:04:00 Shoutout to a listener and their upcoming surrogacy journey 0:05:22 Encouragement for listeners to reach out and connect 0:06:19 Introduction to Gavin and David, hosts of Gaytriarchs 0:06:43 David's 32-second elevator pitch about being a gay dad 0:08:21 Gavin's 32-second elevator pitch about being a gay dad 0:09:31 Playful discussion about who won the elevator pitch competition 0:10:09 Mention of upcoming topic on guns for their podcast episode 0:10:08 Introduction: Gavin and David talk about guns. 0:10:48 David's decision to pursue surrogacy and his sister-in-law's offer. 0:13:46 David's sister-in-law agrees to be their surrogate. 0:15:31 Finding a second surrogate through a Facebook group during COVID. 0:16:54 Gavin's conventional route to surrogacy through an agency. 0:17:19 Gavin's experience of flying to Pasadena for sperm donation. 0:18:28 The issue of lost sperm during the egg donor process. 0:19:25 Agency's mishap with the number of viable eggs from the donor. 0:19:28 Discussing the mishap in the surrogacy process. 0:20:13 Debate on using the term "vagina" versus "vulva". 0:21:13 Gavin's experience with surrogacy and the cost involved. 0:22:16 Gavin's desire to have kids and his partner's concerns. 0:24:08 Parenthood as a lesson in selflessness. 0:25:08 Advice on becoming a parent and maintaining self-identity. 0:26:06 Promo for California Cryobank and sperm donor selection. 0:26:58 Decision-making process on who would be the gestational parent. 0:27:39 Possibility of having twins with each partner's biological connection. 0:28:26 Anecdote of military dads with two surrogates and multiple babies. 0:28:25 Discussion about multiple pregnancies and babies 0:29:24 Gavin shares his experience of driving the baby train 0:30:10 Egg donor went MIA during the process 0:32:00 Different approaches to giving children last names 0:33:31 Overthinking decisions about last names 0:35:31 The search for an egg donor and the challenges involved 0:36:47 Biases and parameters in choosing an egg donor 0:37:15 Reflections on the influence of the egg donor 0:37:15 Reflections on the influence of the egg donor 0:37:15 David's view on his kids' behavior and genetics. 0:37:33 Gavin's experience with selecting an egg donor based on appearance. 0:38:18 Gavin asks David about watching videos of potential donors. 0:38:33 David and Gavin discuss selecting donors who resemble them. 0:39:23 David and Gavin talk about choosing average-looking donors. 0:40:23 David mentions not thinking about the donor anymore. 0:40:49 Jamie expresses surprise that closed donations still exist. 0:41:22 Jamie shares her thoughts on seeing the donor in her daughter. 0:42:31 David fears the donor might disappoint him if they meet. 0:43:53 Gavin and David talk about their children's ages. 0:47:22 Introduction to the podcast and how it started 0:47:43 Discussion about the need for a podcast on gay dads 0:48:16 Creating a diaper bag for gay dads 0:49:05 Fear of taking artistic leap and vulnerability 0:50:23 Challenges of remote recording and growing as a team 0:51:09 Humor and light-heartedness in the podcast 0:51:49 Importance of representation and inclusion in podcasts 0:52:05 Musical theater energy and laughter in the show 0:53:27 Appreciation for paving the way for other podcasts 0:53:59 Closing remarks and thanks to the guest

| S14 EP3 | Nat Vikitsreth is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and child development specialist, and host of the Come Back to Care Podcast. She shares her personal journey, growing up in Bangkok, Thailand, and embracing her identity as a trans woman. Nat's work goes beyond therapy; she offers vital support to the queer community by being the "trans auntie of the village, loving up on other parents, especially queer parents." She discusses the importance of self-awareness and being present with our children. Her message reminds parents (especially Jaimie 😜) to give themselves grace as they navigate the complexities of parenting. "Queer Parents. We got this." - Nat Key Takeaways: Balancing the pressure to protect and prepare our children with the need to be present and connected. Self-awareness and recognizing our own patterns and reactions is crucial in being present with our children. Slowing down, pausing, and taking a breath can help us respond to our children's needs in a more present and connected way. Give yourself grace as a parent and acknowledge that you are doing your best. Quotes: "We tend to put our parenting values in the backseat when worries and fears take over." - Nat "The threats are real, but we need to balance being present with our children so that they feel seen, heard, and loved for who they are." - Nat "If we're not soothed, we can't soothe our child." - Nat "All you parents out there who are doing your damn best. Give yourself grace. We all fuck up." - Jamie "That one thing in a day is so important." - Nat If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters.  Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. Follow and Find Nat Vikitsreth: IG: @comebacktocare Website: https://www.comebacktocare.com/ Podcast: https://www.comebacktocare.com/podcast Newsletter: https://www.comebacktocare.com/newsletter 7-week social justice parenting & inner child re-parenting program (Nov 1 - Dec 13): https://www.comebacktocare.com/learn Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. Buy our merch here. For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website Chapters: [0:00:00] Introduction and sponsor announcement [0:00:12] Nat's desire to be a trans auntie and work with queer parents [0:01:47] Jamie's introduction and background on previous parenting coaching session [0:03:19] Nat's email expressing hope to affirm, validate, and uplift listeners [0:04:12] Recommendation for the "Gaytriarchs" podcast [0:05:17] Listener message from Dana in Wisconsin [0:06:48] Jamie's gratitude and call for more listener messages [0:08:08] Introduction of Nat and conversation begins [0:08:42] Nat's elevator pitch and focus on love and boundaries [0:10:42] Nat's work as a decolonized therapist and supporting social justice parenting [0:11:28] Discussion of Nat's childhood and realization of being trans [0:12:05] Nat's struggle with understanding and expressing their gender identity [0:12:52] Nat talks about finding a community at their Catholic all boys school [0:14:15] Nat tells their parents they think they are a woman [0:15:06] Nat's parents already knew and accepted their identity [0:16:12] Nat moves to a different province to finish high school [0:17:05] Nat finds a chosen family in the sex worker community [0:18:26] Nat starts transitioning in their first year of college [0:19:14] Nat gets involved with the sex worker community [0:21:06] Nat talks about the emotional connection with clients as a sex worker [0:23:20] Nat and their chosen family do organizing work for safety [0:24:59] Nat's parents seek therapy to understand and accept their transition [0:25:44] Nat discusses their parents' education on their journey. [0:26:23] Nat mentions seeing multiple psychiatrists as a requirement for transitioning. [0:27:13] Nat talks about initially wanting a traditional family but later changing their mind. [0:28:09] Nat expresses a desire to be the "trans auntie" and support queer families. [0:29:21] Nat discusses the influence of patriarchy on their perception of womanhood. [0:30:46] Jamie introduces the topic of parenting in the current anti-trans climate. [0:32:00] Nat shares their journey of moving to the US and working with families. [0:32:51] Nat discusses the challenges of parenting in a hostile world. [0:34:24] Nat emphasizes the importance of being present with children despite challenges. [0:36:19] Nat suggests balancing teaching and preparing with being present with children. [0:38:32] Difficulty of being present with a child's hurt [0:39:23] Using the SIFT acronym to slow down and pause [0:39:56] Mama bear instinct to protect child [0:40:49] Using the SIFT acronym to notice bodily cues [0:42:40] Sensations may be too overwhelming for some parents [0:43:18] Noticing thoughts before going into teaching mode [0:44:27] Checking in with child's feelings and experiences [0:45:39] Pausing before reacting and breaking the pattern [0:46:44] Giving oneself grace and apologizing for losing temper [0:49:20] Sharing alternative actions and modeling emotional resilience [0:51:27] Research on mothers' ability to meet their babies' needs [0:53:16] Babies as young as three months can cope with stress [0:54:08] Different ways to self-soothe and model for children [0:55:15] Importance of teaching emotional skills to navigate difficult emotions [0:56:26] Recognizing the need to slow down and pay attention [0:58:06] Personalizing self-soothing techniques for children [0:59:29] Core regulation and sitting with children in their emotions [1:00:57] Being transparent about one's own capacity for regulation [1:01:51] Giving parents grace and acknowledging their efforts [1:02:50] Queer parents and allies are doing a great job [1:03:48] Introduction to Nat and their podcast [1:04:25] Thank you and closing remarks [1:05:00] Merchandise and conclusion

Mohsin, Matthew, and Dahlia are best friends and hosts of the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions,” where they explore in depth the possibility of Dahlia becoming a surrogate for Mohsin and Matthew. They sat down with Jaimie to discuss the questions they’ve grappled with in the decision-making process, including the impact on their friendship, the legal and emotional aspects of surrogacy in the UK, and how their cultural and religious backgrounds play into all of it. They also delve into the importance of having strong female role models in their children's lives and the potential long-term relationship between Dahlia and the child. We get deep and personal on the intricacies of surrogacy and also delve into the complexities of friendship, family, and personal identity with these candid and fun BFFs. "Surrogacy with a close friend adds new layers and complexities to the process." - Matthew If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters.  Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. Follow and Find Tiny Huge Decisions Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. Buy our merch here. For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website   Chapters: | 0:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and sponsors. | | 0:00:30 | Mohsin discusses the challenges of being gay in a religious and cultural family. | | 0:01:40 | Introduction to the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions" and its premise. | | 0:02:47 | Behind the scenes info about Mohsin and Dahlia's friendship and Mohsin and Matthew's relationship. | | 0:04:13 | Ally voicemail from Shephathia asking about a term for children of LGBTQ parents. | | 0:05:43 | Answering Shephathia’s question about the term "queer spawn" for children of LGBTQ parents. | | 0:07:09 | Request for listeners to reach out and share their thoughts and stories. | | 0:08:19 | Introduction of the podcast hosts and their backgrounds. | | 0:09:46 | Summary of the podcast "Tiny Huge Decisions" and its exploration of surrogacy. | | 0:10:37 | Discussion about the relevance of Dahlia's work as a medical anthropologist. | | 0:11:05 | Introduction and background of the friendship between Mohsin and Dahlia | | 0:12:27 | Mohsin's coming out story and how Dahlia was the first person he told | | 0:14:06 | Dahlia's reaction to Mohsin's coming out | | 0:16:06 | Mohsin's inner turmoil and struggles with faith, culture, and family | | 0:18:27 | Matthew's coming out experience in a small town in Ireland | | 0:19:03 | Dahlia's observation of Mohsin's transformation after coming out | | 0:19:32 | Mohsin and Matthew's meeting and marriage | | 0:20:08 | Discussions about family building in their relationship | | 0:20:35 | Comparing their backgrounds and the sense of community from big families | | 0:20:35 | Age difference and discussions about having kids | | 0:21:09 | Importance of discussing family building intentions early on | | 0:21:41 | Considerations and challenges of LGBTQ+ family building | | 0:22:39 | Dahlia offers to be a surrogate as a joke | | 0:23:23 | Dahlia's proposal is taken seriously and discussed further | | 0:24:13 | Excitement and research about surrogacy options | | 0:25:34 | Decision to focus on surrogacy before exploring other options | | 0:26:10 | Podcast idea to have dedicated discussions and do research | | 0:27:46 | Structured conversations with experts and disciplined approach | | 0:29:33 | Dahlia's husband supports her decision without involvement in discussions | | 0:30:52 | Surrogacy in the UK and differences from the US | | 0:31:08 | Introduction to surrogacy in the UK | | 0:31:24 | Differences between UK and US surrogacy laws and costs | | 0:32:14 | Legal differences between UK and US surrogacy | | 0:33:19 | Discussion on the process and agreements in UK surrogacy | | 0:34:51 | Challenges of being friends and surrogacy | | 0:36:16 | Importance of sharing real-time experiences and negotiations | | 0:36:56 | Complexities of long-term relationship with the child | | 0:38:11 | Importance of strong female role models in their children's lives | | 0:39:34 | Plan in case the answer is no revealed in episode 7 | | 0:40:32 | Where to find the podcast and social media handles | | 0:41:35 | Thanking sponsor California Cryobank | | 0:41:56 | Matthew: Love is love | | 0:41:58 | Jamie: Enjoyed the episode, listen/watch another | | 0:42:23 | Jamie: Support show on Patreon, bonus content, love and adoration |

Mia Cooley, founder of xHood, joins Jaimie to discuss her journey as a queer parent and the work she is doing to support black and brown parents and intended parents. Mia shares her experience of having her first child with a previous partner and navigating co-parenting, as well as her journey to having a baby with her current partner. She also discusses the importance of representation and community support for queer families and highlights the work of Exhood in providing resources and events for black queer parents. "We provide family building and nurturing support to black and brown parents and intended parents." - Mia Cooley If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Follow and find Mia Cooley Instagram Facebook Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters.  Vote for us at the Signal Awards! Family & Child-Raising / LGBTQ+ Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP12 | Ed Center is a husband and father who humorously quips that, as two Filipino men, he and his husband defied convention in their journey to parenthood by adopting two wonderful white children. After their eldest child faced a profound mental health challenge during the pandemic, Ed embraced a more inclusive and mindful approach to parenting and learned better ways to support his children. Inspired by his learnings, Ed founded Village Well Parenting, whose mission is to empower and enlighten parents like himself, providing them with the tools and support they need to build strong and resilient families. "Doing the inner work and addressing one's own wounds and triggers is crucial for effective parenting." Ed Center "Queer parents often have a unique perspective and approach to parenting that can be valuable in creating a supportive and inclusive environment for their children." Ed Center If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Follow and find Ed Center https://www.villagewellparenting.com IG: @villagewellparenting TikTok: @queerbrowndad Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP11 | Cara Cochrane, also known as caras_atl on social media, discusses her late-life coming out, forming a blended family, and how the challenges she faced in finding her identity prompted her to become the representation she so lacked during her Southern upbringing.  She also speaks about the media's lack of diversity, the intricacies of raising a child in a two-mom family in the American South, and the importance of recognizing and validating all parents within a family unit, regardless of DNA or gender. "Representation matters because it shows kids that there are different types of families and that they are valid and loved." - Cara Cochrane If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP10 | Chelsea and Megan share their journey to parenthood as a trans woman and cis woman couple. They met online, u-hauled it (in true lesbian fashion), and quickly began their queer baby-making process. After trying the “natural” way for quite some time, they decided to switch to fertility treatments. After a long journey filled with insurance drama, unfair BMI biases, and body dysmorphia they finally successfully conceived their son, Jameson through IVF. They discuss their emotional pregnancy, including Chelsea’s process of transcending her yearning to experience pregnancy and childbirth by embarking on the path of inducing lactation. Their resilience and determination in the face of adversity serve as a walking, breathing testament to the intentionality and love that drive queer parents everywhere, proving that love is love, and the kids are truly going to be all right. "We met online prior to Chelsea's transition. She told me on our third date." - Megan “So they said I was going to have to lose about at least 20 pounds to qualify for their loophole process, which was to go to another state to do the egg retrieval.” Megan If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP9 | Trigger Warning: Miscarriage is mentioned in this episode. Sam and Brook, a married couple from Canada, share their unique journey of love, family, and fertility. They met through a mutual friend and reconnected after the friend's passing. Brook, who is transgender, and Sam, who identifies as AFAB pansexual, navigated their relationship while raising Sam’s three children from previous relationships. They decided to expand their family through RIVF, going through the challenges of fertility treatments and the emotional rollercoaster of a miscarriage. Despite the obstacles, they remain hopeful and determined to have a child together. Their story highlights the complexities and joys of blended families and the resilience of love. "I'm still coming out all the time. And it's hard because there's some sort of level of shame that you have, that the new generation just doesn't have, they're just like, “This is who I am. And this is me, take it or leave it.” But, our generation… there's still some shame behind it, so it's hard." - Brook If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP7 | Bethany Grace Howe transitioned at the age of 47, after seeing an image of Kaitlyn Jenner on the cover of a magazine and realizing that she too, was trans. Suddenly and somewhat out of the blue, Bethany's true identity was painfully clear, and hiding it was not an option. Now she and her 13-year-old daughter Nola are here to talk about their experience as a family together. "Bravery is running into a burning building. I ran out of it." Bethany If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 EP7 | To live as his authentic self in his native Transylvania, Stefan would have been forced into bottom surgery and a hysterectomy, rendering him sterile. So like most trans guys in his country, he got his testosterone on the black market and lived on the DL. Now he lives in the US with his wife, and while the country is not nearly as inclusive as he was led to believe, he at least has had the opportunity to begin the family-building process with his wife. After nearly a decade on testosterone, Stefan recently froze his eggs. He wanted to share his story in the hopes of opening up new possibilities for others like him and to challenge commonly held beliefs about the impact of testosterone on fertility. "If you want to change your name to match your gender, you have to sue the government and go through a medical panel. And you have to have bottom surgery and a hysterectomy and remove your ovaries. That is required for you to change your name." Stefan From Transylvania If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Resources mentioned in the episode: RMA Progyny Mount Sinai Center of Transgender Health Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 E6 BONUS | Michael and Matt have been in the process of creating their 2-dad family for quite some time and they're chronicling that process on their new podcast "Who's Your Daddy."  They sat down with Jaimie to explore their path from an initial foster-to-adopt plan to the world of surrogacy with an egg donor, and how they’ve tackled the many difficult decisions that go along with it: Should they work with an agency or pursue an independent route? How far are they willing to travel for their surrogate? How will they navigate the emotional implications if one of them ends up without a biological connection when they both really want one? How will they afford this? And WHO on earth will their surrogate be? So many questions, so many decisions to make, and they’re still very much on this rollercoaster we call queer family building.  “We ended up with 4 embryo’s on my end and 1 on Michael’s end. We’re hoping to each have a biological child but you can’t control nature.” Matt Listen to Who’s Your Daddy with Michael and Matt If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 Ep 5 | TW: This episode covers sensitive topics including sexual abuse, self-harm, and addiction. Please proceed with caution and consider your emotional well-being before listening. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, please seek help from a trusted professional or support organization. Your mental health matters. Danny tells us how falling pregnant while in the throws of addiction turned out to be the catalyst for an ultimate transformation; becoming a sober and healed parent to 2-year-old Wilder, proving that sometimes life's most unexpected twists lead to the most profound blessings. We also explore Danny's journey towards self-realization as a transmasculine non-binary individual and the reasons behind Danny's mission to redefine masculinity. "I relapsed in my sex addiction, and I ended up with the biggest blessing of my entire life, unexpectedly" Danny Follow Danny on Instagram TikTok YouTube If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

Digging deep into the "A" in LGBTQI"A". Aline Mayard is a single parent who happens to be asexual, aromantic, and nonbinary. They also host the Tribeca Award Winning podcast, "Free From Desire: Asexual In The City Of Love." Aline talks about their difficult path to accepting their Ace and Aro identity, challenges us to rethink what intimacy is, and to question why we're so obsessed with sex as a society. "I don't see myself in a romantic or a sexual relationship, but there are other, what I call, physical relationships." Aline Listen to Free From Desire If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast onPatreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here.

 The Queer Family Podcast | S13 Ep 3 | Kate Brooks is the author of "Transister, Raising Twins In A Gender-Bending World," an affirming and honest account of her young daughter's transition. Kate gives us a candid, straight, cis-gendered mother's perspective on what it was like for her to go from having what she thought were twin "boys" to ultimately having a son and a daughter who are both happy, healthy, kind - and thankfully, alive. This family's journey is one of discovery, celebration, and love.  "He said to me, "Mama, when I was in your tummy, it was a mistake. I was supposed to come out a girl." Kate Brooks "In order to be counted you have to be part of the conversation, or it's like you don't exist." Kate Brooks Buy Kates Book Visit transistermom.com Visit Gender Family Project If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.

The Queer Family Podcast | S13 Ep 2 | Peggy Gillespie is the co-director of Family Diversity Projects, a non-profit that has created 10 different photo/text exhibits celebrating underrepresented folks over the years, the author of Authentic Selves, a mom to a nonbinary kiddo, and a self-described queer hippie from the 60s. When we tell you that this changemaker has been pushing boundaries and making a difference her whole life, we're not kidding. "A child should wear what they feel comfortable in." Peggy Gillespie Buy Authentic Selves, Celebrating Trans and Nonbinary People and Their Families Email Peggy at familydiversityprojects@gmail.com Visit familydiversityprojects.org If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! Thanks to Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM)  and our Patreon supporters!  Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube! thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. We want to hear from you! Email us at thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com Buy our merch here. Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here.