The Questionable Podcast (formerly But First Coffee)

When you’re an online creator or entrepreneur you’re told (and expected) to share yourself and your life very vulnerably and openly. I spent a lot time sharing ALL of my life and myself in an attempt to grow my brand & business to create the life I wanted for myself & my family. Turns out not sharing is just as important and valuable as what you do share. Let’s talk about the pedestal we put mentors, teachers & gurus on, what they teach us and what we make it all mean, as well as developing and utilizing our own inner authority to find our way in life. And the biggest point I want to make: you are not your business/products/services/creations. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

When I was in my coaching certification course, “the breakdown before the breakthrough” was a VERY common saying but I never understood what it actually meant or why it was even necessary. Let’s dive into it today --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

One statement that we’re told as kids has ramifications that effect your marriage. This episode dives into the “don’t be mean. You won’t have any friends” teaching we picked up as a child and we’re pulling it apart of see how it’s creating problems in your marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

In every area of personality profiling and self development - from DISC & Enneagrams to Astrology & Human Design - I’ve watched people use their results as a way to disempower and limit themselves. So let’s talk about the latest piece I’ve seen and discover why it’s a bunch of bullsh*t & crushing your marriage --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

The journey of accepting my 2-line natural genius, the foundation of my marriage and finally seeing what’s being reflected back to me. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Such an interesting phrase used in the coaching and “manifestation” industries. I wanna dive into it and pick it apart a bit so we can find the truth underneath it. What does it really mean? Is it helpful or harmful? How do I actually walk my path in life if there’s nothing I have to do? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Receiving and holding more in your nervous system & energetic container. How does it really work? Do you really need to strengthen your nervous system & increase your energetic capacity? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It’s easy to get caught up in someone else’s ideas about what your goals are and what you should be doing if you don’t know your limits. Knowing your limits and honoring your boundaries is what creates your freedom and expansion. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Oh how our language & communication needs some serious work. Want the cliff notes version of this episode: you can only have an opinion on things you have actually experienced. Otherwise you need to learn to shut the f* up. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Are you in survival mode? How do you get out of it & how do you find your path forward? What about quantum leaps & reaching the next level? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

How do you know if your relationship is correct or not? What if your paths don’t cross anymore? Letting your partner be their differentiated self. The unconscious manipulation we use on others. And other relationship related things. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

What’s it really based in? Isn’t change the base of our biological and energetic mechanics? Why would something so foundational to us be a fear? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

As we change from tribal and “we gotta reproduce” to a whole different need & style for relating, are you ok with it? Or are you still perpetuating the old-school dynamics in the posts you share & comments you make? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Are you in the pre-frame or post-frame personally? We’re in a pre-frame collectively. What’s that even mean? Why does it matter? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

This season is different in a lot of ways but mainly bc these episodes are more for new than they are for you. This season is about externalization. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We’ve been taught a lot of things about goalsetting and manifestation. One of those things is the importance of detachment but as a fellow control freak, I like to feel like I am in control, and I tend to get very attached to achieving that specific goal. So let’s talk about how I’ve learned to detach and understand why that is so important. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Part of me thinks this episode is a little controversial just because of the title. I encourage you to listen to the whole episode so you can understand what it is. I’m talking about. Our need to try and live a life that is “all good” keeps us stuck, uncomfortable, and quite frankly, miserable when that is not what we’re meant for. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It seems like the decisions about letting go of things, knowing what to let go of and when to let go of them is one of the hardest things for people to feel OK about doing. The times that I see the most personal gaslighting is around the decision to leave or let go. So let’s get specific to know what to let go of and when to do it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It’s really easy for us to get caught up in the busyness of life; all the errands, appointments, work, & to do lists. But being caught up in the busyness makes it hard to be aware of what our body & intuition is telling us we need & when they’re telling us we need it. Which then makes us live in a tank that isn’t full. So what do we change so we can live with a full tank? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We love to earn that badge of honor for working hard and making lots of sacrifices. Let’s dive into what hard work and sacrifice truly mean and how they get to support you in creating the life you want for yourself. These are the two things that support you manifesting and creating what you want, but they are often distorted and misinterpreted. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support