The Raising Humans Kind Podcast

In this episode I dive into why guilt is so important for children to feel. I talk about what it looks like for them to defend against it and 3 ways that we can help them really stay in the moment to allow the natural consequence to play out. Last week's episode on vulnerability is here: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/5-reasons-children-need-to-feel-their-vulnerability/id1607415212?i=1000612761789 Instagram: @raisinghumanskind

In this episode I share 5 of the reasons why it's so important for children to feel and access their vulnerability. I dive into what it looks like when they are accessing that state of vulnerability and what it looks like when they're more defended against that vulnerability. This episode will help you know exactly what to look for in your child and why it's so essential to keep your child's heart open to the world. Instagram: @raisinghumanskind website: holisticfamilypsychologist.com Feeling Fables workshop: Coming Soon

This is the 4th episode on this mini series where I unpack different ways of looking at picky eating. The important link I make in today's episode is how an imbalanced microbiome can influence a child's desire for a variety of food. If this is the case, that a child's gut health needs attention, then their selective eating isn't a "wait it out issue", it becomes much more of a "work it out issue". It could mean that the selective eating is simply a symptom, or a red flag, showing us that there is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed. Listen to the first episode in this minis series on picky eating called "Our Long Term Relationship with Food - What really Matters" here: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-raising-humans-kind-podcast/id1607415212?i=1000605248444 Instagram : @raisinghumanskind Freebie available now on The A.R.T. of Conscious Repair : https://holisticfamilypsychologist.com/repairfreebie

Sometimes we get caught up in the detail and lose sight of the depth and the destination that is needed. And this is what is happening around food. We are getting caught up on the "right" and "wrong" things to say or do in the moment but we're losing the depth that is required to arrive at the destination we all care about most. In this episode I highlight the 3 most important factors that I see as being essential in our child's long term relationship with food. This is the first episode in a 4 part series where I will share a lot more about boundaries and health and picky eating. Instagram : @raisinghumanskind

A common recommendation is to "find the yes" with young children when you're saying no to something. This can be really powerful but can also get in the way of getting to the heart of the matter with your child's challenging behaviours, particularly their unrelenting requests. In this episode I share: - when NOT to 'find the yes' and why - what to do instead of finding the yes - when it works well to 'find the yes' Follow along at instagram : @raisinghumanskind

Society has a strong message around not allowing children to avoid hard things. And it's a good point but there is more nuance to the conversation that is needed. In today's episode I outline the difference between hardening hard versus healthy hard. Why sometimes you're prioritising not avoiding and why that's so important. And what key ingredient you need for your child to access their bravery.  For more, follow along at instagram @raisinghumanskind

This episode is all about family centred living. This is the place where we can get our needs met at the same time as our children can have their own needs met, it's not about parents or children, it's both. I share in today's episode 5 examples of family centred living and how it works in my own life. Find Rachel Rainbolt who I refer to inside this episode on instagram @sagefamily and her website sagefamily.com Follow me along over at instagram @raisinghumanskind or visit my website: holisticfamilypsychologist.com Grab the cooperation Freebie : holisticfamilypsychologist.com/cooperation

The question I get always is: "But playfulness makes things worse with my kid! They get so hyperactive, they never want to stop!" In this episode I offer the most important mindset shift for you to consider when entering into playfulness with your child. Changing the way you think and what to expect will shift the way in which you can enjoy this incredible form of connection with your kid. Grab my FREE "Day in the Life of Gaining Cooperation":  holisticfamilypsychologist.com/cooperation

We've all had that thought - my kid can't play!! But is that true, or do they just need you to be able to hold them through the boredom and the challenge that arises in that space until they can move into their play? Today I share a real life example of moving my kids from a very hyperactive and challenging state into their self directed play. It took a long time! But I hope this shows you what is possible and how powerful play really is when it comes to moving our kids through their difficult emotions. FREE "Day in the Life of Gaining Cooperation" : holisticfamilypsychologist.com/cooperation

In this episode, Ashleigh has a very special guest - Her husband, Mike. Ashleigh asks him about one parenting choice that they didn't automatically agree on - PLAY. Mike wanted to play with his kids a lot, thinking that it made him the involved dad that he wanted to be. However, Ashleigh knows that self directed play is a major need in children's development and that it must be protected. This episode is all about how they navigated that difference. If you want to join me inside The K.I.N.D Collective, the membership is open for 1 MORE DAY! : https://learning.holisticfamilypsychologist.com/bundles/The-Raising-Humans-Collective.

In this episode I help you understand the children who have a tendency to avoid feeling their more vulnerable feelings. These kids have a tendency to get stuck in mad and rarely move into their more sad and disappointed feelings. I share 3 reasons WHY kids tend to avoid their feelings and I share 3 things that we can do in the moment to support them to move INTO their feelings. If you want to join me inside The K.I.N.D Collective, the membership is open this week only : https://learning.holisticfamilypsychologist.com/bundles/The-Raising-Humans-Collective.

In this episode I talk about the important NEED of immaturity and why we need to slow down and let our children be children. I share a personal example from my own family and the importance of allowing children the time to learn the skills they need to navigate social interactions with other children. I also outline what developmentally appropriate social interactions would look like for kids if we were following the developmental science and why we shouldn't judge our children for not fitting into what society says they should. FREE lesson on "The 6 Signs of a Stuck Kid" - grab this to learn more about those "work it out" behaviours and when we can't just "wait it out." https://holisticfamilypsychologist.com/stuckkid The Raising Humans Kind Collective : A membership for parents of stuck and sensitive kids  https://learning.holisticfamilypsychologist.com/bundles/The-Raising-Humans-Collective 7 Fundamental N.E.E.Ds of Early Childhood Episode : The last episode where I dive into the needs of young children, which is how we support their environment. https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-7-fundamental-n-e-e-ds-of-early-childhood/id1607415212?i=1000593599003 Instagram : @raisinghumanskind

In this episode I share the 7 fundamental N.E.E.Ds of early childhood. These provide the very conditions that allow a child to flourish into true maturity and into a self regulated adult. For each need I outline one practical idea that you can focus on today with your own child. These are the fundamentals that we should always be focused on however, are particularly important if our child is stuck. When a child is stuck, it will be because one aspect of one of these 7 needs is not being met and that is what will be causing our child to stay stuck.  If you want to FREE access to "The 6 Signs of a Stuck Kid", just click here and grab the video now: https://holisticfamilypsychologist.com/stuckkid If you want to join us inside my membership space, The Collective, when we open January 25th, pop your name on the wait list here :  https://learning.holisticfamilypsychologist.com/bundles/The-Raising-Humans-Collective And for more information on stuck and sensitive kids follow along @raisinghumanskind

In this episode I will share with you: - Why it's so important to understand our more sensitive children - Why sensitive children are more easily stuck than other children - What is means to be stuck and what we can do to support our stuck kids - What part parents can play in getting their stuck kid back on track - Plus, I run through a detailed example of what to do in a situation common in many households in a way that supports more sensitive children to mature into adults who can regulate their emotions.  Hint: it's NOT about teaching more emotional regulation skills.  Dive Deeper: FREE lesson on 6 Signs of a Stuck Kid https://holisticfamilypsychologist.com/stuckkid Dr Gordon Neufeld coined the term stuck kids and has pioneered the developmental science that guides this episode. You can check out his work and courses here: https://neufeldinstitute.org/ If you wish to dive into my membership, The Raising Humans Collective, you can pop your name on the wait list or find out more by clicking below. We open January 25th 2023: https://learning.holisticfamilypsychologist.com/bundles/The-Raising-Humans-Collective And for more guidance on stuck and sensitive kids,  follow along my instagram page @raisinghumanskind

This week I share the first Small Shift, Deep Roots idea.Tricks and hacks don't work in parenting, especially with kids in really tricky seasons. But small shifts that have deep roots can make big differences.In this week's episode, I share about something I call The Soft Close.Join the membership waitlist : holisticfamilypsychologist.com/waitlist