The ReMasculation Podcast with Mikaal Bates

DescriptionIn this episode of the Remasculation Podcast, I sit down with renowned philosopher, facilitator, and author Oak Mountain for a moving conversation on the complexities of masculinity in modern society. Inspired by the recent “No Kings” protest, we delve into the complexities of clarifying and revitalizing the king archetype. We examine the deep need for masculine initiations, the impact of historical trauma on the relationships between men and women, and the vital role that women can and should play in men’s growth. Here is what we explore:The deeper societal issues highlighted by the “No Kings” protestThe importance of understanding the king archetypeHow historical trauma around the masculine has created confusion and hurtThe healing of the father archetypeThe dangers of idolizing archetypes over recognizing innate humanityReframing toxic masculinity as shadow masculinityHow initiations are crucial in creating mature masculinityThis conversation is an invitation to join us on Oak’s and my shared mission to call forward support the evolution and maturation of deeply needed masculinity across the world.  CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Healthy Masculinity02:26 Protests and the Concept of Kings04:41 Understanding the Hero's Journey07:58 Conflating King with Tyrant11:56 The Impact of Historical Trauma on Masculinity15:13 Atonement with the Father Archetype18:44 Deification vs. Iconography in Masculinity21:38 Navigating the Nuances of Masculinity23:17 Toxic Masculinity and Its Misinterpretations27:03 The Importance of Initiation for Men30:33 The Power of In-Person Conversations33:43 Navigating Masculinity and Empathy37:56 The Role of Women in Empowering Men40:19 The Importance of Being Needed44:56 The Dance of Masculine and Feminine Energy48:48 Ego, Humility, and the King Archetype52:55 Personal Growth and Community Engagement56:51 Reclaiming Purpose and Authenticity01:02:59 Buck stops here clip edited.mp4🔗 CONNECT WITH OAK MOUNTAINFree access to No More Heroes 5 Day Mythic Men's Summit: nomoreheroes.ca/summitFree archetype quiz: beyondthehero.ca/archetype-quizInstagram: @mythicmystic_ Connect with Oak: https://beyondthehero.ca/mythic-insight-sessionCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODE⚔️ The King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program🌍 My Work: mikaalbates.com📲 Instagram: @mikaal_bates

In this episode of the ReMasculation Podcast, I sit down with intimacy guide and tantric mentor Olivia (Liv Love) Pavlov for a heartfelt, unfiltered, and revelatory conversation about reclaiming sexuality as a sacred act.Together, we dive into what it means to be in service to love, how shame gets lodged in the body, and why pleasure, presence, and prayer belong together.We talk about sex magic, body presentations, Catholic guilt, and the difference between real turn-on and performative desire.This one’s for the man who wants to move beyond guilt and into power.And for the woman who knows there's more to sex than what culture told her.Liv shares her path from religious repression to radical reclamation—and why making love to life starts with presence in your own body.If you've ever felt that sex could be sacred—but didn’t know how to get there—this episode is your portal.Here’s what we explore:Why men need permission to be all of themselvesWhat a Dakini is and how she servesHow to rewire shame around sex through presenceWhy Tantra isn’t what you think it isHow to turn self-pleasure into a prayerWhat sex magic means (and how to do it)How to use your body as a battery for creationThe difference between porn and sacred eroticismReclaiming power, wholeness, and the divine spark withinThis conversation is a transmission—one that may help you come home to your own holiness.CHAPTERS 00:00 - Intro 03:13 – What men need most right now 05:25 – What it means to be a Dakini 06:28 – The true meaning of tantra 09:06 – Why can’t shame live in the presence 14:23 – A prayer for sacred sexuality 17:01 – Why Liv tattooed “LOVE” on her chest 23:09 – Meeting the teacher who changed everything 26:57 – Growing up Catholic and the path to Mary 30:58 – The divine feminine and full-circle healing 36:03 – How to turn your body into a battery 41:27 – Sex magic: how it works and why it matters 44:15 – Where to find Liv and go deeper🔗 CONNECT WITH LIV LOVE 💗 Instagram: @livlovetantra 🌹 Website: oliviapavlov.comCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODE ⚔️ The King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program 🌍 My Work: mikaalbates.com 📲 Instagram: @mikaal_bates

In this episode of the ReMasculation Podcast, I sit down with embodiment guide and sacred theater facilitator Madelyn Moon for a rich, playful, and eye-opening conversation about feminine expression, performative trauma, and reclaiming the body as an instrument of power.We talk about the split so many women feel between the version of themselves at work, with friends, and at home, and what it takes to bridge that gap.This one’s for the woman who longs to feel fully alive in her body…And for the man who wants to understand her better.Madelyn brings the fire, the depth, and the artistry.We even meet her “Ice Queen.”If you're tired of the filtered highlight reels and ready for the real… this one's for you.Here’s what we explore:Why women feel split between performance and presenceThe roots of body-based shame and inhibitionHow performance trauma shows up in adulthoodReclaiming the full spectrum of feminine archetypesWhy acting school should be required for everyoneWhat men can learn from sacred theaterThe importance of being witnessed in imperfectionThis episode is a masterclass in creative embodiment for women and the men who love them.Let’s make art out of the mess.CHAPTERS 02:19 – What women want (and why it’s not complicated) 05:40 – Why being seen is both terrifying and sacred 09:36 – The trauma of performance and the need for safety 14:12 – Sacred theater as a path to liberation 19:06 – Mapping your shadows through enactment 24:30 – Madelyn’s journey: from shamanic life to reels and screenplays 30:20 – Creating facilitator training from lived experience 38:52 – Risking expression: how we can hold each other better 41:06 – Madelyn’s Ice Queen speaks🔗 CONNECT WITH MADELYN 🌀 Instagram: @madelynmoon 📕 Book: Artist of LoveCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODE ⚔️ The King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program 🌍 My Work: mikaalbates.com 📲 Instagram: @mikaal_bates

In this candid episode of the ReMasculation Podcast, I sit down with my friend Liv Wickedly — co-founder of Babe Philosophy — to have a real, raw, and sometimes uncomfortable conversation about the wounds between men and women… and how we begin to heal.We talk about everything from feminism and misandry to embodied safety, the cost of emotional self-betrayal, and what it takes to build sacred union.Liv doesn’t hold back. Neither do I.This conversation will challenge your beliefs, open your heart, and maybe even piss you off a little. But if you’re here to evolve — as a man, a woman, a leader, a lover — you’re in the right place.Here’s what we dive into:Why do so many women feel unsafe in their bodiesThe trap of building a personality around painWhat toxic femininity looks likeWhy does vulnerability in men get punishedHow to create emotional safety and sacred polarity in your relationshipIf this lands for you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. This isn’t about sides — it’s about truth.Let’s bring the medicine back to masculinity.CHAPTERS 01:20 – Meet Liv Wickedly: co-founder of Babe Philosophy 03:00 – Why vulnerability in men triggers backlash 04:30 – Liv shares what happened after their viral episode 06:10 – Feminism, misandry & the victimhood trap 08:15 – No one taught us how to relate — and it shows 09:35 – Pain-based identity: Are you building your life from trauma? 12:45 – We’re all living in self-created prisons 14:40 – The mirror effect: how we co-create our partner’s behavior 20:00 – Reclaiming safety in a woman’s body 25:30 – Conscious pickup: How men can approach women with integrity 27:45 – Liv’s body breakdown from self-betrayal and hypermasculinity 36:12 – What feminine power feels like 38:10 – Why emotional safety is the foundation of sacred union🔗 CONNECT WITH LIV 🌀 Liv Wickedly: @livwickedly 🎧 Babe Philosophy PodcastCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODEThe King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program | thekingscode.org My Work: mikaalbates.com Instagram: @mikaal_bates

Together, I explore the crisis facing men today: the loss of initiation, the confusion between feminine energy and actual women, and the deep yearning so many men feel to reclaim their power without losing their heart.This is not about blaming the feminine.It’s about remembering what the masculine truly is: a safe place, a rooted presence, a sacred force in service to life.If you’ve ever asked yourself:Why do I feel so lost in relationships?Can I trust myself again?Where were the elders supposed to guide me?This conversation is for you.It’s a real, raw, and reverent modern-day rite of passage.CHAPTERS(01:25) – The Fallout of Feminism & Modern Masculine Shame(04:26) – The Weight Men Carry (And the Myth of the Independent Woman)(07:47) – Who Leads in a Conscious Relationship?(10:42) – Sourcing Validation from Women vs. Brotherhood(13:08) – Words of Affirmation: Rewiring the Masculine Nervous System(18:44) – Brotherhood, Safety, and the Return of Male Initiation(20:36) – Outsourcing Power vs. Coming Back to Presence(24:51) – Purpose, Presence & What Drives Us(28:55) – Becoming Fluent in the Feminine & Masculine(31:47) – Initiation: From Boy Psychology to Sacred Manhood(33:39) – What I Lost to Become Who I Am(35:26) – Surrendering to the Will That’s Bigger Than You(39:59) – The Transmission of Experience: Why Your Wound Matters(42:04) – Final Words: The Medicine Is in the BrotherhoodCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODEInstagram: @mikaalbatesThe King’s Code (Men’s Initiation): thekingscode.orgPersonal Site: mikaalbates.comThe battlefield between men and women is real.But it doesn’t have to end in war.This is your invitation to turn the battlefield into a garden again.

What happens when a high-powered attorney trades hustle for harmony?In this episode, I sit down with my friend and collaborator, Sloane, founder of The Real Sloane and a former corporate lawyer turned feminine power guide. From scaling and selling her boutique law firm to leading women into their deepest aliveness, Sloane shares the powerful journey that led her from burnout to radiance.We talk about the rise of soft power, embodied success, and what it truly means to lead from pleasure instead of performance. We unpack the cultural conditioning that’s masculinized women in the name of empowerment, and offer another path—one rooted in truth, alignment, and inner magnetism.This conversation is a call to every woman who has “achieved it all” and still feels empty. A call to every man wondering what it really looks like to partner with a woman in her power. And a call to all of us ready to reimagine what true union looks like in the modern world.If you’ve ever found yourself asking:Can I be successful without sacrificing my feminine essence?What is powerful femininity—and how do I live it?How do we create healthy partnerships rooted in truth, devotion, and purpose?Then this episode is for you.CHAPTERS(01:57) – Finding a King While Becoming a Queen(04:10) – From Boss Babe to Burnt Out: Sloane’s Corporate Rise and Reckoning(08:21) – Why She Sold Her Law Firm and Chose a New Path(12:42) – Attention is Provision: Teaching Men to Stay Present(15:14) – Inside the Queen Retreat: Healing Between Men and Women(19:17) – The War Men Are Fighting & The Love Women Can Offer(25:23) – The Five Core Beliefs Framework(28:48) – What Makes a Woman Magnetic?(30:04) – Redefining Powerful Femininity(37:10) – Why We’re Afraid to Feel and the Courage to Be Alive(41:11) – Hysteria, Childbirth & the History of Silencing Women(45:00) – What’s Keeping Women From Fully Living?(47:21) – The Practice of True Pleasure and Aliveness(50:04) – Balancing Masculine Stillness with Feminine Movement(52:00) – A Final Blessing for All Who Are Ready to Live FullyCONNECT WITH SLOANEWebsite: https://www.therealsloane.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/heartandsloaneCONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODEThe King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program | https://www.thekingscode.orgMy Work: https://www.mikaalbates.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_bates

What happens when a powerful feminine leader trades hustle for harmony?In this episode, I sit down with my dear sister and co-conspirator, Aimee Batuski…co-founder of Desire on Fire and one of the fiercest feminine forces I know. Aimee and I explore what it really takes for women to receive conscious masculine leadership and how cultural narratives have distorted our ability to connect in truth. We talk about boss babe burnout, feminine reclamation, and the radical act of learning to love and trust men in a culture that teaches the opposite.This conversation is both tender and fierce…a mirror for anyone who’s ever found themselves asking:🔥 Why can’t I trust men?🔥 Am I actually a match for the partner I say I want? 🔥 What does a conscious, empowered relationship really look like?Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in-between, this episode is your permission slip to drop the blame, do the work, and create the intimacy you long for...starting with yourself.This is the path of Sacred Union. And it begins with you.CHAPTERS (02:56) – Do You Really Want a Conscious Man… or Control? (05:20) – The Sword of Truth: When a Man Reflects Your Shadow (08:35) – Why Women Reject Healthy Masculine Leadership (13:11) – Are You a Match for the Partner You Desire? (17:37) – The Energy of Purpose: Why It’s So Attractive (20:02) – Reverse Honeymoon & the Real Work of Sacred Union (24:53) – The Power of Feminine Containers Like Desire on Fire (28:10) – Misandry, Misogyny & Taking Radical Responsibility (32:04) – The Case for Healthy Patriarchy (39:12) – The Real Reason You’re Not Getting the Relationship You Want (40:31) – How to Receive Leadership from a Conscious Man (43:23) – The Power of Vulnerable Requests: “May I Have Help?” (46:42) – Sacred Sales: Why Transformation is Worth Fighting For🔗 CONNECT WITH AIMEE BATUKSI Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Desire on Fire: https://www.desireonfire.com Podcast: Desire on Fire Podcast🔗 CONNECT WITH ME & THE KING’S CODE The King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program | https://www.thekingscode.orgMy Work: https://www.mikaalbates.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_batesYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@MikaalBatesThe real work starts when the fairytales end. This is about embodied leadership, fierce love, and choosing power over performance.Let’s rise together.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Luke Everidge & Damon Sweeney, two men at opposite ends of life’s spectrum…one the youngest and the other the eldest graduate of The King’s Code.Together, we explore the necessity of purpose, the power of brotherhood, and the role of a higher calling in forging trustable, grounded, and powerful men.This isn’t just a conversation. It’s an invitation.Too many men today feel lost…disconnected from their mission, alone in their struggles, and drowning in distractions that rob them of presence and power. The modern world has stripped us of rites of passage, mentorship, and deep brotherhood—but that ends here. If you’ve ever asked yourself: 🔥 What’s my purpose? 🔥 Why do I struggle to trust myself or other men? 🔥 What does it mean to be truly sovereign as a man?Then this episode will shift something in you.CHAPTERS (01:25) – What Does It Mean to Be a Conscious Man? (04:09) – Finding Purpose: Why Every Man Needs a Mission (07:03) – Stripping Away the Bullsh*t: Awakening Through Nature (12:54) – The Power of Brotherhood: Why You Can’t Do This Alone (17:06) – The Illusion of Perfection: How Men Sabotage Their Own Growth (20:52) – Why Every Man Needs a Council of Brothers (27:48) – Serving Something Greater: The Ultimate Path to Freedom (32:35) – Rewiring Your Mind: Escaping the Traps of Society (37:36) – Why the World Needs Strong Men Now More Than Ever (45:22) – Taking Back Your Attention: The War for Your Mind (50:33) – A Call to Men: You Are The One We’ve Been Waiting ForThis isn’t just about self-improvement. This is about remasculation…reclaiming what was lost and becoming the kind of man the world needs right now.🔗 CONNECT WITH DAIMON & LUKEDaimon’s work:Daimon Sweeney | Neuromastery – neuromastery.ioLuke's social:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/igotleveridge/🔗 CONNECT WITH ME & THE KINGS CODEThe King’s Code – A Men’s Initiatory Program | thekingscode.orgMY WORK – mikaalbates.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_bates/ The work isn’t for everyone…but if it’s for you, you’ll know.

In this episode of The Remasculation Podcast, I talk with Tanai Milgram and Quinn—two women who have walked the path of deep feminine reclamation, breaking free from societal conditioning and stepping into their true power.This isn’t just a conversation—it’s a transmission. A glimpse into what happens when men and women step beyond societal conditioning and into conscious, empowered relationships.This episode will shift your perspective.TIMESTAMPS  (00:03:15) – Why Women Shut Down Their Softness (And How to Reclaim It) (00:07:45) – The True Power of Feminine Vulnerability (00:12:30) – Masculinity is Medicine, Not Toxicity (00:17:20) – The Sisterhood Wound: Healing Women’s Competitive Conditioning (00:28:15) – Why Women Fear Emotionally Available Men (00:33:30) – The Power of Leadership: Why a Strong-Spined Man is a Turn-On(00:38:50) – The Shift from Competing with Men to Trusting Them(00:49:25) – How Society Conditions Women to Suppress Their Expression(00:54:40) – From Boy to Man: The King’s Code & Transformational Men’s Work(01:05:30) – Final Feminine Transmission: The Invitation for Men to RiseThis Work Isn’t for Everyone—But If It’s For You, You’ll KnowThis episode isn’t just a discussion. It’s an invitation.Men are anxious, disconnected from purpose, and struggling with leadership because they lack true initiatory experiences and brotherhood. Women are shutting down their emotional power and suppressing their true essence in order to compete with men.🔗 The King’s Code: thekingscode.org🔗 My Website: mikaalbates.com

In this episode of The Remasculation Podcast, I sit down with Sean Greenwalt and Isaiah Jacob, two men who have walked through the crucible of The King’s Code—a men’s initiatory rite of passage designed to burn away the boy, forge the man, and call forth the king.This isn’t just a conversation—it’s a transmission. A glimpse into what happens when a man truly commits to his own evolution.If you’ve ever asked yourself:🔥 Why don’t I fully trust myself?🔥 Why do I struggle with brotherhood?🔥 What does it mean to be truly trustable—as a leader, as a man, as a partner?This episode will shake something loose in you.📍 TIMESTAMPS:(00:01:33) – What Is The King’s Code? A Rite of Passage for Modern Men(00:02:55) – Isaiah’s Journey: Searching for True Masculine Leadership(00:06:34) – Sean’s Story: Why He Knew He Needed to Go Deeper(00:10:17) – The Hardest Truth: If You Don’t Trust Other Men, You Don’t Trust Yourself(00:14:09) – The Masculine & Death: Why Facing Your Own Mortality Sets You Free(00:18:04) – The Power of Brotherhood: Why Every Man Needs a Battalion(00:24:15) – What Actually Happens Inside The King’s Code(00:31:42) – What Happens When a Man Stands in His Own Energy(00:37:29) – The Meaning of Providership: A New (and Ancient) Vision(00:41:43) – How This Work Changes Your Relationship with Women(00:47:24) – Isaiah’s Near-Death Experience & The Presence of God(00:50:06) – The Hardest Ask: Learning to Request Support as a Man💡 This Work Isn’t for Everyone—But If It’s For You, You’ll KnowThis episode isn’t just a conversation. It’s a challenge.Men are anxious, depressed, and disconnected from purpose and direction because they lack brotherhood, structure, and true initiatory experiences.🔥 That changes now. 🔥If you’re ready to step into a level of power, clarity, and purpose you’ve never touched before, I invite you to step forward.🔗 The King’s Code: thekingscode.org🔗 Mikaal’s Website: mikaalbates.comFollow Sean: https://www.instagram.com/wee_gr33nie/Follow Isaiah Jacob: https://www.instagram.com/theisaiahjacob/

On today’s episode, we dive deep into the essence of presence, authenticity, and trustable masculinity with Vance McMurry—a man who embodies both warrior strength and deep sensitivity. From his elite military background to his profound work in sacred masculinity, leadership, and relationships, Vance shares his insights on how men can reclaim their presence, heal relational wounds, and create strong, trustable containers for themselves and others.This conversation explores the core struggles men face today—trusting themselves, trusting other men, and being trusted by women. We discuss how societal conditioning has impacted modern masculinity and offer a practical roadmap to becoming a deeply present, grounded, and authentic man.If you or someone you know is navigating the balance between strength and sensitivity, power and presence, or seeking deeper connection in brotherhood, leadership, and relationships, listen to this episode today.CHAPTERS:⏳ (00:00:54) - The Gift of Presence: Masculinity as Medicine⏳ (00:02:21) - Warrior & Sage: The Balance of Strength and Sensitivity⏳ (00:05:37) - The Sacred Union Crisis: Why Men and Women Are Divided⏳ (00:07:34) - How We Met: Brotherhood, Leadership, and Presence⏳ (00:09:39) - The Technology of Presence: Unlocking Deep Connection⏳ (00:12:32) - The Missing Skills in Modern Relationships⏳ (00:14:27) - The Masculine Gift: Honing Your Presence as a Man⏳ (00:19:38) - Holding the Room: The Art of Silent Strength⏳ (00:24:42) - The Five Keys to Trustable Masculinity⏳ (00:30:08) - Why Men Struggle to Trust Themselves (and Each Other)⏳ (00:41:57) - The Trigger Trap: Healing Relationship Wounds⏳ (00:46:02) - Women Don’t Trust Men—Men Don’t Trust Themselves⏳ (00:52:23) - Reclaiming Masculine Presence in a Distracted World⏳ (00:57:29) - Loving Without Need: The Path to Unshakable Presence⏳ (01:03:10) - Final Thoughts: Owning Your Power and AuthenticityConnect with Michael Bates & The King’s Code:Join The King’s Code – The men's initiatory program I co-lead in Austin: thekingscode.orgFollow My Work – mikaalbates.comWomen's Work with Amy & Ellie – desireonfire.comVance McMurry: @mcmurv

In this episode, Mikaal Bates and returning guest Jordan Mockingbird delve into the depths of men's work, weaving in the timeless wisdom of J.R.R. Tolkien's mythology. Together, they explore the archetype of the king, the balance of power, and the spiritual significance of Tolkien's Return of the King.This conversation unfolds profound insights into how modern men can embody authenticity, leadership, and divine masculinity while honoring ancient traditions and sacred practices. Tune in to uncover the intersection of myth, masculine healing, and practical tools for personal growth.Highlights of the Episode[00:00:28] - Introduction to Men's Work and Tolkien's Archetypes: Exploring the parallels between J.R.R. Tolkien's Return of the King and the resurgence of divine masculine principles in modern men's work.[04:00:00] - Aragorn’s Journey and Modern Masculinity: Discussing the transition from ranger to king and its lessons for men stepping into rightful leadership and balance.[07:29:00] - Facing Egoic Deaths for True Kingship: The path to authenticity and stepping out of concealment as a metaphor for reclaiming divine masculine power.[13:11:00] - Myth and Integration: The role of Tolkien's fellowship as a model for collaborative leadership and healing within the men's community.[42:20:00] - The Tantra of Plants and Ancestral Healing: Exploring the spiritual and physiological effects of plant diets, such as tobacco, to balance masculine and feminine energies.Connect with the Speakers:Mikaal BatesMikaal is a transformational coach and men’s work facilitator focused on leadership, sacred union, and personal growth. His teachings draw deeply from mythology, archetypes, and embodied practices to inspire authenticity and purpose in men.Website/Programs: Explore The King's Code and other offerings on Mikaal’s official website https://www.thekingscode.orgSocial Media: Connect with Mikaal on Instagram or LinkedIn to stay updated on his workshops and retreats. https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_bates/Events: Attend Mikaal's retreats and events, such as the Sacred Union Retreats, for in-person transformational experiences. https://www.desireonfirelive.com/ssJordan MockingbirdJordan is a plant medicine practitioner and storyteller specializing in sacred tobacco diets and ancestral healing. His work bridges shamanic traditions with modern men's work, offering unique tools for inner balance and growth.Website/Programs: Learn about Jordan’s offerings, including the Inner Union Tobacco Diet, on his official platform. www.treediets.comSocial Media: Follow Jordan on Instagram or YouTube for insights into plant medicine and spiritual practices. https://www.instagram.com/mknbrd/Ceremonies & Diets: Join one of Jordan’s ceremonies or retreats to experience the transformative power of sacred plants firsthand.

Pornography is a multi-billion dollar industry that siphons off our life-force energy for commercial gain. Like almost every man in the modern era, I have had my own struggles with porn and masturbation so in today’s episode we sit down with Tyson Adams to explore the full depth and sinister implications of pornography on masculinity and male development. Tyson, being 9 years sober from a porn addiction that lasted over two decades, has gained some incredible wisdom that he now shares with men who desire to break this self destructive habit. From the biological impact and physical addiction to the mental, spiritual, and relational damage it causes, Tyson is an expert in understanding what this cheap substitute for intimacy is costing us as men in the modern world. In the age of Virtual Reality and Artificial Intelligence, it is more important now than ever before to shine a light on these vices and adopt a responsible perspective on our sacred sexual essence. Trust me when I say, this episode has information that almost every man in your life will need at some point in his life.  Check the links below to connect with Tyson Adams and the work he's doing in the world Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tysonadams__/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/adams.tyson References in this Episode The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Montak Chia Kama Sutra by Vātsyāyana -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:00) - Introductions (0:01:46) - Common Experiences and Normalizing Discussions (0:06:49) - The Scale & Impact of Porn Consumption (0:11:39) - Commercialization of Life Force Energy (0:14:44) - The Addictive Nature of Pornography (0:20:19) - The Dangers of VR & AI in the Porn Industry (0:30:06) - Integrating Healthy Sexuality in Men’s Work (0:35:49) - Raising our Children in a World with Porn (0:38:15) - The Journey of Sacred Sexuality & Multi-Orgasmic Capabilities (0:46:42) - The Power of Semen Retention (0:53:10) - Navigating the Shadow Side of the Sacred Sexuality Space -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Sex, Porn, Pornography, Sex, Sex Addiction, Porn Addiction, Life Force Energy, Semen, Sexual Trauma, Recovery, Semen Retention, Sexual Dysfunction, Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Infertility, Objectification, Playboy, Nudity, Social Media, Sexuality, Sacred Union, Energy, Kundalini, Tantra, Virtual Reality, Artificial Intelligence, Parenting, Childhood Trauma

#18 - “The Essence of Masculine Truth,” with Oak Mountain This episode is a continuation of a conversation I had on The Smiling Human Podcast with the one and only, Oak Mountain. Oak is a master of language with a background in Philosophy, Psychology, Eastern Traditions and Personal Development who has dedicated his life to a path of seeking wisdom and serving others. As one can expect, we spend a lot of time discussing the development of healthy Masculinity in this episode. Specifically, Oak brings awareness to how development and growth emerges not by looking into the past or future, but only by orientating one’s awareness to the present moment with courage and willingness.  Along with the importance of present moment awareness, Oak and I speak to the power of telling the truth and the difference between objective truths, or facts, and individual truths, beliefs. Beliefs can become anchored in as part of a person’s identity and sometimes, especially for developing Men, it is necessary for these parts of ourselves to face death. If a Man can learn to face death with courage, whether it comes in the form of failure, rejection, or violence, then that Man can acquire something greater than himself and grow beyond what he was once capable of. This is a conversation you definitely do not want to miss. Oak Mountain is a master communicator and his words resonate with the wisdom of long studied and well earned ancient knowledge.  Check the links below to connect with Oak Mountain and the work he's doing in the world Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmilinghuman/ Website:  ⁠https://thesmilinghuman.com/ Oak’s Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/ Oak’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BRLZDDKF References in this Episode The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff What in The Word?: Uncovering The Art of Speech and The Power of Language by Oak Mountain -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:53) - Introductions (0:05:30) - Developing Masculinity Through Present Moment Awareness (0:07:38) - The Qualities of Masculinity: Providing, Protecting, and Sacrificing (0:15:01) - The Hero’s Journey, Claiming the Mantle of Responsibility (0:33:38) - The Role of Motherhood and the Hero’s Journey (0:42:26) - Facing the Fear of Death and Rejection (0:53:12) - The Power of Speaking the Truth (1:00:53) - Orient Toward the Present Moment with Courage and Willingness (1:06:13) - Outro -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Truth, Perspective, Death, Fear, Truthtelling, Hero’s Journey, Responsibility, Rites of Passage, Manhood, Feminine, Present Awareness, Rejection, Logos, Power, Courage, Sacred, Ritual, Perspective, Facts, Ideas, Identity, Open Heart, Philosophy, Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology, What in the Word, Oak Mountain, Personal Development, Maturity, Joseph Campbell, 

In 2024 what does it mean to be in alignment with nature? In a culture that has become so accustomed to hustle, technology, and constant change at an ever-increasing pace, what role does the ancient, subtle wisdom of plants have left to play? With “plant medicine” taking the personal development world by storm it’s easy to get caught up in the hype of hallucinogenic induced spiritual deep dives into the psyche. As we discuss in this episode with Jordan Mockingbird, a practitioner of the sacred healing arts and steward of shamanic medicine, there are many journeys to connect with the deep wisdom of the universe without using psychedelics or other entheogens.  By being in ceremony with the plants, trees, and nature that surrounds us, it is possible to face our shadows and embody new aligned ways of being in a grounded, sustainable way. I personally journeyed with Jordan on a 7 day vision quest and I can tell you from personal experience, the technology of the trees is not to be taken lightly.  From sacred tobacco rituals to ceremonial songs, Jordan is an experienced practitioner who lives and breathes this medicine. If you’re searching to reconnect to the wisdom deep within your soul or you’re struggling to adapt to a culture that has divorced itself from the subtlety of life, feelings, and spirituality, then you’re definitely not going to want to miss this episode! Check the links below to connect with Jordan Mockingbird and the work he's doing in the world Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mknbrd/ Website: https://www.treediets.com/ -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:53) - Introductions (0:05:30) - Jordan’s Journey, “How this work came to me” (0:13:58) - Carrying the Altar of Plant Medicine (0:18:11) - Sacred Tobacco (0:25:40) - The Subtle Wisdom of the Trees (0:30:00) - Opening the Channel, the Medicine of Song & Celebration (0:38:28) - Healing the Masculine’s Divorce from Feeling (0:43:48) - Remembering the Laws of Respect and Love (0:50:31) - Why You Should try a Tree Diet (1:00:05) - Sacrifice, Letting What is Dead Within us Die to Truly Live (1:15:18) - Learning to Sit with Yourself (1:21:50) - Fully Expressing our Joy and Liberation (1:28:00) - Feeling Safe While Letting Go -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Shaman, Shamanic, Native American, Amazon, Tree Diet, Plant Medicine, Plant Teachers, Nature, Alignment, Sacred Tobacco, Ceremony, Fast, Fasting, Culture, Healing, Sacred Ritual, Consciousness, Mockingbird, Austin, Texas, Personal Development, Coaching, Spirituality, Vision Quest, Journey, Rites of Passage, White Birch, Tea, Wisdom

#16 - The Lost Technology of the Clan We have lost the ways of community and kinship. The cultural emphasis on the sovereignty of the individual, although beautiful, has divorced us from one of the most powerful technologies our species has relied on for generations upon generations.  The power of two or more gathering in the name of a higher purpose.  We hear it all the time; “your network is your net-worth,” “iron sharpens iron,” “it takes a village.” All colloquials that emphasize the importance of healthy interdependence over isolation and selfish fixation.   In this episode I speak on the importance of finding and contributing to an aligned community. In a culture that romanticizes the Lone Wolf mentality, we are charged with the responsibility to wake up from the delusion that growth is a path walked in isolation and remember this most ancient technology. In service of the collective, in service to our evolution, and in service to healing.  References in this Episode King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert L. Moore and Douglas Gillette -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:53) - Remembering the Lost Technology of the Clan (0:04:00) - The Struggles of the Lone Wolf (0:05:20) - How Men Depolarize their Relationship and Lose their Women (0:06:30) - In Community When I Win, You Win (0:09:00) - Learning How to Share, When to Share, What to Share (0:10:50) - Fixation on the Selfish Self Creates Misery (0:13:20) - The Greatest Suffering for the Masculine, Lack of Purpose

#15 - Initiation In this episode I talk on the history and importance of initiation rituals and rites of passage. For thousands of years, the transition from boy to man has been accompanied by special rituals and ceremonies. In the modern world however these rites of passage have fallen out of mainstream culture, and yet we wonder why so many men are walking around today with “boy-psychology”.  These ancient traditions were more than just spiritual practices and traditions, they marked important transition moments in life and prepared men to let the past, immature parts of themselves die and be reborn with a new level of understanding.  -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:00) - The Lineage of Initiation (0:03:16) - The Transformation from Boy to Man (0:07:16) - Universal Moments of Transition (0:09:22) - Letting Parts of you Die so you can Truly Live (0:12:27) - The Biological Initiation of Women (0:14:46) - Men with Boy Psychology (0:16:18) - Training to Find Comfort in the Discomfort (0:18:26) - Modern Forms of Initiation (0:20:47) - How Men Grow Together -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Coaching, Psychology, Vulnerability, Boy, Boyhood, Inner Child, Boy Psychology, Man Psychology, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, Archetypes, Fatherhood, Initiation, Rites of Passage, Shaman, Shamanism, Transition, Mid-Life Crisis, Growth, Transformation

Episode 14 of the ReMasculation Podcast In today’s episode I sit down with Zach Watson, a self proclaimed recovering Manchild. Zach has become a big positive influence on social media by bringing awareness to invisible labor, decision fatigue, and the negative impacts of mental overload on our relationships.  We’ve talked before on this show about how the uninitiated man will unconsciously put their woman into the role of their mother or therapist. As we discuss in this episode, acknowledging how much we rely on invisible labor to maintain our lives and households, and making intentional shifts to stop outsourcing decision making to our partners is a crucial step in avoiding this intimacy-killer.  Zach speaks vulnerably about the impact of being in default mode and burdening his wife with the mental load of his decision making. Like a real King would, Zach took this awareness and turned it into a strategy to better serve his partnership through the implementation of fair play, routine “boring meetings,” agreed upon minimum standards of care, and some simple shifts in communication. If, like a lot of men, you’ve struggled adapting to cohabitation during COVID quarantine or you find yourself getting into the same simple arguments on a regular basis, then this episode is for you. Check the links below for a closer look into Zach Watson’s work or search “Zach Watson Recovering Manchild” Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realzachthinkshare/?hl=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCGP1ihHIjbtVeP2KPOPCmw:  -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:01:56) - What is Invisible Labor (0:05:25) - The Impact of Default Mode and Decision Fatigue (0:09:26) - Infantilizing Men, Statements vs Questions (0:15:20) - Defining Masculine and Feminine (0:18:50) - ”Helping Out” vs Co-Creating (0:26:25) - The Importance of “Boring Meetings” (0:31:30) - Minimum Standards of Care (0:35:25) - What She Says vs What I Hear  (0:39:00) - What are you Willing to Die For? (0:42:02) - The Real Value of Invisible Labor (0:47:40) - Showing your Work & Evolving Past Manchild (0:53:05) - Influencers with Integrity (0:56:50) - Final Advice, The Power of the SImple Multiple Choice Question (1:01:05) - Men’s Take on Withholding Sex -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Coaching, Psychology, Vulnerability, Communication, Manchild, Recovering Manchild, Vulnerable, Workshop, Invisible Labor, Divorce, Decision Fatigue, Mental Load, Resentment, King, Queen, Intimacy, Authenticity, Battle of the Sexes, Ballad of the Sexes, Withholding, Relationship, Parenting, Partnership, Good Men, Attraction, Standards, Fair Play, Boring Meetings, Multiple Choice, Household, Cohabitating, Child Care, Fatherhood

Episode 13 of the ReMasculation Podcast You do not want to skip over this one. In this episode we sit down with an amazing Coach, Founder, and Workshop Facilitator Veronica Kaulinis. In a very on-brand conversation, Veronica gets Vulnerable AF regarding her journey with waking up to the work of loving and receiving love from Men.  Veronica and I have known each other since our early days in “the work” back in Brooklyn, NY. It has been an honor to witness her deepen into the woman she is today and see her pass her wisdom along to other women on the path of learning to receive love. Interweaving the Masculine and Feminine paths, Veronica and I talk about the key shifts required to transmute the Battle of the Sexes into the alluring, desirable, and collaborative Ballad of the Sexes.  Along this journey we explore the importance of clarity, the art of softening to receive, taking radical responsibility, de-armoring with discernment, learning to say no with loving approval, breaking through resentment, and many more crucial frameworks to unlocking the King or Queen within. This episode was so much fun to record, it will almost certainly not be the last. To find out more about  Veronica’s work, check out the links below Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veronicakaulinis/ Vulnerable AF: https://www.instagram.com/vulnerableaf/ Website: https://www.veronicakaulinis.com/ -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:02:51) - Waking up to the Work of Loving Men (0:07:15) - Reflections from a Woman trying to be the Strongest Man in her Life (0:13:34) - Making the Choice to Believe in Good Men (0:16:50) - Inspiring the Masculine Through Vulnerability (0:20:03) - De-armoring with Discernment (0:32:30) - The Ballad of the Sexes (0:36:50) - Attracting your Reciprocal (0:42:30) - Eradicating Barriers to Intimacy with Authenticity  (0:44:44) - Standards - Saying “No” with Loving Approval (0:51:10) - Breaking Through Resentments & “The Golden Pussy” (0:57:04) - Kings & Queens are Made in Relationship (1:02:31) - The Danger of Withholding as a Punishment (1:06:45) - What do Men Need to Hear? (1:09:42) - What do Women Need to Hear? (1:11:09) - Inspiring the Hero & Letting them Lead (1:18:21) - Your Need to be Right vs Your Need to be Met (1:20:15) - The Oracle of the Feminine -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Retreat, Coaching, Presence, Psychology, Vulnerability, Vulnerable, Workshop, Austin, Texas, Softening, De-armoring, Alchemy, Radical Acceptance, Resentment, King, Queen, Intimacy, Authenticity, Battle of the Sexes, Ballad of the Sexes, Withholding, Relationship, Vulnerable AF, Good Men, Attraction, Receiving, Loving Men, Standards, Play, Goddess, Feminism

Episode 12 of the ReMasculation Podcast In this episode we sit down with my friend Dan Hochman, a Men’s Work facilitator and musical artist based out of Boulder, Colorado. Dan and I discuss the consequences of living a distracted life, keeping a man's true potential locked in a never ending sedation cycle of cheap dopamine spikes while delaying his development physically, mentally, sexually, and spiritually.  Fluent in the art of shadow work integration, Dan also discusses the major threats to the developing man in today’s society. The intentional overconsumption of the “three villains," pornography, weed, and video games, leads to immature men who choose to live out their fantasies in a simulated hero's journey while staying ignorant to their true life's calling. In this episode we explore the importance of intentionally facing difficulty and the dangers of routinely avoiding discomfort. I know this one is going to hit home for a lot of men out there struggling with pornography and other addictions. Our intention is not to judge or shame the industry, but to call up our fellow brothers to a higher standard of excellence. To hone their swords and develop their hearts into fully conscious, awake, aware, and dangerous men.  To connect with Dan Hochman on Instagram, click the link below Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dan.hochman/ Also be sure to check out his new album, Shadow Blues Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/7HtTx1wffqNseAbZ3vYXvO?si=a3Ir2tEfQ_KjQcL31TUujA -------- CHAPTERS --------- (0:01:55) - Shadow Integration Work (0:05:13) - The Heart & The Sword (0:13:58) - Regaining the Ability to Give and Receive Feedback (0:19:17) - Distractions - the Spiritual War of Our Generation (0:26:10) - Your Greatest Discomfort as Your Life’s Purpose (0:29:00) - Connection, the Other Side of the Coin (0:35:18) - The Shadows of Men’s Work (0:40:48) - The Three Villains; Porn, Weed, and Video Games (0:46:30) - The Integration of the Mature Masculine & Feminine  (0:50:41) - Pornography - the Anti-Sex Skill (0:54:05) - The Power of Conscious Sex (1:02:10) - Doing the Work & Being the Hero (1:10:45) - Final Advice, How Are You Serving Your Body? -------- EPISODE KEYWORDS --------- Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Retreat, Coaching, Presence, Psychology, Illumination, Purpose, Awakening, Relationships, Spirituality, Emotions, Discipline, Archetypes, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, Inner Work, Life Coaching, Modern Masculinity, Feminism, Shadow Work, Fear, Courage, Strength, Competition, Sword, Heart, Correction, Team, Community, Brotherhood, Distractions, Pornography, Porn Addiction, Semen Retention, Video Games, Weed, Marijuana, Cannabis, Discomfort, Connection