The Recovering Nice Guy - With Chuck Chapman, M.A.

How do you accept yourself? How do you love yourself? In this episode, we explore the importance of having a strong sense of self to avoid becoming a people pleaser and to lead a fulfilling life. Learn about self-awareness, self-love, and how to set healthy boundaries. Practical advice includes daily practices like positive self-talk and understanding that our perceived flaws are just part of who we are. Discover how neuropsychology supports the idea that we can rewire our thoughts and behaviors to embrace our true selves and enhance our relationships. #SelfLove #Confidence #SelfImprovement #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth

07-01

08:35

Discover the secret to emotional control, mastering emotional intelligence, and achieving emotional regulation. Learn impulse control, stress management, and resilience through mindfulness and self-awareness. Unlock your emotional mastery with proven strategies from behavioral psychology. Conquer emotional overwhelm and develop mental health skills for personal development and self-improvement. In this video, we'll explore the purpose of emotions from a behavioral psychology perspective and provide practical strategies to help you navigate life's challenges with greater composure and resilience. Discover the three key components of emotional control: Impulse control: Learn how to resist immediate reactions and make thoughtful decisions. Stress management: Find effective ways to stay calm under pressure and cope with stress. Resilience: Develop the ability to bounce back from setbacks and maintain emotional balance. Through real-life examples and actionable tips, you'll gain the tools to recognize your emotional triggers, regulate your responses, and harness your feelings to create a more fulfilling life. Say goodbye to being stuck in old patterns and hello to a new era of emotional mastery. Join us on this transformative journey and unlock the power of emotional control today! #EmotionalControl #EmotionalIntelligence #StressManagement #Resilience #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealth #Mindfulness #LifeSkills #SelfImprovement #growthmindset 

06-28

14:26

Struggling with relationship problems? Learn how to diagnose the health of your love life and decide whether to stay or leave. This video explores four critical questions to evaluate your relationship, covering topics like communication, intimacy, and fear. Discover the importance of physical and emotional connection, and learn how to cultivate a culture of gratitude and appreciation. If you're stuck in a cycle of unhappiness, disconnection, and hostility, it might be time to consider ending your relationship. But if you're willing to put in the work, you can revive your love life and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership. #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupOrStay #RelationshipHealth #CouplesCommunication #IntimacyInRelationships

06-25

08:16

Breaking Free from OverthinkingLearn how to stop overthinking for good and take control of your troubling thoughts. In this video, we'll cover tips on managing intrusive thoughts and improving your mental health.In this episode, I'm tackling the all-too-familiar problem of overthinking—how it paralyzes your decision-making, cranks up your stress levels, and wreaks havoc on your relationships. Borrowing some insights from computer programming, I dive into practical tools and techniques to help you escape those endless loops of worry and analysis paralysis. You'll learn how to set clear goals, establish firm boundaries for decision-making, and make timely choices to boost your productivity and mental well-being. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and comment with your own tips or experiences!

06-10

12:03

What Nice Guys Get Wrong About Women in their Marriages. If you've been a nice guy in your marriage and you're trying to reclaim your masculinity, this video is for you. We're diving deep into masculine embodiment and psychology, with insights from John Wineland.Feeling stuck in your nice guy persona? It’s time to step up and embrace your masculine heart. I'll guide you through 10 actionable steps to help you regain your presence, authenticity, and integrity in your marriage.We’ll cover:How nice guy behavior erodes trust and kills attractionThe importance of masculine polarity in relationshipsPractical tips for embodying masculine energyDiscover the two key aspects of embodiment—physical and energetic—based on John Wineland’s teachings. Learn how to balance strength and vulnerability, maintain emotional awareness, and cultivate compassion.These practices will not only help you restore the passion and love in your marriage but also lead to deeper connections and a more fulfilling life.Ready to reclaim your masculinity? Watch now and start your journey towards a stronger, more authentic you.

06-07

13:49

Toxic shame can be a hidden, yet powerful force, impacting everything from social anxiety to relationships. Healing toxic shame is crucial for overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome, as it fuels anxiety, depression, PTSD, and trauma. In this video, life coach and mental health advocate Chuck Chapman dives deep into the psychology of shame, providing insights and tools for personal growth and self-help.At the core of every Nice Guy is a shame parasite, a predator that sabotages authentic living. Understanding the difference between toxic shame and guilt is essential for effective therapy and mental health awareness. Shame isn't just an emotion; it's a belief that can destroy your self-worth and keep you stuck in patterns of codependency and fear of failure.Chuck shares practical strategies for healing toxic shame, inspired by experts like Dr. Robert Glover and Brené Brown. Learn how to recognize and combat toxic shame, how it fuels social anxiety disorder, and how to break free from the grip of shame that affects your mental health and relationships.Shame thrives in secrecy, but by bringing it to light, you can strip it of its power. Tune in for insights, real-life examples, and actionable advice to reclaim your worth and live authentically. Don’t let toxic shame run your life—learn to overcome it and thrive.*#NiceGuySyndrome #HealingShame #MentalHealthAwareness #PersonalGrowth #LifeCoach*

05-31

14:29

Looking back, it's pretty clear that controlling others is a major symptom of the Nice Guy syndrome. Who knew that being Mr. Nice Guy was just a passive way to be Mr. Control Freak? It's not a good masculine trait. And guess what? Being controlling doesn't create positive relationships or a fulfilling life. Shocker, right? It’s exhausting and totally counterproductive. So what can you do about it? Watch this video and see if you are a good man or a control freak.

05-29

11:50

Fair warning: You're not going to like what I have to say about Nice Guy Syndrome. Most nice guys will stay stuck in miserable, people-pleasing relationships, hoping for a different outcome. Moving from a nice guy to an integrated man is hard work. If you're ready to change, stay tuned. I'm going to give you the only thing you need to do to kill your internal nice guy. 

05-25

10:50

Let's talk about the importance of rites of passage in the journey from boyhood to manhood, especially for us recovering 'NICE' guys. It's something we've lost and I think we should bring it back. I'll share my own story about a male rite of passage that helped me transition into adulthood and kick my addiction and 'nice guy syndrome' to the curb. In our modern cultures, the lack of clear rites of passage leaves many of us feeling stuck in perpetual adolescence.I'll recount my transformative experience in a group event in the High-Desert of Oregon, involving ancient rituals adapted for our times. This story highlights the importance of embracing the responsibilities that come with manhood through formal ceremonies and vows. Oh, and there's a nod to the movie 'Kingdom of Heaven' to show the power of such initiations and discuss what makes an oath meaningful.I'll wrap things up with a call to action for your feedback on creating a rite of passage for men looking to fully embrace their masculinity. So, get ready for some eye-opening insights and maybe a little inspiration to take that next step in your own journey.

05-23

12:38

People pleasing and the Nice Guy Syndrome are common for the Nice Guy and one of the ways this shows up for Nice Guys is that they are always saying I'm sorry. It's weak and meaningless. In today's video, I talk about why I never say I'm sorry anymore, and how it has changed my relationships for the better.

05-21

08:52

In this video, I explore the concept of 'Monogamous to Mom,' and The Nice Guy Syndrome. The concept that Dr. Glover Talks about in No More Mr. Nice is how many nice guys,  have with their mothers and how these bonds influence our romantic relationships. I discuss the common pattern of seeking motherly approval, which often leads to choosing partners who remind us of our mothers and developing codependent dynamics. I present various strategies for breaking free from these patterns, including building connections with other men, reevaluating father-child relationships, establishing independence from parents, and cutting ties with maternal enmeshment. I emphasize the importance of personal growth, setting boundaries, and cultivating healthy relationships as crucial steps for nice guys like us looking to resolve our 'mommy issues' and develop a more solid, masculine identity

05-18

13:05

If you want to be more attractive to women, have more money, and success in life, the men with the Nice Guy Syndrome would do well to learn to be a leader, and self-leadership is the key to attraction and success.  Until you learn to lead yourself, you won’t be able to attract (or keep) a really great woman into your life. You won’t have the kind of success you want in your career, and you’ll always struggle to get ahead. Self-leadership equals the foundation of personal growth and relationship success. As someone who has navigated the complexities of the 'nice guy' persona, I understand the profound impact it can have on every aspect of life. In this dynamic video, I unveil the transformative journey from being a 'nice guy' to becoming a confident leader. Join me as I share invaluable insights into overcoming approval-seeking behaviors and embracing authentic leadership qualities, particularly in relationships. Together, let's explore the three essential pillars of self-leadership: self-awareness, self-confidence, and self-efficacy. It's time to rewrite your story, attract genuine connections, and lead with purpose. Hit subscribe and embark on this empowering journey of self-discovery and transformation."

05-15

09:45

Nice Guys struggle with talking to women because they are not confident. In this video, I'm going to share with you how you can learn to talk to women (or anyone, for that matter) with confidence and certainty. In this video, I dive deep into the crucial skills of communication skills as the number one way to increase your confidence and assertiveness. Drawing from the principles of "No More Mr. Nice Guy, by Robert Glover" I explain how these skills stem from mastering effective communication techniques. I share personal insights on how you can get your shit together by embracing assertiveness as a learnable skill crucial for your success. You'll learn practical communication tools like asking insightful questions, mastering the art of pausing, and the impactful use of tone. Let's empower you to step up, speak out, and transform your interactions across all areas of life. Join me as we shed the nice guy label and take control of our lives!

05-03

12:16

Sex-starved marriage, Nice Guy syndrome, and dead bedrooms—let's dive into solutions to revive intimacy and passion in your relationship! In today's episode, I cover a detailed approach to moving beyond mere duty in your marriage and bringing back the spark using the R.E.P.A.I.R. method.

What's the most common mistake Nice Guys make while trying to recover from the Nice Guy syndrome? In this video, we talk about Dr Robert Glover's book and what most men do wrong when trying to stop being Nice Guys.This problem that most ignore, This approach leads to swapping one flawed paradigm for another and ultimately does not result in personal growth or a smoother life. Instead, the video suggests embracing the qualities of an 'Integrated Man,' as outlined by Dr. Robert Glover in 'No More Mr. Nice Guy.' Key qualities of an Integrated Man include having a strong sense of self, taking responsibility for one's own needs, being comfortable with masculinity and sexuality, maintaining integrity, nurturing without caretaking, setting boundaries, not striving for perfection or others' approval, and accepting life as it comes. Chuck shares personal experiences and insights into making this transformation, highlighting the importance of focusing on personal development and acceptance rather than attempting to merely invert Nice Guy behaviors. The video concludes by offering resources, including an infographic on the Integrated Man concept, to help viewers internalize and apply these principles.