▶︎▶︎ EPISODE NOTESIn this episode of the Relate Great podcast, host Jonathan Sherman is joined by Chelsea Paul and Karissa Pahl from All of You Services, a cleaning company that goes beyond traditional cleaning to address mental health struggles. Jonathan discovered Chelsea through a heartfelt social media post highlighting the connection between depression and overwhelming mess. Chelsea and Karissa share their approach to helping clients declutter and deep clean their homes without judgment, emphasizing the therapeutic benefits of a tidy space. They discuss the emotional and relational impacts of living in disorganized environments, their personal connection to mental health issues like ADHD, and their unique teamwork dynamics. The episode concludes with practical advice for listeners feeling overwhelmed by clutter. 00:00 Introduction to Chelsea's Post on Depression and Messiness 02:44 Mental Health and Cleaning: A Deeper Connection 03:29 Client Experiences and Vulnerability 06:12 The Process of Decluttering and Organizing 08:58 Challenges and Boundaries in Cleaning 10:42 The Emotional Impact of a Clean Space 21:16 The Sisters' Journey into Cleaning 25:13 Hyper-Focused and Satisfied 26:08 Family Therapist Insights 26:23 Navigating Family Business Dynamics 27:24 Communication Challenges and Strategies 31:50 Impact of Home Organization on Relationships 40:13 Tips for Listeners: Cleaning and Mindset Hacks 44:07 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationReferenced Resources:Original post with picsWebsite: All of You ServicesFacebook: facebook.com/allofyouservicesEpisode Page: RelateGREAT.net/podcast/007-mess-and-mental-health
▶︎▶︎ EPISODE NOTESIn this episode, Jonathan Sherman, a marriage and family therapist, offers seven crucial parenting tips. The advice stems from a presentation he gave at a conference and an interview with young clinicians from Utah Youth Village. The key areas covered include understanding your child's world, allowing feedback, avoiding power struggles, the importance of both quality and quantity time, fostering good relationships with teenagers from an early age, being interested in your child's interests, and the value of appreciation. Sherman shares personal anecdotes and professional insights, encouraging parents to grow and adapt alongside their children while maintaining patience, presence, and authentic communication.▶︎▶︎ HIGHLIGHTS01:24 1. Make an effort to understand your child’s world02:11 2. Allow kids to give you feedback05:26 3. Not engaging in power struggles allows kids to teach us -- Lesson from a 13-year-old rebel12:37 4. Quality time is a function of quantity time - Patience and Presence.16:07 5. Relationships With Teenagers Starts When They’re Young18:32 6. Be interested in the things that interest your kids21:19 7. Appreciation is a cushion▶︎▶︎ Referenced Resources:The 7 Principles for Building a Strong Family book and online masterclass. • RESOLVE conflict, • IMPROVE communication, • INCREASE bonding, and • SECURE attachments with your partner and your kids. My 7 Principles for Building Strong Families workbook and online course will help you, your partner, and your family overcome problems and create truly GREAT relationships that last a lifetime. Enroll today and get the workbook at RelateGREAT.net/strongfam
▶︎▶︎ EPISODE NOTESIn this episode of the RelateGREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman, listeners are treated to a variety of dating stories during the second part of a two-part call-in show focused on dating disasters. The episode features 12 callers, including Jonathan's son Adam, who shares his high-school dating mishap. Other callers like Peyton and wife Lauren narrate their humorous and awkward relationship beginnings, and Austin recounts his clumsy journey from heartbreak to finding true love. Xerxes and Laurene share their long-term marriage experiences, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and friendship in enduring relationships. Jonathan Sherman, a marriage and family therapist, also shares insights drawn from John Gottman's relationship research, highlighting the significance of friendship and admiration in successful marriages. ▶︎▶︎ HIGHLIGHTS00:00 The Call-in Show: Dating Disasters! Part 200:54 Adam's High School Date05:54 Caller Peyton and Lauren's Awkward Beginnings17:23 Caller Austin's Nervousness17:40 Introduction to the Writing Group18:42 Austin's Clunky Love Story20:42 The Turning Point in Austin's Relationship24:45 The Proposal and Marriage31:33 Reflections on Marriage and Friendship36:00 Xerxes' Story of 32 Years of Marriage43:01 Laurene's Bad Date and Love Story49:13 Conclusion and Future PlansReferenced Resources:None
▶︎▶︎ EPISODE NOTESIn the debut episode of the Relate Great Podcast Call-In Show, hosted by marriage and family therapist Jonathan Sherman, listeners dive into real-life stories about dating disasters. Jonathan introduces the podcast's format and themes, focusing on humorous, touching, and sometimes tragic tales from the dating world. Callers share their personal experiences, ranging from shocking first dates to heartfelt reflections on lessons learned in relationships. The episode also offers insightful relationship principles and promotes Jonathan's online masterclass on building strong families.▶︎▶︎ HIGHLIGHTS00:00 The Call-in Show: Dating Disasters! Part 100:24 Introduction to the Relate Great Podcast00:58 Podcast Format and Future Plans01:39 Dating Scene Insights and Stories05:12 Mindy's Dating Disaster08:47 Jess's Relationship Struggles15:34 Kara's Awkward Concert Date20:57 Angel's Unforgettable First Date27:50 Larissa's Long-Winded Date31:46 The Unimpressive Husband32:16 Dating Stories at Family Parties32:53 Planning Future Episodes33:51 Caller Taylor's Story40:36 Mindy's LovebomberReferenced Resources:None
▶︎▶︎ EPISODE NOTESIn this episode of the RelateGREAT! Podcast, licensed marriage and family therapists Emil Harker, LMFT, and Jonathan Sherman, LMFT, delve into the pursue-withdraw dynamic often seen in relationships. This is a re-broadcast of an episode Emil did on a former podcast he was involved with. They discuss the motivations behind pursuing and withdrawing behaviors and how these can create a damaging cycle if not managed properly. Jonathan and Emil share practical strategies for both pursuers and withdrawers to break the cycle and foster healthier communication and connections. By emphasizing the importance of safety and understanding, they offer actionable advice to help listeners strengthen their relationships and avoid common pitfalls. ▶︎▶︎ HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction: The Art of Listening 00:25 Stop, Look, and Listen: Practical Tips 01:40 Meet Emil Harker: A Trusted Therapist 04:20 Exploring the Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic 04:53 Common Terms and Misconceptions 05:56 The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle in Relationships 08:05 Gender Patterns and Topic-Based Dynamics 12:12 Managing the Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic 14:52 Understanding the Pursuit of Sex and Power 15:22 The Emptiness of Pursuit 16:59 The Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic 17:09 Why Do People Withdraw? 20:26 The Role of Fear in Withdrawal 20:52 Strategies for Pursuers and Withdrawers 23:46 The Importance of Safety in Relationships 26:56 Effective Communication Techniques 30:12 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsReferenced Resources:Emil Harker’s websiteGet Emil’s book!
Episode NotesThis episode explores the idea that most mental and emotional issues boil down to feeling stuck. They share insights using anecdotes, metaphors, and humor while discussing basic cognitive-behavioral techniques to get 'unstuck.' They highlight the importance of distinguishing between self-worth and self-esteem, recognizing guilt versus shame, and the power of repetition in changing behaviors. The host and guest also entertain with a playful banter about outlandish ideas like selling P tubes and certificates to metaphorically and humorously address the concept of being stuck. In this lighthearted and informative episode, listeners are offered both laughter and practical advice on enhancing their mental health. Timestamps00:00 Introduction and Podcast Origins 01:14 Welcome to the Heavy Mental Hour 01:59 Understanding Stuckness in Therapy 04:55 The Concept of Certificates 11:00 Guilt vs. Shame 17:18 The Mechanics of Change 29:30 Visualizing the Problem 30:40 Changing Thoughts and Behaviors 31:02 Therapeutic Models and Their Evolution 31:50 Milton Erickson's Innovative Techniques 36:07 The Pee Pipe Story 44:27 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem 52:46 The Rarity of Human Life 55:33 Humor and Therapy 57:09 Conclusion and OuttakesHighlights:;-) Certificates: Abdication of Responsibility, etc.;-) Triangulation: The Wacky Therapy Game!3 Rules for GuiltGuilt vs. ShameBrain Mechanics: Our 3 Brains (thinking, emotional, primitive)CBTThe frozen locomotive100K repsWe are slow, social learners vs. instinctual knowledge (cp to Pepper’s puppies)The “Comma, Yet...”Drawing: The BoxSolution Focus vs. watering the weedsThe UmbrellaMilton Erickson and the "Pee Pipe" story here.Self-worth and self-esteem;-) Certificate of Self-EsteemThought-stopping;-) Product: Pee Pipe Kit;-) Glutton for Punishment CertificateReferenced Resources:Guest Blogger: Gary Klein on Stress & StucknessGary Klein, LCSW’s professional profile and contact info
Episode NotesIn this episode, part of The GREAT Relationship Masters Series (GR Masters), I talk to two sisters about their two marriages. My wife, Kara Sherman, and her sister, Kristen Sagers, giggle their way through sharing tips about having a successful marriage.Highlights01:58 Marriage Statistics and Realities02:51 Examples of Good and Bad Marriages05:16 Kristen's Marriage Story08:29 Kara's Marriage Story28:52 What They Like About Their Husbands39:12 Reflecting on Personal Growth39:41 The Importance of Communication in Marriage46:06 Navigating Conflict and Anger50:35 The Evolution of Love59:16 Advice for Young Couples01:10:00 The Role of Communication and Understanding01:12:40 Final Thoughts on MarriageTHE 7 PRINCIPLES FOR BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES Online Course and Workbook:Get the book! Take the class! And start today to learn how to:• RESOLVE conflict,• IMPROVE communication,• INCREASE bonding, and• SECURE attachments with your partner and your kids.My 7 Principles for Building Strong Families workbook and online course will help you, your partner, and your family overcome problems and create truly GREAT relationships that last a lifetime. Enroll today and get the workbook at RelateGREAT.net/strongfamRemember: RelateGREAT! Podcast listeners get 20% off with promo code: STRONG20Listen to “The Relate GREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman & Friends” at RelateGREAT.net/podcast. I know a LOT of cool people who know a LOT of cool relationship and psych stuff!
Visit the podcast page for more: RelateGREAT.net/podcastListen to “The Relate GREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman & Friends” at RelateGREAT.net/podcast. I know a LOT of cool people who know a LOT of cool relationship and psych stuff!