In this powerful episode of The Relationship Breakthrough Show from Aligned with Love, host Matt is joined by special guest Roy Biancalana — bestselling author, relationship coach, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast. Together, they dive into one of the most common and painful experiences in love — feeling like you’re living the same relationship over and over again, just with a different person. Why do we repeat the same patterns? What keeps us stuck in familiar pain even when we know better? And most importantly — how do we finally break free? Roy shares his deeply personal journey of self-discovery and the pivotal lessons that helped him and his clients transform repeating heartbreak into lasting, conscious love. Matt adds his expert insights on emotional awareness, healing attachment wounds, and aligning your energy to attract the kind of relationship that truly matches who you are becoming. If you’re ready to stop reliving the past and start creating love with intention and clarity, this conversation will give you the tools, awareness, and inspiration to do just that. ✨ Listen now and take the first step toward breaking your relationship Groundhog Day — for good.
Why do we get into relationships in the first place? What draws us to one another… and what happens after the spark? In today’s episode, we explore the five stages of relationships, the emotional signatures that shape them, and how we can navigate them consciously — clearing emotional charges, outdated patterns, and limiting beliefs along the way. If you’ve ever wondered why attraction fades, why conflict arises, or how to tell if someone is truly aligned with your deeper vision — this episode is for you. Thomas M. Jones is a psychotherapist, author, musician, and the brain behind The Paradox Process, a powerful technique that transforms negative thoughts into powerful tools for personal growth and success. Standby to learn Why do we get drawn into relationships in the first place through physical, emotional spiritual ways that we ‘plug into each other’ How our culture tends to favour instant gratification, and leading us to ‘throw away’ relationships due to misunderstandings even when they have potential Why relationships can be very intense initially, even magical while even having challenges if we succumb to the illusion of things being perfect The challenges that emerge when we realise that the other person is not exactly what we thought… can we go deeper to explore an opportunity? The danger of getting ‘hooked’ on the excitement of the start of the relationship, and how seeking the next hit can get to be addictive The importance of developing and exploring what an ‘us’ could be, that we could create together How we can have a mismatch in how we see the relationship, where one person is looking at a longer term possibility, while the other may not be looking for the same thing How we grow and that the growth can either be together or separately, which can have natural impact on the relationship How disappointment can seep into a relationship in the form of judgement, and how we can fall in love with potential in our partner rather than accepting the actual person as they are Find out more about Thomas M. Jones’ work at: https://courses.paradoxprocess.org/pages/about
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the divorce process? Unsure whether to use a mediator, a divorce coach, or how to handle switching lawyers? Wondering how to avoid costly mistakes and emotional confusion during this challenging time? Join Arabella Paul on The Relationship Breakthrough Show with Rebeca from Aligned with Love as she unpacks the realities of navigating divorce. This episode explores what it's truly like to face divorce with or without a mediator or divorce coach, and the chaos that can come with constantly changing lawyers. Discover the biggest money-wasting mistakes, why so many feel lost after costly meetings, and the essential steps for a smoother, less stressful experience. Whether you’re going through divorce or helping someone who is, tune in for practical tips and expert guidance to make confident, informed decisions at every turn. Arabella offers a free 30-minute consultation where you can talk, breathe, or just cry. She will listen, guide, and help you start planning your next chapter… blame-free and filled with curiosity. Contact Arabella now: info@thedivorcesurvivalcoach.com www.thedivorcesurvivalcoach.com https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcesurvivalcoach/ https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesurvivalcoach/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/arabellapaul/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedivorcesurvivalcoach
What are the most powerful tools when you are looking to bring your relationship back from the BRINK? Todays’ guest Bryan Power hit rock bottom in his relationship, not even being able to contact his partner due to a restraining order that had been taken out. This gave him the space to take a step back and learn some hard truths about himself and the relationship. He’s now working with other people to make sense of their relationships specialising in the area of attachment styles. We are going to be looking at: - How our childhood wounds can affect us and play havoc in our relationship, leading us to trigger each other - How we can get a point of emotional unsafety where it’s hard to keep things going - Why it’s so important to address the underlying issues in order to come together in a more healthy way - Why looking at ourselves can be challenging and how it can be easier to focus the problems in the other person - How different attachment styles show themselves and how typical combinations “fit” together. You can find out more about Bryan’s work at: https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/
Have you ever wondered why your relationship is hard work… like WAY harder than it should really be. Are relationships intrinsically just difficult, or are we missing some important points that could open things up RIGHT NOW? Sharon Strimling is a transformational coach and consultant who brings over three decades of experience to the fields of psychological, physical, and relational transformation. And today we’re going to be having the benefit of her experience and wisdom. We are going to be looking at: - How we may not have had the best role models or instruction in terms of understanding how to have great relationships, and the impact this has - How our perception is affected by our conditioning and experience and how this shapes how we relate to the world around us, and why we might consider holding those perceptions lightly - How we can regulate our emotions when they are ‘shaken up’, and how lots of what we’ve learnt may not help - How to make sense of our moods and those of our partner, ensuring that we have the space to manage our state - How we can live from a place of deeper connection when we are not getting in the way, giving us access to far great resources and possibilities You can find out more about Sharon’s work here: https://sharonstrimling.com/
Alcohol is embedded in our culture… not just the high spirits in your town centre on a Friday night, but virtually any social or work event that you can attend. So if everyone is doing it, what could possibly go wrong, right? And how about in your relationship? Have you ever done anything while drinking that you regretted, even something that harmed your relationship? Where is the line between a bit of harmless fun, and a habit that could lead to real issues for you and in your relationship? Is there a healthy level of alcohol which could be beneficial for us? Sammie Clarke is an alcohol detox coach who has worked in addiction for 25 years, having worked with literally thousands of people on the journey to freedom! We are going to be looking at: - How does alcohol consumption affect relationships, especially when there are challenges - What exactly is Alcohol Use Disorder, and how do people get affected by alcohol differently even with the same consumption - How alcohol can impact on our freedom, even if we’re not actively drinking and what does true liberation mean? - How social attitudes are changing, in the same way that the harm of smoking is better understood now that it was in the past - What is a safe or healthy level of alcohol and what does the research show us? You can find out more about Sammie’s work at: https://www.sammiessoberheroes.com/
Everyone processes information in different ways, but could differences be playing out in your relationship causing misunderstandings and disagreements. Terms like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and dyspraxia get banded about but what do they mean and how would you know if you or your partner are affected. And what to do to navigate this? Today we’re joined by Jay Williams, also known as That Dyslexic Guy, a thought leader in neurodiversity advocacy, entrepreneurship, and inclusive innovation. His mission is to help people understand the strengths of Neurodivergence while driving real change in workplaces. We’re going to be looking at: -Why these differences are not problems to be fixed, but rather unique qualities and strengths that we can harness for good! - How our negative thoughts can lead to a range of other negative factors and issues - How misunderstandings over small things can get blown out of proportion unnecessarily into frustration or anger - How understanding neurodivergence can help us recognise why explosive reactions may happen, but that it’s not a justification for a negative reactions - The role of emotional drain or burnout, “masking” behaviours and having the self-awareness needed to understand our needs - The importance of open communication in understanding our different processing patterns and how we may be able to support each other You can find out more about Jay at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thatdyslexicguy/
It’s sometimes said that ‘you are what you eat’, so we probably know that our diet is important in ensuring our wellbeing. But how does our diet affect our relationship, and what opportunities could lie hidden in this area for those of us who really value our relationships? Vanessa Sturman is a Transformational Health Coach and Award-Winning Speaker… Featured regularly on Sky News, BBC Radio, LBC, and others, Vanessa is a leading voice in performance, health, weight management and sustainable nutrition. Today we are going to be looking at: * How can food issues such as binge eating impact on our wellbeing and how we could move beyond them to create a life that we love? * How can we enjoy the things we love (like food) without suffering the negative impacts of excess * How food issues can show up in our relationship such as sluggishness What are the most common food related arguments that can crop up in relationships * How increasing plant based food can contribute to balanced, positive outcomes for our wellbeing through increased vitality and energy * How a healthy diet can support our sexual relationship through factors such as improved circulation! * How adding more “plant forward” food can free up land for the natural environment to create a legacy for future generations! ENJOY, and you can keep in touch with Vanessa through her website and social media: https://www.instagram.com/energiseandthriveplantbased/?hl=en
Join Emma Gardner and Rebeca Perea for an honest and inspiring conversation about the complexities of addiction and the journey to recovery. Emma shares her personal experiences with alcohol addiction, highlighting the emotional challenges of letting go of coping mechanisms, the impact of childhood trauma, and the importance of self-awareness in healing. Together, Emma and Rebeca explore the role of Alcoholics Anonymous, healthy coping strategies, and the steps to rebuild trust in relationships affected by addiction. The episode also touches on relapse as a learning experience, goal-setting for a purpose-driven recovery, and practical strategies to embrace self-love and acceptance. Emma and Rebeca share their own vulnerabilities as humans and comment on how things can look good on the outside whereas they may not be that way in the inside sometimes. Whether you're on a recovery journey, supporting a loved one, or seeking insights into overcoming life's challenges, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom and actionable advice. If you want to keep in touch with Emma or work with her here's how you can contact her: www.evolve-recovery.co.uk 👉Don't forget to check Emma's recovery box out!!💯 And follow her in ther social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvolveRecoveryTogether/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/happiermoreresilientyou https://www.instagram.com/regainatevolverecovery/ https://x.com/RecoveryEvolve https://www.youtube.com/@evolverecovery1804 Podcast: https://the-healing-odyssey.alitu.com/ My HashTag: #TalkToEmma
An affair sends relationships to the emergency room- like a couple involved in a car crash, driver and passenger arrive with injuries. Wounds can mend, but with knowledge the course of healing and ultimate outcome can be improved. Amanda Deverich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and coach with a private practice in Virginia and Arizona. For over a decade she has been helping couples overcome relationship challenges, including infidelity. In this unmissable episode we cover: - WHY do affairs happen? - HOW to start to re-build and to know whether re-building is even possible - Is it possible to safeguard my relationship so that I know an affair would NEVER happen? - the most common MISUNDERSTANDING around affairs so you never fall for them Find out more about Amanda at: https://amandadeverich.com/
In this emotional and thought-provoking episode of The Relationship Breakthrough Show, therapists Matt and Rebeca dive into Netflix's latest viral documentary, My Wife, My Abuser. This gripping true-crime feature unravels the harrowing story of Richard Spencer, a husband who endured two decades of unimaginable abuse from his wife, Sheree Spencer. Using secret nanny cam footage and chilling personal testimonies, the documentary sheds light on an often-overlooked issue: the abuse of men in domestic settings. With raw honesty, Matt and Rebeca discuss the psychological and relational dynamics at play, exploring the signs, stigmas, and systemic challenges faced by male survivors of coercive control and violence. 🔥 Don't miss this deep dive into a story that's sparking global conversations about relationships, power, and healing. 🔥 Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about domestic violence.
Feeling stuck in your relationship? Frustrated that your partner isn’t as eager to work on things as you are? In this powerful episode, Matt and Rebeca dive deep into the common struggle of having a reluctant partner and reveal how you can still create positive change, even if you're the only one willing to take action. You'll discover: Why choosing yourself first is the key to transforming your relationship 🧡 How intentional action can shift the dynamic between you and your partner 🎯 Practical steps to invite your partner into growth without pressure or ultimatums 🤝 Real-life stories of individuals who took control of their journey and saw their relationships improve in unexpected ways 🌱 Whether you feel like you’ve been going in circles or you’re ready for a breakthrough, this episode offers hope, strategies, and inspiring insights that will empower you to move forward—whether your partner is ready or not. It’s time to stop waiting and start leading the change you want to see.
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the unspoken struggles that men face in their relationships. Are you feeling stuck, unsure why things aren’t working, or maybe you’ve lost your way with your partner? Whether you're single and searching or in a relationship that’s slipping away, you’re not alone. Join Matt and men's coach Faisal Khokur as we uncover the 5 major 'fractures' that could be quietly sabotaging your love life. From fears of failure and rejection to struggles with emotional connection and purpose, these hidden barriers might be holding you back from the healthy, thriving relationship you deserve. Here’s what we’ll explore: The 1st Fracture: Nervousness that makes you feel unsafe, losing composure, and why "whatever you want" isn't helping. The 2nd Fracture: Ego traps that feed feelings of unworthiness and validation-seeking behavior. The 3rd Fracture: Emotional disconnect and how fear of rejection keeps you from bonding with secure women. The 4th Fracture: Sexual shame and how desperation might be driving intimacy issues. The 5th Fracture: Spiritual disconnection, lack of purpose, and how it affects your masculinity. Tune in to gain actionable insights on healing these fractures and transforming your relationships. Faisal shares real-world strategies for overcoming these challenges so you can show up as your best self in love and life. Don’t forget to subscribe for more relationship breakthroughs and follow us for updates. Let’s get started!
Join Nikola, the UK's leading Low Carbohydrate and Ketogenic Lifestyle Expert, as she empowers women over 40 to reclaim their vitality and clarity! In this episode, discover the transformative power of the award-winning HOPE Protocol—delicious whole foods and a positive mindset—designed to banish brain fog, boost energy, and tackle perimenopausal challenges. Tune in to unlock your best self and thrive in business and life! Meet Nicola Howard here: The 10 BIG Mistakes people make regarding Diet and Exercise (16 page PDF): https://lowcarbinthe.uk/10bigmistakes https://nikolahoward.uk https://lowcarbinthe.uk / nikola-howard - LI profile / nikola.anne.howard / lowcarbintheuk / nikolahoward.lifecoach / lowcarbintheuk / nikolahoward
Welcome to another episode of the Relationship Breakthrough Show! In this episode, we’re diving into the emotional and relational impacts of Vanishing Twin Syndrome and codependency. Our special guest, Richard Buckworth, shares his expertise and personal insights on these often-overlooked dynamics, offering strategies to help individuals and couples heal and thrive. 🎙️ About Our Guest: Richard Buckworth is a seasoned therapist specializing in Family Constellations therapy. His work helps individuals uncover the hidden influences in their lives and relationships, offering unique insights into healing family dynamics. Learn more about Richard and his offerings at familyconstellationstherapy.com or reach out directly via info@familyconstellationstherapy.com. 🔍 What You'll Learn in this episode: - Understanding the invisible influence of vanishing twin syndrome - How early experiences shape our relationships - Tools and practices for healing and transformation - Strategies for building healthier connections
Is the “Male menopause” a real thing? What are the changes that men go through… physically and emotionally in mid-life that have some parallel with the better-known changes that women experience? How do these challenges play out in relationships, and in other areas of life? Jonnie Jensen is founder and head coach at the High Value Man Project. A program and community for mid life dads looking to reconnect with who they are and what they want so they can be the man and dad they deserve to be. We are going to be looking at: - What exactly is “male menopause,” and what are the common symptoms and challenges that men face during mid-life? - Are mid-life men really suffering that much today? What’s wrong with men today, and how can they recognize they are experiencing these challenges? - Why do couples struggle with communication during these challenging times? What can men do to improve communication with their partners? - For men feeling stuck, where should they start in their journey to reconnect with themselves and improve their lives? - There’s a common belief that men don’t like to talk about their problems. How does the High Value Man Project create a space for men to open up and connect? You can find out more about our incredible guest Jonnie Jensen at: https://jonniejensen.com/
Just as relationships are a key part of our lives… So is WORK! Whether we have our own business or a job we need to navigate this in a way that is supportive to other aspects like our relationship. So what are the key challenges to managing that interface and what do we need to do to maintain proper boundaries? We are going to be sharing the TOP 5 Keys to maintaining healthy work-relationship boundaries. Don't miss this one! Andy Nisevic is a workplace performance specialist who helps leaders and managers raise personal and team performance without stress, overwhelm, & burnout. He spent 23-yrs in the RAF responsible for the morale, discipline, output, and standards of the people in his units. His final tour was teaching the RAF’s world class leadership and management courses; it was here he found his passion - and geekiness - in the psychology of leadership and human behaviour. Andy knows first hand the difficulties of balancing a successful career while trying to build and maintain a happy relationship. He’s also seen how easy it is for difficulties in either professional or personal lives, to infect and adversely impact the other. Andy’s book Leadership 101 will give you an even deeper dive into his knowledge and expertise! His website is www.onedegree.uk
We're going to delve into the transformative world of tantra and its healing impact on relationships. We're going to explore how Dominique D'Vita blends science with spirituality to help you understand your body, respect yourself and deepen your connections with your partners. Are you ready to unlock the secrets to deeper intimacy, connection, and fulfillment? Join us as we journey through the realms of tantra, uncovering practical tools, insights, and practices to revolutionize your relationships and awaken the power within you. Get ready to embark on a journey of love, authenticity, and profound transformation. You can contact Dominique in these channels: https://yestantra.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@YesTantrahtt ps://www.pinterest.com/yestantra/ https://instagram.com/yesdvita?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= And don't forget your freebies! FREE Day of my Tantric Self-Love ebook “Awaken Your Inner Lover with Tantra in 12-Days” https://yestantra.com/blog/free-day-of-tantric-self-love FREE Transform Your Life with Tantra Masterclass Replay. Use code TANTRA to access this for FREE: https://learn.yestantra.com/offers/NPWSekuM/checkout
Did you know that the dynamics of our family of origin determines the quality of our relationships? But did you also know that it also determines our level of success and finances that we will have in our lives? I often talk about the hidden dynamics that are underpinning the challenges that we have in our lives as the most critical things to address rather than focussing on addressing the symptom as that only scratches the surface! For me this is the most powerful podcast that I have done so far, you can't miss it! You can find out more about Nelleke Nederveen here: www.nellekenederveen.com
Published through Ingram and available through Amazon and all major booksellers, the book is written for anyone looking to re-evaluate or improve their intimate relationship and it’s full of practical wisdom and concepts gleaned from the many years of work that Matt has undertaken alongside his wife Rebeca supporting couples and individuals to have relationships that really serve them. “The book is partly autobiographical in that it reveals some of the challenges that I went through in making sense of the toxic relationship that I found myself in. It took time to make sense of that and the support, mentoring and coaching that I had through that process was truly life changing.” Matt explains. Matt is joined today by Rhys Thomas who is a keynote speaker and mental health advocate and who is going to be joining the launch event for the book. You can find out more about his work at: https://realrhysthomas.com/ You can access the book at: https://pages.alignedwithlove.net/sisosig_launch_event-2628