The RhetOracle

On the show today is Nathan Seaward, a native New Zealander, former commercial pilot, turned life and business coach. After more than 15 years flying for some of the biggest airlines in the world he realised he had an unlived life of potential and now coaches a community of High performers, game-changers and rule breakers looking to create an extraordinary life for themselves and their families. Nathan is also host of the Nathan Seaward podcast about the struggles in life we all share and reaching our full potential. Key Info:-What is it that gets you up in the morning-Giving up what is a highly successful life for the unknown, to discover new potential-Bringing adventure to people’s lives - what does that mean? -Connection - being present-Closing the gap between where you are now and where or who you want to be-Growth instead of goals“It occurred to me that if you focus on goals, you may hit your goals—but that doesn’t always guarantee growth. If you focus on growth, you will grow and always hit your goals.” - John Maxwell-Fear. What is fear."It’s not confidence we need its courage"How we get more courage “Courage is rightly esteemed the finest of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”WINSTON CHURCHILL-Loneliness. Sit with the feeling-Benefits of a MasterMind group - Nathan calls it a Community-What book has had the biggest impact on you in the last month-What are you most grateful for?-What is a successful day for you before you go to bed - Making a Difference Links:Book Mentioned: Russel Brand: Recovery: Freedom From Our AddictionsNathan Seaward.comInstagram

Episode 23 - With Jamie CattoJamie Catto, producer, director, musician, author & creator as well as well a coach and mentor. From his manifesto:We need to collectively admit that we’re not fine, we’re not confident and balanced and good. We turn up to work every day pretending we’re not neurotic and obsessed and insatiable and full of doubt, and we waste so much energy keeping up this mutual pretense for each other because we think if people saw the truth, if people really knew what was going on in our heads, all the crazy truth of our dark appetites and self loathing, then we’d get rejected. But in fact, the opposite is true. It’s when we dare to reveal the truth that we unwittingly give everyone else permission to do the same. To stop holding their breathe for a moment and actually come into the room. Be here, present, vulnerable and authentic.Jamie is the author of Insanely Gifted - Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket FuelIn this episode:-What inspired you to write this book-Reactive / non-reactive - creating space-Self-care-Be willing to feel uncomfortable feelings“The hard times, dark nights of the soul they show us who we are”-Forgiveness & Compassion-Being loving with ourselves-Having to always be in control "Every time we try to avoid our feelings we are abandoning ourselves"-Really Get to Know Yourself - Noticing. Allowing space-Hiding parts of ourselves. Editing ourselves to fit in"We are all on a journey towards the darkness AND the light"-We can unedited ourselves back to us-How do we learn unconditional love. “You can be unconditionally loving and still realise that guy is a twat”When reactive - be sweet to yourself, be loving.“The I, the one you are when you’re not loving yourself isn’t you”-The bodyguard that jumps in to protect you, to stay safe-How old maps of behaviours of when we were a child are not helping us anymore now we are adults-Being brave in turning towards the pain or discomfort“There’s huge amount of treasure waiting for you and me behind all these doors I promise you”“You don’t need to find it, it arises by itself. If you weed the garden, the flower pops up, you don’t need to invent the flow”-Take off the masks - Being real-Feeling edgy together is oxygen-Being judgemental - “Just like me”-Not everyone will like you - let people not like you-We’re ashamed of our own narcissism-We don’t want to take the risk-Steps to being vulnerable-The 70% rule-Treat people as people. Slow down-Everyone is creative Links:Jamie Catto: Insanely Gifted: Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket FuelPete Walker: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to ThrivingRussel Brand: Recovery: Freedom from Our AddictionsMusic by Bensound.comConnect with Jamie:JamieCatto.comJamie Catto WorkshopsFacebook

Win Freedom From Self SabotageEpisode 22Today, we are joined by guest Hazel Gale. Hazel is a former kickboxing champion and a multiple national and open European boxing-title winner. She was emotionally drained by shame and hid it with overtraining. During her first few years of competitive fighting, she experienced physical and psychological burnout. She ultimately found solace in cognitive hypnotherapy. Hazel was able to rebuild her physical strength and achieve a balanced, healthy emotional state. She is empowered by the changes she has made for herself. Now Hazel is a qualified coach and cognitive hypnotherapist. She trained as a clinical therapist and also a master practitioner of cognitive hypnotherapy. Her goal is to help others with their own emotional battles. She currently practices in London and specializes in performance-related issues and the pursuit of creative and professional goals. In this Episode- How Hazel got involved in kickboxing- Different types of training and how Hazel trained- Burnout and the process of burnout - The manifestation of feeling unworthy and not enough- Praise addiction- Hazel’s journey with cognitive hypnotherapy- Cognitive hypnotherapy vs hypnotherapy- Awareness and consciousness- The stability of memories- The aspects of cognitive hypnotherapy that are truly beneficial- Limiting beliefs and false memories- Taking action without sabotaging your efforts- Fixed mindsets and growth mindsets- The disabling effects of unmet needs- What Hazel is most grateful forLinks:Hazelgale.comFight: Win Freedom From Self-Sabotage  

The final part of the steps to building a strong self-image by John C Maxwell. Lesson 5 - Do The Right Thing (Even if it's Hard)Lesson 6 - Practice Small Discipline DailyLesson 7 - Celebrate Small VictoriesLesson 8 - Embrace a Positive Vision For Your LifeLesson 9 - Practice the 1 Word StrategyLesson 10 - Take Responsibilty For Your Life

Continuing with the ten steps to build a healthy self-image and self esteem. Lesson 3, Move beyond your limiting beliefs; our limited thinking, our lack of ability to see what we are capable of. Fear and doubt get in the way. I think we can thnik some people are born special and others less so. Some are capable of greatness and others not. It is time to remove this way of thinking. Lesson 4 Add Value to Others. I defintely need to spend much more time on this one and I hope in part this podcast is adding value to others. I want to share my learning, my growth with others. I am trying to incorporate all these lessons in to my life. I think many of us can all do with a healthier self-image and boosting how we see ourselves. Life is about growing and you cannot change what you are not aware of or cannot see.

Today I talk about lessons in Self-Image from the wisdom of John C Maxwell.  He says you cannot reach your potential if your self image is low. No matter how much you dream or work you will only perform to the level of your self image. He has 10 strategies to combat negative self image and promote a positive one. In this episode I discuss his first 2 points. The first, Guard your Self Talk. Make sure you are speaking to yourself in a positive way. Number 2, stop comparing yourself to others. Start where you are. Know we are all at different stages. Have a beginners mind. 

A short episode into some questions I've been asking myself about my lack of self-belief or giving in to self doubt. Everyone has it occasionally but I know I have been holding myself back. No more. It may be a chllenge but that's what life is about. I will succeed in life and I cannot succeed if I am sabotaging myself.

Mindset expert, coach and author Michele Attias joins me for an interview to discuss her book Look Inside: Stop Seeking Start Living. Michele has 20 years experience in her industry. She helps her clients overcome limiting beliefs, fears and to let go of the past. Topics Include;Inner WorkWho can you become?Stop chasing, slow downMindsetLet go of the pastLimiting BeliefsWhat is Fear? http://www.micheleattiascoaching.com/ 

Anna Feggari is a on her way to becoming a Life Coach and brings such a sense of warmth and joy every where she goes. She is a successful conference co-ordinator and life-long learner. Skilled in langauges and the attitude of you make the life you want to live. After a divorce she built herself back up to be fully independent and really getting everything life has to offer. We discuss topics such as;AdversityThe victim mentalityLonelinessLife-long LearningGetting up early!LoveDivorceWork hard and go after what you wantLiving authentically to who you areLiving without regrets

On todays episode we do away with the 10000 hour rule to mastery and talk with adventurer, original thinker, travel writer, micromaster and author of the book MicroMastery, Robert Twigger.Robert has trained to black belt in Japan with the Tokyo Riot Police. Has written and presented a documentary Big Snake, which depicted the capture of the world's longest snake and he has led an expedition that was the first to cross the 700 km Great Sand Sea of the Egyptian Sahara solely on foot. We discuss his book MicroMastery. Leatning skills and talents in short bursts of creativity;What is Micromastery?What mindset should people have to approach new things?Flow stateSolitude/lonlinessIs broad knowledge and skill better than specialisation? PolymathyHow do we know we are not wasting our time on something? Find out more about Robert at his website, RobertTwigger.com

On todays episode of the RhetOracle I have Sarah Jones of Introverted Alpha.com Sarah coaches introverted men to become their authentic best in their approach to women and dating, no tricks, no gimmicks, no routines or manipulation.She says “I want to love men into their greatness.” We discuss;Take charge of your life. No-one has an amazing life by accidentNo excusesBaby steps to datingWhy Introverted MenWhat is great about Introverted Men?Being AuthenticEveryone's story is uniquely beautfulThe media and how it portrays menHaving confidenceTips Introverted Men Find out more from Sarah Jones at introvertedalpha.com Some blog posts here;Meeting women as an Introverted Manhttps://introvertedalpha.com/meet-women-introverted-man/ Defining the Introverted Manhttps://introvertedalpha.com/introverted-alpha-male/ Conveying Attractionhttps://introvertedalpha.com/how-to-convey-attraction/

Welcome to The RhetOracle. On today’s episode I have author, Speaker, documentary film-maker and enlightened hooligan Philip McKernan10 years ago he was an entrepreneur running a very successful coffee business. He decided to make a change and walk away from that life.He states he has spent most of his life pretending to be someone else; his journey over recent years is to take the masks off, stop acting, and get back to who I am at the core."His mission for the rest of his life is to take anyone who is willing and pull, kick, drag, coerce, hug the shit of them if needs be, to bring their gift out because by god do we all have gifts!"We Discuss;Becoming CongruentLimiting beliefs. What blocks and limits are we putting in placeDiscovering our giftsMindsetPassion or purposeHow does someone know when they find that. How does someone know if they are putting their energy into the right thing?OpportunitiesCoping with failure and adversityhttps://philipmckernan.com/Check out Philip's Documentary for free;https://giveandgrow.com

On todays show I have social anxiety and confidence expert and coach Dr Aziz Gazipura. He is the author of, The Solution to Social Anxiety and also The Art of Extraordinary confidence - your ultimate path to Love, Wealth and FreedomHe has been coaching men for more than a decade on facing fears, overcoming rejection in all aspects of life and removing the inner critic to help you live the life you deserve.We discuss;What is Social AnxietyOpportunities - do we have to take them allPeople pleasing & What others thinkFearsComparing ourselves to othersCultivate a Sense of selfFocus on our strengths Compliments. How to acknowledge theseWhat are 3 habits people with social anxiety of lacking on confidence need to immediately stop doing 3 to start doinghttp://socialconfidencecenter.com/

When is the last time you spent time with men you trust in a deep way? Sure you watch football together or play a round of golf together. You may even bond. But when was the last time you were real with each other for more than 30 seconds?Maybe it was in school or the military. If you are like most of us, it wasn’t any time recent. You are the norm. We all default to the superficial conversations. That’s how we were trained. This is what Owen is about, from his website. He is about men, brotherhood and men connecting, bonding. Being Real. Being Remarkable.On this episode of The RhetOracle I have Owen Marcus. Owen is a men’s coach and mentor. He dug himself out of the box of being someone else’s man to discover the power of masculine intelligence. For more than 20 years he has been working on his own path of Masculine Emotional Intelligence and coaching other men to become the man they were truly born to be. Owen is also the author of Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence. His work to enable men to remove traumas and become 'Remarkable Men' is groundbreaking and inspiring and very much needed. It was a pleasure to connect with him.We discuss;Emotions & Emotional Masculine IntelligenceTraumasBrotherhoodMen's GroupsBeing a Boy in a Man's BodyVitalityReflection and Slowing DownCheck out Owen here;www.owenmarcus.comhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Grow-Up-Masculine-Emotional-Intelligence/dp/0988703521/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1510861652&sr=8-1&keywords=grow+up+owen+marcus  

On todays episode I have Rowan AndrewsRowan runs a business coaching and training company. He has been coaching individuals for 18 years and businesses and organisations for the past ten years.He is also a mens coach and runs No More Mr Nice Guy coaching groups for men.We discuss men and vulnerabilty.No more Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert GloverThe "Nice Guy Syndrome"People pleasing

I am so excited today to have Dan Griffin on my show. Dan is an author, father, husband and man in long term recovery. He leads men’s retreats and runs treatment programs in the twelve step community. He has over 20 years working in mental health and helping men overcome addiction and work through trauma. He hosts the podcast The Man Rules, discussing on these topics of addiction and trauma, helping men to break out of societies ‘man rules’"We can’t just change what men think, we have to change what we think about men.”We discucss;Trauma-"Big T" Trauma and '"small t" Trauma, the tiny cracks that stay with usAnger & the Anger FunnelMen & VulnerabilitySo much more!Please leave a review on iTunes and spread the word. By sharing you really help get the message out to those who need it.

My guest today on The RhetOracle is Amrit Sandhu. He lives in Melbourne Australia and is a Structural Engineer, a PhD Researcher, meditation teacher, Mindvalley Master and he is the creator of podcast Inspired Evolution - The mission of his podcast is to "inspire humanity to: live a life, that is empowered with: the love for life!" Amrit is such a wonderful soul and brings so much wisdom and joy to the world. He combines his eastern and western cultures as well as structural enginerring world and his meditation spritual side to want to create green spaces in cities.We discuss his several years of depression and how a simple breathing technique changed his life.Also;Giving up alcohol and creating "Mandala Moments" Chai, Chat and Community, a spirituality, philosophy and personal growth movement

My guest today is Peter Sage a serial entrepreneur, author, personal development coach, Ted speaker and teacher.In more than 25 years he has created over 25 companies including Space Energy Inc and the Energy Fitness group. He has shared the stage with Sir Richard Branson, Kofi Anan and former US President Bill Clinton amongst others and he is an Honorary Life Member of the London Yes Group- the UK’s leading Personal Development CommunityThis year he served 6 months of a 12 month sentence in Pentonville prison as a civil prisoner for contempt of court and has journaled the high and lows of that experience he’s called The Inside Track.We discuss his journey as he reflects on:The last year, through his high & lows of prisonVictim MentalityMindsetDepressionWalking his talkLosing everythingBeing a 'Secret Agent of Positive Change'How the experience has changed him

My guest today is Kenny Mammarella D’Cruz a personal development consultant.Kenny’s early beginnings were traumatic to say the least : death threats, refugee camps, paternal abandonment, maternal enmeshment and racism. Kenny developed several mental health issues, including OCD, Tourette's syndrome, body dysmorphia and depressionWhen he moved to London he became a high-flying adrenaline junkie to distract from the pain and emptiness deep within.Having released himself from this trauma and way of life, Kenny affectionately known as ‘the man whisperer’ helps men, break through old scripts, trauma, mental health and relationship issues, helping them move through past wounds to find their passion and purpose. He has also been running men’s groups for nearly 15 years.In this episode we discuss:Survival modeTraumaBeing an outsiderDepression & Mental HealthMentorsLoveBreaking through and waking up to life

On today’s episode I have creator of podcast Rise of Humanity Chris Karamyar. He’s on a spiritual warriors journey to uncover the inner workings of the universe and bring this to the world. He aims to start his own life coaching business and make a major impact on others.In this episode we discuss:What is a Spiritual Warriors journey?The power of the UniverseOvercome adversityPushing through FearPlus more..Also listen for incredible life loving tips from Chris. A true inspiration!