The Road I Didn’t Take And How I Got Here

This program is my personal journey to breaking the life cycle you were born into to the life you choose for yourself. I overcame sexual abuse, growing up extremely poor (raised on welfare) with a single mom of 4 kids in a rural small town. I raised my siblings from 8 years old with an alcoholic parent trying to stay sober. I worked since I was eight years old, was on the verge of a nervous break down at 15. I made the heart breaking decision to preserve my sanity. I ended up moving in with a religious family at 15. This came as a bitter-sweet situation. I finally moved out on my very own and started finally my life, my way, my control. This was the beginning to the life I wanted and deserved. I had a "normal" life for while finally. Then I lost some key people in my finally amazing life. My whole world took a brutal turn. This came with even more brutal emotion distress. This was the beginning of my event I can only describe as a nervous break down. I tried so hard to be stronger than my body could take but I had met my limits physically and mentally. This is where I learned the hard reality that I can't take everything life throws me. I learned about what a narcissist was and how I had to set boundaries for my own self preservation. I want to share what I have had to learn the hard way so hopefully others will know it can be done. I also would love for people to know to set up boundaries sooner than I did. I always took pride in trying to learn life management by others “life lessons”. I thought I was invincible on the crap life can throw me. “ I can take it” is my personal mantra I would tell my inner self, I learned the hard way I do have a limit on what my body can physically and mentally take to my disappointment. I guess I am only human. That sucks !!!! But it is my heartbreaking reality… that I am NOT invincible. I came from nothing and had every reason and opportunity to be a pregnant young teen with limited life options. I could have easily repeated the childhood cycle that many fall victim to. Instead, I became a survivor and took my life by the balls and said, “Listen bitch I’m speaking”. In a nice way. Lol. We are our life choices no matter our circumstances. I am now happily married to my high school sweetheart, and we have two wonderful boys. My husband and I have been together for 30 years (and still like each other). Trust me, I want to kill him at times, but I think that is the sign of a healthy relationship. If you don’t want to invoke harm (metaphorically) on your spouse here and there, then you don’t care. Then you are just existing together in a house. This channel and podcast is how not to be a victim. Overcome the shit life throws you and shine like a diamond, inside and out. If you want to know how to do this in a positive, constructive, and sassy yet classy way, tune in. I am happy to share what I have learned.

Why I chose my podcast title and a bit about my look on life

This is why I chose the name of the podcast as "This Chicks Just Sayin' " and how I look at life. Some of my core values and a bit of who I am.

02-21
01:09:40

How to love an addict of alcohol or drugs.

This is how I found out how to love an addict and keep your sanity. The best way to love someone is to do what they need you to do. I will explain in my podcast. Please join me it is not cruel or negative.

02-19
28:25

Are you single on Valentines Day ? Are you in a bad relationship ? How to be happy on days like Valentines Day. How to evaluate your relationships in your life ?

Being in a relationship can mean many things. Days like Valentines day can bring to the forefront a lot of feelings. We tend to focus on the romantic part of a relationship. This is only a small part of what is important. Being loved and respected and cherished is a very important part. Times like this can be a good time to evaluate is this a healthy relationship romantic or otherwise.

02-14
10:20

Missed things that I wanted to mention

I found the missed information took more than one episode could cover. This is the rest of the information.

02-24
01:23:24

More happy memories I forgot to mention and some unwanted sexual advances

I wanted to mention some forgotten happy moments that didn't fit into my story. I did also cover some history of my unwanted childhood sexual advances by adult men.

02-24
01:04:58

How I knew I had to leave and where I went

This episode is how I had to make the hardest decision to leave and where I move in with a religious family during my last 2 years of high school. I reminded them of their dead daughter and how that complicated things.

02-20
32:55

Part 2. More Childhood adventures. (Paper-route & My Dad)

This is more of my life story and how I had jobs and a summer I got to spend with my absentee father.

02-20
45:13

My Story of Where I Came From.

So this is the house I grew up in with 3 other siblings. The house was about 20 feet by 20 feet. So about 400 square feet.The house was something my Mom purchased with all of her inheritance from her abusive alcoholic Dad's estate, It was me ( 7 years old )my older sister (10yrs old), my two younger brothers (1 a baby and one 6 years old..This is not a pity session it is a paint a picture of where i came from so you can understand how far I have come. This is my education. This is my diploma in the school of hard knocks. I am just a human being who was born into a family that was not rich, appeared to have no opportunity to succeed, Appeared to have no other choice other than repeating a cycle that many fall into and can't seem to break.Well I broke it. It can be done. So if you want to change from being a victim of circumstance and want to change your life, JOIN ME. Please don't let another day be wasted and pick up those big girl pants and let's take your world by the horns and ride that bitch into the sunset towards a new life. It can be done. It won't be easy but it can be done. It just depends on how bad you want it.What I kept thinking was " I knew what i Didn't want". I didn't know how but I was not going to settle for less. My life .. my rules… my say in how I live it.

01-31
01:02:08

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