The Self-Coaching Club: Turn your ”Inner Bully” into a Trusted Ally

Are you living with an inner bully? You know, that voice inside your head that says things to you that you would never say to a stranger, much less someone you love? How about things like forgiveness and grace? Are you willing to offer those things to others but are not so generous when it comes to your own mistakes? If you can relate, welcome to the club! The self-coaching club! I’m mercy rice - Leadership Development Coach, God’s girl, and caffeine queen! I use the same skills I apply in leadership development to teach you how to turn your inner bully into a trusted ally. We’re building a community of self-coaching warriors that are willing to completely flip the script on that inner monologue and finally experience emotional peace!

Inner Work Coaching - Podcast Trailer

Welcome to “Inner Work Coaching,” the ultimate podcast for Christ-centered coaching to help turn your "inner bully" into a trusted ally. In this podcast, we'll explore: Communication techniques to turn your inner bully into a trusted ally Faith-driven encouragement to inspire & empower you Simple tools to help you unveil your God-given purpose How to shift your perspective to reflect your identity as a child of The King How to build and maintain a spectacular support system Are you in? I know you are! Please make sure to hit that follow button and then join me right back here each week to begin our inner work makeover! Let’s embrace His grace and freedom together!

02-16
03:41

Introduction to Inner Work: What it’s not, what it is, and how it can help you turn your “inner bully” into a trusted ally

Podcast Title: Inner Work Coaching Host: Mercy Rice Mission = To help you turn your “inner bully” into a trusted ally through: Applying simple & practical self-coaching tools Offering Faith-based encouragement & resources Learning to uncover your God-given purpose Understanding the value of creating intentional connections Episode #1 Title: Introduction to Inner Work: What it’s not, what it is, and how it can help you turn your “inner bully” into a trusted ally Tags: inner work, inner bully, inner critic, self-coaching, self-awareness, self-image Training notes: Have you ever wondered why you react a certain way when you’re in conflict, what prompts you to say things you may not have wanted to say, or why something so seemingly random causes you to lose your temper? You’ll uncover the answers to these questions as you learn how to do your inner work. What is that? Well, first lets talk about what it’s not. Working on understanding yourself and learning how to flip the script on your inner bully does not take the place of mental or spiritual health care. It DOES act as a complimentary practice that is essential for putting to work the things we learn in therapy and by studying the Bible I like to think of inner work as cleaning out a filter. Imagine with me, if you will, that your emotional system is like an air filter. It grabs all the debris that floats toward us and stores it. What comes out of our mouth is (usually) a filtered response. We react how we think it’s socially acceptable to respond in each situation. But... Internally, we continue to store the feelings our filter collects - grief, anger, elation, excitement, frustration, embarrassment, judgement, relief - it all gets filed away. Eventually, those clogged up feelings will find ways to express themselves. It’s usually not pretty - or productive. I created this visual of an internal filter when I started learning about my communication style through an assessment, I use with my leadership development and coaching clients. It’s called the Everything DiSC Communication style assessment and my results showed me how I tend to react under stress, in conflict, and when I’m operating in my sweet spot. The assessment results also showed me that not everyone sees the world like I do (gasp!) A quick example of that would be – I would describe myself as enthusiastic and I think that’s an important trait because I bring energy, fresh ideas, and encouragement to a project at work or an event with friends & family. People who communicate differently than I do, who may see the world differently than I do, may see my enthusiasm as “over the top”, “fake”, or being “overly positive.” Certainly not the message I want to convey and it’s important that I know that each person will perceive me differently, based on their experiences, beliefs, and how they view the world. This awareness has helped me in several ways. It has helped me become more intentional in seeking to understand others and to be understood. It’s also given me an opportunity to examine my initial tendencies and reactions. As a result, I decided to coach myself with the skills and techniques I use to coach my clients. I look forward to sharing all of these awesome skills with you to help you on this inner work journey. The skill for today is helping you identify your preferred communication style. I want you to ask yourself the following 3 questions: When I speak, am I fast paced or is my pace more moderate and reserved? When I make decisions, do I prioritize process, facts & logic or do I think more about how the decisions will affect the people involved? Do I think to talk, or do I talk to think? Understanding these 3 things about yourself will give you increased awareness about your communication style. I’ve also created a downloadable resource for you regarding communication styles and you’ll find that in the resources section of these show notes.   Resources: Click here to subscribe to my monthly encouragement newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my Thank You gift! Click here to leave a review for the podcast⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If you’d like to dig deeper into your communication style and take the DiSC assessment, you can purchase it on my website: www.mercyrice.com    

03-07
13:33

Your Inner Bully - The Origin Story: Why do we react, believe, and behave the way we do?

Host: Mercy Rice Mission = I help listeners turn their inner critic into a trusted ally through: Applying simple & practical self-coaching tools Offering Faith-based encouragement & resources Learning to uncover your God-given purpose Understanding the value of creating intentional connections Episode #2 Title: Your Inner Bully - the Origin Story: Why do we react, believe, and behave the way we do? Tags: self talk, inner work, coaching, Christianity, self help, coaching skills Training notes: Why are you like this? That’s a question I’ve asked myself countless times and I’m sure you have too. Why do we react, believe, and behave the way we do? There’s an origin story we need to discover. Let’s talk about it.   Resources: Click to subscribe to my monthly encouragement newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Download the Inner Work Questions Worksheet Click to access my curated playlist on Spotify for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Are you getting any value from these episodes? I’d love to hear about it! Please leave me a review in the Apple Podcast APP. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ You can also spread the word by sharing this podcast with a friend!

03-08
09:39

One question to ask your inner bully to help stop the emotional downward spiral of self criticism

Podcast Title: Inner Work Coaching Host: Mercy Rice Mission = I help listeners turn their inner critic into a trusted ally through: Applying simple & practical self-coaching tools Offering Faith-based encouragement & resources Learning to uncover your God-given purpose Understanding the value of creating intentional connections Episode #3 Title: One question to ask your inner bully to help stop the emotional downward spiral of self criticism Tags: self talk, inner work, coaching, self criticism, emotional support, Christianity, self help, coaching skills Resources: Click to subscribe to my biweekly encouragement newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Download the Inner Work Questions Worksheet Click to access my curated playlist on Spotify for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Are you getting any value from these episodes? I’d love to hear about it! Please leave me a review in the Apple Podcast APP. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ You can also spread the word by sharing this podcast with a friend!

03-13
12:04

Inner Bully 101: Getting to know how that critical inner voice came to be & why creating a persona for them is crucial for your inner work journey

Today we are getting to know the benefits of building a persona for your inner bully. You'll also hear one of the most embarrassing moments in my career so you'll want to stay 'til the end for that!    Have you figured out your communication style yet? Click to subscribe to my weekly newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Loving the podcast? Click here to leave a review and don't forget to share it with a friend. SPOILER ALERT: They have an inner bully too. 

03-18
09:17

Coaching your Inner Bully based on your DISC Communication Style

Hey there! On this episode we’ll discuss how understanding your communication style can help you coach your inner bully. I use the DiSC communication styles model in my work so I’ll be referring to that today. We’ll talk about how each style reacts in conflict, and how knowing this about your style can help you ask yourself more effective questions and discover what emotions may be trapped in your communication filter. I'm going to show you how you can make an educated guess in regards to your style but if you'd like to get a customized report plus the resources you need to build your communication strategy, head over to mercyrice.com and click on courses. You'll discover specific information about how you react in conflict, what your natural communication tendencies are, and how you can communicate more effectively with others as well as your inner bully.   Resources: Click to subscribe to my weekly newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Download the Inner Work Questions Worksheet Click to access my curated playlist on Spotify for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Are you getting any value from these episodes? I’d love to hear about it! Please leave me a review in the Apple Podcast APP. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ You can also spread the word by sharing this podcast with a friend!

03-25
12:50

3 steps to resetting your mindset and Interrupting your Inner Bully's Downward Spiral

Oh the sneaky little triggers! Your Inner Bully can be set off by the smallest things sometimes. That's why I'm sharing with you 2 steps in this episode to interrupt the mental spiral and allow you some room to make different decisions.  Oh, there's also a bonus step. You'll hear about that at the end. :D   Resources: Click to subscribe to my biweekly encouragement newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Download the Inner Work Questions Worksheet Click to access my curated playlist on Spotify for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Are you getting any value from these episodes? I’d love to hear about it! Please leave me a review.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ You can also spread the word by sharing this podcast with a friend!

04-01
12:27

The Psychology of the Inner Bully: Guest Episode with Dr. Jeff Rice, PhD, LMHC, MCAP, ACS, BC-TMH

  On today's episode, Dr. Jeff Rice shares details on the psychology of the Inner Bully. It's my first interview episode and the first time I interview my amazing husband! Grab some caffeine and prepare to multitask to some really good stuff! :D Resources: Please email questions for Dr. Rice to mercy@mercyrice.com Click to subscribe to my weekly newsletter & grab the DiSC Communication Style Guide as my thank you gift! Click to access my curated playlist on Spotify for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Please help me grow the podcast so we can get this message out! It's simple. Just leave a review for the podcast in the Apple Podcast APP. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ You can also spread the word by sharing this podcast with a friend!

04-08
18:04

You are not alone on this inner work journey - Meet your Inner Work Power Team!

Your inner work can sometimes feel like a test for which you did NOT study. The great news is that there IS a power team available to help you navigate THROUGH these lessons and grow as a result of their presence in your life. In this episode I’m going to name your power team and provide a high level overview of each power team member. I’ll then use upcoming episodes to dive deep into each part of the team and how it helps you turn your inner bully into a trusted ally. 💜   Resources: Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵 Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Share this podcast with a friend! 😍    

04-15
19:11

The Blessings of Creating a Healthy Support System: How I'm Activating my "3AM Circle" During one of the hardest times of my life.

My plan for this week's episode was to give you practical advice on how to create a healthy support team as part of your POWER TEAM that helps transform your Inner Bully into a Trusted Ally. However, life had other plans. Instead I recorded a heart to heart conversation, explaining the benefits of having this support in place when you need them.  Resources: Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵 Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Share this podcast with a friend! 😍  

04-22
10:43

5 Self-coaching questions to help your inner bully work through grief and loss

We all experience it. It affects each and every one of us. Each of us has a different process, though. Grief.  In today's episode we'll discuss 5 self-coaching questions to help you process grief and loss more productively. There is no stopwatch on grief so you'll take all the time you need. Doing your inner work will help you understand your feelings and learn valuable lessons as you process your grief.  Don't miss the valuable resources below!  Resources: Purchase A Broken Winged Eagle by Laura Dahne 💙 Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵 Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Share this podcast with a friend! 😍

04-29
19:43

3 Access Points in Your Life that need an Immediate Boundary Makeover

Setting boundaries is  something only you can do for yourself. The benefits are many but today we're focusing on what will bring you inner peace.    We're looking at setting boundaries around: Physical Access Emotional Access Personal Access Enjoy!    Resources: Email me to get on the waitlist for my boundaries email course Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵 Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Share this podcast with a friend! 😍

05-06
14:41

Guest Episode: Dr. Jeff Rice tells us how GARGATUAN GRATITUDE can shift your entire mindset.

What in the world is GARGANTUAN GRATITUDE? Listen in while Dr. Rice tells us, not only what it is, buy why we need it!  Check out this week's resources: Share this podcast with a friend! 😍 Order The 321 Proactive Journal Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵  

05-13
25:54

Part 1: Power Team Member #4 Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences - Guest Episode with Zach Mullen

This week I had the pleasure of interviewing Zach Mullen on something I consider a powerful source for positive influence - the practice of mindfulness.  Setting time aside to be silent before the Lord is something Jesus modeled for us. The more you have to do, the more important it is to set aside time to be still.  Listen to a guided meditation from Zach Mullen

05-20
15:08

Part 2: Surround Yourself with Positive Influences to help Coach Your Inner Bully

Welcome back! In part 2 we're discussing how editing what you do for 2.5 hours in your day may shift your mindset and help you coach your inner bully into a trusted ally.  Ready for this week's coaching skill? Hit play and let's go!  Resources: Share this podcast with a friend! 😍 Order The 321 Proactive Journal Click to subscribe for weekly self-coaching tips ✅ Book a coaching session with me 🙂 Follow me on Instagram 💫 Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. 🎵 Listen to Zach Mullen's 5 minute Guided Meditation Recommendation: The morning mindset https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/morning-mindset-christian-daily-devotional-bible-study/id1322666339    

05-27
19:40

Boundaries Check-in: 2 simple skills to keep you from saying YES when you want to say NO.

In episode 12 we went over some boundary setting guidelines so - I'm checking in to see how that's going. This episode features 2 simple skills to help you uphold those boundaries.    Is this podcast helpful? Share it with a friend! 😍

06-10
14:33

Change the Conversation! How to teach your Inner Bully who you REALLY are!

That voice inside your head knows just how to push your buttons BUT it doesn't have the whole truth. On today's episode we'll ask ourselves a tough question that will lead to an excellent self-coaching opportunity. Don't miss it!    Links & Resources: Leave a review for this podcast!  Order The 321 Proactive Journal Share this podcast with a friend! 😍 Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey.

06-17
13:39

Your Inner Bully and Vulnerability-Based Trust

We're used to thinking that trust is earned. Vulnerability-based trust is a completely different concept. It's also a crucial part of building intentional and authentic relationships. In today's episode, I share 8 key aspects of how vulnerability-based trust can make a difference in your life. Get ready to take so me notes! :)   Resources: Share this podcast with a friend! 😍 Order The 321 Proactive Journal Click to access my Spotify playlist for songs to encourage you on your inner work journey. Take the next step in your self-development journey! —————

06-24
13:28

Self Awareness: How old is your Inner Bully?

New name, new look, SAME mission - to help turn your inner bully into a trusted ally. In today's episode, we'll discuss how to determine the age of your inner bully and why that matters. You'll learn 3 simple questions you can use to help you do this and get to know your inner bully a bit more.    Super Important Stuff: - Good news! I'm creating a monthly subscription offer that will take you step by step on this journey of coaching your inner bully. Each month you'll receive a video lesson and downloadable resources to help you work through this process at your pace and with a clear structure. If you'd like to join the waitlist for information on my upcoming subscription program - Inner Bully Coaching Blueprint - please email me: mercy@mercyrice.com with the subject "blueprint" and your email information.   

07-01
12:50

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