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Sara Dean launched the Shameless Mom Academy to help moms lead more positive, powerful and purposeful lives #everydamnday. Sara is an award winning fitness professional, author, speaker, and transformation coach who spent the last 16+ years serving moms in the fields of psychology, sociology, health & wellness. But, it took becoming a mom herself in 2012 to learn that - holy cow - this is hard work, and if you’re not paying attention you can completely lose your own sense of identity while raising babies. Join Sara every Monday and Wednesday as she and her notable guests dig deep into topics like creating the confidence you crave; turn your struggles into strengths, building better boundaries, and tuning into tiny habits that can change your life. Discover how why thousands of moms all over the world are turning to The Shameless Mom Academy to live bigger, bolder, braver lives #everydamnday.
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Last week we kicked off our June theme, Get Out Of Your Own Way, discussing 7 ways you might be getting in your own way.  This week we are digging deeper to explore WHY you might be getting in your own way.  The WHY matters!  If you can recognize why you’re getting in your own way, you will have the power to see patterns and threads that you likely repeat throughout your life - likely keeping you feeling stuck at times. In this episode, we will dig into everything from social conditioning to self limiting beliefs to self doubt to trauma - all of which can play a major role in keeping you stuck.  In looking inward at your WHY, you will begin to see how you can heal some of these patterns and start to build new, more functional patterns - which will ultimately propel you forward.  Links Mentioned: Download my free motivational coloring book
Known for her raw, honest, and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, Elizabeth DiAlto specializes in helping women embody self love, healing, wholeness, and liberation. Her body of work has evolved out of 12+ years of experience across several fields including: Fitness, Self-Help, Wellness, Spirituality, Coaching, Personal Development, and Healing -- the last seven of which she’s spent helping women untame themselves. Everything she does is also informed by her own healing and education around embodiment, energy medicine, self love, collective liberation, boundaries, body image, trauma, healthy relationships, and identity. Elizabeth is the creator of Wild Soul Movement and the Wild Soul Archetypes Quiz, founder of The Institute for EMBODIED Living, and host of the EMBODIED podcast - which has been downloaded over 3 million times. I’ve known Elizabeth for over 10 years.  Watching the evolution of her work has been incredible.  She shares her growth in such beautiful ways - that allow you to grow within her.  You’re going to love this conversation. Listen in to hear Elizabeth share: The importance of listening inward to gain self knowledge and expand your perception of what you think you’re capable of The energetic exchange that is an archetype Why learning about your Wild Soul Archetype will help you lean more into who you already are but might not be able to see yet The importance of healing, wholeness and liberation for all moms Her 5 part framework for self love Why it’s important and LIBERATING to identify what you suck at Specific practices to get grounded and get out of your mind and into your body Links mentioned: Connect with Elizabeth Take the Wild Soul Archetype Quiz Listen to Elizabeth’s Podcast: Embodied Download the Embodiment Bible: Embodiment Bible Elizabeth on Instagram Elizabeth on YouTube Elizabeth on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Lovevery: Free shipping at lovevery.com/shamelessand use the code SHAMELESS at checkout. Ana Luisa: Go treat yourself and your loved ones and use my code SHAMELESS to get 10% off at https://www.analuisa.com/shameless.
EEEK!!  This is the first week of our Summer Series: Lead Like A Mother!  Every Monday this summer, I will be sharing content around how to help you lead in bigger, bolder, braver ways. For the month of June, we will be talking about how to get out of your own way.  We will kick this off by talking through 7 ways you might be getting in your own way.  From playing small to getting stuck in analysis paralysis to being the gatekeeper of all.the.things., we all get in our own way - on the regular.  This episode will open your eyes to the ways you consciously and unconsciously get in your own way - which will be the first step in starting to GET OUT of your own way.  Let’s dig in!
Stephannie Weikert is a Certified Yoga Therapist who teaches smart, capable men and women to manage stress with some of the most fundamental, yet little-known principles of yoga. She’s been teaching therapeutic yoga for stress in studios, hospitals, businesses, and with her 1:1 students since 2005. And now she’s on a mission to make meaningful personal growth doable and practical with her signature Make Peace with Stress method so more people can get unstuck from patterns of stress and be more present, calm, and confident—all without becoming a die-hard yogi. When not mentoring people who struggle with stress, Stephannie can usually be found under a pile of books or working on writing her first book about how to take charge of your chaotic mind and focus on what’s really important to you. I asked Stephannie to come on the show to talk about how she helps people manage stress, but also to share her own stories around mental health and sexuality that have guided her coaching over the years.  Listen in to hear Stephannie share: How compartmentalizing different parts of our lives leads to hiding and shame How she used numbing habits (esp drugs & alcohol) to cope How her compartmentalization led her to struggling with Trichotillomania to the point of pulling out all of her eyelashes and eyebrows The moment when she finally and truly saw herself and decided to start to change her habits How she was able to create an entire new set of coping skills that served her throughout her life How her she noticed shifts in her sexuality in her forties and how she responded How we all have a inner compass that is exactly right How to use self study, surrender and intention setting to manage stress and your life Why you should pay more attention to discomfort and stress - and what it’s trying to signal The gifts of yoga that carry over into all areas of life Links mentioned: Connect with Stephannie Stephannie on Instagram Stephannie on LinkedIN Stephannie on Facebook Thank you to our sponsor: Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping.
Is your summer planned all around your child(ren)’s fun?  When I look at everything we have planned for the summer, it’s clear that this summer (like all summers) is the Summer of Vinnie.  Camps, camping, beach trips - all for the kiddo! And what about YOU? What are you planning for your summer fun?  If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I’m a big fan of Summer Bucket Lists.  Every year, we create a family summer bucket list that includes all the fun family activities we want to pack into the summer.  AND THEN, I create my own Summer Bucket List - the things I want to do just for me this summer.  Some of these things are small, some a bit more luxurious and indulgent. It’s funny that whenever I sit down to create my Summer Bucket List, I have to think through, “What is even fun for me anymore???”  If you’re like me, this episode is for you.  Join me to tap into how to make fun for yourself this summer.  I promise you won’t regret it. Let’s make Summer 2021 one for the books, shall we?
Sabrina Torres stands out in a crowd. With her unique point of view about the power of organic growth, engaging content, bold colors, and coffee (lots and lots of coffee), she started Be Truly Social, a social media marketing and sales company that helps business owners around the globe by making their social media pop in a busy online world. From her home in Nashville, Tennessee where she lives with her soon-to-be wife Jen and four children with autism, she puts her caffeinated energy to good use for her clients who range from solo startups to multi-million dollar organizations. They, together, also own a boutique ecommerce site, Great Democracy Tees. I’ve been following Sabrina online for awhile now and as I’ve seen her share different layers of her story, I knew I wanted to have her as a guest on the podcast.  She is a force and a giver.  She is going to open your heart and mind as you hear her story about coming out and leaving her marriage in order to become more fully who she has always been. Listen in to hear Sabrina share: Her process of coming out as a pastor’s wife How she’s coparenting with her wife-to-be, Jenn, and Jenn’s ex husband, all under one roof How she discovered she was gay and decided to leave her marriage The losses she experienced with coming out Why she thinks she would not be alive if she had not met Jenn and the dangers of denying one’s sexual orientation What it’s like parenting 4 children on the autism spectrum How her children's disabilities inspired her to become an entrepreneur Her lack of fear around sharing her identities around her sexual orientation and race vs her fear around building her sex toy business Why she’s so passionate about her new sex toy business Links mentioned: Connect with Sabrina Sabrina’s tee shirt company Boxx Bar on Instagram Sabrina on Instagram Sabrina on LinkedIn: @sabrinasocial Thank you to our sponsor: Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping.
We all carry doubt.  Even the most polished and pretty people on the internet.  For real. In recent months, a number of people have applauded the ways I’ve shown up online and in my business over the last year.  Friends - it is NOT without doubt from time to time.  I have doubt on a fairly regular basis, especially when things around me feel out of my control and unpredictable. So, you know, like every single day of 2020.  That said, I know how to manage doubt - perhaps on an expert level - because dread is one of the gifts (shall we call it?) of my anxiety.  I manage a lot of dread.  Like, every morning when I wake up.  And this has been the case for as much of my life as I can remember.  This dread tries to tell me that things will be hard and maybe I won’t be able to figure them out or get them done or perform at the level I want.  This dread leads to a lot of doubt, so I have to call him out as the big fat liar he is. Because I manage anxiety and the accompanying dread on the daily, I am intimately connected to feelings of doubt.  I have worked to overcome this doubt with some simple mental reframes that work very predictably well for me - thankfully! After receiving so many compliments on how I’ve powered through the last year, it occurred to me that you are not seeing the full truth (read: doubt) behind my Instagram photos - and that’s not fair.  So, listen in to hear me share more about doubt and the 4 specific simple ways I reframe doubt #everydamnday. What is true and what is beautiful ID the hard feelings ID where you have power in terms of options and paths forward ID your superpowers and how you can apply them to this situation
Jessica is the Creator/CEO of Front Seat Life, Myers-Briggs Expert, Life/Business Coach for Intuitive Women, Author, Keynote Speaker, Podcaster, and Former Psychotherapist. She is an ENFJ, truth teller, F bomb dropper, lover of all things Maui, and fiercely dedicated to helping you be unapologetically who you are. Jessica is a total go getter who has hustled her way to success in so many areas of her life.  And now she’s ready for some rest and possibly even some, gulp, balance.  She has seen the impact of hustle on her own life and the lives of so many women.  Our obsessive need to hustle comes at a great cost.  And it’s time to talk about that. Listen in to hear Jessica share: What prompted her to start “healing her hustle” How to heal the hustle and still be ambitious and driven Why we are hustling - as a result of nature and nurture How 25% of us are innately programmed to always be looking for what’s next - and how this makes hustle to the point of burnout How the patriarchy has forced women and POC to hustle in order to succeed and in many cases, just survive How she realized she was hustled out and how she started to heal The rule she made for herself to break her unhealthy phone habit and the immediate and massive impact it had Why is so important to design a life for your specific personality type How to embrace who you truly are and then lean into your truest self Links mentioned: Watch my free business training and learn about my Tenacious Mamas Mastermind Join Jessica for Healing the Hustle Summer School Podcast: Front Seat Life Quiz link: jessicabutts.com IG: @frontseatlife Thank you to our sponsors: Ana Luisa: Go treat yourself and your loved ones and use my code SHAMELESS to get 10% off at https://www.analuisa.com/shameless. Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping. Happy Dance: Right now, SHAMELESS listeners get 15% off their first Happy Dance order. But only when you go to Doahappydance.com/SHAMELESS.  
Let’s be honest… growth is scary.  It involves dancing with the unknown.  Yuck, right?  I’d rather dance alone in the safe isolation of my bathroom, thank you very much. But growth is also incredibly rewarding.  Growth shows you what you are capable of.  It proves to you that you are strong, gifted, talented, and worthy in ways you didn’t know.  This can be a game changer. So, why do we stay stuck in fear when it comes to growth?  I think we fear growth because a lot of the most influential people in our lives also fear growth.  They didn’t/don’t model growth to us.  They modeled complacency.  Complacency seems safer, more secure.  Let’s not take chances.  Let’s not risk failing.  Let’s not make mistakes.  When I stopped fearing growth and started taking chances, I found new people to surround myself with.  People who were committed to doing new things in unconventional ways - in order to let their unique gifts and talents SHINE.  I saw women around me breaking the mold.  And I became friends with those women.  Then I started breaking the mold too. This is how you step out of fear and into growth.  You find the places where you can be connected and supported by other people who don’t want to stay in fear, who don’t want to be isolated in constant self doubt, who won’t settle the way things have always been. And from there, you start to believe in the possibility of a new reality and new rules.  You start to believe that you are a trailblazer and a change maker.  That you can grow and thrive in any direction you want. Listen in to hear 3 reasons moms secretly fear growth and how you can overcome your fears around growth.  Links mentioned: Watch my free business training and learn about my Tenacious Mamas Mastermind  
Pauline Cheung is a women’s leadership speaker and coach on a mission to show professional women how to trust their voices and create professional and personal success – without conceding to people-pleasing and perfectionism. Despite 12+ years as an international executive working with Fortune 500 C-suite and senior-level leaders in the areas of strategy, marketing, and business development, Pauline comes from humble beginnings. She knows how challenging it is to step into the unknown and navigate the fear of failure and judgment. Her deep compassion for women wrestling with similar desires and demons helps her coaching clients and audience members break out of their fears and step into full visibility as their unique and brilliant selves. Listen in to hear Pauline share: How she had to juggle work with motherhood as her child needed extra medical attention How she’s working on harmonizing her work and home life - and why the concept of harmonizing is more full of ease than seeking “work life balance” Why time is currency and the value of time - sometimes over money How she grew up with the message, “It’s not safe to be me”, as a Chinese girl growing up in England How she found safety by making others happy - and the costs of making others happy How she recognized the truth about fear and stopped letting it preventing her from going after the things she wanted (even if she didn’t know how she would actually get them) Her journey from corporate to culinary school to coaching other women The 3 specific ways women stay in their own way, preventing them from taking a stand in their life What belonging actually looks & feels like, and how to own who you are to create a more confident sense of belonging How we can overcome the constant internal battle of being “too much” and “not enough” at the same time Links mentioned: Connect with Pauline Get Pauline’s Confidence Guide: 5 Ways to Practice Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone and into Greater Confidence Thank you to our sponsors: Gemmist: Go to Gemmist.com to get your personalized recommendation and enter SHAMELESS at checkout for 20% off and free 2-day shipping. Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless12 and use code shameless12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show.  
Earlier this year I received two mental health diagnoses.  One did not surprise me at all, but the second did.  I have been processing and thinking through the gift of diagnosis a lot over the last few months.  Yes, the gift of diagnosis.  Receiving these diagnoses was more affirming and validating than I ever could have imagined.  Instead of feeling plagued by some parts of myself that have been bewildering since I was very young, I now feel stronger and more connected to who I truly am and WHY I am who I truly am.  What a relief!  My mental health diagnoses are not my weaknesses, they are my superpowers.  Because of them I am more compassionate, more empathetic, more conscientious, more thoughtful, more intentional, more talented in unique ways, more creative, more adaptable to things others can’t adapt to, more capable in ways others aren’t, and more sensitive to the world and other people in so many ways that make me a better citizen. So, ye, I am delighted by my diagnoses - and everything that comes with them.  Including medication. May is Mental Health Awareness Month.  I am sharing my story with you because mental health diagnoses are not something to be ashamed of.  And mental health diagnoses are not uncommon - which I learned quickly as I shared my story with friends over the last few months and had so many of them quickly reply “me too.” My hope is that this episode provides light and hope for anyone who might be struggling to see all their gifts right now.  You are not alone.  Links mentioned: Join my free business training: 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business National Alliance on Mental Illness Helpline: 800-950-6264 Depression Crisis Text Line: Text CONNECT to 741741 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255  
Trudi Lebron is an entrepreneur, coach, consultant, podcaster, and speaker working with social impact leaders, and transformative coaches who want to increase the impact of their efforts. Trudi is the creator and head coach of BeABoss a personal and professional development program for Millennial Women of Color, works with entrepreneurs to help them start social impact businesses, and supports social impact executives with leadership coaching, strategic planning, and creating systems and practices to bring alignment between your personal values and the way you work. I asked Trudi to come on the show because I knew her story around motherhood as well as the deep impact of her professional work.  I have been dying to interview her for a couple years now - and I can tell you this conversation was worth the wait! Listen in to hear Trudi share: Her experience of dropping out of high school and becoming a teen mom to two babies by age 16 How her traits of being stubborn and making her own rules served her well as a very young mom - and now as she has paved her way to multiple layers of success in education and business How she can see the privilege she carried as a teen mom and why seeing all our layers of privilege is so important How attaining her GED all on her own was the most impactful lesson of her life How the welfare system tried to make her choose between food stamps and getting her college education - and how the system is designed to keep people in the margins down How her experience as a Latina teen mom fueled her entire career How she constantly chose to capitalize on her strengths in order to build success How she uses discernment around her role as a mother to Black sons vs business consultant to lead conversations around her justice, diversity, equity & inclusion work How she was able to listen to the urgent needs of her industry to show up & serve in a completely transformational way in 2020 Why we need to move from consumption of race education to taking action toward equity Links mentioned: Join my free business training: 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business Connect with Trudi Attend Trudi’s May event, Show Up & Serve Trudi’s podcast: Business Remixed Trudi’s podcast with Weeze Doran: That’s Not How That Works Trudi on Instagram Thank you to our sponsors: Ana Luisa: Go treat yourself and your loved ones and use my code SHAMELESS to get 10% off at https://www.analuisa.com/shameless.  
I’m not going to pretend that boundaries are easy. They are tricky and sticky and often intimidating.  But boundaries are also the KEY to liberating our time and energy and mental space.  Telling you to simply “have better boundaries” is not helpful.  It’s like telling a worry wart to “just stop worrying.”  So, instead of telling you to have better boundaries, I’m going to give you three actionable steps you can take to start building better and more brave boundaries.  I want you to have more time, energy, and mental space for YOU, as well as for the things and people who deserve the best parts of you. Listen in to learn 3 steps you can take to build braver boundaries #everydamnday. As you implement these over time, you’ll find that you feel increased ease and power throughout your days and within your relationships.  This will feel totally liberating, my friend! Link mentioned: Join my free business training: 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business  
Alison Tedford is an author, marketing consultant, and mom from Abbotsford, BC, Canada. Her work has been published on AlJazeera, CBC, Upworthy, and Today's Parent, and her debut book, Chronic Profit, is being released by Self Counsel Press in April 2021. I have been following Alison online for a couple years now.  She has always stood out to me as a leader and a truth teller.  She speaks up to share her perspective even when it’s not comfortable.  She is sassy and smart as a whip as she shares her experiences living as an entrepreneurial, Indigenious single mom with a disability.  I deeply appreciate Alison’s work and her voice and I’m so honored to have her here with us for this conversation. Listen in to hear Alison share: All the layers of her identity as an entrepreneurial, Indigenous mom with a disability and why she has chosen to share her stories The assumptions people have made about her identities The importance of inclusivity from the top down in organizations How her disability has shaped her parenting How she models asking for help to preserve her energy for the places she can have most impact How she shares her Indigenous culture with her son How pain management can be a full time job Links mentioned: Join my free business training:, 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business Connect with Alison Get Alison’s book: Chronic Profit Alison on Instagram Alison on Twitter Alison on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Cubo Ai: Go to getcubo.com and use my code “SHAMELESS “for "$10 off your purchase. Songfinch: Visit songfinch.com and use promo code SHAMELESS this week for $20 off the perfect gift!  
I don’t want to squash your dreaming.  Dreaming is beautiful and powerful and necessary.  But… Sometimes our dreams can be intimidating.  We see them out there and they look inviting and delicious - and also terrifying.  I want to run a marathon - but how do I go from running 3 miles to running 26.2 miles? I want to write a book - but how do I write an opening paragraph, let alone 300 pages? I want to go back to school - but how do I find the time and money to commit to 2 more years of education? Too often we hold our dreams as long term (seemingly impossible) visions with no action plan.  We put off the doing required to achieve our dreams because we don’t know where to start.  We don’t know what the first step should be - and all the first steps we can think of feel like massive scary leaps.  And massive scary leaps sound hard.  So, we decide to just wait… And often - too often - the dream dies. In this episode, we will talk about how to move from dreaming to doing by taking specific small action steps to get started moving in the direction of your dreams. Are you ready to GET STARTED??? Link mentioned: Join my free business training: 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business  
Jessica's superpower is making brain science accessible and entertaining for children and adults alike. She is living this out as a clinical supervisor, nationally known speaker, author, and Shameless Mom of 3. She is also the founder and director of the training and resource platform BraveBrains. This is Jessica’s second time on the show.  I was so excited to have her back because talking to her about brain science is so incredibly helpful and insightful.  Learning from Jessica makes me a better woman, leader, and mom.  Listen in to hear Jessica share: How our stories lead us to shame spirals and keep us in shame spirals How our shame spirals are more dramatically triggered while parenting in a pandemic Why she is calling her sons “explorers” to appreciate and honor the ways their brains are differently wired How to engage your “upstairs brain” to stay hopeful in hard times and shift your stories and narratives How we can help our kids shift their stories and narratives, especially around worry and shame Why she wrote What’s Inside Your Backpack? about a little girl’s worry and shame - and why she released it during the pandemic Why she opted to frame her story around a little girl who has an unsafe parent How and why she considered multiple layers of inclusivity when writing her book and having it illustrated How to introduce your kids about the “both/and” philosophy in order to foster hope and resiliency Links mentioned: Join my business training workshop on May 11th, 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business Connect with Jessica and order What’s Inside Your Backpack Jessica on Instagram Jessica on Facebook Jessica on Twitter Thank you to our sponsors: Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30 day free trial and 50% off your next month! Cubo Ai: Go to https://bit.ly/3wPkIYf and use my code “SHAMELESS” for a discount off your order. Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless12 and use code shameless12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping!
Perhaps you’ve noticed that with changing times have come changing needs, changing goals, and changing desires.  With that, perhaps you notice you’re saying YES to new things - and NO to new things. Some of my yeses and no’s and have definitely shifted over the last year.  In fact, I find myself saying yes to some things I thought I would never say yes to.  Funny wildly unusual circumstances paired with a cultural uprising will make you rethink almost everything. As you make space for new yeses, you’ll notice you’ll also be required to say no to new things in order to make space for those yeses.  This is a process of discernment that requires you look closely at your core values so you can understand why each yes and each no is important to you right now. Listen in to hear 9 things I’m saying yes to right now.  It’s my hope that this may inspire your YESES (and no’s!)  Links Mentioned: Join my business training workshop on May 11th, 3 Essential Building Blocks To Growing A Successful Business: shamelessmom.com/business SMA Ep 455: 3 Steps To Create Core Values You Can Confidently Commit To  
Maya Luque is a strategist.  She helps businesses craft smart, perceptive ways of communicating.  The focus of her work is to help businesses build strong, long-lasting relationships with their customers. She has an M.F.A. and has created over 100 sculptures and installations.  Her background as an artist helps her guide people towards an emotion; to help them feel connected. Art is great for strategy because art history is full of telling and re-inventing stories, themes, emotions. Maya has a passion for observing the ever-shifting puzzle of trends, human nature, and people.  Maya is also the author of The Heart Of The Matter: EMDR Through An Adoptee's Eyes.  She shared her book with me on social media asking if I would be interested in sharing it with my audience.  I immediately knew I didn’t only want to share the book, I wanted to share Maya’s voice and entire story.  I asked Maya if she would be up for this interview.  I’m so honored that she said yes.  Her book and her story are so important. Listen in to hear Maya share: Her journey of being abandoned outside a police station in China during their One Child Policy to living her first 11 months in a Chinese orphanage to being adopted by a single mom in the US The lasting impact of her abandonment and how that trauma impacted her ability to cope as a child How she vacillated between extreme perfectionism and testing her mom to see if she would always really love her Her lifelong patterns of trying to prove her worth How she got started in EMDR therapy What EMDR is and how it helped her recover from her trauma How EMDR allowed her to finally find herself lovable Why she wrote The Heart of the Matter in a really approachable way so all ages could use it as a tool Links mentioned: Maya’s Book: The Heart Of The Matter: EMDR Through An Adoptee's Eyes Connect with Maya Maya on Instagram Color for Charity Coloring Book Thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace: To match with your perfect therapist for a fraction of the price of traditional therapy, go to talkspace.com, Make sure to use the code SHAMELESS to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. Cubo Ai: Go to getcubo.com and use my code “SHAMELESS “for a discount off your order.  
Ever since I read Michelle Obama’s book two years ago, I have been obsessed with this notion of becoming.  We are always becoming.  There is no way around it.  Sometimes we are becoming more the person we know we want to be.  Other times not so much.  Sometimes we are becoming a person we did not want to be.  Maybe even a person we feared we would be one day.  What we must remind ourselves everyday is that WE GET TO CHOOSE.  You have many times each day where you make choices that take you closer to or further from the person you want to become.  This is comforting because at any time you can course correct.  Make a crappy decision at 10 am?  No worries.  You can make a better one at 10:02.  While that sounds super simple and maybe even annoyingly idealistic, it’s true.  What matters most is your trend of becoming over time.  So, what is your trend?  And is it heading in the direction you want it to? I have a task for you.  As you listen to this episode, you will gain clarity on who you want to become and HOW to become her.  Listen in and do the task.  Then let me know, how are you becoming? Links mentioned: Last day to register for the Shameless Mom Con Collective SMA Episode 325: Michelle Obama’s 4 Secrets to a Successful Marriage Book: Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall  
Kim Evey is a Los Angeles-based actor, writer, and stand up comedian. She has appeared in numerous commercials and TV shows, written for children's animation, and created and starred in one of the first web series on Sony's Crackle.com entitled "Gorgeous Tiny Chicken Machine Show." She produced Felicia Day's trailblazing series "The Guild," a web show so successful that it was actually put on display in The Smithsonian American History Museum. As a stand up comedian, Kim's online clips have been viewed over 8 million times. She is the proud Mom of a boy who is five going on fifteen. I met Kim through a story telling event where she shared her journey into motherhood through adoption.  Her story touched me so deeply.  I knew I had to invite her onto the show.  What I didn’t know at the time was that Kim is also an adoptee.  She was adopted from an orphanage in Korea when she was 2.  Her journey from adoptee to adoptive mom so beautifully demonstrates the magic of adoption. Listen in to hear Kim share: How motherhood fuels her comedy career Her indecision around becoming a mother The moment she knew she actually did want to become a mother, and was ready to pursue adoption Her journey from a foster home in Korea to her adoptive parents in the US when she was 2 years old How her being an adoptee influenced her choice to adopt her son through open adoption The process of being one of 3 chosen prospective families to adopt the baby who would become her son The most profound and magical moment of meeting her son, Charlie Links Mentioned: Join us for the Shameless Mom Con Collective Connect with Kim: Kim Evey Kim on IG & Twitter: @kimevey Kim on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Thrive: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/shameless for 15% off your first purchase! Bulldog Online Yoga: Head to bulldogonline.com and use promo code SHAMELESS for a 30-day free trial and 50% off your next month! Episode art credit: Kevin McIntyre  
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Inga Stephens Masek

Thank you so much for embracing real conversations with women of color. I am so impressed that you are having these conversations. I'm looking for more friends like you.

Mar 5th
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Inga Stephens Masek

WOW!!! I truly every white women would be able to have these conversations and willing to hear our hearts. We'd be able to cross the color line and have strong friendships. THANK YOU for being so transparent and honest.

Mar 5th
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Hannah Esther Dayan

I love the actionable advice in this episode and all the great stories.

Feb 15th
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Hannah Esther Dayan

omg what a powerful episode!!

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