The Shiftshow with Adriana Bucci

This podcast is for survivors of narcissistic abuse. A lot of the content is specific to adult children of narcissistic parents, but the lessons shared can be applied to other relationship dynamics. Tune in each week to learn more about manipulation tactics to look out for, how to protect yourself from a narcissistic abuser, healing from narcissistic abuse, living life on your own terms, and more.

Trauma bonds with Claire Auden

Claire is a narcissistic abuse educator, recovery coach and podcaster. She has worked extensively in the entertainment industry as a model, actor, dancer and presenter. She is passionate about self education, learning and educating people on healthy vs unhealthy relationships, trauma and recovery. Narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationship recovery is her main focus and she also draws from her own personal experience of domestic violence, trauma bonding and narcissistic relationship abuse and recovery.

06-12
49:48

A conversation about being childless by circumstance or childfree by choice and narcissistic abuse

In this episode I had a great conversation with my good friend Lorenn on her struggle with infertility and how it brought the narcissists out. We had a great chat about this plus the childfree angle and how that brings the narcs out too. At just 15 years old, Lorenn was diagnosed with MRKH syndrome: a rare, congenital condition that affects the development of the female reproductive system. Having been a victim of narcissistic abuse in the face of her infertility, Lorenn has since been discussing the connection between these topics and helping to bring them to more public awareness: What do you do when a narcissist rubs their pregnancy news in your face? How do you handle their sudden discard once the baby arrives? What do you do when the narcissist shames you for having a medical condition like this? Learn more about Lorenn and her story: girlwithmrkh.com

06-05
50:06

Avoidant attachment vs narcissists with Ken Reid

Ken Reid is an Australian counsellor who specializes in relationship and grief counselling. He is trauma and attachment informed and guides clients to assist them in having a more secure attachment. Web: Ken Reid Counselling Instagram: kenreid.co

05-29
01:47:08

My Client Nadir is BACK & Sharing more about her healing journey!

Nadir is BACK! On today’s episode, I interviewed my amazing client Nadir! We started working together in 2021 and she came back on my podcast to share even more about her continuing healing journey. If you missed her first episode, click here to listen to it. I’m so proud of Nadir for showing up for herself, doing the work, and being the cycle breaker in her 60's - she proof that it’s literally NEVER too late to start your healing journey! If you’re interested in working with me in the next round of my B.U.L.L.E.T.P.R.O.O.F. group coaching program, click the link below to submit your application: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/bulletproofvipapplication

05-22
55:54

Narcissistic mothers manipulating adult grandchildren

If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

03-20
12:04

Answering Roxy’s question about renting from a narcissistic mother

If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, including my free training about setting boundaries with a narc, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

03-14
10:30

Answering Michelle’s question on how to deal with a narcissistic sister hoovering + narc mother

If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

02-14
21:07

How to deal with toxic coworkers

If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

02-14
07:29

Answering Paulina’s question on how to stop beating yourself up after narcissistic abuse

If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

02-07
17:14

Answering Lisa’s question on dealing with enablers and flying monkeys to her narc father in law

Narcissistic in laws can be a very stressful situation! While Lisa and her husband have gone no contact with her husband’s parents after discovering they had been abusing their 3 children, the enablers and flying monkeys have come forward to justify and defend the abusers. Listen to this episode to hear my thoughts and recommendations for this situation. If you have a question and would like to make your own submission, follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

02-02
17:21

Answering Tristan’s question: how to deal with someone who’s still brainwashed by a narcissist

In today’s FIRST Dear Adriana Column episode I answer Tristan’s question on how to deal with their mother who divorced their narc step dad but is still putting him ahead of her family. To make your submission follow this link: https://forms.gle/nZbDXQSxU8iScDdq6 To take my quiz on uncovering your path to freedom from narcissistic abuse, follow this link: https://learn.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/quiz For all my offerings and ways to work with me, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

01-31
15:19

I’m back - for real for real this time :)

So glad to be back! If you’d like to send in a submission for my Dear Adriana column, fill out this form: https://forms.gle/Sh51iFmD126kGiU49

01-25
14:32

Mother's Day Pep Talk for Adult Children of Narcissistic Mothers

Here's a pep talk for adult children of narcissists as Mother's Day can be a very triggering time. Below are the resources mentioned in today's episode: Mother's Day Survival Guidebook:  https://sowl.co/s/bfCdhY  Community Membership: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/ 1:1 Coaching: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339 All current offerings: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

05-10
22:07

Me and the podcast are BACK!!!!

Thank you all for your patience and messages of support during my absence from the podcast, I so appreciate you all. Follow this link to join my community: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/ Follow this link for 1:1 coaching: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18896339

04-26
08:34

It did NOT take you “too long” to realize it was narcissistic abuse!

It’s normal to feel like it’s “too late” or you’re “too old” to have learned about narc abuse because of all the lost opportunities and time. The truth is, this is repressed grief and as long as you’re a living breathing human, regardless of how old you are, it’s NOT TOO LATE! I’ve even heard people who are 20/21 years old saying it’s too late - it’s not! In this episode I explain why it’s absolutely not too late for you. Interested in learning more about my community? Here’s the link with all the details! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/ Self-coaching guide book for ACONS https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/product/i-was-raised-by-a-narcissist-wtf-do-i-do/

10-19
27:43

5 subtle signs of love bombing the narcissist doesn’t want you to know about!

And they’ll be pretty upset with me for letting you know about them, but they can go cry about it in their little miserable corner of the universe 😆 Letting go of false hope mini course: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/product/letting-go-of-false-hope-mini-course/ The mini course is included in tier 2 of my community membership - much better value this way, but if the community isn’t for you, you can just grab the mini course separately :) Link to join the community: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/

10-12
25:27

Why do narcissists view boundaries as a “punishment”?

In todays episode I talk about why a narcissist might tell you you’re punishing them when you set a boundary with them. There’s nothing more frustrating than mustering up all the courage to set the boundary, carefully considering the other persons feelings, and finally going ahead and setting the boundary after overthinking it for weeks and weeks only to be accused of being some type of ogre. It’s yet another classic manipulation tactic narcissists love to use to try and control their target with guilt! Listen to the episode to learn more. Free boundaries masterclass: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/free-boundary-masterclass/ Join my community for less than $1/day, early bird spots open till oct 17! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/

10-05
30:45

What does it REALLY mean when things seem to be going well with the narcissist in your life?

This is the cycle that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friend! 🙃 Don’t be fooled by the love bombing! The narcissist has conditioned you to accept their behaviour as “normal” so the cycle can continue on as long as possible. In this episode, I talk about what's really going on when things are going well with the narcissist in your life. It's really just another manipulation tactic to keep the cycle of abuse alive and well. You can’t change the narcissist, the only thing you can control is how you react. No reaction is the goal, but it’s hard when your emotions are bamboozled all over the place and the narcissist is trying to provoke you. It’s important to see through the manipulation tactics, take your emotions out of it, and make the logical choice rather than the emotional choice you’re being manipulated with. Doing the inner work in baby steps is how you master this. One day at a time. Journaling is a great and free way to start doing the work! 🚨📣But if you’re looking for a supportive community with resources, guidance from a trauma informed coach with decades of lived experience who did the work, made it to the other side, and has worked with hundreds of survivors (hint: that’s me!!😆), courses, at an affordable price point, I invite you to join my new community membership! Follow this link to learn more and to sign up: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/

09-15
19:43

Guilt trips and boundaries

YES I AM BACK! You’re really seeing this new episode! Super excited to be back at this, moving forward my podcast will be less interview focused and more topic and info focused. In todays episode I dive into why narcissistic abusers say you’re “punishing” them when you set a boundary (hint: it’s a manipulation tactic to make you feel guilty). I hope this is helpful and I look forward to creating more episodes! If you’re interested in joining my new community membership, follow this link! https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community

09-07
14:50

10 Contradictions the narcissist doesn't want you to notice

Join my community: https://letsgetyourshifttogether.com/community/ More resources: https://linktr.ee/letsgetyourshifttogether

05-03
14:35

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