Relationship School Podcast

In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have they been through a lot! There share some very vulnerable details about how they navigated religion, affairs, and fighting. They give you concrete practical tools you can try right now with your partner. These guys live it! SHOWNOTES How did Satyen and Suzanne start caring about relationships? [4:27] Why did Satyen resist marriage? [7:00] What ingredient was the “it” factor for Suzanne’s attraction to Satyen? [7:44] What role did religion play in their relationship? [10:42] How did fighting about food bring them closer? [12:15] What impact did David Deida have on their connection? [14:28] How did they create a new template for their relationship? [16:06] The most challenging period of their relationship [18:02] One really important practice to heal from infidelity [20:15] Satyen and Suzanne demonstrate a powerful tool to express emotional pain to your partner [26:30] The often-missed key to understanding your partner [32:43] What is PCP and ISE and how do they create connection and turn-on? [34:50] Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Enroll in Relationship Mastery U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 http://warriorsage.com http://ignitepassionnow.tv http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com http://dyad.org Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok   Satyen and Suzanne are the authorities on relationship – passionately intwined for twenty-seven years and sought after by people over the the world for their powerful and cutting edge trainings. With over two decades of study, teaching and facilitation in this area, they have taught tens of thousands of singles and couples the art of creating passionate, juicy intimacy that lasts a lifetime. A living demonstration of a couple who are continually re-igniting their spark, passion and love, Satyen and Suzanne practically distill what for many can be a confusing, frustrating and even painful topic down to its very workable, irresistible essence. Whether on radio, tv or in auditoriums of thousands, their style is provocative, inspiring, and above all, full of practical wisdom. They have a unique gift for hearing what lies beneath your questions, and giving you answers that convey deep truths with incredible heart. Never shy of controversy, they are willing to take conventional wisdom to task where it falls short in order to help you learn and live the most effective relationship skills. Satyen and Suzanne are committed to, and superlatively skilled at, saying the things that no one else says, going places that no one else goes — so that you can have the hot, deep, loving, passionate relationship that you deserve…starting now! http://acceleratedevolutionacademy.com

Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you? Timestamps: 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation? 5:24 - Pedestal to pit 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures? Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise?   Relationship Pain Daily Practice I have two choices with my relationship pain: 1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself). 2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it’s bringing me. It’s 100% of the time up to me to choose. Timestamps: 3:15 - Two choices when it comes to relationship pain 9:32 - The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain 13:40 - The good news about pain and stress 19:40 - The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits 24:37 - Action step Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Are you simply defaulting to monogamy? Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Dan Savage, an author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster, and public speaker, suggests that we should all regularly pose these questions to ourselves. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've acknowledged that it's impossible to fulfill all of your partner's needs, and that's a message from which we can all learn. While we typically focus on monogamous long-term relationships, in this episode, we'll explore how various types of relationships can be successful. Tune in and prepare for some introspection into your own sexual expression. Timestamps: 5:00 - What does monogamish mean? 11:27 - Eroticism in a long-term relationship 17:24 - Bringing in a third 23:37 - Monogamy as the default setting 31:00 - Changing broken marraige norms 33:50 - Dan's relationship journey 46:49 - Allowing for erotic autonomy 53:57 - Dan's advice for young people 59:00 - Action step Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen discuss conflict, communication, and problem-solving versus understanding. What's the issue with being a conflict-avoidant couple? When is it appropriate to problem-solve and offer advice to a long-term partner? Can excessive understanding become problematic? Tune in to hear Ellen and Jayson offer a few simple strategies that you can use to resolve your communication issues. Timestamps: 1:51 - Avoiding Conflict 11:21 - Solving communication problems 17:04 - Problem solving vs understanding 20:28 - The conflict-repair cycle 22:31 - Taking action vs understanding Links: Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of deciding whether to stay together or break up. Since their last appearance, they have grown into a strong and stable couple. In this episode, they discuss the turning point in their relationship that led to them staying together. They also work through current tensions in their relationship related to conflicting schedules and navigating a small living space. You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 5:17 - Anya & Bodhi's turning point 13:23 - Individual growth 20:00 - Getting to the root of relationship tension 33:34 - Feeling trapped by a lack of connectedness 39:05 - Spontaneity vs. responsibility 43:00 - Different schedules 47:00 - Helping your partner feel less judged 1:00:30 - Being true to yourself vs. being considerate 1:08:59 - Action step Links: Coaching a Couple Through Staying Together or Breaking Up – Jayson Gaddis – 364 FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson is joined by his son Lucian for a conversation about the unique challenges of being a teenager in high school. What are the challenges of being from a relationally focused family? What kinds of stereotypes do teens face? Why do so many parents over-parent their kids? You won’t want to miss this candid father-son conversation. Timestamps: 3:52 - Boys in high school 5:28 - Social media apps 6:19 - Waldorf vs. public high school 9:21 - The relational family experiance 16:41 - Challenges high school kids face 20:25 - Over-parenting 23:41 - How to get teenagers involved Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Is it possible to truly love someone while you’re still infatuated with them? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about the trap of falling in love and why it’s important to learn to live with the reality of who your partner actually is instead of projecting your fantasies onto them. How can you make your partner your priority every day? What should your relationship boundaries be? It’s time to take a deep dive into the world of love after infatuation. Timestamps: 2:16 - Infatuation vs. love 6:16 - Reality vs. fantasy 20:00 - Accepting people for who they are 24:48 - Know your relationship boundaries 28:16 - Love after infatuation 31:52 - Our impact on others Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok  

Jayson talks about dealing with division in the world, digital minimalism and getting unstuck in your relationship. Can solving division in the home help make the world a better place? How do you know when you’re stuck as a couple? What should you do if you’re stuck? Would you like to be the next guest on The Relationship School Podcast? Listen in to find out more! Timestamps: 4:01 - Couples, how do you know when you're stuck? 11:47 - Dealing with division 19:25 - Action steps Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jason coaches two women live on the podcast. How should you deal with the experience of a long-term partner ghosting you? What should you do when you feel self-doubt and loneliness? How can you find meaning in the end of a long-term relationship? You won’t want to miss the chance to sit in on this powerful coaching session with Jayson, Katie and Camille. Timestamps: 4:09 - Katie's story 8:27 - Being there for yourself 16:26 - Katie's personal growth journey 26:17 - Camille's story 29:56 - Dealing with a partner who ghosted 37:46 - Finding meaning in the end of a relationship 46:51 - Finding your anchor Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Helping children learn to be financially responsible is one of the most important jobs that parents have. James Ure joins Jayson to talk about how a family economy can help you give your child the best chance to achieve success and independence when they leave home. Should you pay your child for chores? How much of an allowance should you give your child? What is the difference between bribery and empowerment? How can you teach your child the importance of saving, investing, and giving to charity? You won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 8:31 - What is a family economy? 13:55 - Creating incentives for kids 25:55 - Tracking a family economy without an app 37:41 - Using money and screentime as motivators 41:54 - Bribing vs. empowering 45:37 - Implementing a family economy 53:31 - The Greenlight app 57:46 - Big purchases 1:01:09 - Where to find James 1:02:34 - James' advice for high school students 1:03:40 - Action steps Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen team up to talk about working with men in coaching and therapy. How can you tell when a man is ready to grow? How does couples' work help men? What are the advantages of attending a men’s group? Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists? If you’re a man or you have men in your life, you won’t want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 6:16 - Ways that men get stuck 10:52 - Working through men's defensiveness 13:56 - Recognizing men's issues 17:27 - How male clients project 21:10 - Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists 24:48 - Men's groups 29:44 - How couples work helps men 31:35 - How to get men to change 34:09 - Making sure a man is ready to grow 36:34 - Action steps Links: Free Webinar: Relational Warriorship for Men The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Bruce was one of THE pivotal factors in helping me marry my wife before she slammed the door shut on me. Hear that story in this episode and why it’s so common for couples to struggle. Bruce offers a powerful frame for relationship and intimacy and makes the distinction between the developmental work we need to do, and the possibility that we are “already free” in relationship. Check it. Timestamps: 4:29 - Jayson's history with Bruce 7:22 - Dealing with contradictions in relationships 15:11 - The value of separateness 23:04 - The practice of personal responsibility 27:26 - Bruce shares about his marriage 32:37 - How Bruce became a therapist 38:42 - What is a successful relationship? 43:19 - The impact of parenting on Bruce 47:13 - Sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship 55:43 - Personal responsibility 1:01:19 - Bruce's book, Already Free Links: Bruce Tift's Website 10 Agreements of an Indestructible Marriage Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

What’s wrong with wanting a healthy relationship? Jayson and Ellen are here to break it down. "Healthy" is a poorly defined concept, which can create nebulous expectations that are impossible to live up to. If you’ve written yourself off because you believe you’re incapable of having healthy relationships, it’s time to level up and start focusing on how you can foster growth-oriented relationships going forward. Tune in to learn how you can set realistic expectations and define the relationship experience that you want. It’s time to plan for reality and aspire for greatness. Timestamps: 4:57 - Defining what “healthy” means 7:09 - Deciding on the relationship experience you want 8:41 - Creating realistic expectations 11:14 - Plan for reality, aspire for greatness 15:00 - Don’t write yourself off 16:49 - Growth oriented relationships 19:17 - Action steps Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Ellen joins Jayson to discuss menopause and its impact on relationships. What is menopause? Do women in non-western cultures experience menopause differently than women in western cultures? What happens to women’s hormones during menopause? What about hormone replacement therapy? Tune in to hear Jayson and Ellen share their personal experiences surrounding menopause and learn how you can nurture your relationships through the menopausal journey. Timestamps: 3:34 - What is menopause? 7:02 - How does menopause impact relationships? 13:53 - How does culture impact the experience of menopause? 16:50 - Why are resources for menopause scarce? 19:01 - What happens to women’s hormones during menopause? 21:54 - Jayson’s perspective 30:40 - Keeping your partner in mind 37:24 - Resource recommendation 41:51 - HRT Links: Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen share valuable insights about nurturing antifragile confidence in sensitive children and offer practical tips for creating a supportive environment that encourages resilience and emotional well-being. Gain a deeper understanding of what defines a sensitive child. Discover practical strategies and compassionate approaches for navigating moments when your sensitive child is hesitant or resistant, and learn how to find the balance between challenging your child and respecting their emotions. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or simply interested in understanding the dynamics of parenting sensitive children, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom. Tune in for a discussion that will empower you to embrace and celebrate the uniqueness of your sensitive child while fostering a foundation of strength and confidence. Timestamps: 5:54 - What is a sensitive kid like? 9:29 - Overprotective parenting 14:20 - Are you asking too much of your child? 19:40 - Helping your child build antifragile confidence 23:09 - Validating your child's feelings 32:07 - Action steps Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this episode, Jayson is joined by best-selling author and functional medicine practice success coach Sachin Patel. Do you or your partner struggle with snoring? Is it a constant challenge for you to get enough sleep? Sachin offers some basic steps that you can take to begin turning your health around. These range from simple changes you can make today, such as adjusting ambient home lighting, to incorporating effective breathing techniques. If you’re interested in taking control of your health, you won’t want to miss this fascinating conversation. Timestamps: 6:23 - Who is Sachin Patel? 8:11 - Sachin's wellness journey 17:44 - Why don't people do what's good for them? 28:16 - Why is nose breathing so important? 33:20 - Snoring 43:07 - Basic steps to change your health 48:42 - Advice for young people 52:59 - Action step Links: Connect with Sachin Patel Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about secure attachment and address some common misconceptions. How can you know the difference between infatuation and secure attachment? How long does it take to develop secure attachment in a romantic relationship? How do securely attached relationships differ between different couples? Tune in to learn how you can create and maintain long-lasting and meaningful partnerships. Timestamps: 2:00 - Secure attachment vs. infatuation 5:21 - How long does it take to know if you’re securely attached? 8:59 - Working through the challenge stage 11:26 - Misconceptions about secure attachment 20:25 - Make sure you both want the same type of relationship 23:02 - Action steps Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jerry Colonna joins Jayson to discuss leadership and the longing to belong. How can parents help get their kids to adulthood? Why is it important for leaders to do the inner work? How can self-awareness help you access your empathy? How can you be more effective as a coach and a leader? Whether you’re a parent, a coach or a leader in some other capacity, there’s plenty to learn from Jerry’s story and his insights. Timestamps: 8:19 - Why is it important for a leader to do the inner work? 12:11 - Accessing empathy through self-awareness 15:52 - How parents can help kids get to adulthood 19:23 - Being effective as a coach 27:54 - Where's the power? 30:27 - Depression in middle-aged men 33:09 - The seductive nature of doing 36:43 - Belonging 40:09 - The family dynamic 42:21 - Feeling alone in a crowd 45:16 - Nurturing true belonging 52:20 - How many corporations are doing the work? 57:16 - Taking a relational position as a leader 59:28 - How important are partners? 1:01:00 - Psychoanalysis 1:06:50 - Leaders need therapy too 1:13:27 - Jerry's advice for highschool kids 1:15:47 - Action step Links: Jerry Colonna - Reunion (reboot.io) FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson explores the seven revealing signs of spiritual narcissism and the journey to authentic transformation. Join Jayson for insights into recognizing these behaviors in spiritual narcissists, from lingo mastery to their struggle with attachment work. Learn how to distinguish genuine growth and see when a spiritual seeker becomes an empowered, empathetic individual. Timestamps: 3:57 - Seven signs of the spiritual narcissist 4:42 - Talking the talk without walking the walk 5:54 - Unsuccessful long-term relationships 6:37 - Recreating the family of origin 7:25 - A lack of empathy 8:05 - Fear of attachment 9:19 - Refusing to do the work 10:47 - How do you know if they’re changing? Links: 7 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist and How to Know if They are Truly Healing 2 Types Of Narcissism & How To Avoid Them - Dr. Stan Tatkin The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook