The Soft Science

<p>I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.</p> <p>This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it.<br />We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.</p> <p>Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or <em>want.</em><br />We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.</p> <p>So we’re going to talk about it all —<br />Why <em>Romantasy</em> is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed.<br />Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t.<br />What porn women actually watch.<br />And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.</p> <p>This isn’t therapy.<br />This isn’t porn.<br />This is <em>The Soft Science Show.</em></p> <p>And yes — you can stim while you listen.<br />I do.</p>

From Shy Bisexual Kid to Sex Therapist ft. Dr. Lindsey Brooks

Bisexuality, what is it and what are the myths around it. Featuring Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a licensed sex therapist. Want more content? Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

11-24
21:58

Is giving up sex and masturbation healthy? | No Nut November

Masturbation is a healthy activity and the data just shows that there's no benefit to stopping. Do you help with sexual compulsion (addiction)? : https://mentalandsexualhealth.com    Don't forget the lube: https://amzn.to/3AeuB4U Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

11-17
17:15

Sex Talk is Back, Baby!

Let's talk about Sex Talk: The Next Generation. Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

11-15
05:15

Desire Archetypes ft Janel Vital

Janel Vitale joins Erika to share about the different desire archetypes, how to know your category, and how it can help you fulfil your desires by finding the compatible match. Click here for full show notes.

04-14
21:42

Season 5 Wrap Up Y’all!

Erika wraps up this season and this year, 2021. Click here for full show notes 

12-30
13:38

How the Church Can Do Better ft De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar

On this episode, Erika Miley talks to De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar; she is a sex therapist, artist, and published author. De-Andrea is excited to be included as an author of the chapter of a fantastic book to be published in December 2021 with the title “An intersectional approach to sex therapy - Centering the lives of indigenous racialized people of color”. Click here for full show notes 

12-16
29:25

Covert Sexual Abuse and the Art of Solo Dating ft Holly Hartman

Erika welcomes to the show Holly Hartman, life & transformation and trauma & recovery coach, domestic violence advocate, international best selling author of How To Release The Shame Of Narcissistic Abuse, and the founder of Solo Date Challenge. Trigger Warning: Discussions of sexual trauma and narcissistic abuse. Click here for full show notes. 

12-09
36:03

Writing Sex Work Fiction and Being a Death Doula ft Vanessa Carlile

Erika welcomes back to the show, Vanessa Carlisle! They're discussing Vanessa's new book, Take Me with You, and sex work in fiction. They also touch on Vanessa's venture into the world of being a death doula and what that means. Click here for full show notes. 

12-02
37:53

Being A Big Sister ft. Gigi Engle

In this episode, Erika chats with award-winning feminist author, certified sex coach, sexologist and sex educator, Gigi Engle. They're exploring what it means to be a "big sister" to women, helping them understand their bodies, love, sex, and life. Click here for full show notes. 

11-25
44:28

EMDR and Trauma Work ft. Dr. Sohna Shook

In this episode, Erika introduces the next, incredible mental health therapist at The Center for Mental and Sexual Health, Dr. Sohna Shook! The conversation is all about the varied issues that Sohna sees in her office and the people that she loves to help. Click here for full show notes.

11-18
40:30

ADHD and Sex

Erika talks to listeners "1-on-1" in this episode about her ongoing PhD research, which focuses on how ADHD specifically impacts the sex lives of vulva owners. Click here for full show notes.

11-11
25:28

F*ck Diet Culture ft Cassie Willnauer

In this episode, Erika is joined by Cassie Willnauer, licensed therapist that works in the Kansas City area, host of the podcast Sex At Every Size. The ladies are discussing the impact of diet culture on people's minds, bodies, and intimacy. Click here for full show notes

11-04
40:49

Finding Self-Worth ft Jen Adair

In this episode, Erika introduces Jennifer Adair from the Center for Mental and Sexual Health (Erika's own practice). They talk about how therapy works and working with clients who question their own worth. Click here for full show notes.

10-28
20:45

Desire and Learning ft Heather McPherson

Erika has Heather McPherson from Practice Outside the Lines on the show to talk all about vulvas and desire discrepancies. As professionals, they go over the patterns they hear about vulvas on a regular basis. What is typical? How do we tease apart the why of arousal? Does culture influence the disconnection women (vulva owners) have with their bodies? Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/138

10-21
27:10

Erotically Hostile Culture ft Cyndi Darnell

A lot of us don’t realize that we even have bodies, we don’t pay attention to feeling them and being aware of them. Practice being in your body by consciously making a mental connection to one random and particular part of your body, then moving to another part, and another. This same notion of awareness is also important to our sexual experiences.   Somatics is a different way of addressing the client’s needs. We’re not necessarily looking for what’s “wrong”, as in some traditional forms of therapy, but just assessing what’s “present”.   Perhaps, we need to rethink our culture around viewing bodies with a lens of shame and incorporate somatics into clinical practice alongside intellectual/ cognitive methods.

10-14
27:21

Power and Control ft. Teena Love

I have the wonderful Teena Love on my show today. Teena is a media personality and Podcast Host of “The Lovers’ Lounge“. Teena Love is extremely passionate about educating singles and couples regardless of sexuality, racial and ethnic backgrounds and or socioeconomic status about topics related to love, relationships and sex!     We’re talking about how an abusive relationship can alter your entire life.  We’re talking about co-dependency, your sexual self, your mental health, and recovery. 

10-07
39:10

Where We've Been and Where We're Going

In this episode, Erika talks about how the move to a seasonal format was the best thing and sometimes a little quieting for her mind. She goes over how the season went, and where the podcast goes from here. Hint: It's just going to get better! Click here for full show notes.

02-25
34:34

Edge Play ft. Jane Boon

In this episode, the ever amazing Jane Boon joins me to talk about her book, Edge Play. Find the full show notes here.

02-18
37:14

Sex At Any Age ft. Joan Price

Today we're talking to the wonderful Joan Price all about sex at any age, including seniors! We go over the concerns from folks who are aging and their sexual health. We also touch on the emotional and physical changes that they're usually unprepared for. Check out the full show notes here.

02-11
51:48

Emily Schottman

An awesome interview! I loved how Brandie spoke of critical issues for anyone who has had, dated, or in relationship w individuals w cancer. She had solid resources. ideas and seeds for growth. Pleasure on!

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