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SUSAN WINTER is a leading relationship expert and love coach who has helped over 6,500 people find, and keep, love. As a bestselling author, (Older Women/Younger Men, Allowing Magnificence, and Breakup Triage), Susan specializes in evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. She writes, speaks and coaches on dating issues, relationship challenges, and personal empowerment.
Internationally recognized as a thought leader in her field, Susan's 1,250+ top tier media credits include: THE NEW YORK TIMES, THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, THE TODAY SHOW, CNN HEADLINE NEWS, ABC EVENING NEWS, BBC NEWS, CNBC, TALKTV LONDON, ITV NEWS, FOX NEWS, COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE, MEN'S HEALTH, HARPER'S BAZAAR, PEOPLE, BUSINESS INSIDER, FORBES, FORTUNE MAGAZINE, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, IRISH EXAMINER, EL MUNDO, BAHRAIN WOMAN, MUMBAI MIRROR, and the IRISH TIMES. In radio, Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, BBC, ABC, and CBS NEWS. Her podcast, The Susan Winter Show, can be heard on Spotify, iHeartRadio, and Amazon Music. Susan's YouTube channel has garnered over 42 Million hits. Public speaking keynotes include THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM, INTERNATIONAL MENTAL HEALTH FESTIVAL, CORE CLUB NYC, and THE 1880 SINGAPORE.
https://www.susanwinter.net/
Internationally recognized as a thought leader in her field, Susan's 1,250+ top tier media credits include: THE NEW YORK TIMES, THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, THE TODAY SHOW, CNN HEADLINE NEWS, ABC EVENING NEWS, BBC NEWS, CNBC, TALKTV LONDON, ITV NEWS, FOX NEWS, COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE, MEN'S HEALTH, HARPER'S BAZAAR, PEOPLE, BUSINESS INSIDER, FORBES, FORTUNE MAGAZINE, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, IRISH EXAMINER, EL MUNDO, BAHRAIN WOMAN, MUMBAI MIRROR, and the IRISH TIMES. In radio, Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, BBC, ABC, and CBS NEWS. Her podcast, The Susan Winter Show, can be heard on Spotify, iHeartRadio, and Amazon Music. Susan's YouTube channel has garnered over 42 Million hits. Public speaking keynotes include THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM, INTERNATIONAL MENTAL HEALTH FESTIVAL, CORE CLUB NYC, and THE 1880 SINGAPORE.
https://www.susanwinter.net/
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The Avoidant’s Love Bombing Cycle- They shower you with love, pull away, and later want to reconnect. Here’s how to spot—and stop—the avoidant’s love bombing cycle.
An avoidant’s pattern often begins with intense love bombing, creating the illusion of closeness and safety. Then, without warning, they pull away, go no contact, and reappear months later expecting to pick up where things left off. This episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind this toxic cycle and shows you how to respond with clarity and strength.
How love bombing creates a false sense of security.
Why avoidants pull away and go no contact.
How to handle their return without losing your power.
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Ask THIS on a First Date: What’s the best way to vet a great match on a first date—without sounding like you’re conducting an interview? Here’s a simple protocol that’s both elegant and effective.
First dates can be tricky. We want to make a great first impression, while also filtering for the best match. What questions should we ask? How many questions are too much? Here’s the way to be natural and gain valuable insight.
Being Authentic While Gaining Insight
Questions to Ask
Avoiding Red Flags and ‘The Dream”
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Your partner’s been slowly pulling away yet remains silent when asked if anything’s wrong. You’re confused, but trying to remain hopeful. Here’s how to know if you’re being ‘Banksyed.’
You feel this shift. You don’t want to be negative, you don’t want to freak out, but they’re not giving you much information. How long do you wait? Will this cycle self-correct? You may be in the midst of being Banksyed, but lacking communication you won’t know until the end.
Signs of Being Banksyed
Why Your Partner Won’t Communicative
How You Should Handle It
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They’ve dumped you—but still want to talk. They say you’re great, but... Now you're stuck in limbo, hoping that staying in contact might bring them back. Here's what’s really happening when your ex keeps you close, why it messes with your head, and how to stop being a pawn in their game.
You’re hoping this might be your chance. Maybe this is how you can (eventually) get back to where you were or even elevate your former position. But here’s the game— by keeping you around, your ex is selfishly enjoying your company and keeping you hooked by fueling false hopes.
Why No Contact Reclaims Your Power
How Contact Keeps You Hooked
How To Quickly Break the Spell
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She was way into you, then poof! She’s suddenly gone cold. Why did she lose interest? Here’s why pace has you now in the chase.
A passionate kiss doesn't guarantee more. This green flag turned red can be confusing until you understand what's happening inside the woman's mind.
Green Light then Red
Learning to Adjust the Pace
Why Chasing Get Her Back
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There’s a downside to being too nice in a relationship. Overly agreeable behavior can dampen your partner’s attraction. Here’s how to be nice and have boundaries.
Are you stuck being a good girl? Afraid to speak up when hurt or push back when your needs aren’t being met? Are you the good guy? Always there for your partner, who’s never there for you? Patient to a fault and doing all the work to keep your partner even-keeled?
This video is for you. You can be loving and not lose yourself in the process.
Too Nice Creates Resentment
Setting Boundaries with Diplomacy
Loving Them Without Losing Yourself
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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Want to be happier—even when it doesn’t come naturally? Happiness and positive thinking are skills that can be learned and developed. It’s easier than you think. Here’s how: https://youtu.be/i0brdFQx_NE
There is a technique to establish a pattern of positive thinking. It comes with practice and repetition. My video shares the key to ending rumination and self-criticism through this simple, fundamental shift.
Catch Your Thoughts
The Art of Anchoring
Cultivating Gratitude
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Stuck in the same dating cycle of going from hope to disappointment again and again? Here’s how to shift the pattern, change who you attract, and finally create the kind of connection you deserve.
It’s hard to date again after disappointment. But you can shift the pattern and attract a real connection. When dating seems to go nowhere, the one component that’s consistent is YOU. And that’s the good news. When you shift yourself, you get better dating outcomes.
Identify Your Patterns of Attraction
Forensic Evaluation of Partner Patterns
Shift Yourself for Better Partner Outcomes
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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Uniquely original movement specialist Zarina del Mar isn’t your typical fitness influencer. Her signature 3D Method is a powerful system that helps individuals reconnect with their bodies through mindful, multidimensional movement, as witnessed by Zarina’s 2.5 Million subscribers.
Zarina Del Mar is a movement specialist, entrepreneur, and mother who has redefined how we connect with our bodies. Zarina left her career as a corporate tax lawyer to follow a deeper calling—helping others heal and thrive through movement. It has empowered 2.5 Million followers worldwide to build strength, resilience, and self-trust.
Your Body is Your Own Gym
Longevity and Mobility
Body for Life— Not For Vanity
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You know you're not a priority—but here's how to become one. Shift the dynamic, reclaim your power, and be more than just an option.
Whether they’re keeping you on the back burner, offering crumbs of attention, or always “too busy,” the message is clear: you’re not being valued. But that can change. Here’s how to step back into your power and transform your role from optional to essential—without begging, chasing, or losing yourself in the process.
Reevaluate Your Investment
Recategorize Their Position
Embrace Your Power
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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Slow dating in a fast world — Are you a modern person seeking a more traditional approach to love? Here's how to find a partner who's on board with slow dating and building a genuine connection for a meaningful partnership.
If you're feeling like you were alone in today's world, wanting something of a bygone era, think again. You're not the only dater seeking something real — and a proponent of slow dating.
Slow Dating Protocol
Filtering for the Right Partners
How to Build the Connection
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Trapped in the breakup–makeup loop, stuck in a cycle you can't escape? Here's how to break free and reclaim your power for good.
The breakup–makeup loop keeps you stuck in a cycle of leaving and returning, never getting to resolution of the issues that are plaguing the relationship. This loop keeps repeating, even when you know the relationship no longer serves you. Learn why it's so hard to let go — and how to finally break free for good.
The endless break up-make up cycle.
Decoding your behavior.
How to break free.
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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You've done the work. You've stayed open. Gotten out there — online and in person. So why are you still alone and questioning your worth? Here's the shift that changes everything:
Does love still feel out of reach? Wondering why others seem to find love with ease and you don't? If you're feeling ashamed, confused, or even guilty about being single, you're not alone. Far too many people carry a quiet burden of believing they've somehow failed at Love. But that perspective is not only wrong — it will never assist you in your journey.
Love isn't a reward for effort.
Being single isn't a personal flaw.
Edifying self-worth and eliminating self-judgment.
Be sure to check out ‘Allowing Magnificence' — both in book and audio, to reconnect with your worth and release the shame that blocks love. Link below:
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Everyone wants to be happy. But how? Temporal pleasure isn't sustainable — but training our mind for optimism IS. My interview with Neil Wood, top keynote speaker and business consultant, reveals how to reshape your thinking and kickstart happiness.
Neil Wood has over 35 years of experience as a sales rep, trainer, speaker, and business coach. He has given more than 5,000 presentations in his career and has trained more than 50,000 sales representatives. Neil has also written and published five books. One of his most popular books is ‘Dating Success After 40' which talks about relationships and finding your ideal partner.
How To Learn To Be Happy
Programming Your Mindset
Catching Your Thoughts
Expect and Notice Enjoyable Things
Neil Wood
Keynote Speaker/Master Facilitator/Author
Neil@neilwoodconsulting.com
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They sleep with you — but won't commit. Wondering why they won't date you seriously? Here's what you need to know if you're stuck in a loop of hoping and waiting.
Maybe it's not about you. Maybe it is. They could be committed to casual dating. Maybe they're emotionally unavailable, unskilled for partnership, or lack sufficient attraction. In truth, you may never know.
But the reason you're stuck in a painful situation-ship is because you're committed to the dream — and a partner who won't commit.
Acknowledge the Reality
Accept the Truth
Keep the Dream. Replace the Person
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They left when you needed them most. You realize they're not your person, but you still want them. Here's how to handle the battle between your head and heart — and come out victorious.
Your mind knows the relationship wasn't right if they could leave you this way — but your heart can't seem to stop wanting them. Why is it so hard to let go, even when the logic is clear?
Keep the Dream. Replace the Person.
Why Your Heart and Mind are at Odds
Steps to Unify Your Heart and Mind
How To Rise From the Ashes
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What does a healthy relationship look like? While the details may be unique to you, there are clear signs — and most importantly, a distinct way it will feel. Here's how to know if you're heading in the right direction: #HealthyRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #HealthyLove
A healthy relationship looks like a natural, easy connection with someone who feels right for you. But more importantly, it feels calm, safe, and secure. You feel comfortable being yourself. There's no confusion, no anxiety, and no second-guessing. Consistency replaces chaos, and emotional safety becomes your new normal.
Getting Comfortable with Feeling Comfortable
No More Confusion or Drama
New Baseline for Trust and Security
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Worried About the Age Gap?
Your age gap relationship is great. But you can't stop wondering — what if AGE becomes a problem later? Before you sabotage your love, reassess what's working vs. fears about the future. Here's how: #agegaprelationships #agegaplove
Before you throw your love away, ask yourself this: Are you reacting to reality, or to a story you've told yourself about what might go wrong someday? Here's how to shift that mindset and protect the relationship you already have.
Fear of the Future
Imagined vs. Real Problems
Assessing Your Relationships Long-Term Value
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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One of the most painful forms of breakup happens in the honeymoon phase. Our partner is still perfect, and our hopes are at their highest. Here's the best way to process and heal from this intense experience. #HoneymoonBreakUp.
The honeymoon breakup receives little comfort from the outside world — new and short term relationships are viewed as fleeting and fanciful, therefore the depth of your heartache is misunderstood. Here's why it hurts so much and how to transition through your heartache with greater ease
Initial Shock
Upward Trajectory to Rapid Fall
Rewriting the Dream
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Stuck on a love that never happened? Still holding on and can't let go of the ‘dream?' Here's how to finally move on and find the real thing.
It's so easy to have our mind jump ahead of our experience. If we don't pace our hearts and our fantasies about what “could be” we will find ourselves in trouble as we leap past the reality of what's really happening inside this connection.
I realize it's hard to let go. But you don't have to let go of the dream. You can ‘keep the dream and replace the person.'
What Was It (Really)?
Taking Them Off the Pedestal
Clearing the Way For Real Love
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Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible
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wow susan has great advise for meek nice ppl giving it raw.. susan seems like a calmer n intelligent version of dr. laura Schlesinger, im subscribed. I been a good guy too long, always taken advantage off my kindness..was looking for some tough love
i hear a double sound, one faster and one slower, can you reupload the episode? i have this issue only with this episode
thankyou susan that helped me a great deal, you have no idea. i was with someone for nearly 4yrs. and that was done to me, it was devastating. i have picked up my pieces and looked forward and kept walking and never looked back. thankyou for your wonderful show. 🌹