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Hello people, how are you doing, this is the third part of - Things I Wished I Knew Sooner titled Communication Etiquettes.I hope you learn as you listen.you can find me and comment your response with the hashtag #SpeakWithRespect, on the podcast X(formally Twitter, or on the host Instagram account SEUN.FUNMI .

Hey guys on today's episode we are going to talk about one thing everyone does out of ignorance.you can find us on linktr.ee also on X(formally twitter).SEGMENT 1: What Is Procrastination? It’s the act of delaying something you know you need to do. It’s not laziness—it’s avoidance. It’s fear dressed up as comfort. You tell yourself, ‘I’ll do it later,’ but later becomes tomorrow, next week, next year… and sometimes, never.And here’s the thing: procrastination feels good in the moment. You get to relax, scroll your phone, binge-watch something, hang out. But deep down, you know there’s something you’re supposed to be doing. And that quiet guilt starts to build.You start to feel anxious. You start to feel behind. You start to feel stuck.And the longer you wait, the heavier it gets. The task doesn’t go away—it just grows in your mind until it feels impossible SEGMENT 2: Why We Procrastinate It’s not because we’re lazy. It’s because we’re scared. Scared of failing. Scared of not being good enough. Scared of starting and realizing we don’t know what we’re doing.Sometimes we procrastinate because we’re perfectionists. We want everything to be just right, so we wait until we feel ‘ready.’ But guess what? That perfect moment rarely comes.Other times, we feel overwhelmed. The task feels too big, too complicated, too stressful. So we avoid it. We distract ourselves. We convince ourselves we’ll be more focused later.And sometimes, procrastination is a trauma response. Maybe you grew up being criticized, so starting something new feels dangerous. Maybe you’ve failed before, and now you’re afraid to try again.But here’s the truth: not starting is the biggest failure of all. Because when you don’t start, you don’t grow. You don’t learn. You don’t move.SEGMENT 3: What Procrastination Steals From UsFirst, it steals time. Time you’ll never get back. You think you’re saving energy, but you’re actually wasting opportunity.Second, it steals confidence. Every time you delay something, you send a message to yourself: ‘I can’t handle this.’ And over time, you start to believe it.Third, it steals peace of mind. That task you’re avoiding? It doesn’t disappear. It sits in the back of your mind, nagging you, stressing you out, making you feel guilty.Fourth, it steals momentum. When you procrastinate, you lose your rhythm. You lose your flow. You lose your drive.And finally, it steals joy. Because deep down, you know you’re capable of more. You know you’re meant for more. But procrastination keeps you stuck in a cycle of delay and regret.”SEGMENT 4: How to Fight Back Step 1: Break it down. Big tasks feel scary. So break them into small steps. Instead of ‘write the report,’ start with ‘open the document.’ Instead of ‘clean the house,’ start with ‘clear one corner.’Step 2: Use the 10-minute rule. Tell yourself you’ll work for just 10 minutes. That’s it. Most times, once you start, you’ll keep going.Step 3: Remove distractions. Put your phone away. Close extra tabs. Create a space where your mind can focus.Step 4: Reward yourself. Celebrate progress, not perfection. Finished a task? Treat yourself. Took the first step? Acknowledge it.Step 5: Be kind to yourself. You’re not lazy. You’re learning. You’re growing. You’re healing. Don’t beat yourself up—just keep moving forward.And remember: action builds confidence. The more you do, the stronger you feel. The stronger you feel, the more you do.”If you’re feeling brave, share your progress with us @TableShakersPodcast using the hashtag #ThiefNoMore. Let’s reclaim our time together.”Tag us @TableShakersPodcast with your situation and also share your experience.you can find us on linktr.ee X(formally twitter)

Hi, I'm Gabriel,this is just a read-along.thanks for listening and reading.you can find me on Instagram @the_table_shakers_podcast or linktr.ee , also on X( formally twitter) .Boundaries are not rude. They’re not selfish. They’re not disrespectful. They’re necessary.Firstly: What Are Boundaries?Boundaries are the invisible lines that protect your time, energy, and emotional space. They’re how you teach people to treat you. But here’s the twist—most of us were never taught how to set them.- Saying “no” without guilt- Asking for space in a relationship- Refusing to answer work calls after hoursBoundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors. You decide who walks through and when.”Secondly: Why We Struggle With BoundariesFor many of us, especially in African households, saying ‘no’ feels like rebellion. We’re taught to be obedient, available, and self-sacrificing.”Common fears:- Fear of being seen as rude- Fear of losing relationships- Fear of confrontationBut here’s the truth: People who respect you will respect your boundaries. Thirdly :Boundaries in Relationships Boundaries aren’t just for work—they’re vital in love, family, and friendships.Examples:- Telling a friend you need time before replying- Asking a partner not to raise their voice during arguments- Letting family know you won’t tolerate disrespectBoundaries don’t push people away—they show them how to love you better.”Fourthly: How to Set Boundaries Without Drama how to set boundaries without guilt or drama.Tips:1. Be clear and direct – “I’m not available after 8 PM.”2. Use ‘I’ statements – “I feel overwhelmed when I’m expected to respond immediately.”3. Stay calm – You don’t need to justify your boundary.4. Repeat if necessary – Boundaries often need reinforcement.Boundaries aren’t one-time announcements,they’re habits.Tag us @TableShakersPodcast with #BoundaryChallenge and share your experience.you can find on Instagram @the_table_shakers_podcast or linktr.ee , also on X( formally twitter) .

**Title: The Crossroads: Understanding the Challenges Facing Today’s Youth** Welcome to The Table Shakers Podcast. I'm Gabriel, your host for today's episode where we delve into the lives of teenagers and young adults at a pivotal point in their journey - the crossroads. **The Identity Maze:** In today's digital age, social media presents a curated view of life, often leading to an identity crisis among the youth. It's crucial to remember that it's okay to be unsure and to take time to discover one's true self. **Exploring Identity Formation:** Identity formation is a complex process, especially when societal expectations often dictate our choices. It's important for young people to remember that they are more than just labels and that redefining oneself is part of growth. **Social Media's Double-Edged Sword:** While social media can be a source of inspiration, it often creates unrealistic benchmarks, leading to self-doubt. It's vital to celebrate personal milestones and use social platforms for genuine connections rather than comparison. **The Pressure Cooker:** The relentless pressure from academic, professional, and social expectations can be overwhelming. Prioritizing mental health and understanding that it's okay to seek help are key steps in managing this stress. In conclusion, navigating through the crossroads of youth is challenging but also an opportunity for self-discovery and growth. It's about finding balance, embracing one's journey, and understanding that each path is unique. Remember, you're not alone at the crossroads. Together, let's shake the table and pave our own paths.

This episode talks about signs to take notice of to know if a relationship is failing. Most people don't actually know when their relationship is falling apart, or how to go about it when they notice it. Enjoy this episode and please follow us Spotify,rate us, subscribe on Google podcast, subscribe on apple podcast and also rate us on apple podcast, please follow us on Twitter@tableshaker_pod, or Instagram @thetableshakerspodcast.