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🎙️ Episode 52: “Stuck on Stupid, Rewriting History, and Still Lying to Yourself”Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Money Matters - A Bonus Drop in The Trigger and The Truth's September Series: Money Moves & Mental HealthEpisode Summary: Description:In this raw, unscheduled bonus episode of The Trigger and The Truth,host Tina White takes a break from proposal-writing and platform-building to speak directly to the energy-draining mess that’s been circling back from the past. From long-winded texts to revisionist history, Tina unpacks what happens when people lose access to your energy and try to reconnect—not with truth, but with delusion. She breaks down what it means to be a “one of one,” why people regret how they mishandled you, and why spiritual boundaries matter more than fake apologies. If you’ve ever had someone mistreat you, then try to loop back like nothing happened — this one’s for you.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:Segment 1: Stuck on Stupid, Still Lying to Yourself– How ghosts from the past reappear when your energy becomes sacred– What people reveal when they write long messages but still take noaccountability– The danger of people who rewrite history instead of taking responsibilitySegment 2: When You’re “One of One”– And They Know It Too Late– Why not everyone is replaceable — especially the chosen– The spiritual weight of being misunderstood but divinely assigned– How Tina's late father taught her to recognize real love and set the standardSegment 3: The Contract Code™ is Cooking – And Regret Can’t Eat at This Table– Why Tina skipped this week’s main episode (hint: it’s epic what’s coming)– A sneak peek at The Contract Code™, the new NYC-focused contract platform for business owners– What happens when you're building the future and others are stuck reliving the pastClosing Reflection:Some people are so lost in their own lies they don’t even recognize the blessing they fumbled. And by the time they realize what they lost… it’s too late. Don’t be that person.Key Quote:"Sometimes, you only get one of one. And if you mess that up, you'll have to learn to live without that energy." – Tina WhiteBold truth-telling, zero tolerance for fake accountability, heavy on theboundaries and healing. You will feel seen. You may feel triggered. But youwill definitely leave empowered.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #MoneyMovesSeptember #OneOfOne #EmotionalMaturity#EnergyProtection #KarmaIsReal #RewritingHistory #DelusionalPeople #BoundariesMatter #TheContractCode #MentalWealth #MoneyMoves #AbundanceMindset #EntrepreneurLife #GovCon #SmallBusiness #TriggerAndTruthMentioned in this episode:MindAlive Ambassador Spot✨ Calling all Mental Health & Wellness Leaders ✨ I’m proud to announce that I’m now an Ambassador for Mind Alive—a company creating innovative, research-backed devices for anxiety relief, better sleep, focus, and overall mental wellness. And here’s the exciting part: you can join me. If you’re a therapist, coach, wellness professional, or community leader who wants to bring Mind Alive’s tools to your own audience, here’s your chance to become an Ambassador too. 👉 Click the link in my bio to apply. Let’s grow this movement together and give our communities even more ways to heal. #MindAlive #TheTriggerAndTheTruth #MentalHealthMatters #HealingInMotionThe Contract Code“Imagine turning the maze of procurement into a clear path. This September, on The Trigger and The Truth, Money Moves is all about helping small businesses navigate government, state and city contracts. Tina White built The Contract Code, a roadmap for bidding with confidence. It demystifies the process,...

🎙️ Episode 51: “Government Contracting Secrets: Money Moves & The Contract Code for Q4 2025”Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Money MattersEpisode Summary: Episode SummaryIn this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White continues the September Money Moves series by taking listeners deeper into The Contract Code—her blueprint for navigating government, state and city contracts. She explains why the last quarter of the fiscal year presents such a critical window for small businesses and why early preparation is essential. Tina also delves into the three pillars of The Contract Code—Foundational Readiness, Mental Wealth & Mindset, and Smart Systems & Strategy—offering a blend of practical steps and mindset shifts designed to help you compete without burning out or breaking the bank.🔍 Key Topics CoveredThe Q4 Spending Surge: Why more than 30% of federal discretionary funds are spent in the fourth quarter and how to position your business to take advantage of the surge sam.gov.Pillar Breakdown: A deeper look at The Contract Code’s three pillars:Foundational Readiness—from forming your business entity and keeping corporate documents current to registering for a Unique Entity Identifier and SAM, and aligning your services with the correct NAICS codes naics.com.Mental Wealth & Mindset—why psychological resilience, hope and optimism are linked to better business performance and why scarcity thinking will block your success pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.Smart Systems & Strategy—building checklists, automating outreach and making the call on when to prime versus subcontract, all without costly consultants.Mental & Emotional Readiness: The importance of self‑care, clear boundaries and building a trustworthy team. Tina shares personal experiences about vetting collaborators and protecting your peace in high‑stakes situations.Closing Out Q3 and Preparing for Q4: Practical steps to update paperwork, obtain certifications, connect with contracting officers and choose your role wisely.What’s Coming Next: A teaser for the next installment in the Money Moves series, focusing on how to stay visible and ready as agencies rush to award contracts before year’s end.💡 Listener TakeawaysEarly preparation and registration (UEI, SAM, NAICS) are non‑negotiable if you want to bid on federal work.Mental health is a business strategy; building psychological resilience and adopting an abundance mindset will boost your entrepreneurial performance pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov.Delegate where you’re weak and vet your team members carefully—trust and alignment matter when stakes are high.Understand Q4’s spending habits and align your marketing and outreach to capture opportunities before budgets...

🎙️ Episode 50: “The Contract Code: 4th Quarter Gov Con Money Matters”Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Money MattersEpisode Summary: Welcome to our 50th episode! In this special installment of The Trigger and The Truth, we kick off September’s Money Moves series with a close look at how to leverage the remainder of 2025 to prepare for a strong Q4 finish and an even stronger Q1 2026 start. Tina shares her expertise on navigating government, state and city contracts while keeping your mental health intact.Key Topics CoveredSetting the Stage: Why Q4 is prime time for government contracting, and how advance preparation now translates to success later.Mental & Emotional Readiness: The often overlooked step in bid preparation – checking in with yourself. Tina explains why resilience, self-care and clear intention are as crucial as compliance checklists.Foundational Readiness: A look back at the 2020 PPP experience and how having your corporate paperwork in order (business formation docs, tax filings, certifications) can be the difference between getting funded and missing out.Understanding the Rules: Breaking down what you need to know about Unique Entity Identifiers (UEI), SAM registration, NAICS codes, and the local vendor systems required in New York City and New York State.Prime vs. Subcontractor: Deciding whether to act as a prime contractor or to subcontract – and why no job is too big or too small when you position yourself correctly.Delegation & Pace: How to delegate tasks, manage your workload, and avoid burnout when deadlines and detail demands start piling up.Sneak Peek – The Contract Code: A teaser for the toolkit we’ll unveil in upcoming episodes. The Contract Code is designed to demystify public procurement, integrate mental health practices into your business routines, and help small businesses compete with confidence.Listener TakeawaysUse this month to gather your paperwork, solidify your “why,” and assess your capacity.Recognize that emotional and mental readiness is non‑negotiable; stress management is part of your business strategy.Understand the official registration steps you must complete to qualify for government work.Start thinking about whether to prime or subcontract on future projects, and get comfortable with bringing in partners.Know that The Contract Code will offer a detailed roadmap, templates and strategies to help you thrive in government contracting without overpaying consultants.Stay tuned for our next episode, where Tina will introduce The Contract Code in detail and explain why this blueprint will change the way you look at your business. We’re here to ensure you stop guessing and start securing contracts – one well-prepared bid at a time.#TheContractCode #MoneyMoves #GovCon #SmallBusiness #EntrepreneurMentalHealth #Q4Prep #PublicContracting #TheTriggerAndTheTruth #BidLikeABoss #GovernmentContractsMentioned in this episode:MindAliveMindAlive 10% off using Code TINAWHITEThe Contract Code“Imagine turning the maze of procurement into a clear path. This September, on The Trigger and The Truth, Money Moves is all about helping small businesses navigate government, state and city contracts. Tina White built The Contract Code, a roadmap for bidding with confidence. It demystifies the process, fits your budget, respects your sanity, and guides you to do more with less stress. Keep listening: your perspective on business is...

🎙️ Episode 49: Get it? Learn How to Put the M****F**** Weed in the Bag First, Then Get Money - "Don't Skip Any of the Levels of Your Life"Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health MattersEpisode Summary: Life Is a Series of Levels—Don’t Rush the ProcessWelcome back to The Trigger and The Truth, where we cut through the noise and get real about life, growth, and mental health. This week, we’re unpacking one of the most relatable lines from the classic movie Belly, starring DMX and Nas:👉🏾 “Learn how to put the weed in the bag first, then get money.”On the surface, it’s street advice. But dig deeper and it’s a life lesson. Too often, people want the results without the grind, the blessing without the preparation, the win without the work. But life doesn’t work that way. Every step, every lesson, every level matters. Skip it, and you don’t just lose the growth you risk blocking your own blessings.In this episode, I’ll break down what it really means to respect the process, why shortcuts are dangerous, and how mastering the level you’re on is the only way to be ready for the next one.🔑 What You’ll Learn in This EpisodePart 1: Every Level Serves a PurposeThink of life is like a video game you can’t skip ahead without first mastering the stage you’re in.The danger of desperation when you’re presented with opportunities.How money and relationships expose who you really are.Part 2: The Dangers of SkippingLevelsHow skipped lessons resurface as repeated patterns.Why rushing leads to imposter syndrome and unpreparedness.The cost of moving recklessly versus building with patience and integrity.Part 3: Embracing Your UniqueJourneyWhy comparison is killing your confidence.Social media’s highlight reel vs. your behind-the-scenes reality.How to honor your pace, trust your process, and stay rooted in your assignmentPart 4: Practical Tools &Reflection ExercisesA guided reflection on past levels you’ve survived.How to start a “Life Level Journal” to track lessons in real time.Visualization prompts to define what your next level actually looks like.💬 Quote from the Episode"Don’t rush the process. Thegrind, the tears, the long nights, the lessons that feel like setbacks, they’reall preparing you for the win that’s waiting on the other side. If you skip thework, you skip the preparation. And if you skip the preparation, you miss theblessing."📌 Why You Should ListenIf you’ve ever felt like you’re“behind,” pressured to measure up to someone else’s timeline, or tempted totake shortcuts because the process feels too slow—this episode is for you. It’sa reminder that nothing is wasted, and everything you’re going through rightnow is shaping you for the success ahead.🎧 Listen NowTune in to Episode 49 of TheTrigger and The Truth:Spotify | Apple Podcasts If this episode resonates with you, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it with a friend who needs a reminder to stay patient, trust their process, and keep leveling up. And don’t forget—you cangrab my book Pick Up the Pieces for more strategies on healing, resilience, and moving forward.Mentioned in this episode:MindAliveMindAlive 10% off using Code...

🎙️ Episode 48: Holes in the Boat – Navigating Secret Sabotage, Mental Wellness and Re-Examining The WhyPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health MattersAs we transition from summer to autumn, life feels like it shifts gears. Students head off to school, parents adjust to new roles, and entrepreneurs push through the final quarters of the year. Change brings new opportunities, but it also brings weight—the hidden leaks in our boat that can quietly sink us if we don’t address them.In this episode, Tina White takes us inside a raw and necessary conversation about what happens when we ignore those “holes.” Drawing from her own lived experience with dysthymia—a mild but long-term depression—she reveals the cost of constantly pushing forward without rest, reflection, or boundaries.Through the metaphor of “holes in the boat,” Tina explores secret sabotage, energy drainers, and the ways we quietly sabotage our own mental wellness. She also revisits the why behind this podcast, reflecting on how far The Trigger and The Truth has come, and why protecting our peace is essential in every season of life.🔎 What You’ll Hear in This EpisodeThe Reality of Dysthymia: Functioning every day while carrying a persistent sadness.Holes in the Boat: How ignoring energy leaks—through overextending, self-sabotage, or unprocessed pain—drains us.Secret Sabotage: Recognizing the subtle ways others and even we ourselves undermine our peace.Re-Examining the Why: Returning to the original mission behind The Trigger and The Truth as we head into a new season.Mental Wellness Tools: Therapy, boundaries, reflection, community, and self-compassion as essential practices.You can’t row harder and expect to stay afloat if your boat has holes. Healing requires slowing down, identifying where the leaks are, and patching them with intentional practices that protect your mental health and energy.What are the holes in your boat? Where are you secretly sabotaging yourself, or letting others drain your energy? Share your truth by calling or texting 715-702-8845. You’ll remain anonymous, but your story could help someone else find healing.Subscribe, rate, and share The Trigger and The Truth to keep this community growing.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #HolesInTheBoat #ProtectYourPeace #MentalHealthPodcast #DysthymiaAwareness #HealingJourney #BoundariesMatter #EnergyDrainersMentioned in this episode:MindAliveMindAlive 10% off using Code TINAWHITE

🎙️ Episode 46: Stop Interrupting Karma: Why You Can’t Save People From Their RegretsPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary: We’ve all been there. Someone from your past, romantic, professional, or even family tries to circle back into your life after mistreating you, undervaluing you, or listening to outside noise instead of trusting their own experience with you. They come with excuses, half-truths, or a sob story, hoping for another chance.🔎 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:Why We Let People Back In: How compassion, hope, and the need for closure can blur into reconciliation.The Rewrite Problem: Why people often return rewriting history, making excuses, and dodging accountability.Interrupting Karma: How rescuing someone from regret only shields them from the lessons they need to learn.The Mental Health Connection: Why carrying someone else’s regret leads to anxiety, insecurity, mistrust—and why boundaries are vital for your healing.💡 Key TakeawayForgiveness doesn’t mean access. Protecting your peace means letting people sit with the consequences of their choices. Their regret is not your responsibility to ease.✨ Call to ActionHave you ever let someone spin the block, only to realize nothing had changed? Or maybe you’ve learned the hard way that rescuing someone only hurt you twice?📞 Call or text the hotline at 715-702-8845 to share your story. You’ll remain anonymous and respected.And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share The Trigger and The Truth—because this community grows when truth is told.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #StopInterruptingKarma #ForgivenessVsAccess #MentalHealthMatters #BoundariesAreHealing #ProtectYourPeace #RelationshipHealing

🎙️ Episode 45: Good Intentions -The Wrong Side of Wrong: The Gap Between Our Intentions and Our Outcomes.Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:We’ve all been there, doing something with the best of intentions, only to realize later that the outcome caused harm. In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, host Tina White explores the gap between what we meant to do and what actually happened—and why learning to own the impact of our actions is one of the hardest, but most necessary, parts of healing.🔎 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:The Intention Trap: Why saying “I didn’t mean to” doesn’t erase harm.Omission vs Transparency: How withholding details can be just as damaging as lying.The Impact on Mental Health & Relationships: How defending intentions while ignoring outcomes erodes trust and creates cycles of guilt, anxiety, and mistrust.The Power of Accountability: Why true growth begins when we own our outcomes—not just our motives.Through real-life style stories—from family dynamics to relationships to workplace examples—this episode unpacks the messy space between our hearts and our habits, our motives and our mistakes.💡 Key TakeawayHealing isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real. And real means taking responsibility for the impact we’ve had, even when our intentions were good. That’s where repair begins.✨ Call to ActionHave you ever found yourself hiding behind good intentions? Or realized too late that omission caused more harm than truth?📞 Call or the hotline at 715-702-8845 to share your story. You’ll remain anonymous and respected.And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share The Trigger and The Truth so more people can join this community of healing and honesty.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #GoodIntentionsWrongOutcomes #HealingOutLoud #Accountability #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #RelationshipHealing #TruthTellers

🎙️ Episode 44: Start Where You Are -Birthdays and Milestones on The Trigger and The TruthPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:In this special bonus episode of The Trigger and The Truth, host Tina White reflects on two powerful milestones: celebrating another year of life and watching her “little podcast” break into the Top 40 on Apple Podcasts in the Mental Health category.What started as an idea delayed by procrastination and perfectionism is now a growing community of nearly 300,000 listeners worldwide. The lesson? Don’t wait for perfect. Don’t wait for ready. Start where you are.In this episode, Tina exploresWhy procrastination is often just fear in disguise.How getting out of your own way unlocks momentum and growth.The power of consistency and truth-telling in reaching goals.Why milestones matter, but mindset matters even more.This is a reminder that it’s always been—and always will be—mind over matter.✨ Call to ActionWhat dream have you been sitting on, waiting for the “perfect time”? This is your sign to begin.📞 Call the hotline at 715-702-8845 to share your story of starting over, overcoming procrastination, or saying yes to yourself. You’ll remain anonymous and respected.🎧 Subscribe, rate, and share The Trigger and The Truth to keep this community growing.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #StartWhereYouAre #BirthdayMilestone #PodcastLife #Top100Podcast #MindOverMatter #HealingOutLoud #TruthTellers #ConsistencyWins #MentalHealthMatters

🎙️ Episode 43: Who Hurt You? -The Origin of the Broad Stroke A Healing Episode for People Tired of Being Triggered by Ghosts From Their PastPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White takes us deep into a pattern many of us fall into: using one painful experience as the paintbrush to color every person, relationship, or opportunity that reminds us of that hurt.This is what I call “The Broad Stroke.” It feels like protection, but in reality, it limits us. When we place people in categories they don’t belong in, we stop seeing them for who they are and start seeing them as ghosts of our past. That cycle not only keeps us stuck—it can poison our relationships, our careers, and even our ability to trust ourselves.Through real-life reflections, including examples from the workplace and relationships, this episode explores:How broad strokes create self-fulfilling prophecies.Why mislabeling people damages connection and growth.The mental health impact of carrying old wounds into new spaces.A path toward breaking the loop, reclaiming peace, and protecting your nervous system.💡 This is a healing episode for anyone tired of being triggered by memories, mistrust, or old narratives that no longer serve you.✨ Call to ActionYour story matters here. Share it with me:Call 715-702-8845 or text the hotline at: 718-440-5538.You’ll remain anonymous and respected, always.And don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates with you, your support helps us grow this community built on truth.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #Episode43 #WhoHurtYou #BroadStroke #MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #BreakTheCycle #EmotionalWellness #TruthTelling #MindOverMatter #CommunityHealing

🎙️ Episode 42: What No One Wanted to Hear - One Woman’s Truth Against A Culture Of DisbeliefPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:In this episode, Tina White shares the anonymous story of a young woman whose first love turned into her deepest trauma. What began as romance ended in violation, silence, and shame and the painful stigma that followed when she tried to go on as if nothing had happened.This is not just her story. It’s a story that echoes for countless survivors of sexual violence in relationships: the weight of silence, the fear of not being believed, the stigma of victim blaming, and the long road toward reclaiming a voice.Key Themes You’ll HearHow sexual violence in relationships is often hidden behind masks of “love” and “normalcy.”The stigma survivors face when they try to break the silence.The impact of victim-blaming and disbelief on mental health and healing.The power of listening, believing, and supporting survivors without judgment.Why silence may feel safer, but breaking it—when survivors are ready—becomes an act of reclamation.Call to ActionYour voice matters here. If this episode resonated with you, please:Share it with someone who needs to hear it.Rate and review The Trigger and The Truth wherever you listen—it helps this community grow.Call the show hotline at (715) 702-8845 to share your thoughts, reflections, or stories.Survivor ResourcesNationwide Resource List – Mental Health, Legal & Crisis SupportA curated list of trusted, confidential resources across the U.S.:Crisis Hotlines & Immediate SupportNationalSexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)Call 1‑800‑656‑HOPE (4673) or start a 24/7 chat at RAINN’s site.Confidential, free support and referrals provided.(RAINN)NationalDomestic Violence Hotline (NDVH)Call 1‑800‑799‑SAFE (7233) or use their chat service. Available in 200+languages—it also includes resources for dating violence (via Loveisrespect).(Wikipedia)Specialized Support LinesStrongHearts Native HelplineFor Native American and Alaska Native survivors: 1‑844‑7NATIVE (1‑844‑762‑8483)or chat.(NIWRC)National Deaf Domestic Violence HotlineFor Deaf, DeafBlind, DeafDisabled, and Hard-of-Hearing survivors: 855‑812‑1001or visit thedeafhotline.org.(NIWRC)Legal & Advocacy SupportTake Back the Night - National Sexual Assault Legal HotlineFree legal aid for survivors seeking justice and understanding their rights.Call 567‑SHATTER (567‑742‑8837).(takebackthenight.org)Victim Rights Law Center (VRLC)Based in Boston; offers free legal services to sexual assault...

🎙️ Episode 41: The Cut Throat Committee – An Inappropriate Response to RealityPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:Episode 41: Cut Throat Committee – An Inappropriate Response to RealitySome enemies come dressed like friends, coworkers, or family. But let’s be real, sometimes the most dangerous member of the cut throat committee is you.In this episode, I get into the uncomfortable truth: self-deception. The lies we tell ourselves to make bad decisions feel safe. The way we pretend not to know the consequences of our actions. And how we sabotage our own peace by letting people cross boundaries we should’ve enforced.I share a personal story about a close friend who has convinced herself to normalize betrayal, and how that example mirrors the way so many of us live in inappropriate responses to reality. From accepting lies to ignoring red flags, we cut our own throats when we choose comfort over truth.What you’ll take away from this episode:Why self-deception is the most destructive form of betrayal.The difference between their truth and THE truth.How to recognize when you’re responding to feelings instead of facts.What appropriate responses to reality look like in everyday life.Why holding yourself and your friends accountable is an act of love.This episode isn’t about judgment, it’s about alignment. Because until you stop pretending, the lies will always have meaning.👉 Tune in now to The Trigger and The Truth Podcast.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #CutThroatCommittee #MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #RealConversations #SelfDeception #FaceTheTruth

🎙️ Episode 40: Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll: Entitled Energy is Expensive Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive picks up where Episode 39 left off. This time, Tina dives deep into one personal story, when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle.It’s not just about a man asking for a cut of a commission check he didn’t earn, it’s about what that moment revealed: unspoken resentments, shifting dynamics, and how entitlement can quietly drain your energy if you don’t check it early.This episode is a wake-up call about protecting your peace, your pockets, and your mental bandwidth from people who think being in your proximity gives them ownership over your effort."Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. This is Part Two of a conversation we started in Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive picks up where Episode 39 left off. This time, Tina dives deep into one personal story — when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle.It’s not just about a man asking for a cut of a commission check he didn’t earn — it’s about what that moment revealed: unspoken resentments, shifting dynamics, and how entitlement can quietly drain your energy if you don’t check it early.This episode is a wake-up call about protecting your peace, your pockets, and your mental bandwidth from people who think being in your proximity gives them ownership over your effort.Episode Introduction"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. This is Part Two of a conversation we started in Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand.In this episode, we’re talking about one specific situation from my own life — a moment when casual dating got tangled up with financial entitlement. Let me paint the picture: You’re focused, you’re working, you’re building. Someone you’re dating sees your success and instead of celebrating, they start calculating. And suddenly, you’re not just managing the relationship — you’re managing their insecurity and sense of ownership over your hustle.So today, I want to walk you through what happened, why entitlement energy is so expensive, and how to spot it before it costs you more than money. And I’ve got five key questions for you to ask yourself if you suspect someone is trying to live off your efforts without ever clocking in."Five Questions from the EpisodeDoes this person celebrate my wins or do they compete with them?Have they ever implied they deserve a piece of my success without contributing to it?Do I feel I have to downplay my accomplishments to keep them comfortable?Are they adding value to my life or just attaching themselves to the benefits?If this relationship ended today, would I feel relieved, or would I feel like I lost a true partner? in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand.In this episode, we’re talking about one specific situation from my own life, a moment when casual dating got tangled up with financial entitlement. Let me paint the picture: You’re focused, you’re working, you’re building. Someone you’re dating sees your success and instead of celebrating, they start calculating. And suddenly, you’re not just managing the relationship, you’re managing their insecurity and sense of ownership over your hustle.So today, I want to walk you through what happened, why entitlement energy is so expensive, and how to spot it before it costs you more...

🎙️ Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night StandPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:21 Questions to Check If You’re Holding On to Something That’s Holding You BackSome relationships were never meant to make it past sunrise — but somehow, here you are, years in, emotionally drained, rewriting history in your head, and calling it love.In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White takes you through 21 hard, candid, and eye-opening questions to help you see whether you’re holding on to a relationship that’s been holding you back. We’re getting honest about the lies we tell ourselves to justify staying, the red flags we try to manage instead of address, and why the longer you ignore the truth, the more expensive it becomes — emotionally, mentally, and sometimes financially.You’ll hear:Why “casual” can quietly turn into “complicated”How ignoring early deal-breakers sets the stage for years of frustrationThe real-life story of a relationship that lasted far longer than it should have — and the moment Tina knew it was overThe 21-Question Self-Diagnostic to see if you’re living in a relationship that should have ended long agoThe difference between giving grace and giving away your peace💡 Truth to remember: Not everyone deserves the deluxe package. Stop upgrading people who were never supposed to stay the night.This is just Part One. In Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive, Tina dives deeper into one specific story from this episode — a moment when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle. You don’t want to miss it.🎧 Part Two Dropping on Wednesday 8/13/2025 Stay Tuned!#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #RelationshipTruth #BoundariesMatter #SelfRespect #DatingWisdom #LetGoToGrow #HealingJourney #EmotionalWellness #RelationshipRedFlags

🎙️ Episode 38: Cognitive Range-Being Able to Cope with Life on All LevelsPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:Somewhere along the way, the movement to destigmatize mental health got… distorted.We didn’t just normalize therapy — we turned it into a personality trait.We didn’t just encourage self-awareness — we started diagnosing every feeling.And now? Everything is a trigger. Everything is trauma. Instead of using mental health tools to build strength, some of us are using mental health language as a shield — justifying avoidance, self-sabotage, and emotional fragility in the name of “protection.”But real mental health isn’t about staying comfortable. It’s about capacity.It’s the ability to handle life as it comes — the good, the bad, and the messy — without falling apart every time something feels uncomfortable. That’s what I call cognitive range.In this episode, I’m breaking down:• What cognitive range really means and why it matters.• How the mental health conversation got twisted along the way.• The 5-question mental strength diagnostic to see where you might be hiding from growth.• Why good mental health should be challenged, not coddled.• How to shift from comfort to capacity in your mental health journey.If your mental health work isn’t making you stronger, it’s time to ask why.🎧 Listen now and let’s get back to what the mental health movement was meant to do help us heal, grow, and show up for life on all levels.Resources & Links:• Follow The Trigger and The Truth on Instagram: @thetriggerandthetruth• Subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts#MentalHealthMatters #CognitiveRange #EmotionalStrength #TheTriggerAndTheTruth #MentalWellness #Resilience #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalCapacity

🎙️ Episode 37: I’m Processing: The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Healing Without a BreakPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:Some storms don’t pass in a day. Some storms don’t pass in a year. They change shape, slow down, speed up—but never truly disappear. And yet, life still demands that we live, parent, love, work, and keep showing up in the middle of them.In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, I’m pulling back the curtain on what it really looks like to keep moving when life doesn’t give you a pause button. I share my personal journey of raising children, running a business, grieving major losses, and navigating betrayal—all without a safety net, a break, or the luxury of healing in peace.I call this state Processing—and it’s proof that living, building, and healing can happen at the same time.🔍 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:Segment 1 – Defining “Processing”The truth about healing while in motion.How societal myths about “fully healing first” don’t match real life.My real-time reflections as a mother, entrepreneur, and woman moving her child into college while still carrying her own grief.Segment 2 – Healing Without a Pause ButtonThe daily grind of grieving while meeting responsibilities.How “background grief” quietly affects your mind, body, and energy.Small, realistic healing practices that can fit into a demanding life.Segment 3 – The Weight of Being the Strong OneThe emotional toll of being the one everyone counts on—but no one checks on.How betrayal, loss, and lack of support have shaped my boundaries and choices.Why acceptance became the turning point in how I process pain.Segment 4 – How to Keep Moving While You’re Still ProcessingBuilding your small circle of truth.Setting boundaries without apology.Finding joy and peace in the middle of chaos.Why you can’t wait for life to “calm down” before you start living.💡 Key Quote from This Episode:"Processing is not failure. Processing is proof that you’re still here, still moving, still building something—even while the rain is falling. And that’s strength in its purest form."📚 Resources & Links Mentioned:Grab your copy of Pick Up the Pieces — [Link in bio]Listen to Episode 33: Healing Starts Here for your free national therapy directory.🎯 Call to Action:If you’re in your own storm right now, know this—you don’t have to wait until it passes to start living again. Healing happens in the middle. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and let’s keep processing together.

🎙️ Episode 36: The Audacity of Delusion: Chosen and Still Betrayed - Delulu for DecadesPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Mental Health Matters📝 Episode Summary:What happens when the people closest to you are the very ones who harm you? In this episode, we unravel the heartbreak of betrayal by those we trusted the most—family. Tina White opens up about the deep mental health toll of hidden hate, the silence it forces, and the healing that begins when we stop making excuses for toxic loyalty. In today’s episode, Tina boldly confronts the painful truths of family betrayal—the kind that comes from within, wrapped in love and trust, yet driven by resentment and hidden agendas. Using her unmistakable voice, she shares how delusion cemented in her relationships, and how she finally reclaimed her name, her peace, and her boundaries. This is a powerful reflection on personal accountability, self-respect, and the courage it takes to walk away from someone you once called kin.Key Topics:When love blinds you to dangerThe cost of proximity without integrityWhy you must honor your gut, even with familySelf-awareness: owning your part in relational patternsRemoving toxic kin from your peace, even when it hurtsListener Takeaways:And why "being naive" isn’t weakness—it’s gravityHow to gently affirm: I’m not responsible for your chaosHow to trust yourself without blameResources Mentioned:Pick Up the Pieces — Tina White’s book on reclaiming your storyEpisode 33: Healing Starts Here — National therapy directory for trauma recovery👉 Final Thought:Protect your dignity. If you’re tired of pretending toxicity is love, this is your clarion call. It’s not about hatred—it’s about valuing your peace.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #MentalHealthMatters #HealingStartsHere #PickUpThePieces #AugustReflections #TinaWhiteSpeaks #TherapyResources #BlackMentalHealth #NewMonthNewMindset #EmotionalWellness #TheHealingSeason

🎙️ Episode 35: The Broken Bone Theory — And What Happens When It Never HealsPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Year of the Therapist – Grief, Truth, and the Unspoken📝 Episode Summary:In this deeply reflective episode, Tina White explores The Broken Bone Theory, a powerful concept that suggests people who never physically break a bone may be wired to break in ways that aren't visible: emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. But what happens when the emotional break happens and never truly heals?We go beyond metaphor and dig into what it really means to live with internal pain that the world can’t see. Tina shares personal stories, family history, and the emotional reality of what it’s like to be close to people who harbor hidden hate. She also challenges the audience to confront what they’ve been taught to normalize.This episode is a gentle but firm nudge to reflect, release, and reframe how we view strength, pain, and the invisible injuries we carry.🧠 What We Discuss:What is The Broken Bone Theory—and why does it resonate?Real-life stories that challenge the theory, including a deeply personal one about Tina’s younger brotherHow unresolved trauma mirrors a fracture that was never properly setThe emotional toll of being close to someone who secretly resents youThe connection between stoicism, suppression, and emotional self-harmStrategies for healing emotional breaks that never got attention🛠️ Mental Health Tools Shared:Recognizing symptoms of silent sufferingUnderstanding stoicism and how it can both help and hurtUsing discernment to protect your peaceReflection exercises: identifying emotional fractures in your own life📚 Resource Mentioned:Pick Up The Pieces by Tina White – available nowEpisode 33: Healing Starts Here – featuring a national therapy directory📣 Call to Action:Don’t ignore your pain just because it’s not visible. Healing is possible—but only when you acknowledge what’s been broken.👉 Tap the link in bio to grab your copy of Pick Up The Pieces🎧 And if you're looking for help, listen to Episode 33 for access to a free national therapy directory designed for real people with real pain.#TheBrokenBoneTheory, #InvisibleGrief, #EmotionalHealing, #MentalHealthMatters, #TriggerAndTruth, #StoicismAndHealing, #UnseenPain, #TinaWhite, #PodcastForHealing, #GriefAndGrowth, #HealingStartsHere🎧 Listen Now On:Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

🎙️ Episode 34: Who Opened That Door? Love, Lies, and Lingering Spirits: A Spiritual Wake-Up Call on Soul Ties and Energetic ContaminationPodcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Year of the Therapist – Grief, Truth, and the Unspoken📝 Episode Summary:In this deeply personal and spiritually charged episode of The Trigger and The Truth, host Tina White pulls back the curtain on what really happens when you're entangled with someone living a lie. It's not just about cheating—it’s about what enters your life because of it.From soul ties to spiritual warfare, monitoring spirits to emotional fallout, Tina walks you through the unseen but very real consequences of deception and dishonesty in relationships. If you've ever felt off after loving someone who betrayed you—or wondered why your spirit couldn't rest while they were near—this episode is your confirmation.Because sometimes the chaos in your life didn’t start with you... it walked in through someone you trusted.🔥 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:A raw personal story that exposed a spiritual shift in real timeThe Deception Portal: how cheating opens spiritual doorsWhy Full Disclosure isn’t just a real estate rule—it’s a survival skillThe truth about spiritual fallout and emotional contaminationHow to recognize when you're living with residue that’s not yoursTools to break soul ties and protect your spirit from inherited warfareA final truth serum on why you should never let someone hurt you and police your reaction💭 Quote of the Episode:“You didn’t open the door—but you’re the one living with the chaos that walked in.”🔗 Resources Mentioned:Upcoming workbook: “From Betrayal to Breakthrough” (join waitlist)📌 Call to Action:Share this episode with someone who’s been feeling spiritually off—you might help them name what they’ve been carrying.Leave a review on Spotify or Apple if this spoke to your soul. Your voice helps amplify the truth.Follow @TriggerAndTruthPodcast and @tinawhiteofficial on Instagram for daily reflections, reels, and healing prompts.🎧 Listen Now On:Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Healing Starts Here: National Therapy Directory — a national therapy directory curated specifically for men navigating childhood trauma, sexual confusion, and emotional silence.This isn’t just a list of names.It’s culturally competent, trauma-informed, and purpose-built for Black and Brown men who’ve been carrying pain in silence for way too long.From New York to L.A., Atlanta to Chicago—in person or virtual—these are providers who see you, who speak the language of grief, shame, and survival that you were never taught to put into words.✨ Maybe you were touched as a child and never told a soul.✨ Maybe you’re emotionally unavailable and don’t even know why.✨ Maybe you’ve been strong for so long, you forgot how to feel.This resource is for you.🛑 No more guessing.🛑 No more silence.🛑 No more carrying what you never asked for.Want to get started?📍 Click the show notes right now.You’ll find full contact info, websites, and even healing circles for fatherhood, trauma recovery, and emotional clarity.And listen—if you’re not ready to reach out yet, that’s okay.Bookmark it.Save it.Share it with someone who’s still pretending they’re fine.You don’t have to suffer in silence.You don’t have to explain your pain to people who don’t get it.You deserve to be safe, seen, and supported.This is just the beginning.You are not alone anymore.🎧 This is The Trigger and The Truth Podcast.Where healing doesn’t wait for permission.And every episode is a step toward your freedom.🧠 Therapy Directory by Region📍 Northeast (NYC / Tri-State)• Dr. Raymond Johnson, LMHC – Childhood sexual abuse, masculinity, fatherhood grief🌐 drrayjohnson.com | 📞 Accepts sliding-scale• Harlem Men’s Wellness Center – Group therapy, EMDR, father-son reconciliation📞 (212) 555 0199 | 🌐 harlemheals.org• Danielle Robbins, LMHC – Black/African American therapy📞 (347) 572 7461 | 🌐 claritytherapynyc.com• Amos Wolff, LMFT – LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC trauma-informed care📞 (929) 810 4612• Max Malitzky, PsyD – Trauma, grief, LGBTQ+ identity📞 (347) 745 7481• Stephen Ross, LCSW – LGBTQ+ identity & trauma specialist📞 (917) 746 0734________________________________________📍 MidwestChicago• Marcus Green, LCSW – Childhood trauma, male identity🌐 marcusgreencounseling.com | 📞 (773) 555 7788• Midwest Men’s Therapy Collective – Trauma-informed care (in-person/virtual)📞 (312) 555 3300 | 🌐 mntcchicago.orgDetroit• Dr. Jamal Brown, PsyD – Sexual abuse recovery, fatherhood grief🌐 drjamalbrown.com | 📞 (313) 555 1122• Great Lakes Men’s Wellness – BIPOC group therapy🌐 glmenswellness.org | 📞 (313) 555 2233Minneapolis• Tyrone Johnson, LMFT – Cultural identity & emotional regulation🌐

🎙️ Episode 32: What’s Grief? “Not Just Death—The Losses We Don’t Talk About”Podcast: The Trigger and The TruthHost: Tina WhiteSeries: Year of the Therapist – Grief, Truth, and the Unspoken🔊 Episode Summary:Grief doesn’t come with a timer. It doesn’t fit into a caption. It doesn’t make itself digestible just because people around you are uncomfortable with your pain.In this raw and necessary episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White opens up the conversation so many try to avoid—what grief really looks like, especially in Black and Brown communities, where silence is praised and stoicism is mistaken for strength.We talk about why grieving openly is often seen as weakness, how generational and systemic trauma have buried our grief under shame, and what it looks like to actually make space for healing.This episode is a reminder: Grief is personal. Grief is layered. And however long it takes—it’s valid."Stop policing how people grieve. Stop expecting folks to 'get over it' when you never even asked if they were okay. People are grieving in real time while raising children, running businesses, taking care of families, showing up on Zoom calls with a smile—and they’re dying inside.So my message? Let people grieve how they grieve. Don’t just tolerate it—honor it. Respect it. Pray that the universe gives you the same space and grace one day when your grief shows up."💬 Closing Words – Tina White:"Grief is not weakness. It’s a sacred process. And it’s not your job to make it palatable for other people.If you’re grieving right now—whether you’ve spoken it or not—I see you. I honor you. And I pray you let it out before it burns you from the inside.This is The Trigger and The Truth. We don’t sugarcoat. We tell it like it is. So if this hit you, share it with someone who’s still hiding their heartbreak. Let this episode be their permission slip."📢 Call to Action:✅ Tag someone who needs to hear this💬 Share your story or what you’ve been grieving in silence🎙️ Subscribe, rate, and review The Trigger and The TruthGrief is not weakness. Grief is the evidence that you loved, that you lost, and that you still care. Let people grieve. Not how you think they should—but however they need.#TheTriggerAndTheTruth #WhatsGrief #LetPeopleGrieve #GriefHealing #BlackGriefMatters #PermissionToFeel #YearOfTheTherapist #TinaWhiteTruths #MentalHealthInRealLife #GriefAndGrace