Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course. Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a ...
In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine. We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensa...
When most people think about sexual libido, the first thought often goes straight to the physical aspect of things such as “Why doesn’t my spouse have any sex drive?” or “Something must be wrong with them physically.” But what if a spouses desire to be sexual (libido) really isn't physical, but is tied to how they feel emotionally connected? In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the surprising reality that libido is not just about the physical desire, it’s m...
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into a common concern we hear from many husbands: “Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target!" For some couples, intimacy seems to come with a long checklist such as chores finished, the house spotless, kids taken care of, emotional connection felt, and the right mood set... before intimate time is even an option. While those things can all be important, they can also leave one spouse feeling rejected, frustrated, or like...
"What We Feed Grows, And What We Starve Dies" - This is one of our favorite quotes from our good friends Greg and Julie Gorman with Married For A Purpose. We love this quote because it is so powerful and true! In marriage, our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes act like seeds, what we feed our thoughts grows stronger (good or bad), what we starve our thoughts dies. Your thoughts truly shape what your marriage will be, what you focus on grows, and what you ignore fades. In this episode of ...
This episode is intended for couples in a healthy relationship who are looking to create better sexual balance in their marriage. Sexual intimacy is a very important aspect of a healthy and thriving marriage. However, many if not most couples find themselves in a dynamic where one spouse has a higher sex drive than the other. This is completely normal, as no two people have the exact same libido. The problem arises when (in a healthy marriage) the lower-desire spouse, often unintentionally, t...
One of the most common things we hear from couples is that their marriage isn't fun, flirty or passionate anymore, and that they just feel like roommates. Marriage doesn’t have to be all serious, it CAN be fun, flirty, and full of laughter! In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we explore how playfulness and connection can deepen your intimacy and strengthen your marriage. We’re joined by Elaine (LMFT) and Abe Romero, experts in relationships and marriages, who share practic...
Many of us grew up learning about sex through a worldly lens, leaving us with feelings of guilt, shame, or discomfort around sexual intimacy. But the truth is: sex is a beautiful, natural expression of connection. It’s a way for couples to be truly vulnerable with one another, like no other relationship allows. In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful truth that you can be both spiritual and sexual, and that the two are deeply intertwined. Couples who embrac...
Your first thought may be "what mistakes could happen after making love?" What happens after sexual intimacy can be just as important as the intimate moment itself. Yet many couples unknowingly make mistakes that can lead to disconnection, hurt feelings, or missed opportunities for deeper connection. In this episode, Nick and Amy share the six most common mistakes couples make after being intimate and the reasons why. You’ll learn how to turn those tender post intimacy moments into a time of ...
Why dedicate an entire episode to kissing? Because this simple, sweet act is packed with incredible benefits for your relationship and your health! Did you know that kissing can burn calories, strengthen your immune system, and even boost your mood by reducing depression? Plus, research shows couples who kiss often tend to enjoy stronger, more connected marriages. In this fun episode, Nick and Amy share fascinating facts you’ve probably never heard before, along with tips for making kissing a...
We were sitting on the couch the other night laughing about how much of our daily life as a married couple could sometimes be straight out of a sitcom. No one writes this stuff... it just happens in our house.🤣 In this podcast episode we share the funny things that happen in our marriage and with our kids that make us wonder "are we the only ones that do these things?" For example: Do your kids text you from the room next to you? Do you take 60 minutes to pick out a movie to watch together? D...
We often hear about how a lack of intimacy affects men, but what about the women? What happens when he’s the one with little to no sexual desire? Or if a wife is withholding or doesn't want sexual intimacy? Either scenario, the negative impacts are the same. A man’s healthy sex drive often fuels romance, emotional connection, and the drive to pursue and cherish his wife. But when that is missing, it can leave a woman feeling undesired, disconnected, and confused. In this episode of the Ultima...
Let’s be real, marriage comes with a whole lot of love... and a few cringe-worthy things we didn’t sign up for. From open-mouth chewing to chronic nagging to that "Thanks-for-nothing" attitude, sometimes the smallest things can flip the switch from turned on to totally turned off. In this episode, we share "your" poll answers on the things that really turn you off. These are the silent killers of connection, the subtle sabotage moves you probably don't even realize you're making... but ...
You've heard us talk about how different men and women are when it comes to sexual desires, and what puts a husband or wife in the mood. Men can be ready to go at any moments notice, and sex for most men is the way they feel loved, and gives them the validation that they are loved. For women, they need to feel loved before they are going to have the desire for sexual intimacy. For a woman to feel loved, they need to feel valued, listened to, respected, safe and emotionally connected. For men ...
This might just be one of our most powerful and influential episodes we have ever done packed with insight, wisdom, and practical tools that apply to every marriage, no matter where you are in your relationship journey. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Tamara Fackrell, a divorce attorney, author, and PhD in Marriage & Family Relationships. Yes, you read that right! A divorce attorney who’s passionately working to help couples stay together and thrive. Tamara shares transformative s...
Is Your Date Night Falling Flat? Or… are you skipping it altogether? In this fun episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into how to turn your average date night into a great night! They’ll share real answers from couples in their latest poll, fresh ideas for planning unforgettable nights, and the dos and don’ts that can make or break your time together. If your date nights have become routine (or nonexistent), this episode is your game plan for bringing back the fun, pass...
Balancing marriage and parenting can feel overwhelming at times. Between work, childcare, and household responsibilities, it’s easy for intimacy to take a backseat. However, transitioning from “parent mode” to “lover mode” is crucial for maintaining a strong emotional and physical connection with your spouse. But it is extremely hard for some women (and men) to do. In fact, in our recent poll we took, 60% of women stated it was hard for them to switch from mom (parent) mode to lover mode. In ...
In this really fun episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we’re turning up the heat on your typical date night with some spicy game ideas for couples, and the best part? You probably already own everything you need! This is one of our favorite things to do, because after all, the Ultimate Intimacy App bedroom game was developed because of one of the games we were playing to spice things up! Think you need to buy fancy products or plan a big night out to connect intimately with your spouse?...
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we’re bringing back the charm, romance, and respect that make marriages thrive, starting with a deep dive into chivalry and what it actually looks like in modern-day marriage. Chivalry not as outdated gestures or grand displays, but as small daily, intentional acts of love and respect, like opening the door, protecting your spouse’s heart, putting their needs first, and showing up with kindness and thoughtfulness, even when life gets cra...
In today’s episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the amazing benefits of being married, and we’re not just talking about tax breaks and shared chores! In fact we don’t even mention either of those! We discuss emotional security and companionship to better health and deeper intimacy, marriage brings a unique kind of fulfillment that singles just don’t experience the same way. But this episode isn’t just our opinion, we asked you, our incredible audience, to tell us what YOU th...
Jake Wain
Being that me and my wife didn't kiss until the altar we are 100% kissing more now than when we were dating but I won't say it's a ton. After listening to this I think I will be adding to the quota lol