It seems like we all get so busy with life that we forget to do the little things daily that greatly improve emotional intimacy... which also improves sexual intimacy. These include being physically present when you're together, expressing gratitude for the small things, showing daily acts of love—such as sending a simple text to tell your spouse how much they mean to you—or ending the day with meaningful connection.In this episode, we discuss ways to incorporate emotional intimacy into your ...
In the past few episodes, we have talked about what men need and what women need in marriage, and we also discussed how men and women are so different when it comes to sex. When you can understand how men and women are so different and what each spouses needs are, then you can implement things to help your relationship. In this episode we discuss the difference between "needs" and "wants" in marriage, and how couples can find balance when their needs are so different. This episode sponsored b...
It is amazing how many of us don't do the things that could drastically improve our relationships, that are pretty easy to do. Whether we get lazy, fall into bad habits or whatever it may be, we stop doing the simple things that would make our marriages so much better.In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the things that couples should do at least once a year to have their marriage flourish! Let us know what you think after listening to the episode!This episode sponsored by vitalhealthprod...
Sexual intimacy for most women is not a need but a want, and let's be honest, for many women, it's not even a want. Their bodies are typically wired completely differently than a man's body. They react to sexual intimacy completely differently than most men do. For most women, they are only going to want sex or be willing to have sex if their emotional needs are being met and when they feel trust and respect in the marriage.Join us for this great episode where Nick and Amy (mostly Amy) will s...
It drives us crazy when we hear wive's say "my husband just wants sex!" and they treat it as if it is something strictly physical for him. Nothing could be further from the truth. If sex for a husband (man) was just a physical want, and not a need, he would just "take care of himself" and never bother his wife for sex ever again, and would he be content and happy in the marriage. But no man is happy with that! They want to feel connected, desired, safe and loved in the relationship. Sex is th...
As you know, we cover just about EVERYTHING a married couple deals with in marriage in our podcast episodes. There are a lot of things to remember, and sometimes it can get very overwhelming.In this episode, we decided to keep it simple and share, based on all the feedback we receive from husbands and wives, what men need and what women need in marriage to be happy. We recognize that this isn’t universal and that different marriages need different things. But for most men and most women, thes...
Think about how powerful our five senses are. What we see, feel, hear, smell, and taste makes life so gratifying and amazing! Take away any one of those, and life becomes a completely different experience.So how many of us shut down our senses when it comes to foreplay and lovemaking? Many of us turn the lights off, removing our sense of sight. We try to be quiet instead of verbally expressing how much we’re enjoying each other through words and sounds, limiting our hearing. Some of us don't ...
We had someone message us stating that we sounded like we were fighting in one of our previous podcast episodes, and they asked if we were okay in our marriage :) Amy and I laughed when we got the message and decided that we needed to do this episode on why it is healthy to have disagreements or to see things differently in marriage, and the difference between fighting and having disagreements. Because... it is totally normal AND healthy to have disagreements.So, in this episode, we discuss w...
In this episode, we dive into playful and creative ways to initiate sexual intimacy with your spouse! Whether you're looking for fun ways to break the routine, build anticipation, or make the moment fun or special, we've got you covered. From lighthearted flirting to exciting surprises, we share practical ideas that will help you reconnect emotionally and sexually.Join us in this episode as Nick shares the fun things he has done (or attempted to do) as well as other ideas and gets Amy's react...
We spend a lot of time talking about how, when a couple has a good emotional connection, they are much more likely to have a good sexual connection! Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy really do go hand in hand.Unfortunately, what often happens is that when a couple's emotional connection starts going downhill, the sexual connection almost always follows, and vice versa.We hear from so many people in our audience sharing that their sex life is a wreck or that their spouse never wants to co...
There are so many crazy things going on in the world. We are facing wars, an invasion of our country, inflation, potential port strikes, division like we have never seen before, natural disasters, and so much more! These are things that we spend so much time worrying about, but have very little control over. What we should be doing is focusing on improving the things that we can control such as our relationships, and marriages. That doesn't mean the other things aren't important because they ...
Ever felt like you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage? You're not alone. This episode discusses the signs you are in a "one sided" marriage, and what you can do about it.Sometimes a spouse may stop putting forth any effort because they have resentment, have been hurt or something has happened and they do this intentionally, but other times it is done unintentionally. They could be so stressed due to their job, health issues or many other things life throws our way. The good news ...
This is part 2 of the ways men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex. In this episode we continue our discussion and offer insight as to why men and women are so different and why instead of looking at it in a negative way, you should look at the differences in a way that can bring you closer together. If you haven't listened to episode 302 (part one) first, we recommend you do so.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimat...
When you look at how men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex, it is easy to understand why it is a source of contention in so many marriages. Couples don't understand, nor do they talk about the ways they are wired differently. If couples better understood how each spouse is wired when it comes to sex, and talked about it together, marriages would be so much different... and better for so many couples.Instead of a spouse just saying, "they just want sex," they would unders...
When we go on date night, it is astonishing to look around and see how many people are on their phones instead of talking to their spouse. Is it because they don't want to talk to their spouse? Or is it because they don't know what to talk about with their spouse? We don't know the answer, but we hope it is the latter.In this episode, we give you 20 things you should be talking to your spouse about on date nights. These topics will not only make for great conversations that are fun but also h...
Establishing boundaries with extended families and friends is vital to a happy marriage. Most couples state that extended family and friends cause issues in their marriage. In this episode, we'll dive into practical strategies for setting boundaries that honor your relationship while still nurturing connections with extended family and friends. Whether you're dealing with overbearing in-laws or navigating friendships that blur the lines, or even toxic business relationships, this discussion w...
It is amazing how certain words can be so triggering for some spouses and the word "help" is one of these words that can have good intentions, but can also be very triggering. For example, when one spouse says, "How can I help?" it may unintentionally create a hierarchy where one spouse is the "manager" and the other the "assistant." When a spouse offers to "help" with something like dishes, laundry, or managing the kids, it seems like a thoughtful, kind gesture on the surface. However, ...
What does it mean to "pursue" your spouse emotionally and sexually? There are so many things in life that we pursue. We pursue better jobs, pursue our hobbies and interests, pursue better things in life. What happens if we stopped just stopped pursuing those things? How would our lives change? If we stopped pursing things we would probably loose excitement, ambition or even purpose in our lives. So why would things be any different if we stop pursuing our spouse? When we stop pursing our spou...
It is amazing how many people reach out to us, saying things like, "I want to do _________ in the bedroom, but my spouse isn't open to it or doesn't want to try new things. What can I do?"It is important to recognize that we all come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up (or even as adults) that shape our thoughts, beliefs, and comfort levels when it comes to sexual intimacy. This means it's fairly common for couples to have different comfort levels regarding th...
In today’s fast-paced world, many couples face the challenge of balancing career demands and family life, often leading to a shift in traditional gender roles. As a wife who has experienced this firsthand, I’ve come to realize that toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are not just abstract concepts but real issues impacting our marriages.When I started working full time and juggling the responsibilities of raising kids, I felt a shift in my role and identity. I found myself adopting more tr...
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Being that me and my wife didn't kiss until the altar we are 100% kissing more now than when we were dating but I won't say it's a ton. After listening to this I think I will be adding to the quota lol