What happens when there are BIG EMOTIONS surrounding the death of your toxic mother? Do you react the way you thought you would? And what do you do with these emotions once they hit? We will explore all of this in this episode, and, of course, it all stemmed from a show I was watching that involved mother-daughter dysfunction.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Should you have compassion for a mother who is hard to love? I was talking with one of my clients when she asked this question. This can be thought provoking depending on the relationship you currently have with your mom. Also, what happens when she might need more from you than you can give? Do you go to her aid? Let’s find some common ground so you don’t get burned or burned out, and she respects your boundaries for peace.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
What do you do when the mother you trusted with your life, who was so supportive and loving towards you, becomes the monster in your life?I recently watched the Netflix documentary called “Unknown Caller,” and this is a tough one. In the episode, I am giving the ending away, so if you haven’t seen it yet, go watch it and then come back to listen to this episode!Let’s talk about how this documentary showed me what real emotional abuse from a mom looks like, and how we can sit, listen, and show compassion to someone else if this has happened to them. Have you seen this documentary? What did you think?Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Do you trust your instincts? Has your mother or someone else made you feel like your opinions don’t matter? It happens when the enemy sees your beauty and passion and wonderful calling and is trying to kill it. Don’t let him. You have to trust that God has given you the Holy Spirit that you can trust. Listen in to hear what I have to say about this.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
What would you tell your younger self? Have you ever looked back at your life and said, “Well, that didn’t happen the way I planned it?”I think it’s great to have a plan of what you picture your life to be, but I would recommend learning to pivot a lot. I often tell young women and my own girls that their twenties are their crying years. Let me take you through the reality of what can happen when you take a detour down the road a bit. Don’t fret, dear one; the best is yet to come!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Where did we go when we needed a mom who was caring, attentive, and present, but what we got was completely different. Our mothers were absent, ignored us, and on some occasions, abandoned us altogether.In today’s episode, we are going to explore a real and honest question: “What did I actually need from my mother that I never received?”We get to the heart of the matter and get honest with ourselves about what we need and what we need to do now. You may have never received those things from your mom, but you can give them to yourself and bring them into your family if you work at it. Let’s discuss how.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
The kids are leaving. What happens now? Where do you go now if your whole personality has been that of a mommy to these young children?You have to let your children fly. Don’t clip their wings, or they will never know how to survive in the world without you. Make them successful for the world, not just for that momentJust remember that you've done a really good job, and they can be independent, it’s a good thing for them!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
How many times have you allowed someone else’s words, comments, or declarations of who you are to stick on you like absolute truth? Is it time to peel back the layers and see if this is something the enemy likes to use as a weapon and keep you from being the wonderful woman God wants you to be? He made you to shine! Let’s dig into this together and help you discover your authentic self.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Do you have “Spidey Sense” when it comes to emotions? Were you the one who always made sure everyone, but especially your mom, was okay? Could you feel the tone of the room as soon as you walked through it? You might be doing this now in your own family.Maybe it’s time to take care of you and stop worrying about everyone else to the point of your own decline in health, mentally and physically. Let’s talk about using this skill to your advantage, not your detriment. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
What do you do when your mother wants you to take care of her during an illness or while recovering from surgery? Do you go? Do you walk away from her demand to help? The answer is so layered, but one thing is sure: don’t do it out of guilt! Let’s figure out a plan so you don’t regret your choice, no matter what that choice is.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Do you get scared or anxious from ordinary things in your life? Can it be tied to past traumatic events? Sometimes the things we react to now are a direct result of the trauma we have gone through as children. We tend to fall into patterns to keep ourselves safe, or so we think. It can keep us prisoners in our own bodies. Learn how to recognize some reactions and start the process of digging through to get to a healthier place.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
What are the qualities or differences in a healthy Mom versus a toxic Mom? Big differences in my opinion. Is there such a thing as a perfect mom? I haven’t met one yet, but I know we can always do better than what we have grown up in if we have, in fact, grown up in toxicity. Let’s talk about what each of these kinds of moms looks like, and see if there is any improvement that needs to be made on our part to be the kind of mother we dream of. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Let’s bring on my daughter on today’s episode and talk about the good, bad and better of moms! Bringing on my daughter can help us understand as moms how we can learn from daughters and the next generation. Listening to them helps us be the best moms we can be.Let us know how you like this episode! Please leave a review or send us a message over on Instagram. We would love to connect with you. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
In this powerful and emotional episode, we explore a topic that's often overlooked in conversations around childhood trauma — what happens when men are the ones who were never mothered? What does it look like when a boy grows into a man still carrying the ache of a mother’s absence, and how does that wound ripple through his career, his relationships, and his future family?Inspired by the shocking real-life story told in the documentary Con Mom, host Phylis dives into the haunting truth about what happens when a man is so desperate for a mother’s love that he overlooks red flags, ignores his instincts, and ends up losing everything — his money, his relationship, and his newborn son.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The emotional and psychological impact of being an "UnMothered" manWhy unresolved childhood wounds can distort adult decisionsThe hidden ways men cope with abandonment and emotional neglectHow silence around male trauma leads to generational dysfunctionThe importance of healing, open communication, and emotional honestyIf you’re a man carrying the scars of being UnMothered, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop pushing through the pain in silence. Get support, speak your truth, and take the first step toward healing — for yourself and for the next generation.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Can you have a relationship with your toxic mother? The answer is easier than you think, and it’s totally up to you and no one else. Let’s explore different ways you could possibly have a relationship with your mother if you think it could work.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
It’s time for you to create some healthy inner talk and stop believing the lies your moms have told you!In my past episodes, we talked about the different ‘types’ of mothers. Today, we are going to touch upon what we need to do to break away from these narcissistic, controlling, overly enmeshed moms.Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
Have you ever thought of writing a book? Is a memoir something that God is calling you to? He did for me, and it wasn’t something I ever thought I would do, but has become one of the best things I have ever done. If you are curious, listen to this episode and see if this will confirm what you have been thinking. If you need help getting started, contact me…I’m here to help!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
I had such a great conversation with our guest today! Christine Hoy speaks to women who feel overwhelmed by life's demands and the relentless pursuit of perfection. She had no idea that the emotional and physical burnout she experienced caring for her terminally ill mother would lead to a spiritual transformation in her own life. Answering God’s invitation to a year-long season of rest, Christine learned how to surrender control of her life and move from self-reliance to an ever-deepening trust in God. A Christian writer and speaker, Christine is on a mission to help other women experience this freedom from perfectionism and discover healing, restoration, and unshakeable peace in their own lives. She shares these life-changing lessons in her book Peace Beyond Perfection: Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Enough. Christine lives in West Michigan with her husband and their white lab, Zeus—and loves being “Gigi” to her two grandsons. You can connect with her at www.christinecarterhoy.comLet’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
How did we get to 100 episodes on this podcast already? Well, come listen and celebrate with me as I walk back down to the beginning of this journey! Thank you so much for being such a great support! I appreciate all my fellow UnMothered's and can't wait to chat with you all for the next 100 episodes!Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
We have probably all heard the statement, "some moms were just never meant to be moms" but is that true? If you think of the worst toxic mom in your imagination, what would she look like? Some things I’ve been reading (and a few I’ve experienced) are “ignored, abusive, gaslighting, and mentally ill.” These kinds of moms are vital to go “no contact” with. It would be for your safety. This is a hard episode, so I am warning you, that you might want to skip it if you might be triggered. For the rest of you, it might be a road map to explain some things that have been hard to answer. Let’s Connect!Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.com/theunmotheredpodcast/Phylis Mantelli’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/phylismantelli/Join the conversation in my private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityLike to watch your podcasts? We are on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcasts💖 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps more people find this podcast!*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.