The Velvet Vulva

The Velvet Vulva hosts need some time to recharge and get excited about new topics, so we’ll be back in January with new episodes and new enthusiasm!

Alyson, Amber and Kelly talk about what they’ve been reading recently. Hold by Claire Kent: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Claire-Kent-ebook/dp/B00TVMLRXM Billionaire Bride by Marquita Valentine https://www.amazon.com/Billionaire-Bride-Brides-Holland-Springs-ebook/dp/B00X8SCJCS/ 1984 by George Orwell https://www.amazon.com/1984-George-Orwell-ebook/dp/B003JTHWKU/ Raising Financially Fit Kids by Joline Godfrey https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Financially-Fit-Kids-Revised-ebook/dp/B00ALBR6Q4/ Shift by Gary Keller https://www.amazon.com/SHIFT-Estate-Agents-Tackle-PAPERBACK-ebook/dp/B003GIPED6/ The Silk Roads by Peter Frankopan https://www.amazon.com/Silk-Roads-New-History-World-ebook/dp/B00XST7IX2/ The Great Hunt by Robert Jordan https://www.amazon.com/Great-Hunt-Book-Wheel-Time-ebook/dp/B002VBV1R2/ Guns, […]

Alyson, Amber, and Reba have a rambling conversation about violence in media (especially tv and movies) and think out loud about violence against women and their feelings about it. Content warning: We talk about all forms of violence, though the only time any details are shared about a specific scene is during the conversation about […]

Alyson, Reba, and Susan talk about their varied experiences with first dates, from bad to worse to best, public first kisses, and the Google form Reba should create. Oh, and they laugh. A lot.

Alyson, Amber, and Reba have a rambling slumber party conversation about clothes, hoarding, capsule wardrobes, and books. Capsule wardrobe https://bemorewithless.com/project-333/ https://heyeleanor.com/capsule-wardrobe-wrap-up/ https://heyeleanor.com/winter-capsule-wardrobe/ How to wear a scarf https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LYAEz777AU http://www.instyle.com/how-tos/how-to-tie-scarf-gifs#1105456 Choices https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Paradox_of_Choice Books Good Wives, Nasty Wenches, and Anxious Patriarchs by Kathleen M. Brown https://www.uncpress.org/book/9780807846230/good-wives-nasty-wenches-and-anxious-patriarchs/

Alyson, Reba, and Victoria talk about breasts. And hook ups and semen and bras and a little bit of everything. Things got a little weird, and Alyson’s hiccups around 43:00 didn’t help.

Alyson, Reba, and Susan discuss various ways they’ve had their consent violated. Content note: We don’t discuss rape in detail, but Susan does briefly bring up her experience with rape.

Alyson, Reba, and Susan talk about self care, and how pedicures are not their thing, and baths are just a little bit gross, and what works for them to get recharged. Alyson mentioned “spoons” early on; here’s the wiki page on spoon theory. Here’s the checklist Reba mentioned in the episode. She also found this […]

Alyson, Reba, and Susan talk about consent, how they talk about consent with their partners and the children in their lives, and maybe take a tangent or two. Content note: This episode does not contain any discussion of consent violations.

Alyson, Amber, Kelly, and Susan talk about the media they’re enjoying right now. Podcasts Susan: LeVar Burton Reads Kelly: Ted Talks Audio Alyson: Stuff You Missed in History Class Norman Centuries by Lars Brownworth Books Susan: Anita Blake by Laurel K. Hamilton Alyson: The Throne of Glass series by Sarah J. Maas Chicago Stars series […]

Alyson, Reba, and Susan talk about their experience with long distance relationships, both while dating and after marriage.

**Special Note: Please excuse Rosalyn’s audio. There were some technical issues and this is the better version, believe me. But it’s still audible and this conversation is one that we wanted to definitely talk about!**

Alyson, Amber, and Susan think about what may have happened if they’d chosen a different path in life, covering kids, marriage, and college. Content note: Susan discusses suicidal ideation briefly at the beginning of the episode. Skip ahead to 3:45 to miss it.

Alyson, Amber, Reba and Susan talk about their friends, how difficult it is to make friends as an adult, and some of their frustrations and difficulties with friends locally and on the internet.

Alyson, Reba and Susan go deep into conversations about booze and drinking. They talk about their first experiences, the bad inspiration in their lives related with alcohol and also what part of being drunk they feel comfortable in.

Alyson, Amber, Reba, and Susan talk everything bras, and get sidetracked a bit with breasts and nipples. Bra Resources http://www.bratabase.com/ https://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/ Where the hell does Alyson buy her bras? Prima Donna Goddess Bra Elomi Bra Soma Unhooking bras Reba’s not the only one! But she doesn’t wait 15 seconds to giggle…

Alyson and Kelly discuss grief, and how they handle it long-term and day-to-day. The grief they talk about is more than just death as well: they talk about sickness, changes, kids growing up, and all sorts of grief you can experience. Also, spoilers for Book 4 from Harry Potter.

This week, Alyson, Amber and Susan talk about toxic relationships and how they disengage from them. There is also talk about laminators, current relationships they are in, and lots of swearing.

Amber, Reba and Susan get down and dirty and talk about birth control and their experiences with it. There is also a visit by Susan’s younger daughter, which helps showcase some living birth control!    

Alyson, Reba, and Susan talk discuss why they think it’s important to read women authors, and then have a conversation about their favorite authors, past and present. Octavia Butler Alexander McCall Smith, the No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency Michelle Moran, Madame Tussaud Anita Diamant, The Red Tent Laura Ingalls Wilder Tamora Pierce, Wild Magic Cheryl […]