The Weekly Hot Spot

This is not your traditional Christmas theme, this is more of an end of year look at some of the top episodes of The Weekly Hot Spot. We owe our growth and success to you, our listeners, so this episode is also a personal thank you to each of you for joining us on our kinky journey of BDSM education, sissy training, sex work and general naughtiness.Mistress Olivia talks about the number of downloads in the past year. Apparently, the numbers put us in the top 10% of podcasts - not just sex podcasts or BDSM kink podcasts – but all podcasts. That boggles our minds when we think about it.What category is number one? Sissy training and feminization shows rule the top podcast episodes. The number one download is from January of this year: Should All Sissies Learn to Masturbate Like A Woman? Today your Femdom hosts talk about sissygasms, sex while feminized, and more.The second largest category is cock control. Now, we know that cock control can mean everything from JOI, guided masturbation, tease and delay, tease and denial all the way to total orgasm control with chastity. There are so many options and we’re really glad to see this category is extremely popular.Other popular podcast episodes feature conversations about: cock sucking, cuckolding, strapon play or pegging and more. The ladies have a great time doing the podcast and this one is full of laughter, sidetracks called going on safari, and general shenanigans.Thank you for joining us for this kinky journey! We’re so glad you’re here with us!Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy 

We listen and we hear you. Many of our feminization friends talk about needing structure, support and practical tips. In fact, we have so many requests that we’ve created something special just for you!This episode is all about a year long feminization calendar from your favorite sexy podcast hosts. Don’t feel alone! Use the calendar as a way to stay on track with your feminization and find inspiration to go to the next level.This feminization training calendar is a budget friendly way to bridge the gap between feeling all alone and being under strict, personalized guidance from a Femdom Mistress.52 weeks of feminization Fun assignmentsSexy training Feminine affirmationsPractical adviceAnd so much more.Are you ready to begin?Here’s the link to the Year of Feminization by Mistress Erika and Mistress Olivia.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

There is an art to tease and denial games. It makes sense to think that the woman is the leader of T&D and that’s true but, there is also the relationship between Mistress and her submissive. Today’s episode asks the question: Do you have what it takes to be a Tease Toy for a Femdom Mistress?First, the ladies talk about tease toys. Who are they, what does this phrase mean?The ladies share insights into what they both appreciate about someone who is a tease toy. You’ll hear what turns them on about YOU!The ladies, of course, find the control thrilling.You'll hear conversation about power exchange and energy.Both really adore the sounds a man makes when being teased - moaning, gasping, and pleading.Do you love to be teased?Are you a fan of edging and orgasm delay?Ms Erika mentions chastity and teasing.Is there a difference between being a tease toy or a submissive man?Do you have to be submissive or into BDSM to be a tease pet?What are some of the teasing techniques?How does a Mistress push your boundaries, come up with creative ideas and guide you to some of the most explosive orgasms ever?How does distance domination work when doing tease and denial?What does a Mistress look for in a tease toy?What will happen if you come to each woman for teasing?The answers might surprise you!Mistress Erika’s personal blog:  Intelligent Phone FantasyMistress Olivia’s personal blog:  Experienced Mistress

In this episode we continue our conversation with the Chastity Queen and explore using chastity for sissy training and feminization. Now, just because we’re talking about putting a sissy in chastity, much of the conversation about chastity will apply to many people who are curious about this form of submission to a Dominant Woman.Chastity Queen has a live-in sissy submissive named Bunny. The ladies start off asking for a reality check about being a full-time, live-in sub to a Femdom. Some of these answers will likely surprise folks who have a fantasy about being a live-in sub or slave to a Domme.What does it mean when the Chastity Queen says, “Chastity is freedom.” This can include:The chastity cage focuses the attention of a submissiveBeing locked promotes devotion to MistressThe cage is a constant reminder that they have a higher purposeThe chaste sub is freed from mindless masturbation“There is nothing more feminizing than to not have a cock available.”  That’s a great comment about using chastity for sissy training and feminization.Chastity cages that mimic a vaginaBeing caged increases feminine feelings The role of humiliation in BDSM and chastity playUsing small chastity cages to shrink the clitty of a sissyCrossdresser purging and cycles of interest in feminizationYou’ll hear personal stories, suggestions and ideas as well as tips for interactions with a Mistress. Even if you have no interest in chastity, this episode will give you a peek inside the interior worlds of three Femdoms.Chastity Queen Linktree Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Today’s guest, the Chastity Queen, talks about her personal experiences being a Domme and so much more. This is your chance to listen in as 3 Dominant Women talk about life, love and power.Topics include:The role of women in society and the trad wife phenomenonHow men treat wives versus DommesThe dynamics of power and what power exchange really looks likeHow serving a Femdom can make a man a better husband to his wifeCommunication, kink, and intimacyTeaching men how to serve womenWhy treating women well actually benefits the manThe value of having a BDSM kink communityHow people learn kinky skillsWhy experience and knowledge is so important with BDSM (and life!)This is a wide ranging conversation that gives you a peek into the minds of these Dommes. Chastity Queen Linktree Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

A listener asks about political changes in the US and asks how to stay safe.The specific question involves feminization and crossdressing but it applies to all of us in these various communities:LGBTQ+Kinksters and crossdressersPro Dommes and sex workersAdult entertainment creatorsAnd all of those who are participants in or consumers of adult entertainment.(basically all of us)The Femdom hosts talk about:Current laws blocking pornhubOnline safety - in general and specifically for kinkstersPrivacy online - in general and for those looking for pornSafety tips when being en femme in publicWe hope these tips are useful. If you have other suggestions, please get in touch and pass them on.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMsOlivia on BlueSkyMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyErikaEnchantrix on BlueSkyEnchantrix Empire - free adult social networking site run by LDW / Enchantrix

Every Femdom hears this: “Mistress I want to serve you.” What does that mean? There are many ways for a sub to serve a Mistress. There is no arbitrary ‘right’ way to have a D/s relationship. Part of BDSM negotiation means making sure that each person is in agreement about roles, expectations, activities, etc. Topics in this podcast episode include:The difference between fantasy BDSM roleplay and lifestyle kink relationships.A discussion of some things that help different people to feel submissive.The role of chastity, orgasm denial and/or suffering for your Mistress.Does a service submissive automatically mean sexual service?What are some non-sexual things that a service sub provides?Since your podcast hosts do Distance Domination, the role of a service sub is a little different but the fundamentals are the same as an in person play partner. What can someone do for their Goddess? The ladies have some specific suggestions:Visit our blogs and stay on the blog for at least 3 minutes, click on several pages, staying on each page for several minutes.Write comments on our blogsFollow us on social media; comment on and share our posts.What does the sub get out of serving a Mistress?Hear what other submissives say about being a service sub.Have you ever wanted to be a real service sub? What does that phrase mean to you?Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

We hear all your secrets and sexual fantasies. A lot of our callers fantasize about sex with a transwoman. Today’s episode explores this.Topics include:How popular is the sex with a transwoman fantasy?Many men ask, am I straight if I want to suck the cock of a transwoman?To start off, a quick overview of names for transwomen and how to be respectful with the terms you use to talk about these people. For example, some of the outdated and terms are:She maleTrannyTransvestiteT girlTranssexualThis conversation covers:Gender identity, sexual orientation, sexual desiresWhat to call genitalia? What is cis gender?BDSM, erotic humiliation and submission.The role of a Femdom or Dominant woman who says, you will suck her cock for me.You’ll hear quotes from men who want to suck the cock of a transwoman, a transwoman who experienced her first sexual experience with another transwoman, and so much more.Do YOU have a fantasy of being with a transwoman?What is your fantasy?Have you done this in person? What happened?We want to hear everything!Mistress Oliviai’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyOur free adult social networking site: Enchantrix Empire

This episode is inspired by a blog post written by our friend and fellow Mistress, Ms Demi.Listen in as three Pro Domme’s talk about the submissives in our lives. What do Femdoms have to say about power exchange and those who need to submit to powerful, dominant women?Mistress Olivia kicks off the conversation with a quote by Mistress Demi:“Submission isn’t merely about obeying orders or bending to another’s will. It’s a profound journey into the depths of one’s own desires. Learning to trust, to yield, and to find freedom in the embrace of another’s dominance.”Topics include:BDSM and trust between the Dominant and the submissive.The difference between a fantasy roleplay BDSM scene and wanting to be a lifestyle submissive.The importance of BDSM communication.How to do BDSM negotiation of needs, desires, and limits.What are the five words that you should never say to a Femdom?The answer might really surprise you.The ladies dispel the myth that submissives are weak or damaged. Submissives must have power in order for there to be power exchange.Is submission a gift to the Domme?What do these women think of those who submit?Lots of insight into the submissive journey from the perspective of three Femdoms (who are always, of course, right about everything LOL).Mistress Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock TeaseMs Demi’s blog post that inspired this episode: What Does It Mean To Be Submissive?Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

Today’s episode is inspired by a listener who wants help talking with a partner about feminization desires. Anita wants us to say something that will change the minds of wives or girlfriends who don’t like feminization with their partner. We don’t know that we can change minds, but this episode covers topics like:What do cisgender, heterosexual women think about crossdressers or sissies?What might be going on in the minds of the cis female partners?Here are some of the questions female partners of crossdressers might have:My boyfriend wears lingerie, what does that mean?Does wearing women’s clothes mean he is gay or bi?If I encourage him to explore his femme side, will he leave me?What does this desire to be a submissive sissy mean for us as a couple?How does a woman attracted to men feel about a partner who wants to dress as a woman?Other topics include:The difference between Drag Queens, crossdressers and sissies.Why do both of your Femdom hosts like crossdressers, sissies and men in panties?How to have conversations about erotic desires, boundaries and intimacy.Have you tried to talk with your female partner about feminization?What happened? If you haven’t had that kind of talk but you want to then this episode will hopefully help you have that conversation.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Basically, Locktober is a month-long chastity challenge. Typically, it involves those who identify as submissive and wear a chastity cage the entire month of October. This episode is about orgasm delay, orgasm denial, chastity training, and why a Femdon enjoys having a chastity pet.Topics include:What is chastity?What is Locktober?Why would someone want to go a full month without an orgasm? Can you participate in Locktober if you can’t or don’t want to go a whole month without an orgasm?Does Loctober always require a chastity cage?Are there ways to experience orgasm denial without a cage?What is chastity by will?What is Mistress Olivia’s workaround when someone can’t wear a chastity cage?How to use Locktober to break bad habits like chronic masturbation or to install good habits like achieving fitness or other personal goals.What is panty chastity?How to use chastity as part of sissy training or feminization.How to someone in a very small chastity cage to emphasize the emasculation of a sissy.This episode is all about submission, cock control, and the various ways a Femdon can use chastity for some wicked fun. If you’re curious about Locktober, chastity or sissy training using denial, this episode is for you!Previous episodes about chastity:Chastity Interview with Mature MetalHow do I get my vanilla wife to put me in chastity? Meet Mrs. Mature MetalMistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone FantasyEnchantrix Empire: our free adult social networking site

We hear from a lot of subs who are worried about topping from the bottom.That’s a BDSM term that means a submissive who flips the power dynamic in a way that is disrespectful, rude or otherwise irritating to the Dominant. Some subs hear that and worry that they are topping from the bottom if they make ANY requests of the Domme. We don’t want you to worry so this episode is all about how to communicate your needs to your Femdom Mistress.This is inspired by someone who wants to know how to request a Pro Domme to be creative without acting like he is trying to be “in charge” of the session.  Topics include: What is topping from the bottom?Some relationship dynamics and other issues to consider when deciding what is bad BDSM behavior from a submissive.Insight into the role of vulnerability and trust in BDSM power exchange relationships.How to communicate with a Dominatrix or Femdom MistressDifferences in communication with a Pro Domme versus an unpaid kink player that you meet in BDSM circles.Differences between fantasy submission and power exchange.Your Femdom hosts give examples of how to communicate your desires in appropriate ways.Remember communication, trust and honesty about what you need are the most important aspects of any BDSM relationship. This podcast will give you some of the tools to feel confident that you are not topping from the bottom.Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy

We continue our conversation with author Jane Boon. Jane’s first novel Edge Play is about an investment banker who becomes a Pro Domme via her Pro Domme friend Erika … and this second book focuses on Erika. Both books show women coming into their own personal power. Jane Boon tells a lively, interesting story and even without our favorite Femdom and BDSM themes, this is a very fun read. This interview episode focuses on the themes of: lust, power and money.Why does a smart, capable woman become a Femdom?What attracts someone to BDSM and kink power exchange situations?For the submissive, why would someone want to be on the receiving end of BDSM play?How can a submissive service his Femdom outside of the kink?What is submissive service?Can BDSM be a kind of therapy for some people?What does it mean to call Femdom scenes, performance art?This is a conversation about extremes of emotions interspersed with personal experiences of three very smart women.  Enjoy! And, get the book! Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.Jane Boon’s websiteMistress Olivia’s website Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Money, power and sex … specifically kinky sex … are the themes of today’s episode with author Jane Boon. Jane is the author of the Femdom themed novel Edge Play and today she’s here to talk about her newest novel Bold Strokes.We highly recommend both of Jane's books. In fact, if you’re submissive, here’s your order: “Read Edge Play and Bold Strokes by Jane Boon and report back.” Even if you’re not submissive, do yourself a favor and read them. You’re welcome.Edge Play is a novel about Amy, an investment banker turned Dominatrix. The novel is set amongst the greed and arrogance of Wall Street elites and the 2008 financial crash. One of the main themes is a young woman coming into her own power after being mentored by her best friend who is an Art Gallery owner and Pro Domme.  In the new novel, Bold Strokes, the settings of the art world, high finance and even higher intensity BDSM scenes lets the reader get to know Erika, the gallery owner / Pro Domme. How did she become who she is and what happened to her during the same timeframe as the first book told from Amy's perspective.Some of the themes are:How does a woman become a Femdom?What is the mindset of someone who is a Dominatrix?Who are some of the men that love to be tormented by the power, beauty and cruelty of a Dominant woman?Negotiation and consent in BDSM relationshipsSex work, sex workers and the inherent imbalance of power between powerful men and young women.This is a wonderful novel and the kink makes it even more fun. Bold Strokes is an exciting read with unforgettable characters. Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.Jane Boon’s websiteMistress Olivia’s website Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy

This episode is inspired by a question from a crossdresser but we hear many people in the kink community talk about the impulse to throw away sex toys and other kinky things. Why? Well, anyone who is into things that aren’t considered ‘mainstream’ can feel the wrong kind of shame or fear of being discovered by family, friends or work associates.The Femdom hosts will share personal stories of self-acceptance as kinky dominant women and how this podcast started as a way to dispel myths about BDSM, kink, and feminization.This includes conversations about how crossdressing can give someone access to feelings or behavior that aren’t accepted when in guy mode.This episode covers emotional or psychological questions like:Why does someone who loves women want to crossdress or act like a woman?Does throwing out everything related to your feminization or kink ever work?Will a decision to stop being a sissy ever last long term?Why does the urge to crossdress come back even stronger after purging?Is there a way to process the guilt or come to terms with the wrong kind of shame associated with something that is a huge part of your psyche?For those into sissy play and feminization, the binge and purge cycle can run into thousands of dollars and causes endless frustration. How to avoid the urge to purge?Practical tips include:Understanding why you want to dress in women’s lingerie or women’s clothes.How to identify when societal teaching is needlessly holding you back.Learning when and why you want to dress in order to identify where you are in your cycle.How to find a community that will accept and support you.How to put away rather than throw away - ie get a storage locker!If you’ve ever felt alone in your desires, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy and we get it!Ms Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMs Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone FantasyFree adult social networking site Enchantrix Empire

This episode is inspired by Sissy Brenda who sent us this question:  “I would love to hear a podcast with lingerie shopping tips for those gurls who might be nervous about buying in person. What stores and products would you recommend?”Great suggestion Sissy Brenda!  Here you go!The ladies begin with real talk about some of the risks of public humiliation and share safety considerations.. There are also ethical issues with consent and BDSM or kink play in public.  All that said, these Femdoms are skilled at feminization and in person lingerie shopping can be fabulous for sissy training, etc.Suggestion for shopping in person include:MindsetWhat to wearHow to present yourselfAnd moreSissy Brenda also asks about thongs which inspires a conversation about panty styles including thongs. The ladies recommend some specific brands.Hanky Panky thongsCalvin Klein invisiblesSkims: up to 4X !AerieFinally, even though this episode is about lingerie shopping in person, there are specific suggestion about how to order online and make sure that your purchases are private and discrete.We sent an email letting Sissy Brenda know that this episode posts today and she wrote back:"Hello Mistress:I found success with the Hanky Panky thongs you suggested. Surprisingly comfortable and so many colors and prints! I also tried and liked the Victoria's Secret seamless thongs. Also very comfortable and great with leggings. Never pictured myself a thong gurl but you may have converted me! I look forward to the podcast!All the best,Sissy Brenda"Happy shopping ladies!Ms Olivia’s blog:  Experienced Mistress Ms Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy   

We love it when other smart ladies come up with great ideas. Be sure to send a thank you to Mistress Demi for her idea to use X Spaces (Twitter Spaces) to connect with our friends and even make some new friends.Ms Demi joins us to talk about Spaces. The ladies talk with her about how the Femdoms at Enchantrix Empire are using spaces. For example, every Friday at 7pm eastern various Mistresses gather in the Space for Femdom Friday's.Each week has a different Mistress host who will lead the conversation. There will be a topic or activity like naughty Mad Libs and other games.People can listen on Twitter X but the Mistresses are the only ones who will be speakers. Everyone else can join in by going to the Community Kink chatroom and typing while you listen.When Ms Erika heard Ms Demi’s idea - Ms Erika set up Spaces for The Weekly Hot Spot podcast. We’ll be live every Thursday at 1pm eastern time -- talking about this kink BDSM podcast, episode ideas, answering questions and, well, basically having a great time shooting the shiznit with each other and all of you. You’ll hear some of those random thoughts in this episode!Join us on Twitter X:Ms Demi:  @DommeDemi    Ms Olivia:  @MistressOlivia1       Ms Erika:   @ErikaEnchantrix   Demi’s space for Femdom Friday Sept 6, 2024Community kink chat roomLook for The Weekly Hot Spot space every Thursday at 1 pm eastern. Cum have lunch with us.Mistress Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock Tease    Mistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced Mistress  Mistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy   

Miss Cassie returns to talk about self-bondage and rope play.Ms Erika starts off the conversation with a question about how Distance Domination Femdoms can incorporate self bondage into BDSM sessions over the phone.  Miss Cassie points out that a long distance Mistress can talk someone through a tie or use other things to create the feelings of being bound, tied, restrained or otherwise controlled by her.The ladies discuss how vivid descriptions can combine with some simple physical actions to create the feelings, emotions, and sensations of a bondage scene. Miss Cassie points out that descriptions are important even during in-person sessions in a Dominatrix Dungeon.Things to consider:What is your self bondage safety plan?Importance of a safe word in BDSM play in person on onlineHigh protocol versus freely speaking during a sceneIdeas and questions from listeners:Using remote controlled sex toys during online domination sessionsUsing a timed lock box for keys similar to a lock box used for chastity keysPredicament play safetyEdge play and special issues involved in BDSM negotiationKeeping safety scissors nearby just in case you need themSpecial considerations for submissive men who are in a relationship with a vanilla woman:How to avoid leaving marksWhat causes marks and how long various marks last, for example, tying up the cock and balls (CBT) can leave small broken capillaries.Marks will depend on the scene, the tie of the ropes and the physical fitness of the submissive.What can someone use for self bondage? Examples include:Sweatband, headband or scrunchieShoe laces¼ inch diameter rope Paracord Zone mummification with plastic wrapOf course, you’ll hear stories from this elite Pro Domme and personal stories from all three Femdoms. Miss Cassie’s website:  Miss Cassie Loves RopeMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Today’s guest is rope bondage expert Miss Cassie. This is the first part of a 2 part interview with one of the best riggers in BDSM today. This lifestyle Femdom has insights into lots of aspects of BDSM, kink play, leather history and so much more.You’ll hear:** Miss Cassie’s personal kink journey - from submissive to Femdom** Leather tradition in BDSM** Lineage in BDSM leather family traditionMistress Olivia takes us on safari with a question about polyamory, cheating and sexual or emotional partners. BDSM education continues with:** training involved in BDSM ** psychology of kink** what a practiced Dominant will ask a prospective play partner** BDSM negotiations, safe words and edge play** safety and kink** sub drop and aftercare** Differences between Eastern Shibari and Western bondage techniques** Cultural history of Shibari in Japan as a prison capture system** How to avoid or deal with circulatory issues in rope bondage** Dealing with expectations and the difference between fantasy and realityThis is a lively conversation with three strong, powerful women. Enjoy and check out all the websites:Miss Cassie’s website:  Miss Cassie Loves RopeMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyLeather Archives and Museum

The podcast episode about the secret sissy that asks if you feel alone in your feminization really hit a nerve. Many of our listeners say that they do wish they could share their femme self with a partner, friends or family. This episode is a sissy success story from someone who is sharing her authentic self and finding her community.Meet our new Irish friend, Shauna with a special shout out to her, her wife and her ladies in Ireland. We see you and we’re sending lipstick kisses to you!Many people tell us about the challenges of striking a balance between their femme self and their other life responsibilities. Is it possible to be authentic and accepted? . In this episode you’ll hear your Femdom hosts discuss:** Coming out about crossdressing desires** How to talk with your partner about wanting to wear feminine lingerie** How to talk calmly about concerns, limits and boundaries** Things to consider with family and other life circumstances.** How to find places and people who will cherish your authentic self** Sexual experiences when en femme. Do you want to be with a man?Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika have lots of comments and other tips for crossdressers, sissies and transwomen.This episode centers on people who identify as engaging in some sort of feminization but much of the content also applies to anyone who is kinky and struggling to find people who understand and support you.Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy