The merit of the Real

When it comes to social interactions with narcissists and being their therapist or counsellor, there are challenges due to very hard to deal with patterns due to their rigid attitudes and complete faith in some beliefs. 𝑊ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑛𝑎𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑏𝑛𝑜𝑥𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑏𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑣𝑒, their reactions involve a few strategies they generally use. Find some of them exposed.

A shortcut to what is beneath the plot .. Regions of the brain get activated before we internally validate our answer and vocalize it when we’re being asked a question, let’s say a simple one like: red or blue? Yes of no? The brain is a computer in that sense, but since we have an “inner dialogue” and the ability to change our mind or unfollow our “intuition” that is not necessarily the best guide, because education shapes what is perceived as truth, and traumas lead to the happening of “associations” triggering in us instinctive reactions to our environment, we can say that “free will” is regained through the processes of doubting “the authentic” feelings that we get to experience, those primary ones that move us. Read more.

It’s outdated philosophy to think that all humans are made the same and that we shouldn’t deny in ourselves what we deeply dislike in others including those who hurt us and disrespect our boundaries. Narcissism is a concept that is all about our nature, development and evolution, but not all brains are wired the same (autism and psychopathy, which are very different from one another, are good examples of natural disparities that can be reinforced or managed for better social interactions by education and structuring experiences). Nurturing as well as the environmental atmospheres that shape personality traits (from biological bases to origins, various trajectories, natural predispositions, and in the development course) are substantially different. Read Mentalization refers to people’s ability to reflect on and understand their own state of mind and the state of mind of others. Mentalization is thought to be learned through a secure attachment to the caregiver. Merck Manual for the professional.

Despite the great health risks to be taken by resorting to invasive surgical procedures, the human body is subjected to so-called refinements to reach the height of what may be required in terms of aesthetic appearance in line with our era. It seems to me that this phenomenon has turned the search for beauty into a trivial mission, because everything is possible. The real has become unreal as one forces the other to look like a fantasy only to end up feeling duped when the fantasy becomes a fabricated reality and therefore accessible. The unreal becoming a reality sought after and then disliked, we are witnessing in certain circles a relationship to sexuality that suffers the consequences of this mechanism. However, it is important not to generalize from issues in specific contexts to draw a crude connection between our modern communications in the age of social media and a breakdown in healthy sexuality. This would only create the opportunity to intellectualize a new non-existent « dramatic » human condition and to juggle concepts unnecessarily. Sexuality has not become unhealthy with modernity; it has adapted both in its healthy expression and in its deviant forms.

"𝑊𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑛𝑜 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠, 𝑤𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑜𝑛 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙 𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑢𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑖𝑠" Some things happen for a reason that makes sense for others but no to you, because they are planning their lives selfishly including you as part of their own puzzles, and what about you personally? What about your rights? Being objectified The over positive discourse claiming that every hardship or tragedy is a growth path only gives more freedom to abusers and sociopaths. They can just make your life hell and if the scheme doesn’t work like they planned in the end, because you fought back and stood up for yourself, they get to change the scenario and everything is supposed to be forgotten, you need to move on and be good to them.