La La La ... We just go on in life thinking that it's all gonna be rainbows and Butterflies ... HAHAHAYou don't just wake up to a great Marriage, you don't wake up to being your ideal weight .. It all takes work. The Leave it to Beaver family of the 50s is not nor never was the route in life we were given. We jump into the struggles in everyday life and how to MAKE your marriage awesome. Hopefully, we open some eyes and ears to seeing that through the work comes a great reward.Thanks for all your support !!!Happy listening
Today we talk about Emotional Safety with your partner .. DO you feel "Safe"? Sounds crazy to have a long-term relationship and NOT feel safe ...We talk about what we think it takes and looks like to be open, safe, and secure in a Partnership.Thanks for listening ..
Are you finding yourself dying on every hill to be right? well, I guess you love the loneliness that comes with that. Why do we feel being Stubborn is a power move? it erodes and cuts off communication quick! Let talk about what the stubborn person gets to enjoy when they always need to be right .Thanks for listening !!
Social media has taken over in the "Fix it" space.How many people do you know that "Fix" themselves by watching a Video or a person after seeing someone like them having the same issues is miraculously "Cured" just from one or two videos? The problem is NOT in identifying the issue but the Work needed to change after the issue is in the open for them .. It sure is nice to see someone else have the same problem as us, BUT until you change your behavior, nothing changes. not all the TikToks in. the world are going to the work needed.Thanks for listening !!"
R E S P E C T... We ALL want it but are we willing to give it ?It's a word that garners so much debate, do you give respect before you get it OR do you get it first and then decide if who you are giving respect to is deserving of it?In a marriage /Relationship it's a key element to having AND Giving.. Let's see if we can challenge your view on RESPECT ..Thank you!
Well ... Emotional Safety.We tackle the Emotional safety in a relationship and how unbelievably crucial it is to get the depth of TRUST you developed in being vulnerable to your partner.Women want safety in the relationship and believe it or not Men can release their emotions on a TRUSTED woman .. We all win if we can be honest and authentic, especially in our marriage.Thanks for listening
Perception determines your reception ...How often do we have a "Perception" BEFORE we know what's about to happen?.We talk about how much time we Assume we know what is coming and then have an opinion or perception of what is coming only to present ourselves with an opinion or a thought as to what is happening.Your perception is not always the truth of what to come.let's drop the assumptions, wait to hear, and listen BEFORE we are disappointed and put our partner on the defense.Thank you !!
Friendship OVER Passion ?.What ? ... Well let's breakdown that statement We NEED to be friends AND we need Passion, but what catapults your marriage than having your partner be your most intimate and BEST friend?We spend way more time dressed and in public than we do naked and in bed, it sure is great to have a partner that yo can show, tel,l and explore life with a buddy.This DOES NOT eliminate the passion but we talk about how much our passion has exploded when we became the best of friends.Enjoy and Thank you
What does it look like to "Heal"?We go into this past year and the work we've done to heal parts of our lives from the past .This will maybe help see that saying you want change and actually doing the work is completely different .We go through the steps on how we did and are still doing it Theres a process and TIME that it takes .We felt this needed 2 parts so welcome to part 1
Welcome 2025 !!Were starting off the year with the way were gonna speak this year to our partners ..The tongue is a sward and can cut us in half , Lets work on how we speak to our partners and watch the changes! ONLY YOU can change YOU .. Lets start with how we approach our partner with the words we say .
How are you when your partner comes to you with an issue or complaint ?? Are you Receptive OR Defensive? Today we go into ways to approach your partner with issues and how you can react .. We ALL want to be heard .. How will your partner receive what you say ..tune in. Thank you all !!
Welcome!This is an episode that we can all relate to ... Why am I doing what I didn't like when I was a child to my kids OR my spouse?We talk about changing the course of history in YOUR family !All it takes is some courage and strength to make that change .Nothing changes overnight, BUT little steps can drastically help and change your family's path to a happier and more fruitful life.We all have this we said when we were kids... " When I grow up I will NEVER do that to my kids or my friends" ... Well you now are old enough to keep that promise when you were younger.Thanks for listening and we hope this helps just a little bit !!
Keeping your Circle Clean ..What the heck does that mean? We go into how outside relationships can dirty up your circle of friends.This episode is about outside influences and your relationship could get dirty if you don't keep on top of who and what you let into your space.Join us as we talk about keeping your circle clean .We thank you for listening and hope we can help make life a little easier or look at your circumstances differently.
Power V Balance......Do you deal with a "Power Struggle" in your Relationships?In this episode, we talk about Power in our relationship, and how the only true "Power" we have is when we are together as a team, Power is not great in a relationship when there is a struggle. If you deal with this in yours take a step back and ask why ?Thanks so much for all your support and thanks for Listening.
What does a "Healed" Person look like?In this episode, we talk about what it is to heal, and why. I always told my kids when they were little, they would learn lessons in life maybe 16 or 26 or 36 BUT eventually, we learn a life lesson.We are still learning lessons on this in our late 50s.I hope you enjoy it! Thank you so much for listening.
Are you accessible to your partner? I mean EVERYTHING !!Nothing hidden, We think of "Accessibility" as access to something. However, here we chat about being accessible to your partner with everything.Is there anything that your partner does NOT have access to?Thanks for listening, are you as accessable as we are?
Where do you land when times get rough? It's really easy to say that you are there for your partner but when it comes down to it are YOU a soft place to land?A soft place to land is when you can run to your partner with problems, and issues and have just been beaten up, are they there to soften the blow? Take into account on how we are there for each other, are you a good place to land? Thanks for listening and all your support!
Unexpressed Expectations, How many of us do this to our partner, friends, and Family??.In this episode we discuss how we NEED to tell each other what WE expect or want.It's futile to sit and "Expect" someone to know what we want or need.Let's be real, if we could read minds we would not need to talk to each other, yet some of us have a hard time realizing we get mad at our partner for not reading our minds..Let's go, and Thank you so much for listening.
You Give what you get ...>Do you believe that ?? Let's see how living life to serve your partner is ... Its more likely to get what I want as I fulfil my partner. If I'm selfish and all about me .... Life sucks.Hope you enjoy this little chat If you ever have Questions or Topics you'd like us to address .. Please reach out @ ThouShaltNotKillPodcast@gmial.com