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Till The Wheels Fall Off (TWFO) podcast is hosted by Matt and Paige Robinson. TWFO focuses primarily on the relationship dynamics between spouses and partners of alcoholics or addicts and ways to best navigate the difficulties of codependent, addicted, unstable, and narcissistic behavior. The program is enjoyable and informative for anyone seeking self-betterment, inspiration, perspective, or direction with themes ranging from boundaries, recovery, marriage, and parenting with tons of humor built in. With over twenty years of experience in codependency recovery, addiction recovery, mental health battles, and navigating life's hurdles, the duo offers a valuable and unique perspective that is both inspiring and relatable.
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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spouse, I’m basically told to become an expert on their addiction, yet they don’t have to become an expert on my trauma.” This one line exposes the imbalance in the recovery world. Spouses are often told to go to Al-Anon, read the Big Book, and learn about addiction, but no one tells them to study their own trauma caused by their partner or expect their...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Matt and Paige pull the lid off a loaded topic: resentment. You’ve been told to “let it go,” to forgive, to be grateful - but what if your resentment isn’t a defect...what if it’s a warning? In this conversation, we separate toxic positivity from real safety, show how resentment protects you in unhealthy dynamics, and explain when it becomes dead weight in a healthy one. We talk early recovery (why 1–2 years of consistent change matter), why prepackaged re...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We’ve all said it: “I can’t walk away, I’ve already put too much in.” That’s the sunk cost fallacy talking. In this episode, Matt breaks down why we stay in jobs, relationships, and habits that don’t serve us, and the five psychological traps that keep us stuck. More importantly, we'll share practical ways to start moving forward so you stop protecting your past and start building your future. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on You...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, Paige talks about the difference between boundaries and expectations, how to shift your language so boundaries feel empowering instead of exhausting, and why they’re less about fairness and more about safety. Boundaries are the rules you live by — not rules for anyone else. If you’ve ever struggled with setting boundaries in relationships, family, or even daily life, this episode will help you see them as a tool for freedom, self-protectio...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! “Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter that" or "In sickness and in health used to mean something". It's usually somewhere in between - unless there's abuse - and yes, addiction is a fo...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - is another challenge entirely. In this episode of Mindset Monday, Matt dives into what it really looks like to be sober day-to-day, from battling boredom and navigating social situations to understanding the brain science behind why everything feels flat at first. Matt shares practical strategies, personal stories, and the mindset shifts that carried him throu...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the truth about betrayal trauma — and why it’s so much more than cheating. From financial betrayal to chronic lies, gaslighting, broken promises, and crossed boundaries, betrayal in a relationship takes many forms and leaves deep wounds. Too often, betrayed partners get slapped with the “codependent” label, which shifts blame away from the person who caused the harm and piles shame on someone alread...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Sobriety alone doesn’t prove someone has changed. Real recovery is measured in behavior - respect, honesty, accountability, and humility - not just the absence of a substance. In this episode, Matt breaks down Lundy Bancroft’s Checklist for Assessing Change and adapts it to the realities of addiction recovery. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between situational conflict and abusive patterns, why addiction can’t be used as an excuse, and what r...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.” Whether it’s getting sober, leaving a toxic relationship, or simply taking the next step toward the life you want, we convince ourselves that better conditions will magically arrive to make change easier. The truth? Rock bottom isn’t some tragic event - it’s the moment you stop digging. Matt weaves in lessons from Marcus Aurelius, Viktor Frankl, G...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I share why I don’t like talking about addiction — and why I believe it’s often just a convenient cover for behaviors that need to be addressed no matter what. Too often we focus on understanding addiction, thinking it will give us the answers we need to heal, when the truth is, those behaviors exist with or without the substance. I talk about my own experience of navigating my husband’s active addiction without know...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, and partners send in about men, addiction, recovery, and relationships. From understanding why logic rarely works with someone in active addiction, to how appreciation, boundaries, and emotional support really land with men, this episode covers it all - the raw truth, the uncomfortable parts, and the hard-earned lessons from both sides of the str...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creates lasting change. Drawing from his own journey of repairing his marriage after a decade of addiction, he unpacks the five components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, social skills, empathy, and motivation. He contrasts them with the destructive patterns of emotional immaturity, from weaponized incompetence and gaslig...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week’s episode of Paige’s Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “This didn’t happen to me; it happened for me.” I talk about what it’s like to sit with anger, resentment, and grief (even after years of healing) and why it’s okay to not be grateful for the pain itself, but still be proud of the person it shaped. From learning to trust your gut, to setting boundaries that actually protect your peace, to finally le...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! If you’ve ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretending to change, this is the episode to save or reference back to. I'm not an authority on all of the questions you may have about your addicted loved one, but I've been through it myself and walked through it with countless people over the years and I hope it's insightful. I get asked these questions more than any others: Did you love Paige while ...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet. The one who’s tired of lying to everyone, especially himself. Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The kind of man you promised you'd be. He dives into the comfort of dysfunction, the illusion of control, and the fear of living without the one thing...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it’s like to grow up in a dysfunctional family system and what it takes to break free. We talk about emotionally immature parents, the painful dynamics of enmeshment, and the subtle but lasting damage of emotional neglect. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” had to parent your parents, or felt like healing was treated as betrayal, this one’s for you. Fr...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the messy middle of knowing they need to change but not knowing how. Whether it’s addiction, emotional immaturity, broken trust, or just being a shell of the man you hoped to be—saying “I don’t know” might be real, but it’s not where the journey ends. Matt shares the stages of change, calls out the lie that awareness equals action, and reminds you tha...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We don’t talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you’re coming out of survival mode. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of micro-wins; why they matter, why we dismiss them, and how they help retrain your brain and rebuild your sense of safety. This one’s for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or like they’re not doing enough. You are. Let me show you. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other...
1Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse enabled by their family, are they kept under control or in the family system because of wealth? This one's for you. We’re talking about the emotional chaos that comes when one partner sees the dysfunction and the other doesn’t. We cover enmeshment, financial control, emotional immaturity, and how families can unknowingly (or intentionally) kee...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the most misunderstood and misused ideas in recovery: Step 9’s infamous “except when to do so would injure them or others” clause. Too often, this line becomes a get-out-of-accountability-free card used to avoid hard conversations, hide the truth, and protect ego instead of healing relationships. Matt breaks down what amends actually means, how to...
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I would seriously love to meet with you all when in McKinney!! My husband and I really enjoy this podcast as well as Tik Tok
matt, I want to challenge you regarding paige's car. maybe she doesn't want it to be a hot mess either. being a mom with kids ill tell you, she probably doesn't have control over it and has let go of it. maybe grab the kids and help her clean it out.