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Till The Wheels Fall Off (TWFO) podcast is hosted by Matt and Paige Robinson. TWFO focuses primarily on the relationship dynamics between spouses and partners of alcoholics or addicts and ways to best navigate the difficulties of codependent, addicted, unstable, and narcissistic behavior. The program is enjoyable and informative for anyone seeking self-betterment, inspiration, perspective, or direction with themes ranging from boundaries, recovery, marriage, and parenting with tons of humor built in. With over twenty years of experience in codependency recovery, addiction recovery, mental health battles, and navigating life's hurdles, the duo offers a valuable and unique perspective that is both inspiring and relatable.
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Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige explores the power of viewing obstacles as challenges instead of letting them consume us. Inspired by Matt’s journey in addiction recovery, Paige shares how adopting a challenge mindset can transform difficult situations into opportunities for growth. From finding new routes on the way to school to cooking creatively with limited ingredients, she demonstrates how embracing challenges in everyday life leads to su...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we dive deep into the tangled web of "what if" scenarios that haunt spouses and partners of addicts. From "What if they change?" to "What if I leave and somebody else gets the version of them I always wanted? to "What if I lose myself completely by staying?" we’ll explore these questions using razor principles, cognitive biases, common sense and insights from personal experience to bring clarity and understanding to the fears and doubts tha...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the concept of "rock bottom" and what it looks like for each of us. Paige brings some tough love, helping listeners recognize when they've hit their lowest point and offering practical advice on how to rise from it. She highlights the importance of clarity and commitment in these moments, challenging her audience to stop making excuses and start taking action.Paige shares her personal journey of hitting r...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we dive into the hard truths of what it’s really like to be with someone in recovery. Recovery isn’t a magical reset button; it's a long, painful process filled with challenges. You can’t just “start over” once someone gets sober—years of emotional immaturity, anger, and resentment come to the surface. It's not just about substance use, but about dealing with stunted growth and the unhealthy behaviors that persist or worsen even after sobri...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into what it means to feel overwhelmed, especially when carrying the mental and emotional load of an unequal partnership or living with a partner struggling with addiction. Paige shares her personal experience with overwhelm, offering practical tips for finding clarity in the midst of chaos. From acknowledging your emotions to taking small steps, and clarifying your values, this episode gives listeners act...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss the natural tendency to want to understand what is affecting your loved one if they struggle with addiction. Often times the journey of education is enlightening and fosters empathy and understanding, but it can also be a trap which keeps people stuck in a pattern of inaction. While understanding is important, it is not sufficient to "fix" anyone and runs the risk of keeping spouses and partners stuck in a loop of seeking to under...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode highlights National Recovery Month, with Paige focusing on the recovery journey not only for addicts but also for their spouses and partners. She discusses the often-overlooked struggles of spouses, who experience emotional abuse, loss of their sense of self, and the need to rebuild their identity. She shares a letter from a spouse of an alcoholic, illustrating the emotional toll they endure. Paige also discusses the Independently Strong progra...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In the beginning, validation is KEY to the healing process, but at some point a decision has to be made. In this episode we discuss how to get from validation to making real changes in your life with the help of acceptance, impermanence, and the adoption of a growth mindset. So often our minds are geared toward guarantees and permanence so much so that we sacrifice the things we need for what is simply familiar. Come along with us as we discuss how we tackl...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode focuses on understanding the roles that optimism, realism, and pessimism play in handling life situations. Paige emphasizes that each perspective has its place and that balancing them is crucial for making informed and healthy decisions. She shares personal experiences, including being overly optimistic in the past and learning the importance of realism and even pessimism in certain situations. Paige encourages listeners to reflect on their own...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many people have experienced a situation where they are asked by someone struggling with addiction for "support." They will tug at heartstrings, elicit sympathy, ask for loyalty, and beg for support- but what are you supporting? If someone is asking for your support, but they are not making a recovery effort, is that really support? In this episode we talk about our own experience where asking for support was little more than leading someone on and asking f...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode from Paige's Perspective discusses the human tendency to care about what others think and the roots of people-pleasing behaviors. Paige reflects on how historically, humans lived in small, interconnected communities where fitting in was essential for survival. This instinct to please others was ingrained as a means to avoid ostracization. However, in the modern world, with access to diverse perspectives and communities, the need to conform to o...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Transitional addiction or "switching addictions" refers to the phenomenon where an individual shifts from one addictive behavior to another during or after the process of recovery. This can occur when the underlying issues driving the addiction, such as emotional distress or unresolved trauma, are not fully addressed. Instead of confronting these root causes, a person might replace their original addiction (e.g., alcohol or drugs) with another form of compu...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we dive into the impact of negative self-talk and the importance of self-compassion. Paige shares her personal struggles with perfectionism, shame, and cognitive distortions, and discusses how these negative thought patterns can hold us back. She explores the difference between guilt and shame, offering practical strategies for challenging negative self-talk and embracing self-compassion. Join us as we learn to treat ...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Recovery is no doubt hard, but support is not required or deserved especially from the people substance abusers have hurt the most. In some situations, spouses and partners can feel like they're being held captive due to several factors: threats of self-harm if they leave a situation, phrases like "I cannot do this without you", being manipulated in various ways to keep you stuck in the cycle of dysfunction, financial control, isolation, guil...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of "Paige's Perspective: Trusting Your Instincts," Paige explores the importance of reconnecting with our natural instincts in parenting, relationships, and life decisions. She reflects on how modern conveniences and societal pressures can sometimes dull our instinctual responses, leading us to second-guess our natural inclinations. Drawing from her experiences as a mother who resisted relying on gadgets, Paige emphasizes that trusting one's...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!90 days is often cited as an appropriate time to commit to something in order to make it stick, but where does this come from? Can anything actually be changed in 90 days? Why 90 days rather than 21 or 300? In this episode we talk time in relation to change and discuss what types of change someone can make in addiction recovery, as well as what spouses and partners of a person with a substance abuse disorder can make in 90 days. You may think that there are...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode, we delve into the power of self-control. Inspired by an article on self-control by Steve Stewart-Williams, we explore its profound impact on our lives.Self-control isn't just self-care; it's the only thing we can truly control in life. From managing stress and improving physical health to enhancing relationships and professional success, self-control is crucial. We'll discuss its importance in delaying gratification, fostering persev...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we're covering the concept of selfishness as it pertains to acts of self-care. In many ways working toward sobriety can be seen as "selfish" when it's actually an act of self-care that leads to the elimination of selfish behaviors over time. This is true for people in recovery as well as spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts. A person setting boundaries to protect their values is no more "selfish" than someone in recovery doing the ...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses how she deals with a problem we all face - uncertainty. Whether you are in a relationship with an addict (which creates TONS of uncertainty) or someone that struggles with planning to the extreme, there are several helpful tools and tidbits buried in this episode that will help you reframe your perspective around planning. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube ...
Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you REALLY asking for too much? Why do so many accept the bare minimum standard for involvement in a relationship? If you are left feeling unfulfilled in a relationship, what can be done about it? In this episode we touch on these questions and many more as we venture into relationship standards and why we believe that asking for an equal partner is not asking too much. Whether you are in a relationship with someone in active addiction, recovery, or a r...
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I would seriously love to meet with you all when in McKinney!! My husband and I really enjoy this podcast as well as Tik Tok
matt, I want to challenge you regarding paige's car. maybe she doesn't want it to be a hot mess either. being a mom with kids ill tell you, she probably doesn't have control over it and has let go of it. maybe grab the kids and help her clean it out.