To Baby or Not To Baby?
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Naomi is 35 and newly married. She is constantly asked when she's having a baby. But does she even want one?
In this series she travels the country speaking to people about their experiences in having and not having children to help her decide whether To Baby or Not To Baby.
In this series she travels the country speaking to people about their experiences in having and not having children to help her decide whether To Baby or Not To Baby.
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Naomi visits her friend Leonie who is pregnant with her second child and is medically considered 'geriatric'.
They discuss: if pregnancy is harder when you're over 35, how best to incorporate a child into your life, the changes to your body after having a baby and, most importantly, which supermarkets will give you free stuff if you go into labour while shopping.
Naomi speaks to Hollie who knew from a young age that she never wanted children. They discuss: how her decision affects the people in her life, the stigma that comes with not wanting to be a parent, the frustration of your biological clock.
Naomi speaks to Faye who was given next to no chance of ever getting pregnant.
They discuss: the devastation of learning your life may not pan out the way you’d planned, the changes you have to make when going through IVF, the importance of being in contact with people who have been through it, the affect IVF has on your relationship.
Naomi chats to Tom, who went through IVF with his wife.
They discuss: the helpless feeling of watching your partner go through IVF, the importance of shopping around before deciding on your clinic, the process of injections when going through downregulation.
Naomi meets Katherine, who didn’t think about having children until she was in her 40s.
They discuss: how the way you were raised affects your view of parenthood, what happens when you want children but your partner doesn’t, your options when trying to get pregnant over 40, finding happiness no matter how your life turns out.
Naomi speaks to Amy about how her life changed when she fell pregnant at 24.
They discuss: the shock of discovering an unplanned pregnancy, the changes it brought to her life, how labour is different when you’re single, coping with going back to work after the birth, dating as a single mum.
This episode also includes a discussion about abortion from the perspective of someone who chose not to have one and someone who did.
Naomi meets Jayne who was willing to talk about her regrets in becoming a mum.
They discuss: not feeling an immediate bond with your baby, going through postnatal depression, being pressured to breastfeed, losing your identity when becoming a parent, the challenges of raising an autistic child, the benefits of going back to work, being honest about your regrets.
Naomi invites her mum and mother in law to get their thoughts on decision process.
They discuss: parenting not being for everyone, going back to work versus being a full time mum, seeing your children grow up, knowing the right time to have kids and what Naomi would be like as a parent.
Naomi is joined by Seetal who is going through her third round of IVF.
They discuss: the difference between IVF on the NHS and private, the importance of telling people you’re going through IVF, the costs of NHS versus private IVF, the feeling of failure when you can’t get pregnant, all the extras on offer when you go through IVF.
Seetal will also feature in the next episode as we find out the results of her IVF cycle.
Naomi speaks to Seetal again, to find out the results of her third round of IVF.
They discuss: trying different fertility clinics to get the right one for you, IVF in the Indian community, how men are affected by IVF, the difficulty of predicting the costs of IVF, the places you can go to hear from and speak to people who are going through the same thing as you.
Naomi meets Turri who is a geneticist and worked for her PHD with four children.
They discuss: the feeling of not giving enough to your family or your work, other people’s reaction to you wanting to continue your career, how having children can affect endometriosis, dealing with the trauma of a stillborn child, giving birth prematurely.
Naomi visits Becky, who describes her circumstances as having three children, two at home.
They discuss: the dramatic circumstances in which her twins were born, having them moved to separate hospitals, how her daughter helped the family cope with a bereavement, remembering a lost child.
Naomi visits Nurture Fertility in Nottingham for a scan to gain some information about her chances of getting pregnant.
You’ll be there before, during and after the scan. Then she speaks to consultant Dr James Hopkisson to find out: how long you should wait before seeking help from a fertility doctor, the relative fertility success rates for woman as they get older, freezing eggs versus freezing embryos.
Naomi speaks to her husband Dan as they try to decide whether to baby or not to baby.
They discuss: why he’s always wanted to have children, what qualities make a good parent, how much preparation you can do before the fact, how a partner handles a new mum who is struggling mentally.
Naomi speaks to Mike and Wes, who are dads to two surrogate babies.
They discuss: broaching the subject of wanting children with a new partner, the options open to same-sex couples, the legalities of surrogacy in the UK and elsewhere, their relationship with the egg donor and surrogate, the questions they get asked when out with their children, changing the perception of same sex families in society.
Naomi meets Mel, who is a solo mum by choice.
They discuss: looking for a partner for the wrong reasons, the time it takes to go from deciding you want to get pregnant on your own to it actually happening, the way a single person is treated at a fertility clinic, the reaction of friends and family, navigating the early days of solo parenting, the ways you select the donor, dating as a solo mum.
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Absolutely loved listening to this podcast... I laughed and I cried with you. Such moving stories... So pleased you've decided to join the baby gang, I'm on 2nd child and throughout all trials and tantrums it is SO worth it ❤️ Good luck on you journey. Cant wait for series 2. Much Love Osten's mummy from bootcamp P.S cheers for his mention P.PS sorry about the slobber 😂xxx