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  You often hear that "life begins at the end of your comfort zone".  Well, I want to tell you that life ONLY exists outside of your comfort zone.  Inside your comfort zone, nothing changes. Nothing grows. Nothing thrives. Comfort zone = stagnant And you know what happens when water gets stagnant, don't you? It gets polluted, starts to stink, and the only thing that thrives in it is the flesh-eating bacteria. All life ends inside a comfort zone. Most people aren't successful because they refuse to get out of their bubble. They refuse to learn new skills, try new things, do what needs to be done in order to be successful.  They're just hoping that someday success will float along inside their bubble and life will be perfect. That's a one-in-a-billion occurrence. Want to be a successful network marketer? Learn new skills! Want to get in better shape? Join me over at FitFLDad.com! The only way to get to where you want to be is to take action. Progress is better than perfection...and the only time you fail is when you quit. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Comfort Zone Is A Dream Killer appeared first on Transform Radio.

First dates are awkward.  Really almost any first is awkward.  Doesn't matter if it's a date, first day on the job, first day at school, whatever.  The first time you do just about anything it's incredibly awkward and almost never goes the way you intend it to go. Yet that's how life is, right? No matter how much we prepare, firsts rarely go the way we've imagined they would.  Now, you could let the experience crush you or you could roll with the punches, live out the "it is what it is" philosophy, find the silver lining, and take it as a learning experience...and possibly a great story. Tonight we talk about what was my most awkward first date ever. It involves two states, almost a full year from hello to date, seven people, and a station wagon. Yes, and the appearance of the station wagon on this date is not what you are expecting.   —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Worst First Date Ever appeared first on Transform Radio.

    Almost everyone you know, at some point, talks about how bad their life sucks...their job sucks, their relationships suck, their physical and/or mental health sucks. The difference between successful people and average people lies in this singular question. How Bad Do You Want It? The difference between those two pictures of me is 5 years. 5 years of hard work 5 years of dedication. 5 years of applying the skills I learned in my every day life. The first picture is me, April 2010, before I walked in the door of my first personal development seminar ever. The second picture is me, this past Saturday, July 2015, after finishing an 8 mile run. Those two guys couldn't be more different. The body language, the self confidence, the dedication are all infinitely more powerful 5 years later. It all comes down to dedication. Is your dedication to excuses, to whining, to being comfortable with where you are? Or is your dedication to change, to growth, to becoming the best you that you can be? 5 years later, I have little time or patience for those who want to remain in their lousy lives, those who are content to simply offer excuses for why they can't change. Everyone has the same 86,400 seconds in a day. Your dedication drives how you spend them. So, rockstars... how bad do you want it? —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Dedication: How Bad Do You Want It? appeared first on Transform Radio.

  The last time I spoke with my father was two years ago.  Needless to say, that conversation didn't end well. I firmly believe that there's always hope for redemption, I've seen it happen in my own life recently. Do you believe damaged relationships can be redeemed? I do. If I didn't believe in redemption, my faith would be a fraud. Listen in, and I'll share my story. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Redemption, My Father, And Me appeared first on Transform Radio.

It was any other normal day when I received a message that started out as follows: Have you ever dreamed of a life full of laughter, love and sequins... But felt totally clueless about how to make it happen? You're not alone. Gala Darling spent years in soul-sucking jobs, battling depression, an eating disorder, and a preference for chaos and disaster, simply because she didn't know how to create the life she dreamed about. Immediately my curiosity was piqued.  Little did I know that within days I'd be in the middle of a 45 minute raw and unfiltered conversation with Gala Darling covering everything from Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT Tapping) and weird, moaning boyfriends to overcoming depression and eating disorders to why "Be Realistic" is a shitty philosophy for life to dancing naked in front of strangers. Gala Darling is an author, teacher, and speaker. Her site, galadarling.com, helps over 1,000,000 women a month find their voice, live without fear, and fall in love with life. On June 16th, Gala will release her new book, Radical Self Love: A Guide To Loving Yourself And Living Your Dream through Amazon.  I've had the honor of reading this book before it's released and I can tell you that it is INCREDIBLE!  Trust me, rockstars, this is one book you need.  Her story is phenomenal, her words are inspirational, and I love that there's "homework" at the end of every chapter that gives you practical ways to put her teachings into practice in your everyday life. Oh, and did I mention, the book is only going to be available for 30 days?  Yeah, so don't snooze on this one, pre-order it from Amazon now and ensure you don't miss out! If you loved the interview, be sure to subscribe to Gala's newsletter and follow her on all her social media... just check out galadarling.com for all the deets. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Radical Self Love With Gala Darling #RSLBook appeared first on Transform Radio.

Too many people want overnight success. They want the glory without the grind. They want the awards without the struggle. People who achieve this typically flame out in a spectacularly massive way. Failure is your guide to being successful. It teaches you what you need to know. It teaches you what skills you lack, and what skills you're a master of. ...and sometimes failure shows you where you need to go instead of where you want to go. Every failure has a lesson for you to learn...and these lessons become the foundation upon which you build your success. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Related articles   The post Failure Is The Best Teacher appeared first on Transform Radio.

  People like to do two things: 1) Quote "Be the change you want to see in the world" 2) Blame society/the government/the market for the world's ills. These two are cognitively dissonant.  We are society.  We are the government. We are 'the market'.  They're not like Frankenstein's monster, just running amok through the countryside. We created them. We can change them. First, though, we have to accept our responsibility for the ills in the world. Then, and only then, can we tame Frankenstein's monster. The post Frankenstein’s Monster appeared first on Transform Radio.

Doing even the simplest tasks half-assed will lead to a half ass life. You'll end up sabotaging your self-esteem, your confidence, and everything you've planned for your life to be. A half ass motto is "I don't have time to do it right, but I always have time to do it over!". Wouldn't your life be better if you didn't waste time doing things over? Pay attention to detail. Be aware in all your doing. Make your bed first thing in the morning. But whatever you do, don't half ass things. Whole ass them. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Don’t Half Ass Your Way Through Life appeared first on Transform Radio.

  Our worldview is shaped by our experiences.  Every single bit of data that hits our brains is recorded, analyzed, sorted, and becomes part of the filter we look through to see the world around us. Similarly, this worldview shapes our own personal 'world'.  It determines the size of the bubble around us and the box in which we think. Unfortunately, too many people build these bubbles and boxes out of selfishness. Their experiential viewpoint leaves them with nothing but dirty windows to look through. This leads to prejudice, to judgement, to attachment, to suffering, and in some cases, to violence. Popping that bubble and getting out of that box, becoming more connected to the world around you, expands your heart. You become more compassionate, more at peace, more generous. You become someone people look to, someone people want to follow. ...and sometimes you become the person that someone needs in that very moment just to make it through another day. There's a story, and it goes like this A newlywed couple moved to an apartment in a very busy neighborhood. On the first morning in their new home, after she had made coffee, the young bride looked through the window and watched her neighbor hanging sheets out to dry. "What dirty sheets!" she thought to herself. "Maybe she needs to buy a different kind of detergent. I should go and teach her how to wash them properly." Every few days, she muttered the same thing to her husband with disdain while watching her neighbor hanging out the dirty laundry in the early-morning light. A month passed, and one day the young wife was surprised to see that her neighbor was hanging out perfectly clean sheets. She exclaimed to her husband, "Look! She finally learned to wash her clothes. I wonder who taught her how." The husband replied, "Well, in reality, darling, the only difference is that I got up early this morning and cleaned the window. Clean your dirty windows. Lose your attachment to 'things'. See the image of God in the people you'd normally walk right by or in those people that simply annoy the #$($&* out of you. If you do that...soon you'll be happy. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Bubbles, Boxes, And Dirty Windows appeared first on Transform Radio.

Society today suffers from the victim mentality. Nothing is our fault, things out of our control determine the course of our lives, and there's not a damn thing we can do to change it. That's crap. Learning to live with crap is weak sauce. It's time to suck it up, buttercup, and start making better choices, better decisions in your life. It's time to take control and quit playing the victim. Do you want your life to get better by force or by choice? Do you want crap to happen that forces you to get better or do you want to take control so that when crap happens you can handle it better. Victims choose the first option. Leaders choose the second. So...what's it gonna be? —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Related articles Be part of the solution Stop Playing The Victim With Your Time Management And Take Control Victims and Leaders - Feld Thoughts Blaming Others From Victim to Creator Consciousness The post Stop Acting Like A Victim appeared first on Transform Radio.

Are You A Psycho? After a recent parenting challenge, it came to light that, in the eyes of some, I'm an effing psycho. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that was correct. I can be a psycho. I have high standards.  I expect a certain level of behavior in my kids.  I hold people to the consequences of their decisions.  I expect chores around the house to be done well and that people in the workplace do their jobs. I'm also a psycho when it comes to improving myself.  I read voraciously.  I analyze my own decisions, learn from them, and apply the lessons to future behaviors so I don't make the same mistakes over and over again. In life, you have to be somewhat of a psycho. Whether it's developing a new skill, advancing in your career, or deciding to become an entrepreneur. As my friend Carrie Medford of Good Girl Marketing said the other day, be merciless in following your most intense obsessions.. Be a psycho about your standards, about your life...and the right people will begin to find you. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Effing Psycho appeared first on Transform Radio.

  The Lost Art of Listening Are you or someone you know one of those people that hears everything as an insult, as a criticism? When public figures like politicians you don't agree with speak, do you only hear the negative? Does it seem like everything your significant other says is nagging? Well, my friend, odds are you're simply listening subjectively. You're hearing the world through filters created by your own worldview. Odds are, there are plenty of times that your weak listening skills, and not the other person, is the main cause of poor intercommunication. How do I know? I used to be that person. I used to take everything personally because how I viewed myself is how I believed everyone else saw me. My listening was through the filter of poor self-image and low self-esteem. It wasn't until I learned about communication styles and how to listen objectively instead of subjectively that I began to understand the world around me better. Listening subjectively almost cost me my marriage. Learning to listen objectively saved it and made it stronger. They say life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you respond. Learning to listen objectively can make or break that 90% —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post The Lost Art Of Listening appeared first on Transform Radio.

I have a new addiction.... ....it's Wake Up Call on TNT with The Rock. Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, perhaps one of the hardest working people in showbiz, takes his talent, his charm, and his genuine love of seeing people succeed and funnels all that into assisting others to live the life they truly desire. This ain't your mama's reality show. It's tough, it's emotional, and one thing's for sure... ....The Rock makes you work your ass off for it. So, who in your life is The Rock. Who is that person who puts a boot up your ass and gives you a wake up call? We've all had those 'wake up call' moments. I've had mine. What's yours?   —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Your Wake Up Call appeared first on Transform Radio.

Are You A Quitter?   Ok, so the holidays are over. This is the first week back to work, and the first day that "real life" is impinging on your time to do what you really want to do. It's gut check time. Are you willing to invest in yourself and make this the best year ever? Or are you going to be like 90% of the people who make New Year's Resolutions and go from champion to quitter because now that "real life" is back, things are hard? It's really your choice. How many years have you made the same resolutions you did this year? How many years did a few challenges turn you into a quitter? Will it be the same this year, or is this the year you suck it up, make the investment, and push through to explosive growth? On tonight's show we talk about being a quitter, congruence, and three things you can do right now, as you're listening to the show, that can push you from quitter to champion. So, are you up for it? Ready to make this the best year ever and not just talk about making this the best year ever? Then buckle up and listen in.... it's a bumpy ride with lots of tough love inside tonight's show. —————————————– Connect with Transform Radio – On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) The post Quitter appeared first on Transform Radio.

Are You Choosing Freedom or Fear? Life is all about choices. Every day we get to choose between freedom and fear. Freedom to live the lives we were meant to live, living out our fullest potential. Unfortunately most of us choose fear. Not real fear. Imagined fear.  Fear that comes from our deep seeded need to have our egos stroked and be accepted by society. That's bullshit fear, imaginary fear. Humans were meant to feel fear for one reason...to keep us from dying. Other than that, we're choosing "fear", which is simply the bullshit story we keep telling ourselves. So, rockstars...which will you choose? Freedom or fear? Will you live your live bravely, being your true authentic self? Or will you die a chickenshit? ____________________________________ Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest! The post Freedom Or Fear appeared first on Transform Radio.

    The Golden Rule The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a maxim,  ethical code or morality that essentially states either of the following: One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself (directive form). One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated (cautionary form, also known as the Silver Rule).   Sounds pretty simple, eh? Treat others nicely, don't be intentionally hurtful, and life will be good. Unfortunately there are those who take advantage of people who live this way. They treat others like doormats, walking all over them, and then guilt their victims when they stand up for themselves. There's also those who embody the golden rule to the point where they lose themselves in attempting to please others. These are the doormats that get stepped on. In life, the golden rule needs to be lived. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated, yet don't allow yourself to be a doormat because of it. People pleasing is borrowing confidence from others.  It's a quick fix that's highly addictive. Confidence comes from inside. When you live that, treating others kindly becomes who you are....not just something you do.   ____________________________________ Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest!   The post The Golden Rule appeared first on Transform Radio.

   Burning Bridges, Baby! There comes a time in almost every relationship where we stand on one side of a bridge, people we care about stand on the other, and we have a decision to make.... Are we about burning bridges? Are we about nuking bridges and filling the chasm with sharks with laser beams on their heads? Are we about raising the drawbridge for a while... allowing some water to pass underneath? Or are we about simply raising the tolls for them to cross that bridge and join us on the other side? Only you, rock star, can make that decision. While burning bridges may light your way (one of my favorite t-shirts!) and look really spectacular, it leaves no room for forgiveness, for redemption, for reconciliation. Sometimes all it takes is time for relationships to heal.  Time for the hurt to lessen, time for some healing to occur, and time for introspection by both parties about their responsibility for the friction. It's true that you cannot go through life simply being about burning bridges whenever things get hard. Yet, sometimes burning bridges may be all you have left. Each situation is unique, each challenge requires its own solution. So before you make a life of simply burning bridges as you go, try raising the toll for them to cross it first. You may be surprised when they realize paying it is worth it. ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest!   The post Burning Bridges, Baby! appeared first on Transform Radio.

    Break it down and build momentum!   Big goals are awesome. Huge dreams are inspiring. They're also daunting, scary, and risky. Plus, one false step and it can completely derail you. The best way to get from point A to point B is by building momentum so that you can easily overcome challenges and bumps in the road. How do you do that? One way is to break it down.  Break down your audacious goal into small manageable steps...benchmarks...so that the overall isn't as scary as it looks Another way to set a short term goal in something completely unrelated to your ultimate dream.  Achieving these outside, short term goals will help you build confidence and other skills you may need to reach your ultimate goal. When in doubt... break it down. Small changes, small steps taken consistently will result in massive success.   ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest! The post Break It Down To Build Momentum appeared first on Transform Radio.

Small Changes = Massive Results I've developed some nagging injuries in the last few weeks since I've started running.  My knees, hips, and ankles have all let me know exactly how old and how out of shape I am. Perhaps the most nagging injury I've had since I've started running is pain at the top of my ankle.  It has been so great, that my participation in my first every 5k race was in doubt. However, when I run into a challenge, I find a way to overcome it...so I began researching how to treat that injury. Imagine my surprise when I found the most common cause...and treatment...was how my running shoes were laced. In the last week, since I made the small change in how my shoes were laced, I've run relatively pain free and back at my original distance and pace. You often hear it takes massive action to bring massive results...and that can be downright scary. What you need to remember is that sometimes massive action can be as simple as making a small change in your life. Small changes push you out of your comfort zone and force you to grow, even if you don't recognize it at first. Best part is....small changes have a cumulative impact on your life. Before you know it, all these small changes DO result in you having taken massive action.   Check out my friend Fahad and Team Fighting Fit on Facebook.  Go ahead and give him a "like". ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest!     The post Small Changes appeared first on Transform Radio.

I have a confession. I am not as congruent as I'd like to be. For years I've been training my mind...yet I've ignored my body. My biggest struggle over the years has been quitting smoking.  At 41, I'm not nearly as healthy as I'd like to be, although I'm much healthier than I was just 5 years ago. This week I decided to get off my butt and start training my body. I started the Couch to 5k program...and this morning completed week 1. I registered for my first 5k Race, which is 27 days from now. Honestly, I feel better this week than I have in a long, long time. Mental training is great. Physical training is great. Put them together and the growth you'll see is explosive. In this case, 1 + 1 equals 1000. The results you get from training the one you've ignored will spill over into your entire life and you'll be amazed at what you can accomplish!   ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Check us out on Stitcher Radio, for those of you who don't do the iTunes thing.... Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest! I love hearing from all of ya…the good, the bad, and the ugly The post Training The Physical And The Mental appeared first on Transform Radio.