We all have them—those people who seem to know exactly how to push our buttons.One comment. One look. One familiar tone. And suddenly, we're reacting before we've even had time to think.But why?In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Wanda Carroll welcomes Dr. Kasey Stewart to explore where our reactions come from, why certain people or situations affect us more deeply than others, and how our past experiences can sometimes show up in the present.They talk about that small but important space between what happens and how we respond, the physical and emotional clues that tell us we're being triggered, and the "practice gap" between knowing what we should do and actually doing it in the moment.And what happens when we don't get it right? Wanda and Kasey also explore accountability, repair, and how we can take responsibility for our behavior without becoming trapped in shame.Because change isn't about never being triggered again. It's about becoming more aware of what is happening within us—and learning that our next response doesn't always have to look like our last one.Transformative Paths — Change is a Practice.#TransformativePaths #ChangeIsAPractice #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #EmotionalAwareness #Relationships #PersonalDevelopment #GrowthMindset #LifeLessons #Podcast
What if the story you’ve been telling yourself isn’t the whole story?In this episode of Transformative Paths, Wanda J. Carroll sits down with Jerrilyn to explore the powerful connection between our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and the stories we carry with us.Together, they talk about how past experiences can shape the beliefs we hold about ourselves, how those beliefs influence the way we interpret what happens around us, and how easily we can become trapped in patterns of reacting rather than responding.Jerrilyn shares a practical way to begin creating space between what happens and how we respond: “Is this true? Is this real? Is this my stuff, or is this somebody else’s?”The conversation moves into accountability, healing, self-worth, triggers, intuition, and the realization that we are not defined by the stories we have inherited or repeated. They also explore the difference between feeling like life is happening to us and discovering a sense of personal power in how we choose to meet it.Most importantly, this episode offers a message of hope: you can begin somewhere.Because we may not always be able to change what happens around us—but we can begin to change how we interpret it, how we respond, and the story we choose to carry forward.#TransformativePaths #TheStoriesWeTellOurselves #ChangeIsAPractice #RespondNotReact #PersonalGrowth
Coming up next on Transformative Paths... what if the story you’ve been telling yourself isn’t the whole story?In this episode of Transformative Paths, Wanda J. Carroll sits down with Jerrilyn to explore the powerful connection between our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and the stories we carry with us.Together, they talk about how past experiences can shape the beliefs we hold about ourselves, how those beliefs influence the way we interpret what happens around us, and how easily we can become trapped in patterns of reacting rather than responding.Jerrilyn shares a practical way to begin creating space between what happens and how we respond: “Is this true? Is this real? Is this my stuff, or is this somebody else’s?”The conversation moves into accountability, healing, self-worth, triggers, intuition, and the realization that we are not defined by the stories we have inherited or repeated. They also explore the difference between feeling like life is happening to us and discovering a sense of personal power in how we choose to meet it.Most importantly, this episode offers a message of hope: you can begin somewhere.Because we may not always be able to change what happens around us—but we can begin to change how we interpret it, how we respond, and the story we choose to carry forward.#TransformativePaths #TheStoriesWeTellOurselves #ChangeIsAPractice #RespondNotReact #PersonalGrowth
Why do some moments affect us far more deeply than they seem to deserve?A simple comment. A delayed text. A disagreement. A look across the room. Sometimes our reactions feel bigger than the moment itself.In this episode of Transformative Paths, Wanda J. Carroll explores how emotional pain from our past can quietly influence the choices we make today. Drawing on counseling psychology, emotional regulation, and trauma-informed concepts, she explains how our nervous system learns to protect us—and how those protective responses can sometimes lead to defensiveness, withdrawal, anger, or impulsive decisions.Together, we'll explore:Why certain situations trigger powerful emotional reactionsHow unresolved pain shapes our automatic responsesThe concept of the Window of Tolerance and why it mattersHow awareness creates space between emotion and actionWhy understanding our pain is not about making excuses, but about making different choicesThis episode is an invitation to approach yourself with curiosity instead of judgment, recognizing that while pain may influence our reactions, it does not have to determine our future.Because transformation begins in the moment before.#TransformativePaths #TheMomentBefore #ImpulseAndChoice #MentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #BehaviorChange #Leadership #ChangeIsAPractice
Most people believe reactions happen instantly. But what if they don't? What if there is a moment—a brief space between feeling and action—where every choice begins?In this first episode of a new eight-part series, The Moment Before: Impulse and Choice, host Wanda J. Carroll explores the hidden process behind impulsive behavior. Drawing on psychology, neuroscience, trauma-informed practice, and real-life experiences, she examines why impulses feel so powerful, how our bodies signal emotional activation long before behavior occurs, and how awareness can create the space needed for different outcomes.In this episode, you'll discover:• What an impulse actually is • Why emotions often feel impossible to control • The body's early warning signs of escalation • The connection between thoughts, feelings, and behavior • Practical techniques to interrupt impulsive reactions • Why the "moment before" may be the most important moment of allWhether you're navigating relationships, parenting, recovery, leadership, conflict, or personal growth, this conversation offers a powerful reminder:Change rarely happens in the reaction.It happens in the moment before.Change is not a destination; it's a practice.#TransformativePaths #TheMomentBefore #ImpulseAndChoice #MentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #BehaviorChange #Leadership #ChangeIsAPractice