Tres Leches

Recorded before last week's election as a much-needed palette cleanser...The leches serve up three spicy helpings of Spilled Milk advice this week! What do you do when your ex tells you they "lowered their standards" (THE AUDACITY!)? How do you handle mismatched libidos? And should you join a throuple with famous adult film stars when you're not even sure if you're poly? Plus, the trio dives deep into failed talking stages, why you should stop worrying about sharks when you're not even in the water, and a heated debate about whether deleting Grindr just means sliding into Instagram DMs instead. Come get your weekly serving of the gayest, most delicious Latin cake on the internet.

🎃 Welcome to Tres Leches’ Spooktacular Halloween Special! This week, dive into a bubbling cauldron of laughter and LOL moments as we dissect niche gay Halloween costumes. From meme-inspired ensembles to pop culture phenomena, get ready to giggle at the outrageous and admire the inventive.Juan gets personal, sharing why Halloween and holidays have sometimes been tough the last couple of year. He opens up about not wanting to become a ‘bitter old bitch’, and learning to enjoy life’s pleasures, even without a significant other. Although, if he had a boyfriend he would have insisted they go as José and Kitty Menendez—now that’s a couple’s costume missed!Meanwhile, Ian escapes the Halloween frenzy for a serene retreat upstate, seeking peace before the pre-election chaos. And Johnny? He’s here with his nuggets of wisdom that somehow make everything better.Strap in for a ‘Spooky Dooky Halloween’ that’s part ADHD fever dream, part heartfelt journey through the specters of our lives. It’s weird, it’s wild, and it’s exactly the distraction you need. 🧙‍♂️👻

Celebrate one fabulous year with Tres Leches! 🎉 On this special anniversary episode, we dive into a sparkling retrospective of the moments that shaped us—from the iconic Cher vs. Tina debate to the birth of 27PLUS. It’s been a year of blessed friendships, profound reflections on love and loss, and embracing our unabashed gayness, all wrapped in the spirit of the First Wives Club.Join us as we revisit these highlights, fueled by the stories and support you’ve shared. Your messages and encounters have enriched this journey, and we’re thrilled to step into another year of adventures with you. Pour a glass of your favorite indulgence and toast to the resilience of friendship, the joy of being, and the promise of more unforgettable moments. Here’s to love, laughter, and another year of Tres Leches magic—because the best is yet to come! With love, from your three milks. 🍰❤️

Join us on Tres Leches for an episode that’s truly one-of-a-kind! Latino Heritage Month ended yesterday, so we’re featuring two Latinos we’re not so proud of. We delve into the gripping Netflix series ‘Monsters,’ which explores the tumultuous lives of the Menendez brothers. In a bizarre twist of programming, we segue from the dark tale of the Menendez siblings into the colorful and often hilarious tales of our own Latino upbringings.From tales of overprotective mothers to the festive chaos of family gatherings, we share the poignant and often hilarious moments that shaped us. It’s an exploration of the quirks and charms that define Latino families, ensuring you that—unlike the Menendez narrative—ours are full of warmth, laughter, and life.This episode isn’t just about looking back; it’s about celebrating the rich tapestry of stories that we carry with us, proving that while our heritage may be complex, it’s also incredibly colorful and filled with love. Tune in as we trace the lines from our past, understand our present, and laugh about it all.btw Judalon - is not invited to Noche Buena!

Hold on to your gowns, folks—Johnny Sibilly is here, and he’s brought Emmy gold with him! This week on Tres Leches, we’re bursting with joy straight from the 76th Emmy Awards, celebrating ‘Hacks’ as it clinches the top comedy prize.Join us as Johnny spills the tea on what it’s like to be part of TV’s favorite comedy this year. From Liza Colón-Zayas’ historic win to John Leguizamo’s powerful call for better Latino representation, this Emmy night was truly unforgettable. Plus, we’ll dive into Jean Smart’s hilarious acceptance, Anna Sawai’s impactful victory, and the delightful ‘Schitt’s Creek’ reunion that had us all cheering.But the real magic happened with Johnny and the ‘Hacks’ team, who reminded us why laughter is the best medicine. Hear directly from Johnny about the thrill of being at the center of Hollywood’s biggest night.So, put on your sparkliest attire and tune in for an episode filled with stars, stories, and unmatched style. We’re celebrating all things Emmys and all things ‘Hacks,’ proving once again that nobody does it quite like Tres Leches and Johnny Sibilly.

As three gay men who cut our teeth on the romantic revolution at the beginning of this new millennium, we’ve seen our share of love’s evolutions. This week on Tres Leches, we delve into the world of polyamory. We’re tuning into psychotherapist Esther Perel’s fascinating discussion, "The Arc of Love: The Poly Dinner Party," from her acclaimed podcast *Where Should We Begin?*Esther invites poly couples to lay it all out on the table, and we’re here to dissect each moment—from the highs of abundant love to the challenges of jealousy and everything in between. Expect to hear snippets from the episode that sparked our curiosity and provoked plenty of debates among us. Can jealousy be a tool to grow a relationship? That’s one of the questions we explore.We’re unpacking the good, the bad, and the complicated with our usual flair. This isn’t just about understanding polyamory; it’s about exploring what it can teach all of us about love, relationships, and ourselves. Get ready for a titillating conversation that dives into the heart of modern romance. It’s spicy, it’s insightful, and it’s unabashedly Tres Leches.

This week on Tres Leches, we’re celebrating the sensational Jools Lebron, a trans-Latina content creator who has captured our hearts and has the internet’s algorithm in a demure chokehold. An we’ve got something to to say those that tired of the trend! 👊🏾 just you wait, Henry Higgins! You might justifiably be tired of our chats about gay vacations and Fire Island, but bear with us—we’ve got a bit more to share today, all in the pursuit of discussing something truly important.We dive deep into the productivity complex, exploring how we tie our worth to our output. From vacation guilt to daily to-dos, we unravel the pressure to earn our leisure and joy. Ian shares his personal battle with balancing work and downtime, offering insights that resonate on a universal level.In our ‘Spilled Milk’ segment, we tackle a Brooklyn couple’s clash between living large and saving smart—a perfect showdown of ‘brat’ vs. ‘demure’ lifestyles. Roar!

We’re really trying to be demure - but we’re just three brazen broads. This week on Tres Leches, join Juan as he embarks on his first trip of the year to Fire Island, bringing you a special episode straight from this iconic homosexual hotspot. Amidst the sandy shores and summer vibes, Juan engages in a profound exploration of self-discovery, confronting his longstanding reliance on men’s attention as his primary, if not sole, source of self-worth. This isn’t just a vacation; it’s a transformative unpacking of deep-seated validation habits.In a candid reflection reminiscent of Carrie Bradshaw’s introspective escapades, your Tres Leches explore what it means to truly romanticize your life, making your relationship with yourself the most cherished one. As we unwrap this heartfelt theme, we each share personal tips on how we add a touch of romance to our everyday lives. And, Johnny gives us a sneak peek into his new project shooting in Palm Springs, adding a dash of his own sun-soaked insights.From self-love realizations to celebrating solo joys, this episode of Tres Leches is about embracing the beauty of being your own best company. Tune in as we bring you tales of personal growth and self-love from Fire Island to Palm Springs—because sometimes, the best love story is the one you write with yourself.

Today’s episode is completely rotted, a direct reflection of our brains. Our grey matter took a vacation and decided to never come back. …but we kick things off with a heartfelt discussion about grief and recovery from the traumatic events in our lives. How long is too long to dwell in our sorrows, and when is it time to embrace a stiff upper lip? It’s a delicate balance, and we’re unpacking it today.As we wrap up our Olympic watch, we dive into some of the Games’ great moments and tackle the controversies, including the right’s attack on trans athletes that have marked this year’s events. Yay sports, indeed.In our ‘Spilled Milk’ segment, one of our gay boy listeners writes in about his new bisexual identity. He’s saying “bye-bye-bye” to his old self because he’s now “bi-bi-bi.” Another listener asks for permission to cheat. This is her Meadowlark moment—will she risk it all for a new romance?This episode might be all over the place, but our love for you is exactly where it should be—in our hearts.

Strap in for a golden episode of Tres Leches as we dive into the dazzling world of the Olympics, including the awe-inspiring opening ceremony and Celine Dion’s triumphant return to the stage. We’re not just talking about her performance but also the masterful media blitz that heralded her comeback. It’s all about the spectacle, the strategy, and the sparkle!Then, we discuss the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleadrs and their Netflix documentary experience: ‘America’s Sweethearts.’ We’re still not over the behind-the-scenes drama and dazzle it unveiled. In our “Spilled Milk” segment, we turn to a different kind of partnership: Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor. Sarah shared that living apart is their relationship’s secret sauce. Could this be a magic formula for long-term love, or...? We’re breaking down the pros and cons.And for our final splash, we tackle a listener’s thought-provoking question inspired by Oprah’s “Things I Know for Sure.” What’s one thing each of us knows for certain? Get ready for some surprising revelations, including why Pinesol makes the list.

We’re thrilled to be back with you after our quick summer sojourn! In today’s episode of Tres Leches, we’re diving headfirst into a monumental moment in American politics. With Kamala Harris stepping up as the presidential candidate after Joe Biden’s exit from the race, we’re unpacking the seismic shift and what it means for the future. We share our thoughts, hopes, and reflections on this pivotal and potentially wild chapter in American history.And don’t miss out—Johnny breaks down how to properly pronounce ‘Kamala,’ ensuring we all get it right as she steps into the presidential spotlight.But that’s just the first half! The second part of our episode gets personal as we navigate the scary world of first dates. Ian’s not holding back—after being left on read, he’s ready to read the bitch who did it. Meanwhile, Juan is branching out, trying to expand his dating horizons by mingling with new friend groups. And Johnny? Our wise Mama Odie, comfortably in a relationship, shares her sage realtionship advice like an old woman THAT lives in a tree.

No, really, we need saving! Because after recording this episode, it’s clear we need help.We’re starting with a brief toast to Broadway’s best at the Tony Awards, then crossing the Atlantic to dive into Ian’s beginnings in the UK, and exploring why he never read “The Outsiders.”Ian isn’t the only British thing we love—we are also head over heels for “Love Island UK” and its American sister show, which just kicked off a new season. Johnny and Juan are on a campaign to get Ian addicted to the island antics—why not join the madness and watch along with us?But there’s more! Today’s ‘Spilled Milk’ segment is fermenting with juicy gossip—so tantalizing it’s almost rotten. Leave it out any longer, and we might just have sour cream on our hands! We're tackling a man grappling with a significant age gap in his new relationship, celebrating the wild adventures of a recent college grad, and debating bedroom laziness—because someone’s got to do the work, right?

Our witch’s brew is piping hot this week. Ian is practically levitating with excitement over the buzz that Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman might reunite for a “Practical Magic” reboot. Yes, you heard it right. This is Ian’s rapture. He has seen the face of God and it’s this potential cinematic revival.But that’s not all we’ve got stirring in our cauldron. We talk gay etiquette, why you should just say ‘hi’—always.Juan explains why you might want to think twice before claiming you’re ‘nauseous’—and Ian shares a musical ordeal that left him nauseated. And for our grand finale? We’re dissecting Johnny’s legendary “XXX” Spotify playlist, track by track. Dubbed the single greatest playlist for making whoopie, even Wendy Williams would nod and declare, “It’s good.” IG: @TresLechesThePodYouTube: Full Episodes here!Follow us:@IanPaget@JohnnySibilly@JuanTF

Welcome back, mis amores! Today, we’re throwing out the agenda and just “comiendo mierda” (and yes, while that might translate to eating sh*…, around here, it means talking sh*…). You know when you talk to your best friend about the same thing you’ve talked about 5,676 times but you bring it up again because you’ve found another way to think about the same situation?—yep, that’s our vibe today. What’s on the docket? It’s Pride month, and we’re mixing celebration with a side-eye at all the gay couples hoarding the fun. Juan might’ve bailed on his 75 hard challenge, but trust, he’s picked up some wisdom along the way. Johnny? Oh, he’s got a boyfriend now, and we’re all about getting the deets. And let’s not forget Ian, reminding us why we’re blessed to live in a world where Fire Island is just a ferry ride away. We’re also talking Billie Eilish and her latest single, “Birds of a Feather.”So, grab your café cubano, find your favorite spot, and let’s dive into another heart-to-heart, Tres Leches style—no filters, all sass, and a generous helping of best-friending.

As the season shifts, emotions are blooming just as much as the flowers around us. Johnny's stepping into a new relationship, while Juan and Ian are single, taking this time to delve deep into what intimacy and romance mean to them at this point in their lives. We're also exploring the nuances of platonic intimacy. Can these non-romantic relationships truly satisfy our yearnings for closeness and connection? For Ian, they might just be the answer. Later in the episode, in our "Spilled Milk" segment, the phone call is coming form inside the house–Juan has a burning question for Johnny and Ian about setting expectations in relationships, especially when it comes to communication styles and how often we should be in touch. Johnny warns Juan that saying “No worries if not” and being overly accommodating to the whims of potential suitors, lets the colonizers win. Follow us! IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JuanTF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JohnnySibilly ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@IanPaget --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message

It’s the second installment of our series, “Be Good to You” -  exploring the things that truly make us feel good, inside and out. You wanna be on top? Me neither! This week, we're joined by the dynamic Alex Hall, creator of "The Bottom’s Digest," who spices up our discussion with his expert blend of culinary and sexual wisdom. Alex's mission to promote a healthier, joy-filled sexual lifestyle shines through as he tackles common myths about diet and bottoming, offering practical advice for enhancing your sexual well-being. Did you know the timing of your fiber supplement could be the secret sauce to a perfect evening? Get the scoop on that and more, including a glimpse into what makes us purr.  Follow us! IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@JuanTF⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@JohnnySibilly⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IanPaget --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message

Hi sweethearts! Welcome to the first installment of our four-part series, “Be Good to You.” Over the next four weeks, we're diving deep into a journey of self-care and personal growth, exploring the things that truly make us feel good, inside and out.   This week, we’re honored to have licensed therapist Omar Torres (@haveyoutriedtherapy) join us to unlock the healing power of therapy. 😍 In this episode, Omar shares his professional perspective on making therapy accessible, overcoming stigma, and how to take the first step towards finding the right therapist for you. And we promise this session wont end in a fight with Dr. Leslie Rosen. (Played by Marcia Gay Harden, of course) Follow us! IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TresLechesThePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JuanTF⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JohnnySibilly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@IanPaget --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message

Yeehaw, y'all! This week on Tres Leches, we're swapping salsa for barbecue sauce and diving boots-first into Beyoncé's country revolution with "Cowboy Carter." With Donell James Foreman (@TheDJF_) joining us as our star-studded co-host, we're saddling up for a rollicking ride through the album that's got everyone talking. "Cowboy Carter" marks a significant moment in music history, with Beyoncé's single "Texas Hold 'Em" becoming the first No. 1 country hit by a Black woman. This album is not just a foray into country music; it's Beyoncé's exploration of America itself, digging deep into the genre's roots and paying homage to the unsung Black musicians who helped shape it.  It's an episode packed with laughs, insights, and maybe a surprise yodel or two. So, grab your hat, pour yourself some sweet tea, and join us for a knee-slapping good time as Tres Leches goes country with Beyoncé's "Cowboy Carter." --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message

This week on Tres Leches, we dive into the heart of identity, starting with Jennifer Lopez’s Bronx heritage debate that’s stirred up more than just fan chatter. Is J.Lo really from the block? We break down the discourse, showing our full support for the icon amidst the noise of online debates. Then, we switch gears in our "Spilled Milk" segment to tackle the hefty weight of life's biggest romantic decisions. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message

Still on a high from our Queerty Awards nod, we, Johnny, Ian, and Juan, dive into a cherished episode from the Tres Leches vault. Recorded with hearts full of hope, this episode explores our dream homes and dream cities–from lavish desires to the essentials that make a house a home. It's a candid glimpse into our personal aspirations, interwoven with whimsical musings about one day sharing the same city skyline. We also discuss Shania Twain, being rescued by Brazilian men, tips for getting free drinks, and the abundance of big-bootied men in Austin, Texas. While it was captured just a few months ago, the time capsule quality makes it feel like a lifetime apart. So, join us in this nostalgic look back at our daydreams, proving that while places may change, the essence of Tres Leches remains timeless. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/treslechesthepod/message