True You Podcast

In this episode, join Bill and Marty as they welcome guest Alison Dyer, a certified IFS practitioner. Alison shares her incredible story of trauma, abuse, and the healing power of imagination. Through candid discussions, learn how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy became her path to reconnecting with her divine self and transforming her life. About Alison:As a certified IFS practitioner. My focus is on building relationships in our inner world so that we may have a positive impact on the outside world. I am exploring the idea of connecting with the wisdom of our soul and our humanity.  Someone who loves learning and going deep into the world of imagination.Contact Alison:Email: alisonmdyer4@gmail.comInstagram: http://instagram.com/dyer8893Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the True You Podcast00:37 Meet Our Guest: Alison Dyer02:20 Alison's Journey with IFS and Imagination03:28 Childhood Trauma and Imagination as a Coping Mechanism05:16 Struggles with Religion and Self-Identity08:51 The Role of Imagination in Healing22:11 Alison's Experiences with Abuse in the Church28:39 A New Church and Unsettling Encounters29:27 A Secret Relationship and Its Consequences30:31 The Turning Point: Reporting the Pastor31:26 Healing and Rediscovering Faith32:18 The Role of Imagination in Healing33:47 The Loving Parent Guidebook34:49 Reflections on Trauma and Growth35:27 The Power of 'What If' Questions41:12 Personal Stories and Divine Connection45:16 The True Self and Internal Family Systems49:56 Parts Work Practice and Final ThoughtsLinks and Resources:• Loving Parent Guidebook - https://shop.adultchildren.org/collections/books/products/loving-parent-guidebook• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@billtierneycoaching.com• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• Would you like to be a guest on our podcast? Complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/Fre2eEmiNoDPYKmp9• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

04-11

55:37

In this episode, hosts Bill and Marty reflect on the journey of creating the podcast and its evolving identity. They explore the concept of the brain's efficiency in forming habitual thought grooves and the conscious effort required to shift these patterns. They discuss the ethical dimensions of communication and the importance of taking responsibility for one’s thoughts and words. The conversation shifts towards understanding and working through entrenched negative beliefs, the role of parts work in internal family systems (IFS) therapy, and the process of updating these beliefs. By fostering a friendship with the mind, the hosts emphasize the significance of appreciating one's mental processes and how embracing new habits can lead to a fulfilling life transformation.00:00 Introduction to the True You Podcast01:06 The Brain's Efficiency and Habit Formation02:14 Ethics and Responsibility in Communication03:45 The Power of Thought and Behavior Habits05:10 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Embracing Authenticity09:50 Creating Structures for New Habits16:07 Exploring Self-Energy and Internal Family Systems (IFS)18:32 Understanding and Healing Trauma20:53 Understanding Parts Work and Beliefs21:29 Asking the Right Questions22:27 Revealing and Addressing Core Beliefs23:47 Timing and Respect in Parts Work25:53 Client Experiences and Shifting Beliefs31:35 Renegotiating Roles for Unburdened Parts33:43 Wrapping Up and Future TopicsLinks and Resources:• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@billtierneycoaching.com• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• Would you like to be a guest on our podcast? Complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/Fre2eEmiNoDPYKmp9• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

04-04

35:44

In this episode, Bill and Marty engage in a deep conversation about contentment, inspired by Marty's recent newsletter article. They discuss the transformative power of acceptance and forgiveness, and how these stages lead to true contentment. Marty shares his thoughts on the influence of Fred Luskin's book on forgiveness and the significance of the Prisoner's Dilemma in understanding human behavior. Bill reflects on his journey to rediscover joy through sobriety and the importance of self-energy. Together, they uncover the essence of being aligned with one's authentic self.Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Greetings00:11 Discussing the Newsletter on Contentment02:01 Forgiveness and Its Impact04:24 Exploring the Concept of Contentment07:43 The Prisoner's Dilemma and Contentment14:56 Personal Reflections on Contentment22:56 Exploring the Nature of Joy and Contentment24:01 Early Recovery and Perceptions of Joy24:43 Manufactured Joy vs. True Self-Energy26:04 The Concept of Optimum Resource28:16 Contentment and Containment33:56 The Itch of Yearning and Acceptance39:38 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsLinks and Resources:• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@billtierneycoaching.com• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• Would you like to be a guest on our podcast? Complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/Fre2eEmiNoDPYKmp9• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

03-28

44:09

In the second episode of the True You Podcast, Bill and Marty address the distinctions between the 'true self' and the 'parts' within us as outlined in the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. They uncover how self-energy can guide us through various life challenges and discuss the importance of recognizing and tending to our parts for better self-led lives. The conversation flows through practical applications, the role of consciousness, and how parts work together under self-leadership. Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the True You Podcast00:38 Understanding the True You and IFS02:21 Personal Beliefs and IFS Distinctions03:37 Illustrations and Visual Learning in IFS06:08 The Seat of Consciousness12:30 Practical Applications of IFS14:25 Self-Led vs. Burden-Led Parts23:14 Maintaining Capacity and Self-Leadership25:04 Acknowledging and Addressing Concerns26:20 Practical Applications of IFS26:32 Analogy to Governmental Systems28:14 The Role of Self-Energy in Healing30:45 Overcoming Overwhelm with Self-Energy31:54 The Loving Parent in IFS32:40 The Role of the Practitioner in IFS34:29 Exploring Critical Parts in Therapy36:59 The Power of Self-Energized Curiosity39:04 The Mystery of Self and Parts42:51 Invitation to Engage with the ConversationShow notes:• Self-Therapy Workbook: An Exercise Book For The IFS Process by Bonnie Weiss - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0984392742• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@billtierneycoaching.com• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• Would you like to be a guest on our podcast? Complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/Fre2eEmiNoDPYKmp9• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

03-21

43:55

In the debut episode of the True You Podcast, hosts Bill Tierney, a results coach and certified IFS practitioner, and Dr. Martin Kettelhut, an experienced leadership coach and author, introduce themselves and share their unique coaching journeys. They discuss the evolution of their podcast from 'Not Your Typical Leadership Coaching' to focusing on authentic self-expression and true leadership. With a personal story about overcoming fear in a heated discussion, Marty reveals how authenticity and presence lead to true leadership and genuine connection. Chapters:00:00 Welcome to the True You Podcast00:17 Meet Your Hosts: Dr. Martin Kettelhut and Bill Tierney00:26 Marty's Coaching Journey01:30 A Tale of Two Locations02:30 The Evolution of Our Podcast03:01 Bill's Path to Recovery Coaching05:33 The Leadership Coaching Podcast10:26 The True You Podcast: A New Beginning11:24 The Power of Authenticity19:14 Recognizing Your True Self20:36 Bill's Personal Story24:26 Challenges in Leadership26:02 Introduction to Personal Challenges26:36 Exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS)27:27 Power and True Self29:45 Facing Fear and Courage32:16 Handling Conflict with Grace43:20 The Importance of Boundaries44:59 Invitation to Join the Conversation45:54 Conclusion and Next StepsShownotes:• Power Vs Force - https://www.amazon.com/Power-Force-David-Hawkins-M-D/dp/1401945074• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• Would you like to be a guest on our podcast? Complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/Fre2eEmiNoDPYKmp9• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Bill Tierney Coaching - https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/• Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

03-14

47:09