U Up?

<p>U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com</p>

Will Cheating Karma Catch Me In My Next Relationship?

‘Twas the U Up? before Christmas so J&J dressed up for fun. Regardless of your holiday plans, you won’t want to miss this one! With unhinged holiday spirit taking over the entire studio, they play a round of “Naughty or Nice?”, offer up Jared’s first date of 2025, and end with a holiday competition of ‘Twas The Night Before Christmas rewrites by Jared and our producer, Candice. Plus, the Awkward Encounter involves a feline funk and J&J give a reality check when a cheating woman writes in with hopes for her next relationship before she’s ended her current one. Head to our Instagram @u.up.podcast to vote on our pod poetry and get details on how to win a date with Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-25
01:05:52

What Will 2025 Bring My Zodiac Sign? ft. Kelley Knight

What does 2025 hold for your love life? Kelley Knight (@kelley__knight), psychic and owner of Modern Mystic Shop, returns to the studio to help us see what’s in store for each of our futures! First, she surprises J&J with gifts and they catch up since she gave Jared a reading in an episode last December. Then, Jared and Jordana each ask a question about different aspects of their lives for a quick reading. The episode ends with a round of Tarotscopes as Kelley makes predictions for each zodiac sign, with our hosts and producers paying extra attention to our own signs.For more from our guest, follow @modernmystic_shop or visit modernmystic.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-20
01:02:56

How Do I Date While I’m Home For The Holidays?

After a couple weeks away from the studio and just days after Jared’s special taping, Jordana starts this episode by giving Jared his flowers and catches him up on her girls’ trip as the hosts settle back in. The first email asks for advice for everyone traveling to stay with family over the holiday season. How do you balance dating and family time when you’re away from your city, but don’t want to take a break? The Awkward Encounter, sponsored by A24’s Babygirl, comes from a woman unsure when to bring up her kinks to find the right partner. Next, a listener with a calculated approach to her dating life is starting to second-guess herself after her friends’ judgment about her current situation. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about family baggage, an angry cat, and a vegan’s roach reservations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-18
01:26:56

Dating Pulse Check: Should I Invest Or Move On?

Feeling lucky? On par with Friday the 13th, Jared and Jordana ease into the episode with their thoughts on superstitions, energy, and beliefs. Plus, Jared shares where his head is at ahead of a recording break for the Thanksgiving holiday, Jordana’s trip, and his special taping. Then, they play a game called “Is That My Wife?” inspired by Jared’s DMs. The episode ends with an email from a 26M listener wondering if he should be feeling more for the woman he’s been seeing for a couple of months or if dating in the digital age has skewed his perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-13
38:06

Is It Too Early To Be Annoyed With The Person You’re Dating?

Why won’t Jared go to therapy? We get this question often and, this week, he shares his own thought on why as well as a helpful TikTok, "Men Who Wear Masks And Struggle With Conflict" by @elisemicheals. Plus, he and Jordana are slipping more into f*ck it mode for the holidays. The first email is advice ahead of office holiday party season when your coworkers knew your ex: how do you introduce your new boyfriend to your coworkers without any awkward moments? The Awkward Encounter has a strange condom request. Then, we hear from a listener who’s growing frustrated with a conversation ick with the guy she’s dating. Every time she shares a story, he somehow makes it about himself. Can they get over these conflicting communication styles? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about turning a submission into a Hinge prompt, an off-putting first date experience, and acting like a baby when you’re sick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-11
01:06:52

Jared Saw His Soulmate And Now He’s Scared

J&J are feeling good for this Friday episode with big plans for both hosts, and with this kind of energy, you never know where the conversation will take them! As you’ve seen on IG Stories by now, Jordana should be on her way back from a group trip and Jared is gearing up for his special taping in Tarrytown. With live performances on their minds, and as with most conversations lately, Wicked finds its way into their chat–except it just has Jared missing when he was into Marvel movies. Plus, Jared gets a lesson in chlamydia (yes, chlamydia) from Jordana ahead of his Australia trip. The episode ends with a reveal: with soulmate drawings picking up on TikTok, Candice commissioned a reading for Jared. J&J react to the predictions from the Etsy psychic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-06
36:07

Post-Date Confusion And Why We’re Happy For Selena Gomez

We’re officially in “let’s circle back in the new year” territory, and to embrace it, J&J set out to make this the most unhinged U Up? episode this year. They talk about the pursuit of meaningful relationships and how the distraction of dating apps is clouding the way for the people making actual efforts. Plus, after the public reaction to Benny Blanco sharing that his relationship with Selena Gomez started by her asking him out*, they talk about the public’s perceptions of their relationship and the obstacles that even Selena has faced as a successful woman that wants to find love. The first email comes from a listener writing in from the post-date Uber: what are the signs a guy wants you to leave after sex? She shares what she took as signs to leave, and J&J weigh in on whether she overthought the situation. The Awkward Encounter comes from Genova as a listener has an unusually sexual sight in her new city. The next email is questioning whether to act on being called “The One That Got Away.” Our listener’s reconnection with her ex reignited feelings, but should she just leave it alone out of respect for his new relationship, or was his admittance to still loving her an invite to try again? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about homework before spending a holiday together, hiking on a first date and using a childhood nickname. *The Benny Blanco clip we react to is from Kai Cenat’s YouTube video, “Benny Blanco Comes On Kai Cenat's Stream!” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12-04
01:07:45

Modern Dating: Why ChatGPT Should Edit Your Breakup Text

It’s the biggest shopping day of the year, but before you get the new iPhone 16, J&J want you to know how a new AI feature on the iOS 18 update could affect your dating life. With breakup texts submitted to our Instagram and a ChatGPT assist from our producer, Shannon, Jared and Jordana break down how the conversations went and generate what an AI version would look like. They also determine when a breakup text is appropriate and play out their own breakup scenarios. The episode ends with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about proposing a shopping spree for a first date. Is this a fun way to get spoiled for a few hours by a dating app rando, or is it just creepy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-29
51:35

Lightning Round: Navigating The Holidays With A SO

It’s officially our favorite time of the year and J&J get a little unhinged today as they amp up for what’s to come! They come in hot with a fresh new rant about TikTok’s favorite couple, Pookie and Jett. Plus, because the holidays are a tricky time for love lives regardless of status, J&J are guiding you through Thanksgiving and the start of holiday season with a lightning round of advice. They listen to a slightly shady voicemail from a curious mom and answer a range of Instagram submissions covering various holiday hiccups, from early dating momentum to interfaith relationships and in-law issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-27
01:08:43

Cuffing Season: Signs Of Casual VS Committed

We're at the end of cuffing week to prep you for the cuffing season ahead, and Jared and Jordana are doing temp checks on the unofficial statuses between casual, comfortable and committed. First, Jordana gives us a home renovation update and Jared shares a sad breakup story of his own. They play a round of "Icky or Picky?" about getting too comfortable wearing weird PJs too soon. Plus, a 27F listener needs advice on whether or not to build a roster to kick her dating life into high gear. The episode ends with a new game, "Cuffed or Casual?" as J&J weigh in on Instagram submissions of confusing moves that could be deemed as nothing serious or a sign that the other person wants a real relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-22
48:03

Cuffing Season, Casual Sex And Dating Complications

The holidays are getting closer and the weather is getting colder which can only mean one thing: cuffing season is here. Jared and Jordana delve into the discourse around cuffing season and discuss controlling the narrative around your dating life. Then, a 27F listener writes in to ask whether wanting casual sex is derailing her dating goals. She's never had a real boyfriend; is abstinence the only way she'll ever find one? The Awkward Encounter involves a situationship with a love kink. Next, a listener with a tumor diagnosis asks how to address her medical journey while dating. The episode ends with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about sharing your life with your SO, updating Hinge daily, and owning only one cutlery set.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-20
01:13:39

The Seven-Year Itch: The Anniversary Episode

It's our anniversary! 7 years after the first U Up? episode, Jared and Jordana walk into a decorated studio themed to the traditional 7th-anniversary gifts: copper and wool. First, J&J exchange gifts, then they talk about what the dreaded 7-year itch means in relationships. Next, Jared and Jordana reveal their lists of what they want for the pod's future. The episode ends with a lightning round of U Up? history and reflecting on top pod moments since our last anniversary. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-15
55:47

Is The "Single Mindset" In A Relationship Real?

Jared fills Jordana in on his bizarre and funny late night Halloween experience and they also discuss the new Martha Stewart documentary. They hear from a listener who is struggling with communication from their partner. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter that ends with them walking in on somebody in bed with another girl. Then, they discuss an email from a listener who isn't sure how to know if a relationship is serious if they both don't want marriage. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" featuring a fat-phobic date, a boyfriend unwilling to compromise, and Olivia Rodrigo's number one red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-13
01:21:57

Politics, Dog Poop, and Whiskey Dick

DISCLAIMER: This episode was recorded prior to the election. Jared and Jordana divulge the complexities of dating during an election year and how to navigate discussing politics on a date. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener wants to know if their date littering dog poop is something worth overlooking. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma concerning her date's disappointing "whiskey dick" and Jared opens up about male performance anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-08
39:12

Should I Ask My Hot Doctor Out?

We're officially headed towards the toughest times to date—cuffing season and the holidays—so Jared and Jordana discuss how to navigate this tricky period. They hear from a patient whose attractive doctor makes her temperature rise but she's unsure whether to make a move or not. Next, they hear an Awkward Encounter about life at boarding school. Then, they discuss an email from a listener whose boyfriend is extremely jealous and suspicious of her male friend. Finally, they dive into a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about toilet plungers and gift giving etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-06
01:15:30

Is It Romantic Or Creepy To Track Down An Old Match?

Jared and Jordana break down artist Spritely’s viral TikTok breakup video, unpacking relationship red flags, communication pitfalls, and the complexities of moving for love. In this week’s "Icky or Picky?" a listener asks if designer labels make or break a date J&J agree, no one should feel judged for their fashion choices, no matter the brand. Next, they tackle a listener’s dilemma about tracking down a Bumble match from nearly a year ago. Is her search romantic or just plain extra? Jared and Jordana empathize but offer a crucial reminder: while bold moves can impress, more than one follow-up message might push things into red flag territory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11-01
40:43

Halloween Hookups & Costume Red Flags

It’s the spookiest episode of the year, and Jordana and Jared are feeling a little trapped in more ways than one! They rank Halloween couple’s costumes for 2024 and explore what your costume choice reveals about your relationship. Then, they tackle a listener’s costume conundrum, where differing opinions on what’s “too sexy” lead to the conclusion that her date is too controlling. Next, an Awkward Encounter that’s more alarming than amusing. Then, they advise a listener who wonders if she’s being unreasonable for expecting her Halloween one-night stand to leave by morning. J&J completely understand her perspective and hold a masterclass on how to nail the perfect one-night stand. Finally, the episode wraps up with a Halloween-themed lightning round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” tackling controversial costumes, costume refusals, and the right time to suggest a couples costume. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10-30
01:23:27

My Boyfriend Loves To Vape And I Hate It

In this Friday’s episode, Jordana navigates the chaos of her impending move, sparking a deeper conversation with Jared about how our living spaces impact relationships. Next, they tackle an Icky or Picky from a listener overwhelmed by her boyfriend’s bombardment of romantic texts. Even though this partner checks all the right boxes on paper, J&J explore why it’s okay to walk away when the spark just isn’t there. Finally, they dive into an email from a listener seeking advice about her boyfriend’s hidden vaping habit, which was downplayed early on. J&J encourage an open conversation that leans into support, not shame—proving that honesty is key. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10-25
43:09

Why Do My Dates Keep Canceling On Me?

Non-subscribers, take note: new episodes will now be dropping every Wednesday and Friday at 6 AM EST. Now that business is taken care of, there's a trending breakup J&J need to discuss: Jason Tartick and Kat Stickler. They analyze their breakup announcements, plus discuss societal pressures and expectations put upon celebrity couples. Next, a 31F is having trouble with same-day date cancellations, leading J&J to explore the nuances around when and how to cancel on a date. Then, brace yourself for an Awkward Encounter about a college kiss gone horribly wrong—it still haunts our listener to this day! The second advice email is seeking a masterclass in becoming a more effective PITA (Pain In The Ass). J&J delve into the importance of negotiation in relationships and wielding strong opinions as an advantage. The episode wraps up with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” about a surprising pet, a boyfriend who selectively shares, and a date who insists on getting all the cash back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10-23
01:29:41

Is It Weird That My Boyfriend Doesn’t Post Me?

Welcome to the inaugural Friday episode! Jared and Jordana are still at Spotify HQ, gavels in hand, ready to tackle Couple's Court. This week, they dive into a sh*tty dilemma from a listener who's struggling to get her boyfriend to clean up his bathroom blow-ups. Jordana passionately sides with the listener, while Jared shares how we can do better as a country when it comes to bathroom supplies. Next, a 30F listener without social media feels uneasy that her 32M boyfriend—who posts frequently—has no pictures of her on his feed. Is it weird that he's leaving her out of his posts even if she was there for those moments? J&J give her tips on how to address the issue with a vulnerable approach instead of an accusatory tone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10-18
28:41

Liva Christina

Queer Country Club offers a unique space for people in the LGBTQ+ community to connect and explore relationships in a supportive environment. Whether you're looking for friendship or something more, it's a great place to meet like-minded individuals. Check it out here: https://queercountryclub.com/.

12-03 Reply

Mona Peterson

I absolutely love 'U Up?'! The hosts bring such a refreshing and relatable perspective on modern dating. Their insights and humor make every episode a joy to listen to. I always come away with new tips and a smile on my face. Keep up the fantastic work! https://castbox.fm/episode/Wax-Paper-in-the-Kitchen-Tips-and-Tricks-for-Everyday-Use-id6232545-id721902105?country=us

08-03 Reply

Kate Carey

"South Asian" means Indian, Pakistani, etc. lol not South Korean. 🤦‍♀️

05-29 Reply

Carson McDonnell

listening to this through headphones is awful. Jared's constant screaming and "singing" is awful. being louder doesn't make it funnier.

10-04 Reply

Carson McDonnell

love the pod but sick of hearing Jared sing or do his Renaissance voice rants.

04-26 Reply

01-02

08-25

06-05

03-24

03-13

07-16

03-23

03-13

03-13

03-13

07-20

07-20

05-23

01-05

09-07

Recommend Channels