UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Ever felt that gut punch when you see someone else living the life you want? Maybe they’ve landed your dream job, bought your ideal house, or achieved the business success you’re chasing. It feels awful—like proof that you’ll never get there.In this episode, I’m showing you how to turn those painful feelings of envy and comparison into fuel for your own growth. You’ll learn the two key questions to ask yourself when envy strikes, how to challenge the scarcity mindset that keeps you stuck, and most importantly, I’ll teach you how someone else’s success can become your roadmap, not your roadblock.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/424Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this week's Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions that get right to the heart of emotional responsibility. First, I tackle the studies on mood contagion you’ve probably seen—and show why they don’t actually contradict thought work. The second question digs into a classic relationship trap: knowing when to share your feelings with a partner and when you’re actually trying to manipulate them into making you feel better. By the end, you’ll have concrete ways to approach tough conversations that build real intimacy instead of criticism or blame.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/423Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Thinking about getting certified as a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET.Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacall

What if the reason you haven’t reached your biggest goals isn’t lack of talent or effort—but the illusion that you need a perfect plan before you even start?In this episode, you’ll learn why chasing certainty keeps you stuck, how overplanning can become a sophisticated form of procrastination, and why the “next right step” is more powerful than a five-year roadmap. You’ll discover how to set goals that excite—or even scare—you, and start making progress on the things that actually matter.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/422Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Ever catch yourself overthinking how you show up around men—or in any situation where you feel judged? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question about maintaining platonic friendships while married and unpack why women are socialized to take responsibility for other people’s thoughts—a burden that’s impossible to carry and doesn’t belong to you.Then we dive into whether some circumstances actually require more thought work than others, using the workplace as an example. You’ll learn why what feels “hard” for you isn’t about the circumstance—it’s about your thinking—and how embracing that insight can change the way you navigate relationships, work, and life.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/421Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

The coaching industry is booming—yet it’s one of the most misunderstood professions out there. From concerns about pyramid schemes to questions of legitimacy, there’s a lot of confusion surrounding this coaching, especially in a field that’s predominantly female and largely online.So this week, I’m breaking down the most common myths and concerns about becoming a coach. I cover everything from startup costs and market saturation to whether coaching actually aligns with your strengths and desired lifestyle. You’ll learn the real numbers behind the industry, the different pathways into coaching (hint: entrepreneurship isn’t the only option), and how to know if coaching might be your calling.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/420Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this week’s Coaching Hotline, I answer two listener questions that reveal a common trap: we think circumstances create our feelings, when really our thoughts are doing all the work. One caller worries that ambition has become a perfectionist trap, the other wonders if meditation is just a way to avoid difficult emotions.I break down how to tell if meditation is actually processing emotions or just soothing your nervous system, and what it really means to live an extraordinary life. You’ll learn the difference between true emotional work and sophisticated avoidance—and how to reframe your biggest life questions in a way that actually gives you answers.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/419Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing. In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing acceptance of her son's autism and advocating for his needs. The second is struggling with perfectionism, confusion about her work, and quitting projects before they gain traction.Tune in to hear how to stop tying your identity to external outcomes and why emotional resistance isn’t helping you. I break down how to navigate self-doubt and frustration, and why your true work is learning to love and accept yourself first—no matter what’s going on around you.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/415Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Ever feel like you're just waiting for your purpose to magically appear, fully formed and ready to give your life meaning? The truth is, purpose isn’t something you find—it’s something you create. In this episode, you'll hear how purpose develops over time through small steps driven by what excites you, rather than a grand revelation.Discover how purpose isn’t a fixed destination—it’s about trusting those flickers of curiosity and interest and making intentional decisions along the way. Tune in to learn how to create your purpose by consistently moving toward what feels meaningful and exciting, even without knowing exactly where it will lead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/414Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call hereYour Last Chance to Join The Society in 2025!Get in before the doors close and take advantage of all the bonuses waiting for you inside: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/closingSociety Closing 2025

Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn’t text back at night).You’ll learn why your brain’s objections to new thoughts are a sign you’re on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don’t need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn’t about what your partner is doing—it’s about the story you’re making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

What if the key to your success isn’t in playing it safe, but embracing the discomfort of going after what you really want? In this Greatest Hits episode, I’m revisiting a powerful conversation with my dear friend and fellow master coach, Brenda Lomeli. Together, we discuss the courage, belief, and determination it takes to go after big goals—no matter the odds or the fear of failure. Brenda’s journey is a true testament to how breaking through limiting beliefs can create real, lasting success.Whether you’re starting a business, navigating personal growth, or simply pushing past your own limiting beliefs, this episode will give you the boost you need to keep moving forward. Tune in to learn how to step into your full potential and make it happen!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/412Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about fear, self-acceptance, and making empowered decisions. The first question explores the fear of being replaceable in a relationship, and we dive into why that fear is rooted in deeper beliefs about your uniqueness. Next, I coach a listener who’s terrified to undergo a second rhinoplasty after being unhappy with her first procedure. I talk about why changing external circumstances, like your appearance, won’t solve the internal struggle. Discover how learning to love yourself—just as you are—can create the lasting peace and confidence you’re seeking.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/411Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

What if your fear of making a mistake is actually keeping you from creating the biggest impact of your life? In this episode, I dive into why the pressure to be perfect—and avoid harm—keeps us stuck. Whether it’s in relationships, business, or parenting, the desire to avoid mistakes leads to paralysis. You’ll learn why showing up fully, making mistakes, and being willing to learn from them lets you make a much bigger impact than not showing up at all. This episode will challenge you to break free from perfectionism, start acting from integrity—and get out of the paralyzing grip of fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/410Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/409Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

What if healing isn’t about reaching some perfect end point, but about constantly rebuilding relationships—with yourself, with others, and with the world around you? In this episode, I’m talking with Prentis Hemphill, bestselling author of What it Takes to Heal, about how healing is actually a radical, ongoing process. We dive into how healing connects to social change, and how we can start resisting the futures we don’t want while building the ones we actually do.You’ll hear about tapping into your body’s wisdom, making real change through local action, and practicing who you want to be, rather than waiting for some magical transformation. This conversation will remind you that, no matter how chaotic things get, we hold the power to create the futures we want, one step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/408Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I’m answering two listener questions about motivation, decision-making, and self-coaching. The first question explores why we avoid certain things, like relationships or hobbies, and how not having a clear “why” can keep us stuck. The second dives into the messy relationship between motivation and hobbies—specifically, why writing feels so dreadful sometimes.If you’ve ever wondered why your hobbies feel like a chore or why you’re not acting on what you really want, this episode will help you cut through the confusion. Tune in for simple, actionable insights that will help you clarify your thoughts and get out of your own way.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/407Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here

Do you avoid making decisions because you're scared of repeating past mistakes? This week, I show you how to break that cycle and actually learn from your failures so you can make better decisions moving forward. Most of us are terrified of making mistakes, so we avoid risks, which keeps us stuck. But the truth is, mistakes aren’t the problem—it’s how we think about them.I’ll walk you through how to reflect on what went wrong, how to separate yourself from the shame of failure, and how to use that knowledge to make smarter, more confident decisions in the future. You’ll also learn how to stop telling yourself, “I can’t trust myself to make decisions,” and why this thought is holding you back. It’s time to stop avoiding mistakes and start seeing them as opportunities for growth.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/406Mentioned in this episode:Curious about becoming a coach — but still have questions?Join me for a live behind-the-scenes Q&A happening on September 19th at 12 p.m. ET. Click here to grab your spot: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/qacallSign up for this Q&A call here