Unashamed Unafraid

Join us in this episode of Live Unashamed as we have an in-depth conversation on accountability and connection. Hosts Sam, Chris and Josh, dive into the importance of being accountable, recognizing triggers, and the balance between shame and pride. They discuss the essential elements of accountability—authenticity, action, and amends. Tune in to learn how vulnerability and proactive reporting can transform the recovery journey. Don't miss their personal commitment to connect with others during his negotiation moments and discover powerful ways to escape shame.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Welcome and Introductions01:37 Discussing Accountability in Recovery05:07 The Role of Vulnerability05:45 Authenticity, Action, and Amends08:33 Personal Experiences and Insights16:09 Commitments and Closing Remarks

In this episode of the Unashamed Unafraid podcast, hosts engage in a heartfelt conversation with Jon, a brave guest who candidly shares his battle with addiction, the impact on his family, and his journey towards recovery. Jon details how his struggle with pornography and sex addiction began in his youth, how it escalated over time, and the toll it took on his self-worth and relationships. Through his story, he emphasizes the transformative power of connection with God and others, and the importance of shared experiences in finding hope. With raw honesty, Jon recounts his setbacks, the moments of grace from his family, and the vital support he found through various recovery programs. This episode is a powerful testament to the possibility of redemption and the enduring hope that comes from faith and community.Make a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction01:54 Jon's Journey Begins02:31 Struggles with Addiction03:23 Seeking Help and Support08:57 Mission and Marriage11:56 Relapse and Consequences14:32 Facing the Truth19:40 A Night of Revelation20:15 Seeking Help and Support21:01 Struggles and Relapses22:09 A Glimmer of Hope23:46 Falling Back Again26:17 The Breaking Point31:49 Finding True Recovery35:56 Rebuilding and Moving Forward37:19 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Join us as we discuss the concept of 'Shame Adventures' and how to combat shame during recovery. In this episode, we share hilarious and heartfelt stories, including childhood pranks and the journey to develop 'shame resilience.' Our conversation explores how to turn the difficult process of dealing with shame into a thrilling adventure, inspired by Indiana Jones, and how this mindset shift can lead to personal freedom and growth. Learn practical steps to identify and challenge shame, embrace vulnerability, and enhance your journey toward recovery. Tune in for insights, personal stories, and an invitation to embark on your own 'Shame Adventure.'Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Childhood Story01:52 Introducing the Concept of Shame Adventures02:43 Personal Experiences with Shame Adventures04:17 Insights and Lessons Learned14:09 Practical Steps to Combat Shame19:27 Encouragement and Conclusion

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, hosts Sam and James welcome Danny Deaton, the owner of 'Your Living Proof'. Danny shares his powerful story of addiction, recovery, and divine intervention. From battling pornography and substance abuse to experiencing a transformative moment of family support, Danny's journey emphasizes the critical role of community and family in overcoming addiction. He discusses the progressive nature of addictions, the stigma surrounding them, and the importance of having a robust support system. Danny also talks about the comprehensive family-focused recovery program he developed, 'Your Living Proof,' which empowers families to effectively intervene and support their loved ones through recovery. Tune in to hear Danny's inspiring journey and his mission to help others find their path to healing.*To connect with Danny, visit His website, Program for Families, Free Masterclass, Social Media, Podcast on Youtube, Podcast on AppleFollow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction01:08 Danny Deaton's Journey to Recovery04:13 The Impact of Addiction on Life and Relationships10:37 The Role of Family and Community in Recovery16:36 Overcoming Stigma and Sharing Stories23:43 Creating 'Your Living Proof' and Helping Families28:11 Rising Voyeurism Charges and Family Impact28:21 Support Groups for Families of Addicts28:52 Understanding the Emotional Toll on Families30:03 The Importance of Intervention and Boundaries33:33 Reclaiming Agency Through Surrender36:09 The Role of Community in Recovery44:23 Challenges Families Face in Seeking Help49:14 Resources and Support for Families54:11 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

In this heartfelt episode, Sam, James, and Chris discuss the challenges of navigating the internet, dealing with clickbait, and the difficulties they face in their recovery journey. They dive deep into the struggles of being honest with themselves and others, sharing personal stories and the impact of honesty on their relationships. They also touch on feelings of imposter syndrome and the pressure to appear perfect while battling addiction. Join the conversation as they encourage authenticity and share the importance of being human in recovery.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Clickbait Frustrations02:03 The Struggle with Honesty in Recovery04:00 Daily Check-ins and the Challenge of Transparency06:54 Imposter Syndrome and Emotional Vulnerability13:05 The Importance of Self-Love and Acceptance16:20 Encouragement and Call to Action

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Jason shares his incredible journey from addiction to recovery. Host Sam and co-host Chris delve into Jason's struggles with sexual and substance addictions, his turning point when he discovered he would become a father, and the profound spiritual and emotional transformations that followed. Jason also discusses founding Brick House Recovery and writing his bestselling book 'Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover.' This powerful episode is filled with raw honesty, inspiring insights, and a message of hope for anyone facing similar battles.*To connect with Jason, visit his website and check out his book on Amazon!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction01:10 Meet Jason02:18 Jason's Background and Struggles05:32 The Turning Point14:07 The Path to Recovery35:44 Life After Addiction41:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Chris, James, and Sam discuss their personal journeys in finding purpose and overcoming addiction. They dive into deeper conversations about sobriety, battling addiction, and the significance of having a purpose in life. Chris shares his transformative experience and how finding purpose through his faith and recovery community helped him stay sober. Sam reflects on his struggle with finding joy and purpose in his work and life. The episode emphasizes the importance of giving back, connecting with others, and finding meaningful pursuits to live a fulfilling and healthy life.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction02:54 Purpose in Addiction and Recovery06:10 Finding Joy and Purpose in Life08:57 Brotherhood and Recovery12:24 Sharing Stories and Providing Hope15:40 Conclusion and Call to Action

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, hosts Chris and Sam sit down with Roland as he shares his poignant journey of living a double life, challenging his faith, and struggling with process addiction. Roland talks about growing up in a strict religious environment, questioning beliefs at a young age, and the impact of living a double life. He dives into how his need for validation and admiration led to compulsive behaviors that eventually resulted in a traumatic arrest at 14. Roland unpacks the concept of process addiction, explaining the necessity of addressing the underlying desire for validation rather than treating it as a typical addiction. He also discusses his path to recovery and the creation of his treatment program for high-achieving men, 'Successful Addict.' Roland emphasizes the importance of legacy, spirituality, and redefining what true admiration and respect mean in overcoming addiction. This episode provides deep insights into the challenges of process addiction and offers hope and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues.*To connect with Roland, visit his website, check out his book on Amazon, and listen to his podcast!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction00:51 Roland's Early Life and Faith Struggles01:54 Living a Double Life02:19 Questioning Religious Beliefs05:08 Impact of Faith on Addiction06:40 Understanding Compulsive Behaviors08:04 Arrest and Its Aftermath10:16 Hiding the Secret and Seeking Validation14:06 Process Addictions and Seeking Attention16:49 Path to Recovery and Redefining Admiration20:40 The Shift from Addiction to Sobriety21:23 Normalization and Society's Influence23:55 The Role of Legacy in Sobriety25:08 Spirituality and Recovery28:30 Understanding Process Addiction32:44 The Successful Addict Program35:33 Final Thoughts and Resources39:32 A Song of Hope and Connection

Join us as we dive deep into the intricate connections between trauma and addiction. In this episode, James, Sam, and Chris discuss their personal experiences with trauma work, its impact on recovery, and how identifying and addressing underlying trauma can help in overcoming compulsive behaviors. This insightful conversation sheds light on the importance of understanding emotional needs, the process of healing, and the journey to living a more balanced and fulfilling life. Don't miss out on these powerful stories and the valuable lessons learned along the way.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors of the book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. They have over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth. Sam and Chris interview Matthew and Joanna about their 12-year journey from personal crisis to professional careers helping couples recover from addiction and betrayal. The couple recounts their early struggles, how addiction and infidelity impacted their marriage, and the pivotal moments that set them on a path to recovery. They discuss the development of their intimacy framework, 'The Intimacy Pyramid,' which guides couples from honesty to a deeply connected relationship. The dialogue underscores the role of faith, the importance of mutual honesty and trust, and the hard work necessary for relational healing. *To connect with Matthew & Joanna, visit raabsmithteam.comFollow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:03 Meet Matthew and Joanna01:20 The Journey of Recovery02:14 Early Marriage Struggles04:28 The Turning Point06:12 Confession and Recovery07:25 Faith and Ministry Challenges16:04 Building Honesty and Safety21:59 Building Trust in Relationships22:47 The Role of Vulnerability25:00 Achieving Intimacy26:31 The Journey of Healing29:20 Steps to Rebuild Trust37:48 The Importance of Self-Regulation39:57 Resources and Support for Couples

In this episode, James, Chris and Sam discuss the transformative power of hope in overcoming addiction. They share personal stories of hitting rock bottom due to pornography addiction and codependent relationships, and how these low points led to pivotal changes in their journey to recovery. Emphasis is placed on the importance of finding a hopeful vision for a better life, engaging in genuine self-reflection, and relying on supportive resources and faith. The episode encourages listeners to see their potential for change and recovery, emphasizing that transformative identity shifts are key to overcoming addiction and finding true healing.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this heartfelt episode of 'Unashamed Unafraid,' hosts Sam and James sit down with Ryan and Kelce to discuss their deeply personal journey through pornography addiction and the trials it brought into their marriage. Ryan recounts his early exposure to pornography, the secrecy around his addiction, and the turning point that led to his decision to seek recovery. Kelce shares her initial shock, her decision to stay, and their joint path toward healing. Together, they highlight the key tools and support systems, including church programs and therapy, that have helped them rebuild trust and create deeper intimacy. Their story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, communication, and the unyielding support they found in each other and their faith. Join us for a powerful conversation about overcoming addiction and fostering genuine connections.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:57 Meet Ryan and Kelce01:28 Ryan's Early Exposure to Pornography02:04 Kelce's Perspective and Early Marriage02:34 Communication Challenges in Marriage04:13 Ryan's Struggle with Addiction13:41 The Turning Point: D-Day17:46 The Unexpected Bombshell18:22 Kelce's Emotional Response20:22 Finding Support and Guidance21:45 The Role of Addiction Recovery Programs24:27 Navigating Recovery Together29:17 Tools and Skills for Managing Emotions33:22 Final Reflections and Hope

Join Sam, Chris, and James as they candidly discuss the concept of 'negotiating with your addiction.' They dive into personal stories and practical strategies for maintaining strict boundaries to foster long-term recovery. Topics include recognizing subtle forms of addiction, setting and respecting personal boundaries, and the significance of building a track record of sobriety. Learn the secret to overcoming compulsive behaviors and play it through to manage addiction effectively.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Dr. Heidi Hastings, a marriage and sex researcher with a PhD, discusses her research focused on religious women and the impact of their husband's pornography use on their sexuality and spirituality. Through her studies, which include Christian, Jewish, and Muslim women, Dr. Hastings identifies five stages of betrayal trauma: innocence, crisis, aftermath, healing, and transformation. She explains how these stages align with identity development theories and shares key insights on how betrayed women navigate these stages, the importance of female support, and how individuals can heal and transform through understanding and redefining their identity. The episode also touches on how religious leaders can better support betrayed women and provides advice for parents on empowering their daughters. Dr. Hastings emphasizes the eventual deepening of trust and relationship with Jesus Christ as a pivotal element in the healing journey.*To connect with Heidi visit, drheidihastings.com, follow her on Social Media @Marriage.IQ.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com

In this episode of 'Live Unashamed,' hosts Chris, Sam, and Liam dive into the complexities of dating while struggling with addiction, especially pornography. They share personal anecdotes and strategies on when and how to disclose these struggles to potential partners. The conversation touches on why it's important to be transparent before exclusive dating, the complications of living a double life, and the necessity of seeking validation from God rather than a partner. The hosts emphasize the significance of honesty, recovery, and personal worth in navigating relationships.Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.com