Unbox Yourself: Sexual Identity and Coming Out Later in Life with Samantha Fox®

Ever look in your closet and wonder: who am I actually dressing for? In this episode, Samantha Fox and polyamory coach Heidi Savell get radically honest about ditching “the male gaze” and rediscovering style as true self-expression. From family scripts to femme fatigue, queer visibility to creative play, Sam and Heidi share their journeys—awkward moments, aha’s, and joy included. If you’re ready to trade ‘flattering’ for authentic and wear what lights you up (especially this holiday season), hit play. Your closet—and your soul—may never look the same.Show NotesWelcome – Sam and polyamory coach & dear friend Heidi Savell dive deep into style, identity, and the unlearning of dressing for the male gaze.The Wake-Up Call – Both share personal stories of realizing their fashion choices were unconsciously shaped for male approval—and what happens when you opt out.Identity, Family & Femme Conditioning – How families (and society) teach compulsory femininity, “flattering” bodies, and critical self-gaze.Evolving Style – Heidi’s journey from compulsory “flattering” and femme to playful, creative self-expression—and how Sam’s path moved her toward androgyny.Queerness & Clothing – How clothing choices both reflect and shape queer visibility, and the relief of dressing for your own joy.Fashion as Art – Reframing style as an evolving personal art project, not a contest to shrink or please.Creative Experiments – From playing dress-up to thrift treasure-hunting, learning to find clothes that truly feel like “you.”Holiday Encouragement – Listeners are invited to claim joy, break the “shoulds,” and use fashion as a form of authentic self-celebration—especially as a New Year begins.“Let your clothing be a canvas for your evolving self—not a uniform for someone else’s gaze.”Highlight Themes: Unlearning, queer identity, family legacy, creative expression, joy in fashion, body image, and letting yourself take up space.Learn more about Heidi Savell on IG @Steadypolyamory

Keywordsauthenticity, relationships, sexuality, self-discovery, societal expectations, women's struggles, personal growth, therapy, literature, self-loveIn this episode of “The Grass Isn’t Greener-It’s Realer,” Samantha Fox explores authenticity, self-discovery, women’s empowerment, and breaking free from societal and sexual expectations. She shares real stories from the Bi Life community and her Unbox Your Sexuality program, helping women transform relationships, overcome fear of being alone, and reclaim pleasure and personal growth.Samantha shares how common it is for women to feel trapped in lives they didn’t consciously choose and why the solution isn’t just seeking escape, but waking up to your real self.She reads a powerful listener message about loyalty, guilt, and the fear that authenticity might seem reckless or selfish.Samantha shares her own journey from blowing up her life to finding freedom and speaks candidly about the uncertainty, reckoning, and growth this work requires.She offers real-life examples of women navigating authenticity: staying married but opening up; moving from romance to friendship; or leaving altogether.Samantha shines a light on the hardest truths: the deep terror of being alone, and how cultural scripts keep women in roles that drain self-trust and agency.She recommends essential reading (The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, The Bitch in the House, and Flux) and reflects on her own “punch in the gut” moments of awakening.Samantha shares how her Unbox Your Sexuality program and the Bi Life community are transforming fear into self-love, pleasure, and real belonging.She wraps with encouragement to honor your truth not because the grass is greener, but because real life is finally, unapologetically yours.

TRIGGER WARNING*** SA and CSA***TRIGGER WARNINGkeywords: trauma, sexuality, sexual fluidity, relationships, healing, women, desire, attraction, LGBTQ+summary: In this conversation, Samantha Fox explores the complex relationship between trauma and sexuality, particularly focusing on how traumatic experiences can influence women's understanding of their sexual identities. She discusses the societal conditioning that affects women's perceptions of pleasure and desire, and how healing from trauma can lead to a deeper understanding of one's sexual fluidity. Through personal anecdotes and insights from other women, Fox emphasizes the importance of recognizing and unpacking trauma to fully embrace one's sexual identity.takeaways:Many women feel unsafe with men after traumatic experiences.Trauma can lead to confusion about one's sexual orientation.Societal conditioning impacts women's understanding of pleasure and their ability to deeply know themselvesTrauma may be a catalyst for a change in ones sexual orientationInternalized homophobia can affect self-identity.Desire and attraction can evolve post-trauma.Trauma can act as a catalyst for exploring new relationships.Understanding oneself requires unpacking layers of conditioning and the affects trauma has had on you

Keywords:LGBTQ, Coming out later in life, Societal expectations, Good woman myth, self-sacrifice vs. Self-Care, Permission to change, Guilt and shame, Female liberation, Reclaiming desire, Self-worth, Breaking rules, Authenticity, Women’s empowerment, Women's liberation, Unpacking and Unlearning, Healing from oppression, Marital Duty, Self-betrayal, Grace, Self-compassion, Hetero PatriarchySummary:In this honest, soul-baring episode, Samantha Fox unpacks the deep, often-unspoken burdens that women carry when it comes to living “the right way.” Drawing from candid conversations with clients and her own journey, Samantha shines a light on how societal and religious expectations pressure women to stay in unfulfilling marriages, deny their desires, and measure their worth by self-sacrifice.She explores the emotional weight of believing you are “owed” something for years of rule-following, and how guilt and shame creep in when women dare to imagine another life beyond the confines of prescribed roles.With compassion and radical permission, Samantha invites listeners to name the rules they’ve followed, feel what arises, and notice where duty has overtaken self. She shares stories from the BiLife community—revealing a collective “me too” moment that uncovers how many women dream of freedom, only to feel shame for wishing things could change. Sam reminds us: these feelings are not faults, but signals from souls hungry for liberation.The episode ends with a warm, welcoming offer for listeners to join the journey: to unlearn, unbox, and reclaim their right to live authentically—supported by Sam, the BiLife community, and the healing power of shared truth.

TRIGGER WARNING*Keywordsidentity, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+, CSA, Ethical Non-monogamy, ENM, Polyamorous, Coming out later in life, Later in life lesbianSummaryIn this conversation, Nikki shares her brave, painful and beautiful journey of healing, self-discovery and acceptance as a lesbian later in life while married to her best friend, a man. Learn about the transformative moments that led her to embrace her identity as a gay woman and how she was able to navigate stepping into a non-traditional relationship style, ENM, by finding joint core values with her male partner that help them stay on course and continue to partner in life, family and friendship.

Keywordsgender identity, gender transformation, self-perception, gender presentation, coming out later in life, leaving the church, later in life lesbian, deconstructing, self-acceptanceSummary: In this episode Samantha and Buffy explore how transforming ones gender presentation can open up identities that have been repressed for years. Join in the conversation as Buffy shares her journey where one decision to cut her hair leads her down a path of discovering her authentic Self. Looking for a safe, supportive community where you can explore your sexuality with other like minded women? Learn more about The Bi LIfe HEREAre you ready to Unbox Yourself from adhering to the expectations society has put on you as a woman in the world and finally FREE YOURSELF to live who and what aligns with you authentically? Learn more about Unbox Your Sexuality®- A Sexuality Liberation Program HERE

Keywords   relationships, identity, personal growth, LGBTQ+ experiences, same-sex attraction, internalized misogyny, Gen X women, internalized homophobia, patriarchal conditioning, WLW attraction, bisexual, sex parties     Summary   In this conversation, MJ shares her personal journey of marriage, divorce, and early in life experimentation with same-sex encounters. Calling herself an oportunistic hedonist, she asks Samantha to help her unbox what it is that keeps her from being able to see that a woman could also be a life partner. fears of what her family members would all say about her, and her own discomfort with her body as she enters her 50's. Together this raw conversation uncovers the deep conditioning that comes from misogyny, comphet and homophobia, and people pleasing.   Learn more about MJ Eldridge on her TikTok Page @inappropriatemommie   Are you tired of gaslighting yourself and the same circular thoughts that bring you to shame guilt and anxiety? Learn all about the Unbox Your Sexuality® offerings ⁠HERE⁠ Have a question for Samantha or ready to be a guest on the Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® podcast? Email Samantha directly ...samantha@unboxyoursexuality.com    

Stuck in feelings of shame about your sexuality? Unbox Your Queer Phobic Conditioning- A Self-led Program is now available. ⁠Learn more here⁠   Keywords   Purity culture, female sexuality, religious expectations, desire, sexuality, beauty, gender norms, deconstructing evangelical christianity, exvangelical     Summary   The conversation delves into the complexities of Christian purity culture and its impact on female sexuality. Alyssa shares her experiences of navigating religious expectations around beauty and desire, highlighting the contradictions faced by women in expressing their sexuality. The discussion reveals how these religious norms and constructs can suppress natural feelings of attraction and arousal for both men and women.     Takeaways   There's a pervasive belief that women's beauty is a temptation for men. The church's narrative often blames women for men's lack of control. Female desire is often misunderstood and stigmatized. The pressure to conform to purity standards can be overwhelming. Women that grow up under the church often face conflicting messages about their bodies. The conversation highlights the need for open discussions about sexuality.

Keywords   lgbtq, late in life lesbians, LAT, relationship anarchy, personal growth, learning by doing, societal expectations, lesbian relationships, lesbian dating, healthy communication     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Trish discuss the complexities of expectation, how its energy can be distancing and the idea that communicating wants and needs to those you are intimate, with whether that be family members or a partner, cultivates more vulnerablity and closeness.   Takeaways   We are often pressured by society to make one right choice in partners. Choosing the right person is not always straightforward and its ok that relationships don't last forever Relationships are about learning through experience. You can't predict what someone will bring to a relationship until you're in it. It often takes at least two years to truly know someone. Emotional intelligence plays a key role in relationship choices. The idea of 'the right choice' can be misleading. Each relationship teaches us something new about ourselves. Personal growth is a continuous journey in relationships. Understanding a partner requires time and shared experiences.   ************************************************* Would you like to join Samantha Fox on Unbox Yourself®? ⁠Click here to find the application to the show⁠   And remember its never too late to Unbox Yourself®!                    

Keywords   lesbian matchmaking, queer dating, monogamy, LGBTQ+, dating apps for lesbians, love stories, personal growth, authenticity, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships     Summary   In this engaging conversation, Samantha Fox reconnects with Sophia Spallino, a luxury lesbian matchmaker, to discuss her journey of self-discovery, the challenges of dating in the LGBTQ+ community, and the unique services offered by the Queer Country Club. They explore themes of monogamy, the importance of self-work in relationships, and the elusive nature of attraction and love. Sophia shares her insights on helping women find meaningful connections while navigating the complexities of modern dating.     Takeaways   Sophia Spallino identifies as a late-in-life lesbian, coming out at 29. She runs the Queer Country Club, a matchmaking service for monogamous women. Sophia believes in the importance of values and lifestyle alignment in relationships. The desire for love is a divine calling, according to Sophia. Both women discuss the prevalence of polyamory in dating apps. The need for self-work in order to have the chance at a successful relationship. The spark in relationships is often elusive and requires nurturing. The importance of reciprocity in relationships. Both women express hope for finding love in the future.     **************************     Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino   Ways to work with The Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaker, Sophia Spallino:   Platinum Private Luxury Lesbian™ Matchmaking – For the woman who wants her Future Wife® delivered on a silver platter, I do all the screening so you can focus on falling in love. Explore Private Matchmaking: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/private-lesbian-matchmaking-service⁠    Exclusive Luxury Lesbian™ Retreat at Canyon Ranch – A blissful weekend with an intimate group of extraordinary single queer women… curated to spoil your senses and reignite your belief in love and possibility. Join The Luxury Lesbian™ trip: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/luxury-lesbian-retreat⁠   The Queer Country Club® – Our premier dating platform for monogamous queer women who are living amazing lives, but missing just one thing… their Future Partner®.   Apply to Join QCC: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com⁠     Private Rising Coaching Session – If you're unsure of your next step but know in your gut you're ready to call in love, deepen self-trust, or design a life you’re proud of, I’m here to guide you. Reserve A Private Coaching Session: ⁠https://queercountryclub.com/private-coaching⁠   Got Qs? DM on Instagram → @sophiaspallino ⁠https://instagram.com/sophiaspallino⁠   ***********************************   Are you tired of constantly spiraling in thought as to whether or not you are gay? Bi? And then wondering if any of it even matters? If the answer is YES, then you are ready to ⁠Unbox Your Sexuality®⁠ In a matter of weeks you will be able to connect your dots as you are guided through sequential lessons that will help you Unpack, Unlearn and Unleash whatever is most authentic to you. You've got one life! What are you waiting for?   ***************************************   🏳️‍🌈Looking for professional guidance on any leg of your later in life journey? Book a coaching call with Samantha ⁠HERE⁠          

** ***TRIGGER WARNING-CSA*****   Are you ready to claim your power and Unbox Your Sexuality®? This Self-led program will help you peel back early learning and belief systems that no long align with you today. ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ to learn more ✨   Are you tired of doubting your feelings of same-sex attraction and wish you had a safe space to talk about what is coming up? The Bi Life Community is for women exploring all stages of their sexuality whether its Bi, Pan or Lesbian. Join this lively group and feel seen and supported by like minded women while having guided exploration and support from Samantha. ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ to learn more.   Keywords   conditioning, authenticity, male gaze, internalized misogyny, women's value, aging, beauty standards, self-worth, empowerment, societal constructs     Summary   In this episode, Samantha Fox delves into the themes of conditioning, authenticity, and the societal constructs that shape women's perceptions of their value and beauty. She discusses the impact of the male gaze, internalized misogyny, and the pressures of aging and appearance. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Samantha encourages listeners to reclaim their power, challenge societal narratives, and engage in self-reflection to foster growth and self-acceptance.     Takeaways   Conditioning affects women's power and self-worth. The male gaze influences how women perceive themselves. Societal constructs strip women of their value beyond appearance. Aging brings unique challenges to self-acceptance. Women often compete based on physical attractiveness. Self-worth should not be tied to societal beauty standards. Reclaiming power involves questioning internalized beliefs. Curiosity about self can lead to personal growth. Value comes from what the body can do, not how it looks. Engaging with supportive communities can aid in self-discovery.           Chapters   00:00 Exploring the Male Gaze and Its Impact 03:30 Conditioning and Internalized Misogyny 08:50 Aging, Youth, and Societal Expectations 13:42 Reclaiming Power and Value Beyond Appearance 21:22 Encouragement for Self-Reflection and Growth 22:23 Early Awareness of Family Dynamics 24:31 Understanding Gender Roles and Conditioning  

Are you realizing you are bisexual or gay and asking yourself "Now What?🤷‍♀️" LOOK NO FURTHER! ⬇️ ⁠Unbox Your Sexuality®: A Sexuality Liberation Program⁠ will break everything down for you so step by step and help you access the authentic you that is underneath all of the conditioning.   Looking for a like-minded community with women who are curious, questioning and/or coming out as bi or gay? Come join the guided exploration and community in ⁠The Bi Life! ⁠     Keywords   compulsory heterosexuality, comphet, self-discovery, relationships, identity, LGBTQ, societal expectations, lesbian community, authenticity, personal growth, bisexual, late in life lesbian, late blooming lesbian, societal conditioning     Takeaways   Compulsory heterosexuality can shape one's identity and relationships. Understanding early life experiences is crucial for self-discovery. Navigating relationships often involves unlearning societal expectations. Grieving past relationships is a necessary part of healing. Finding community is essential for support and connection. Self-care is vital for emotional well-being and growth. Embracing authenticity can lead to a more fulfilling life. It's important to unpack emotions and understand their origins. Conditioning affects how we perceive relationships and ourselves. It's never too late to explore one's identity and desires.     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Jen Rosenstein, a member of The Bi Life community, delve into the complexities of identity, relationships, and the impact of societal expectations, particularly focusing on the concept of compulsory heterosexuality. Jen shares her personal journey of self-discovery, reflecting on her early life experiences, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the importance of finding community. They discuss the significance of grieving past relationships, unpacking emotions, and the journey towards authenticity and self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care and the importance of embracing one's true identity, regardless of age or societal pressures.  

Keywords: LGBTQ, compulsory heterosexuality, self-discovery, relationships, coming out, authenticity, personal journey, comphet, societal conditioning, internalized misogyny   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox interviews Mandy, who shares her journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a member of the LGBTQ community. Mandy discusses her early experiences with attraction to women, her relationships with men, and the challenges of navigating her identity in a society that often promotes compulsory heterosexuality. She reflects on her marriage, the turning point that led her to embrace her true self, and her excitement about her engagement to the love of her life. Mandy also talks about her passion for writing and how her newfound authenticity has inspired her creative endeavors.     Takeaways:   Mandy reached out to Samantha after discovering the term 'comphet'. She realized her attraction to women very early in life, during her teenage years. Mandy's experiences in college helped her explore her sexuality, yet comphet won. She felt validation through her interactions with women. Mandy's marriage was a turning point in her self-discovery. She found a supportive community in her pole dancing group. Mandy's journey reflects the struggle with the brutal regime of compulsory heterosexuality. She now feels more settled and authentic in her identity.   You can learn more about Mandy and her upcoming Sapphic Novel on TikTok and IG @mandyaspey            

Are you ready to lean into exploration in a supportive community? Join us for the next round of The Bi Life HERE   If you'd like to chat with me about where you are on your journey, set up your 15 minute FREE call HERE   Keywords:   bisexuality, community, identity, relationships, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, support, safe space, societal norms, exploration, coming out later, queer,    Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox discusses the launch of her community, The Bi Life, aimed at supporting women who identify as bisexual or are looking for a safe space to explore their sexuality later in life. She shares insights from her experiences with the community, highlighting the feelings of isolation many women face and the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration and support. The conversation delves into the complexities of navigating relationships, societal norms, and the journey of self-discovery.   Takeaways:   The Bi Life community was created to support bisexual women, as well as women at all stages of realizing they are not straight.  Many women feel isolated when they realize they are not straight. Coming out later in life involves both gaining and losing. Societal norms can create pressure and confusion around identity. Creating safe spaces is essential for exploration. The community fosters open conversations about sexuality. Support from like-minded individuals is crucial. Living authentically is a journey worth pursuing.

THE BI LIFE ⬇️ Looking for a safe supportive community where you can explore what is coming up for you as you are 'coming out'? Check out ⁠THE BI LIFE⁠, a community for folks in all stages of exploring their sexuality.   Keywords: coming out, sexuality, healing, relationships, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, support, community, personal growth, parenting, time to heal Summary: In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox discusses the complexities of coming out later in life, the healing process that follows, and the importance of taking time before making significant relationship decisions. She emphasizes that while healing takes time, individuals can find hope and transformation in their journeys. Samantha also highlights the significance of understanding oneself and one's partner before rushing into new relationships, especially after a divorce. The conversation touches on co-parenting and the emotional challenges that come with it, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace their authentic selves and seek supportive communities.   Takeaways: It takes two years to really heal after coming out. Healing is a process that varies for everyone. Don't rush into new relationships after a divorce. Understanding your partner's daily life is crucial. Marriage is a legal contract, not just a romantic notion. You can find freedom in co-parenting after separation. Time will change your feelings about past pain. It's important to explore your sexuality in a safe space. You are not alone in your journey of self-discovery. Community support can be invaluable during transitions.

In today's episode of Unbox Yourself™ with Samantha Fox® I share my early experiences of dating as a later in life lesbian when the partnership that I exited my marriage with came to a sudden end.    For any of you out there that are trying to figure out how to start dating and who you might be attracted to, this episode is for you.    Looking for support on any leg of your later in life journey?  I'd love to hear from you! Book a 15 minute exploratory conversation with me for FREE HERE     Keywords:   Late blooming lesbian, lesbian dating, LGBTQ+, coming out, relationships, attraction, identity, dating, lesbian, self-discovery, sexuality   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself™, Samantha shares her personal journey of self-discovery as a single lesbian. She discusses her experiences with relationships, attraction, and the challenges of navigating the dating world. Samantha introduces the 'Samantha Scale' to categorize her attraction to women, exploring the complexities of identity, attraction and connection when you are newly out in the LGBTQ+ community.   Takeaways: Samantha shares her journey of becoming a single lesbian. She reflects on societal expectations and personal identity. The importance of self-discovery in understanding attraction. Samantha introduces her unique 'Samantha Scale' for attraction. Samantha emphasizes the significance of energy in attraction. The scale helps her and her friends navigate their preferences. She explores the fluidity of attraction and identity. Samantha encourages open conversations about types and attraction. The episode invites listeners to share their experiences and insights.

Keywords   sexual identity, bisexuality, lesbian, queer, self-discovery, relationships, sexual desire, community, LGBTQ, personal growth, same-sex desire, sexuality coach, questioning     Summary   In this conversation, Samantha Fox delves into the complexities of sexual identity, particularly focusing on the experiences of women questioning their sexuality. She discusses the societal pressures and rigid definitions surrounding labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual,' emphasizing the importance of personal exploration and self-acceptance. Through her work, she encourages individuals to connect with their true selves and find community support in their journeys of self-discovery.     Takeaways   Rigid definitions of sexuality can hinder self-discovery. Many women feel pressured to conform to societal norms. Exploring one's sexuality can be a brave journey. Community support is vital for those questioning their identity. Labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual' can be limiting. Self-acceptance is key to understanding one's desires. Experiences with partners can inform but not define identity. Curiosity about one's sexuality is a healthy pursuit. Finding pleasure and connection is a personal journey.   Set up a Free 15-minute call with me ⁠HERE⁠   Join the community here...⁠The Bi Life ⁠

Keywords:   sexuality, bisexuality, self-discovery, women's empowerment, relationships, emotional connection, sexual attraction, same sex attraction, societal norms, intimacy, LGBTQ+, strap-on-sex   Summary:   In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox explores the complexities of sexuality, particularly bisexuality, through a personal story about her daughter's friend, Sarah. The conversation delves into societal expectations, the importance of emotional connections, and the multifaceted nature of women's identities beyond just their sexual experiences. Samantha encourages listeners to reflect on their perceptions of women and the deeper qualities that make them attractive, urging a shift away from the male gaze and towards a more holistic understanding of femininity.   Takeaways: Society often dictates who we should be before we discover ourselves. Experiences can shape our understanding of our sexuality, but they don't define it. Sexuality is complex and can be influenced by emotional connections. Women have much more to offer than just their sexuality. The male gaze can distort how we view women's worth. It's important to explore and understand our desires beyond societal norms. Bisexuality can encompass more than just sexual experiences with women. Women should be valued for their emotional and intellectual qualities, not just physical attributes. Self-acceptance is a journey that requires introspection and honesty. Community support is vital for those questioning their sexuality.

Keywords loss, friendship, sexuality, identity, relationships, self-acceptance, attraction, societal norms, personal growth, authenticity Takeaways Samantha discusses the impact of losing her father and the journey of self-discovery that followed. Charlotte shares her experience of navigating friendships with different sexual orientations. The conversation highlights the importance of open communication in friendships. Both speakers reflect on the complexities of identity and societal expectations. Samantha emphasizes the significance of self-acceptance in personal growth. Charlotte discusses the challenges of being a straight woman in a friendship with a lesbian. The speakers explore the nuances of attraction and desire in their friendship. They acknowledge the role of socialization in shaping their perspectives on relationships. The conversation touches on the therapeutic insights gained from their experiences. Both speakers celebrate the beauty of their friendship and the learning that comes from it.   Summary In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox and her guest Charlotte explore themes of loss, identity, and the complexities of friendships across different sexual orientations. They discuss personal experiences, societal expectations, and the importance of open communication in building connections. The conversation highlights the journey of self-acceptance and the beauty of authentic relationships, celebrating the unique dynamics of their friendship as they navigate these themes together.                                      ************************ Learn more about the Unbox Your Sexuality® Programs and/or apply to be a guest on the Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® Podcast ⁠HERE⁠  

queerphobia, internalized homophobia, religious conditioning, coming out, sexuality, sobriety, relationships, shame, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+ Summary In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Heather Rosendahl explore the complexities of queerphobic conditioning, internalized homophobia, and the impact of religious upbringing on sexual identity. Heather shares her personal journey of coming out, navigating relationships, and the challenges of sobriety, while discussing the shame often associated with sexuality. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the healing process in reclaiming one's identity and pleasure. Takeaways Internalized homophobia can stem from religious conditioning. Sobriety can complicate the exploration of sexuality. Shame around sexuality is a common experience because of our religious and societal conditioning. Relationships can be deeply affected by past conditioning. Finding connection requires vulnerability and honesty. Healing from queerphobic conditioning is possible. Pleasure should not be viewed as taboo or dirty.Support systems are crucial for navigating identity. Self-acceptance is a vital part of the healing process.   Cllick here to join the waitlist ⁠UNBOX YOUR QUEER PHOBIC CONDITIONING⁠ ************************* You can find Heather on TikTok and IG @handsomeheather And via email HeatherRosendahlcoaching@gmail.com ************************* Ready to come chat with me on the show? Drop me an email at Samantha@unboxyoursexuality.com