On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Sahaj Kohli, therapist, author of But what will people say? and founder of @browngirltherapy. Sahaj shares her wisdom about setting boundaries and navigating dysfunctional family dynamics as a bi-cultural child of immigrants and breaking generational trauma cycles within collectivist, multicultural families. You can find Sahaj's book here:https://amzn.to/3Vawj0NAnd follow @browngirltherapy on instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks to psychotherapist Harriet Gleeson about her experiences of estrangement due to lies and scapegoating. You can find Harriet at https://www.harrietgleesontherapy.co.uk or follow her on instagram at @the.good.enough.therapist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about fight response, anger and shame. You can find her here: https://www.instagram.com/unfollowing_mum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with coach Emma Benyon about self care, guilt and setting boundaries as a cycle breaking parent. You can find Emma here: https://www.instagram.com/emmabenyon.coach and https://emmabenyoncoaching.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Rachel Varkey, host of It's Fine! Pod, about her experiences of generational trauma and toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants. They talk about the 'that's just white woman stuff' myth that surrounds cycle breaking and challenging our generational trauma.You can find Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/itsfinethepod?igsh=N3Fjdmp5ZXRtNXE1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about setting boundaries with your partner's family and why it's so tough - from when they won't to navigating healthy reactions when you've never experienced them before, she breaks it down in this short episode.You can get in touch with Harriet at @tobyandroo or harriet@tobyandroo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of late ASD/ADHD assessment and how that feels as someone who grew up with a toxic parent. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo on instagram and tiktok or email her at harriet@tobyandroo.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats about FOG - Fear, obligation and guilt, and how this is an essential part of the narcissistic parent't toolkit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith shares insights into Mother's day from the perspective of an estranged or low contact adult children from her instagram community and her own experiences. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about baiting - why narcissistic parents do it and how you can combat against it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's episode host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about endings - her relationship with them, how that is impacted by attachment styles and why it relates of our toxic parents.As promised the recommended quiz for attachment styles is: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode of the podcast, host Harriet Shearsmith is talking birthdays - her birthday, her children's birthdays and why birthdays are complicated when you have had a traumatic or difficult childhood. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to anonymous guest Victoria about her lived experience with emotionally immature parents, toxic, dismissive fathers and what relationships can look like with parents after accountability and when a repair has been made. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum via tiktok or instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to an anoymous guest about her experiences with sexual abuse growing up and how life looks after healing work. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum on tiktok and instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the pressures of post-christmas chaos, new year new you and toxic positivity in January. She shares some tops tips for working with the negative inner critic, and offers some advice around a new estrangement with parents. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith answers your boundary questions for the festive period and offers some advice on how to navigate an often challenging time. You can find her online at instagram.com/tobyandroo or instagram.com/unfollowing_mum Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Cara MacB about her lived experienced as a non-binary, neurodivergent person growing up with a toxic parent and how that stifled her sense of self. You can find Cara at Instagram: https://instagram.com/cara_macb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to an anonymous guest who shares her lived experience with an abusive narcissistic father and enabling mother. TW for conversations of childhood sexual abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Christie Hayes, toxic mother wound coach and therapist about sibling sexual abuse, invalidation and toxic mother wounds.You can find Christie at: https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery and via her facebook group Adult daughters breaking free from toxic relationships with their mother. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about trauma and some of the lesser known trauma responses that we experience after surviving childhood trauma. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Lisa Hayes
My son has cut of contact with me when I went no contact with my family. i know I made plenty of mistakes but I absolutely gave him unconditional love. I always made it clear that he didn't have to do anything to earn my love, that just because he was was enough for me to love him. So there are exceptions to the relational dynamic you're talking about.