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Find out what happens when women break the rules - those unwritten but all too real bullsh*t expectations of how we should live our lives. Cristen Conger and Caroline Ervin (formerly Stuff Mom Never Told You) tackle questions through their trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage.
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Full Frontal host Samantha Bee never thought her late-night show would reach five seasons and almost as many Emmy wins. Find out why, plus what she's learned about being the boss and the civility scandal she's still not over.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Stacy Osei-Kuffour has made a name for herself writing for shows like Pen15, Watchmen and Run, but growing up in Chicago, she was a self-proclaimed outcast. In this bonus episode, we talk with Stacy about how embracing her weirdness helped her write her breakthrough play, how that play opened the door to television writing, and how she put it all together to go after her dream job. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Take a Hike

How to Take a Hike

2020-08-1141:394

Hiking has been all the rage lately. But its popularity also reveals uncomfortable truths about who gets to belong in the great outdoors. This episode, Cristen and Caroline cross paths with geographer Carolyn Finney and Outdoor Journal Tour founders Kenya and Michelle Jackson-Saulters to map out the duality of America's hiking trails as sites of racial pain as well as Black joy and healing. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter [unladylike.co]. And join our Facebook group! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This ad is brought to you by Prose [prose.com/unladylike for 15% off first order [prose.com]], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com [bestfiends.com]], and Wild Basin [drizly.com [drizly.com] code UNLADYLIKE for $5 off first order]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Is it possible to combat sexual violence and support survivors without sending perpetrators to prison? Dr. Alissa Ackerman, a sex crimes policy expert and rape survivor, thinks so. In part two of two episodes reconsidering mainstream feminism's reliance on the criminal justice system, Dr. Ackerman outlines a powerful alternative to prison punishment called restorative justice and why she's living proof that it works. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Femme Fun [femmefun.com code UNLADYLIKE for 15% off], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Native [nativedeo.com promo code Unladylike], Tempest [jointempest.com code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Each and Every [https://eachandevery.com/ code UNLADYLIKE for 30% off your first purchase]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Recent calls to defund police and abolish prisons have raised the question: But what about rapists? In part one of two episodes exploring that question, prison abolitionist Maya Schenwar presents the case for looking outside the criminal justice system for safety and connects the dots between abolition and feminism Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Native [nativedeo.com code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off], Barefoot Scientist [barefootscientist.com code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order], Tempest [jointempest.com code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Each and Every [eachandevery.com code UNLADYLIKE for 30% off your first purchase]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When was the last time you had sex, if ever? In the final episode of our How to Live Single series, science journalist Angela Chen upends that question by creating romantic room for asexuality. Her book, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex, comes out in September. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Barefoot Scientist [code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order] Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Best Fiends. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Why does living single usually come with roommates? In part two of three about How to Live Single, Cristen and Caroline get a Golden Girls reality check on the housing crises caused by breakups and aging. This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com]  and Native [nativedeo.com promo code Unladylike]. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if being single wasn't sold to us as a problem to solve? In part one of three episodes exploring How to Live Single, Aminatou Sow (Call Your Girlfriend) and Shani Silver (A Single Serving Podcast) get real about how unpartnered unladies care for themselves, embrace their relationship status and negotiate the casual and costly ways that society taxes singledom. This episode is brought to you by Barefoot Scientist [code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order] Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], Oscar Mayer, and Ms. Bitch. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
A number of feminist-branded companies, including The Wing, Man Repeller and Ban.do, are reckoning with racism and employee mistreatment. This episode, we're focusing in on the digital-media powerhouse Refinery29 and its problematic white leadership. Plus, we'll examine what the #blackatR29 movement reveals about working while Black and why seemingly woke, women-led outlets aren't immune to toxicity, inequity and top-down racism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], Oscar Mayer, and Ms. Bitch.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Go Braless

How to Go Braless

2020-06-2343:3810

Almost as soon as pandemic lockdowns started, homebound breasts everywhere began forgoing their bras. But how is going braless still unconventional enough to inspire viral media coverage amid a public health crisis? Breast expert Jenny Burbage joins us to bust some bra myths, and author Chidera Eggerue explains why saggy boobs matter. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Lift Heavy Sh*t

How to Lift Heavy Sh*t

2020-06-1650:113

Weightlifting used to be boys-only exercise, but women are getting swole like never before. Cristen and Caroline find out why from competitive powerlifter Casey Johnston. Then Team USA weightlifter Mattie Rogers shares how she muscled her way to becoming one of the strongest — and most Instagram-famous — women in the sport.   Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.   This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Third Love [thirdlove.com], the Let's Go Together podcast. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Not Be a Karen

How to Not Be a Karen

2020-06-0940:534

How do you solve a problem like white feminism? Mikki Kendall knows, and the answer isn't being nice. From #solidarityisforwhitewomen to Hood Feminism, Mikki shares how uprooting racism within mainstream feminism became her mission, and why she makes white ladies uncomfortable on purpose. This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], and Third Love [thirdlove.com]. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Be Tori Amos

How to Be Tori Amos

2020-05-2642:56

Tori Amos is a piano prodigy and Gen X goddess whose music was a soundtrack of third-wave feminism. Cristen and Caroline talk to her about breaking through the early 90s airwaves and find out: Why is Tori Amos such an enduring feminist icon?   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
'How are you doing?' has become a super loaded question in the days of COVID. So this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out how listeners are feeling, check in with Unladylike illustrator Tyler Feder and take a much-needed Zoom trip to the therapist to help us sort through our collective pandemic emotions. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you by Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com] and Best Fiends [bestfiends.com]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Contrapoints creator Natalie Wynn is among the most popular and acclaimed YouTubers, specializing in counteracting the red-pilled, radicalized voices that thrive on the platform. So why did she suddenly find herself canceled, how did she handle it, and what does it say about owning our values out loud?   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Nail Manicures

How to Nail Manicures

2020-03-3143:202

From lesbian TikTok to a magical place called Mantrap, getting your nails done means way more than meets the eye. In this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out why writer Tembe Denton-Hurst feels her realest in fake nails, and documentary filmmaker Adele Free Pham shares the stunning story behind the rise of nail salons. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. To support nail workers who are out of work because of the coronavirus, you can donate to the Nail Salon Workers Resilience Fund or the One Fair Wage Fund. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How to Break up with Mom

How to Break up with Mom

2020-03-2445:394

Parental estrangement is surprisingly common — and commonly misunderstood. Caroline and Cristen sort fact from fiction to find out: What happens when daughters break up with their moms? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do gender, race and class color our tattoo perceptions? Comedy icon Margaret Cho breaks down the body politics of being a heavily inked Korean-American woman. Plus! Cristen and Caroline discover the original "tramp stamp," a stick-n-poke renaissance, and the origins of the ladylike tattoo taboo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group!   This episode is brought to you by CLR Clean [CLRBrands.com], Rothy's [Rothys.com/unladylike] and Honeybook [Honeybook.com/UNLADYLIKE]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How can women advocate for workplace equality when they don't have a salaried 9-to-5 with benefits? With help from Freelancers Union founder, Sara Horowitz, Cristen and Caroline troubleshoot sexism for the self-employed, contractors and tip earners. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [thirdlove.com] and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Sweet 16 doesn't hold a birthday candle to the quinceañera. But why has such a ladylike tradition and its poofy gowns kept partying on? You're invited to find out, as Cristen and Caroline unwrap how today's quinceañeras are coming of age in unladylike ways. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Emily Jefferis

I really loved this one. I love embracing you as you are not just this thin, slender, white woman picture of doing yoga. I love this podcast's rebellion against what's typically seen or "accepted"

Sep 8th
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BC

I think some of the harm comes from people identifying as good people and refusing to accept that good people can do wrong and harm others. I'm sure Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby still think they're good people, and part of that belief has damaged many victims' lives. I think identifying as troubled people who are trying to do right and accepting that you will make mistakes along the way is a more healthy outlook.

Aug 6th
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Kristen Elkins

Yes, I do believe that downloading this podcast app, was the best thing I've done in a while! I'm loving it!

Feb 7th
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BC

People are always surprised to find out I don't drink.

Feb 6th
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Chelsea

This is so badass!

Feb 4th
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BC

Phyllis Schlafly is awful.

Jan 2nd
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g

I did a presentation in a machine learning seminar on a paper about removing bias from a certain type of machine learning, and it was the only time the topic was ever brought up! https://github.com/glfmn/ai-safety

Jan 1st
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Whitney Rodden

Hot Girl Summer is one of her weaker tracks imo, but I love Megan! She's great. 👍

Dec 3rd
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BC

Can you use regular rubbing alcohol instead of vodka?

Dec 1st
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g

thank you!

Nov 26th
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Dre

I LOVE THE L WORD!!!! And i’m not even a lesbian. But that show changed me - i saw it in college, downloaded it illegally with my bff and we became OBSESSED. It was everything we ever wanted and it was also super HOT! Haha! Ilene, the woman that created it is a hero for making it happen. 💓

Nov 15th
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g

my perfect bra is no bra

Nov 14th
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blues and browns

i also find your growing resentment in capitalism humorous & indicative of "hate the game not the player." you run ads, in order to make a living, I get it. though if you truly did actually have this resentment you claim to have, you'd be crowd funded & would reject ads. the minimalists podcast does so, and simultaneously practice what they preach. you girls promote a lot of "do as I say & I not as I do." you promote that women shouldn't feel they need to shave their legs, yet both of you do. why do you shave your legs? is it to appease the patriarchy that you believe oppresses you? you have promited women shouldn't have to apply smelly deodorants, to appease men, yet both of you do. I wish you were more respectable, though I'd like more fluidity between words & actions. aside from these gripes, I do enjoy the show & it's quality Level of production & presentation.

Oct 15th
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blues and browns

men's sports Garner's more $$$. one does not deserve equal pay if they can't bring in the same revenue. Brandy Chastain is also a remarkably more classy & respectable woman vs that dragon rapinoe, she's disgusting.

Oct 15th
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Julia Warren

I love changing the conversation about make-up. for me, the meaning can be different each day. sometimes it's armor, sometimes it's a way to fit in, sometimes it's a way to stand out. feminism means I get to do what I want with makeup and so should everyone else. Love it!

Aug 1st
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connie d

*hears she inspired Kamala* thinks to self: THAT WAS HER?! that's so cool! huzzah for brown women in SciFi!!!

Jun 26th
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KateSos75

LOVE this conversation! Through HS, I hated math. In college, I LOVED it! I think because the method and approach changed.

Jun 26th
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Jamie Richards

that annoying tick tock sound in the background

Jun 25th
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Cassandra Collins

What a wonderful podcast on the history of dieting, it is always useful to know where we're come from. It is time for change. Thank you

Jun 14th
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Julie Delgado

I'm so glad I finally decided to listen to this podcast!! I decided to listen to the episode on menopause. why ? no surprise I turned 50 recently. since then I have been trying to get used to the ideal that I'm old now and I need to accept it, however also I need to not just throw the towel in, and stop trying to fight aging. so thank you lady's of the show for making me laugh, but also for the info that you never really understand when you read a magazine about menopause! Hopefully we'll all survive this and hopefully live a little longer! cause I sure love being a cool grandma! Thx again, julie

May 23rd
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