Unlearn with Louisa

Ever felt like if it’s not perfect, it’s not worth doing at all? Or that your worth hinges on how flawlessly you perform? You’re not alone and you’re not broken.In this episode we’re diving deep into the perfectionism trap: how it quietly sabotages your potential, delays your dreams, and robs you of peace. Together, we’ll unpack what perfectionism really is (hint: it’s not just about high standards), where it stems from (inner child wounds, abandonment fears, and more), and why we keep repeating this pattern even when it hurts us. Then you will learn how to unlearn perfectionism and find peace in your own version of success. Let's do this.Ask Louisa, share your unlearn moment or any other podcast enquiries: podcast@unlearnwithlouisa.com Considering working with me as a coach? Book a free 30 minute discovery assessment to see what we can do together: https://calendly.com/coaching-unlearnwithlouisa/30min Any other coaching questions and enquiries: coaching@unlearnwithlouisa.com @unlearnwithlouisa on all social media platforms. This podcast was recorded on the Traditional Lands of the Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung and Bunurong peoples of the East Kulin Nations.We acknowledge the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and acknowledge their continuing connection to land, waters and community. We pay our respects to the people, the cultures and the Elders past and present.

Welcome to the beginning of a new era. Welcome to Unlearn with Louisa. You’re one stop shop to unlearn the behaviours, thoughts, feelings and beliefs that prevent you from living out your dream life. This episode sets up the framework for the podcast to come, answering the question why must I unlearn? Ask Louisa, share your unlearn moment or any other podcast enquiries: podcast@unlearnwithlouisa.com Considering working with me as a coach? Book a free 30 minute discovery assessment to see what we can do together: https://calendly.com/coaching-unlearnwithlouisa/30min Any other coaching questions and enquiries: coaching@unlearnwithlouisa.com @unlearnwithlouisa on all social media platforms. --This podcast was recorded on the Traditional Lands of the Wurundjeri Woi-wurrung and Bunurong peoples of the East Kulin Nations. We acknowledge the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and acknowledge their continuing connection to land, waters and community. We pay our respects to the people, the cultures and the Elders past and present.

In Part 2 of Louisa’s interview with Dr Gabby, they articulate a range of modern modalities that can heal your trauma through therapy. They discuss the epidemic of anxiety, the stress that Mum’s are under with tips on how to handle the pressure, and how to manage your anger in a healthy way. Come with us as we unlearn the behaviours that keep us protected from our wounds, and find freedom. Book in with Dr Gabrielle Klepfisz: https://www.halaxy.com/book/clarity-st-kilda/location/1073201 https://linktr.ee/drgabrielleklepfisz Stay connected with  Dr Gabrielle Klepfisz:https://www.instagram.com/dr.g.psychology/ @dr.g.psychologyAddiction Resources NA HOT LINE/AA HOT LINE1800 888 236 Direct Line 24 Hours 7 Days Free And Confidential Alcohol and Drug Counselling Service  1300 660 068 Family Drug & Gambling Helpline Family Drug and Gambling Help provides practical help, information and support to families and friends affected by someone’s drinking, drug use or gambling.13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harmSend us your questions and thoughts at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.comOr reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_PodcastTake our 6 Week Healing from Toxic Relationships Course ⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠ 

We are back after a short break, with part 1 of Louisa’s interview with Addiction Psychologist Dr Gabrielle Klepfisz. Dr Gabby unravels the stigma by discussing how addictive behaviours are used as a means to self soothe, what it means to be addicted, and how trauma is often the foundation. She discusses the nature of addiction in its many forms, and how modern forms of social media can be used as a way to escape and numb out. Join us this week and next week with an open mind for this in-depth unfiltered conversation.  Book in with Dr Gabrielle Klepfisz: https://www.halaxy.com/book/clarity-st-kilda/location/1073201 https://linktr.ee/drgabrielleklepfisz Stay connected with  Dr Gabrielle Klepfisz:https://www.instagram.com/dr.g.psychology/ @dr.g.psychologyAddiction Resources 1800 888 236 Direct Line 24 Hours 7 Days Free And Confidential Alcohol and Drug Counselling Service  1300 660 068 Family Drug & Gambling Helpline Family Drug and Gambling Help provides practical help, information and support to families and friends affected by someone’s drinking, drug use or gambling.13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harmTake our 6 Week Healing from Toxic Relationships Course ⁠⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠⁠ Send us your questions and thoughts at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.comOr reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TW: Abuse, Relationship Trauma, Domestic Violent themes. Listener discretion is advised.     If anything has triggered you or there is anything that you feel concerned about in your relationship PLEASE reach out to: 1800 737 732: 1800 RESPECT A confidential counselling and support service, those seeking support for domestic violence and abuse.  13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harm 1300 224 636: Beyond Blue information and support line for mental health  Episode Resource: Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Traumatic Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship by Lauren Kozlowski  Purchase below:  ⁠https://www.amazon.com.au/Trauma-Bonding-Understanding-Narcissistic-Relationship/dp/1393216633⁠  In this weeks episode, Louisa dives into another  section of Lauren Kozlowski’s book, Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Traumatic Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship. She looks into the psychology behind why it isn’t easy to leave a relationship that functions under this dynamic. This episode is designed to support, validate, educate and assist you with the long term healing of the very painful and text book nature of narcissistic abuse. If you think this is you currently, we urge you to please reach out to the resources above and be gentle with yourself. Sending love, always.  If you’d like to keep in contact or have any questions please email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

Welcome to the highly anticipated part 2 of Sheridan’s unfiltered experience. In this episode Sheridan shares her insightful wisdom, new found learnings and her entire, heart with Louisa and our unlearning community. Sheridan shows just how much she is an example of the introspective work and teaches us the benefits of the commitment of consistent self development. She provides tangible tools on how to practice and strengthen your faith and spirituality (with or without kids). She shares how to face resentment, conflict and difficult conversations. And reminds us that facing the pain, is actually worth it.  If you want to see the work in action, or be inspired to find your life purpose and passion, this is the episode for you. Stay Connected with SheridanInstagram: @mamawest_ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mamawest_/?hl=en⁠Tik Tok: @_mamawest ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@_mamawest?_t=8ndFuiUuzvl&_r=1⁠Salon: ⁠https://www.mamawest.com.au⁠ Take our 6 Week Healing from Toxic Relationships Course ⁠⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠⁠ Send us your questions at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.comOr reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

If you want to be inspired to go after your dreams, and build change within your own industry this is the episode for you. In part 1 of Sheridan’s interview she discusses how living with honesty and striving to be authentic were the building blocks to her biggest dream of all: Mama West. Learn just how far your spiritual practice can go when you apply it to all areas of your life. Stay Connected with SheridanInstagram: @mamawest_ https://www.instagram.com/mamawest_/?hl=enTik Tok: @_mamawest https://www.tiktok.com/@_mamawest?_t=8ndFuiUuzvl&_r=1Salon:  Mama Westhttps://www.mamawest.com.au Episode Mentions: The Artists Way by Julia Cameron Take our 6 Week Healing from Toxic Relationships Course ⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠ Send us your questions at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.comOr reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

Louisa shares her unfiltered experience on how she manages living with unmedicated anxiety and the tools she uses to cultivate a calmer and more safer nervous system. Unlearn through tangible practices you can use next time your thoughts and feelings have taken an anxious turn. Socratic Questions for Anxiety: Write or think of the thought to be questioned. Then break it down following the questions below:  What is the evidence for this thought? Against it? Am I basing this thought facts, or on feelings? Is this thought black and white, when really it is more complicated? Could I be misinterpreting the evidence? Am I making any assumptions?  Might other people have different interpretations of this same situation? What are they?  Am I looking at all the evidence or what just supports my thought? Could my thought be an exaggeration of what’s true? Am I having this thought out of habit, or do the facts support it? Did someone pass this thought/belief to me? If so, are they a reliable source?  Is my thought a likely scenario or is it the worst case scenario? Episode Mentions: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan JeffersTake our 6 Week Healing from Toxic Relationships Course ⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠ Send us your questions at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.comOr reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW  ⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠  In this week's episode, the girls finish their course development with their final and most exciting week of the course: Manifestation!  Hear Tara’s story and the method she used to completely transform her life and her relationship status within a year. And learn the foundation principle of manifestation that is often forgotten which can block your ideal reality coming into form.  Visualise your ideal Romantic Relationship: Manifestation Meditation  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=amLUFO0I1MI  Surrender your Romantic Relationship: Meditation  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hs9mnYmutuc Recommended Law of Attraction books:  The Secret by Rhonda Byrne  Super Attractor Gabrielle Bernstein  The Only Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need: The Complete Guide to Manifesting Money, Love, Health, and Anything You Want in Life by Layla Moon  The Law of Attraction The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham By Esther Picks & Jerry Hicks  Send us your questions at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW  ⁠⁠https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships⁠⁠  In this week's episode, the girls give you a sneak peek into week 5 of their toxic relationship course. They chat about triggers, setting non-negotiables, and love languages—three practical self-development tools. You can use these to transform your fears, beliefs, and behaviors, and boost your relationship awareness today. This episode is part 2 of one of their most popular episode, "From Toxic to Healthy." If anything has triggered you or there is anything that you feel concerned about in your relationship PLEASE reach out to: 1800 737 732: 1800 RESPECT A confidential counselling and support service, those seeking support for domestic violence and abuse.  13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harm 1300 224 636: Beyond Blue information and support line for mental health  If you’d like to keep in contact or have any questions please email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TW: Abuse, gaslighting, Domestic Violent themes. Listener discretion is advised.     If anything has triggered you or there is anything that you feel concerned about in your relationship PLEASE reach out to: 1800 737 732: 1800 RESPECT A confidential counselling and support service, those seeking support for domestic violence and abuse.  13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harm 1300 224 636: Beyond Blue information and support line for mental health  Episode Resource: Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Traumatic Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship by Lauren Kozlowski  Purchase below:  https://www.amazon.com.au/Trauma-Bonding-Understanding-Narcissistic-Relationship/dp/1393216633  In this weeks episode, Tara and Louisa pull apart a section of Lauren Kozlowski’s book, Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Traumatic Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship. This episode is designed to support, validate, educate and assist you with the long term healing of the very painful and text book nature of narcissistic abuse. If you think this is you currently, we urge you to please reach out to the resources above and be gentle with yourself. Sending love, always.  If you’d like to keep in contact or have any questions please email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW  https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships  The girls are back with their relationship series, and this week they are discussing the core of what attracts you to others. Your belief systems (what you believe about yourself). Looking at your own belief systems is the focus of the week 3 course content, and in this episode the girls get vulnerable about how their negative core beliefs have dictated decisions over their life. They discuss how early childhood experiences influence how we see the world and how we see ourselves. Take a break and reflect on this introspective episode about how you can transform what you believe about yourself, to be more positive and build the life you desire today.  Email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW  https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships This week the girls do a deep dive into what week 2 of their toxic relationship course is about: healing your attachment! They discuss their journey to secure attachment. Navigating the pain of unlearning anxious and avoidant tendencies and, how the nature of your relationship can impact how your behaviour in relationships play out.  Episode resources: https://shop.eyemindspirit.com/ Please note: If you haven’t heard of attachment theory before, jump into their course or to episode 7: a beginners guide to self development.  Email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

Please note: This episode was recorded in early April. We would like to acknowledge the beautiful women that should have NEVER lost their lives due to domestic violence or gender based violence. Zero is the ONLY acceptable number.  If there is anything that you feel concerned about in your relationship PLEASE reach out to: 1800 737 732: 1800 RESPECT A confidential counselling and support service, those seeking support for domestic violence and abuse.  13 11 14: Lifeline for anyone in a personal crisis or considering self harm 1300 224 636: Beyond Blue information and support line for mental health  - TAKE OUR 6 WEEK HEALING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS COURSE BELOW  https://unfiltered-experience-s-school.teachable.com/p/healing-from-toxic-relationships  Use code UNLEARN for 20% off  Please note: This course is a self development and self enquiry course for those looking to grow within themselves. It is not a substitute for a therapist, or should be used when navigating abusive or unsafe circumstances. If that sounds like you, we urge you to reach out to the resources above.  - Our relationship series is back in full force, as we launch our 6 week, healing from a toxic relationships course. Which is for anyone looking to soothe and heal their past relationship symptoms. In this weeks episode, the girls discuss their tough reality of the negative long and short term consequences toxic or unhealthy love can leave you with. This episode is to remind our audience, that you are never alone in these experiences. We have been there and we are with you.  Are you in a toxic relationship? Quizes:  https://www.marriage.com/quizzes/are-you-in-a-toxic-relationship-quiz  https://goldsteintherapy.com/qsm_quiz/toxic-relationship-quiz/  https://www.buzzfeed.com/stephcommisso/toxic-relationship-quiz  https://www.wikihow.com/Relationships/Is-My-Relationship-Toxic-Quiz  https://mywellbeing.com/quiz-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship  Email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

Welcome to our final episode of our pregnancy series, trimester 3. Next time we check in with this series it will have become our parenting series! Tara is around the corner from the birth of her first child, and so she spills all on her experience of the final trimester of pregnancy. We hope that she gives you some insight into the range of possibilities, of what to expect when going through the 3rd trimester. Rest, with your feet up and enjoy this mini episode.  Email us at:  theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com Or reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast

Audio Disclaimer: We recommend listening to this episode at half volume, if possible. At maximum volume the recording has a technical error with static buzzing underpinning the audio. We apologise :(  Welcome to our second episode of our pregnancy series, today we are talking about Tara’s unfiltered experience through trimester 2! A huge contrast to her journey through trimester one, we see so many of you related to her experience and so we are here to tell you, that there is hope. It got better for her in Tri 2. (But of course it may not for everyone) This is our good news story episode, with an abundance of love and positivity towards pregnancy, tackling life, and the experience of nesting. Tara shares some great take home tips to make your pregnancy more efficient through this crucial phase to prepare for the almighty trimester 3.  Reach out and connect with us on social media: Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_Podcast Or email us at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com

In this weeks mini ep, the girls leave you with a tool that will fast track your journey to find emotional freedom almost straight away. Louisa has a revelation during her 75 hard challenge, which leaves the girls becoming introspective about what the pay off of a challenge like that, actually is. This episode will leave you with an understanding on how to apply the principle of surrender, and experience the process of letting go. Episode Mentions: The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-sedona-method-hale-dwoskin/book/9780007197774.html?source=pla&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA0bWvBhBjEiwAtEsoW1D7NJFbgdwxSLZclPsFpc4R4e904ODloHv0fd_cuOyvESwND4OzshoCKTMQAvD_BwEhttps://www.sedona.com/Home.asp Letting Go by David Hawkinshttps://www.booktopia.com.au/letting-go-hawkins-david/book/9781401945015.html?source=pla&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA0bWvBhBjEiwAtEsoW5YwAAnXxaTpfRU4B-AM5_06YB49KzqwsqWFB0Pnt5g0iQ0jhHWz_xoC5KoQAvD_BwE 75 Hard: https://andyfrisella.com/pages/75hard-info

Judgement, it’s our human condition to judge and assess others. But how does that impact and impose on the relationship we have with ourselves and others? It’s described consistently in the self development world that we are on a pathway to love. One of the biggest obstacles on that journey is judgement and critisicim. Join the girls on their own breakthroughs, what they have learnt, what they know works when trying to transform thinking patterns and take home an actionable exercise to get you closer to love now. Reach out and connect with us on social media:Instagram: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Tik Tok: http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnfilteredExperience_PodcastOr email us at:theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com

Tara celebrated 6 years sober on the 16th of February and to celebrate she’s reflected on the 6 benefits of her lifestyle built from being alcohol and drug free. Of course as returning listeners will know, we are both in recovery from addiction and alcoholism. We know that a life completely abstinent is the extreme, and doesn’t need to be an approach for all. However if you’ve ever felt like you need to reset and refresh, or get your life back on track. Becoming sober for a small period of time may be the motivator that could get the ball rolling, we hope to inspire others with the transformation we’ve had (and needed). There is no shame if your alcohol or substance use has gotten out of control, it is a common problem and there are many resources that can help we hope this episode inspires you on your journey, but please reach out to: https://www.directline.org.au/https://www.sharc.org.au/sharc-programs/family-drug-gambling-help/Reach out and connect with us on social media:https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperienceOr email us at:theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com

Welcome to our first episode of our pregnancy series! In this episode, we hear Tara’s raw unfiltered experience of how she navigated all things pregnancy. We do a deep dive into the struggles of the first trimester, and how nothing could have prepared her for the pain that came along with those hormonal changes. Her authentic and vulnerable take is driven to reassure anyone currently going through it, that they know they are not alone. She is an example that there is hope and it gets better. Please send us your stories and thoughts to our social media or email address below. We hope you enjoy! Reach out and connect with us on social media: https://instagram.com/unfilteredexperience_podcast?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== http://www.tiktok.com/@unfilteredexperience Or email us at: theunfilteredexperience@outlook.com